these people are sick

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5872439&forum_id=2)#49924966)

no greater joy in life than watching women constantly fail

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5872439&forum_id=2)#49934347)

Very happy for you and your marriage!

Sorry about the Chick-fil-A backlash thing. It’s Pride month and tensions are higher than ever. I’m queer, but it’s my guilty pleasure. I have slight sensory issues with food and imo their stuff is the most consistent if I’m starving while out and just need something safe to eat.

I wish people gave as much energy to making sustainable change in communities and holding big corporations accountable through actual policy as they do to random working class people online who make the occasional morally gray decision. Not to say that accountability can’t be had, but, like, pick and choose your battles please y’all we’re tired as fuck out here.

Cheers once again to your growing family OP! ♥️

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5872439&forum_id=2)#49925011)

➽ Approved users only! Newbies will be prompted to take 10 lil seconds to get approved. Nbd.

➽ BE KIND, BE THOUGHTFUL or BEGONE. Our communication standards are higher than just "don't be mean." Check em out here.

➽ Queer friendly. The end.

➽ ED-recovery friendly. No food critiques, body shaming, diet advice, or calorie counting kinda talk. Call your almondmom for that.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5872439&forum_id=2)#49924969)

The fatal flaw of feminism is that everything they identify is because of human nature that happens organically. People that bitch about social issues never seem to understand that society and culture is just the collective behavioral patterns of humans. They are similar to conspiracy theorists who identify issues correctly but then attribute them to malcious, powerful group that is somehow unable to be identified.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5872439&forum_id=2)#49925016)

https://www.reddit.com/r/GirlDinnerDiaries/comments/1ts9w3k/my_boyfriends_mom_called_me_oriental/

My boyfriend is white and so is his mother. For some reason they still don’t know my ethnicity, even though I’ve mentioned it many times and corrected them every time. (I’m half Thai and half Sri Lankan.)

His mother has called me Chinese before, and I corrected her. Now she just calls me “Oriental” bc she says she doesn’t wanna “offend me” by calling me Chinese or Japanese 🙄I don’t like being called that, and I’ve told my boyfriend many times to speak with her about it. He says he has, but ….. “that’s just the way she is.”We’ve been together for five years, and he’s been talking about getting engaged in the future. But I got so tired of his mother’s behavior that I told him I didn’t want to be part of his family if she was going to keep being racist like this to me. He said I was overreacting, so I “overreacted” by dumping him. Now I’m single, eating aglio e olio pasta and some bread rolls.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5872439&forum_id=2)#49925015)

"Well I don't want to be part of a family that doesn't respect me!"

"You're overreacting babe, you told her you're not Chinese so she used a different word. That shows she's trying!"

"Overreacting?! Well now I'm ending the relationship because of someone else's behavior to prove you wrong!"

Women are 180.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5872439&forum_id=2)#49925040)

these people are delusional, this website is an infohazard. i refuse to return

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5872439&forum_id=2)#49925095)

the common view shared among both men and women is that there are vastly more "weird" and "mentally ill" men. everyone just subconsciously accepts this as Fact

in reality, it's the opposite. there is a serious epidemic of mental illness and insanity among women which is covered up by massive amounts of redistribution and preferential treatment in their direction, enabling them to continue their mentally ill, destructive, and anti-social behavior/habits/beliefs with no consequences that would incentivize them to stop or change

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5872439&forum_id=2)#49925114)

If AI doesn't destroy the concept of work, it will be interesting to see if gender suicide rates equalize alongside gender earning power and responsibility for their partners

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5872439&forum_id=2)#49925128)

Take solace that suffering with their consequences is a fitting punishment.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5872439&forum_id=2)#49925176)

I hated it. Finally found a way to block specific subreddits

So good

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5872439&forum_id=2)#49925181)

https://www.reddit.com/r/GirlDinnerDiaries/comments/1up9xut/im_quitting_lesbianism/

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5872439&forum_id=2)#49982148)

MY company just told me no to celebrating Pride.

We are a kinda small firm in the big scheme of things. But we are DIVERSE and minority owned. We speak 28 languages. I’m a minority one of few being a white person on the firm calls. (ETA* super fucking weird sentence. I’m really sorry. Leaving for accountability and also just bc. Fucking sorry. Good conversation around it though.) I love it. I’ve always been proud that we are diverse and that we work in government and nonprofit and just….it felt good feeling like I was a part of a firm that had values.

https://www.reddit.com/r/GirlDinnerDiaries/comments/1u3znbk/my_company_just_told_me_no_to_celebrating_pride/

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5872439&forum_id=2)#49934302)

You're the Same Person as faggots except you can't just slide and let do because you're cursed with being a woman. And you hate that along with everything else. Just endless, endless hate.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5872439&forum_id=2)#49934644)

https://old.reddit.com/r/GirlDinnerDiaries/comments/1uamtn7/i_think_i_married_an_incel/

I think I married an incel

When we met I was an escort and he was a client. We fell in love pretty quickly and pretty hard and have been together 14 years. He has made some unsettling comments about women over the years and a lot of it seems rooted in misogyny. He talks down against women who are accomplished and successful. He thinks women should be agreeable. He thinks there’s no such thing as inequality in the workplace, and the world is built for women. He has very strict rules for how women should behave. I think the women in his family reinforce that because they are all like that. I grew up kind of wild with a lot of women and we are the opposite. I think that’s what attracted him to me but it seems like he tries to change me.

He says he’s traditional but also wants to go 50/50 on everything. If we go to a coffee shop or for a slice of pizza, he won’t even pay for my order. It’s not even about him paying for me, it’s just embarrassing and makes it awkward to pay separately. I would rather we take turns paying. I’m pregnant and I recently asked him what he’s going to do when the baby gets here? Are we still going to pay for ourselves and who pays for the baby? How is that going to work?? And just this week he started paying for my coffees.

He teases me a lot. When I told him it hurts my feelings he said he’s negging me so I’ll stay with him. I told him it just makes me feel insecure and want to run into the arms of another man for comfort. I don’t understand why a guy would intentionally want their partner to have low self esteem. He always wants me to dress sexier, look hotter and be more confident but how can I do that when I feel bad about myself.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5872439&forum_id=2)#49951130)

[excerpts below]

https://www.reddit.com/r/GirlDinnerDiaries/comments/1v264lq/i_was_fired_for_being_gay/

had just recently started being more openly out at work, but our operations manager and my supervisor both knew and acted supportive of me. I had only hesitated because I wasn't sure how our CEO and our loan officer would react, but after hiring someone who is nonbinary, I wanted to be more open too.

The week prior to my firing, my supervisor and the ops manager pulled me and the NB new employee into a meeting to discuss our loan officer feeling that the individual and I had had an inappropriate conversation where members could hear. The topic of this conversation was *gasp* our significant others. Their wife, who is trans and my girlfriend. Both my supervisor and the ops manager agreed we didn't do anything wrong.

I was having a conversation with another new hire to get to know her better. She ended up going to her supervisor (our loan officer) and reported she was uncomfortable after I disclosed my sexuality to her (funnily enough, she told me she was Pan in the same conversation).

-

In short tried to act "charming" by telling new hire she was lezzing out.

From comments:

-I may or may not have hexed them. It was something, right?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5872439&forum_id=2)#50013985)

they were meant to be second-fiddle participants in male reality. they were not meant to achieve first-order consciousness.

it is impossible to sustain both male/female 1st person consciousness. it is like if your household appliances developed consciousness and started writing diaries about The World According to Your Dishwasher. it just doesn't make sense. the world cannot tolerate subordinate elements becoming first-order actors. it is incoherent and unstable.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5872439&forum_id=2)#50014006)

Some might say that’s exactly what happened

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5872439&forum_id=2)#50069305)

My parents were in town this week and I took them to dinner. It was raining when we finished so my dad went out to get the car, and while my mom and I were standing by the door waiting, she told me completely casually, in the tone you'd use to mention a coupon, that she has an account at a credit union in Dayton that my dad has never known about and she's been putting money into it since 1991.

That's thirty-five years. She started it the year my brother was born because my dad had a stretch where he was laid off and got what she called unpredictable about money, and then things got better and she just never closed it, she kept going. She's never taken anything out of it. She wouldn't tell me how much is in there, she just said "enough."

And then she said, "You have one, don't you." Not really as a question. And I said yes, because I do. I've had one for three years and my husband doesn't know about it.

I have never told anybody that. Not my sister, not my best friend, nobody. My mother figured it out standing next to a hostess stand in about four seconds.

Then my dad pulled up and she picked up her purse and said "don't tell your father" in the exact same voice she uses for don't forget the leftovers, and we got in the car and she asked me about my cousin's new baby the whole way back to their hotel.

I want to be clear that I don't think my marriage is in trouble, because I know exactly how this reads. He's a good husband and it isn't about him. I watched my mom be completely financially dependent on someone for forty years and somewhere around 24 I decided I was never going to be in a position where I couldn't walk out of a room, and that's all it's ever been.

But I've been sitting here since we got back thinking about the fact that she was doing the same thing my entire childhood and I never knew, and that she just assumed I was doing it too, and that she was right.

Chicken katsu and a house salad. It was genuinely so good.

https://www.reddit.com/r/GirlDinnerDiaries/comments/1vh7ky9/my_mom_told_me_about_her_secret_account_i_have/

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5872439&forum_id=2)#50049122)

Basically admitting you’re so prole your secret little Swiss bank account throws off <$600 per year or whatever the threshold to declare savings interest is these days.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5872439&forum_id=2)#50049125)

Context recap for those who haven't red my previous post: I’m currently packing up and moving out of the house my ex and I bought together, which he kept after our divorce, but where I’ve continued to live (on my own) for two years under the terms of the agreement we reached during the separation. I’m estranged from my toxic family, partly due to the drama he caused, and I’m finally moving in with my new partner.

So, my ex-husband and I are wrapping up the final logistics of me moving out. Everything was going smoothly until he texted me with a classic lead-in: "Hey, sorry to ask, I've been thinking about this for a while... feel free to say no, but do you remember that copy of The Lord of the Rings your parents gave us? Would you mind if I kept it as a sweet little memory of us?"

First of all, my parents didn't "give us" anything. That book belonged to my late grandfather who, as he knows very well, was basically the only family member I truly felt connected to. Since I no longer speak to my parents, that book is the only physical piece of my grandfather’s legacy I managed to keep.

Second of all, this isn't just "a copy of The Lord of the Rings." This is a vintage, numbered, limited edition (1.000 copies) release, printed on India paper, complete with a certificate of authenticity. It’s worth well over a thousand euros. He knows this, becasue we’ve literally discussed its financial value in the past, and (shocker) he’s currently broke.

If he wanted a sentimental keepsake from our marriage, there are a dozen random paperback books scattered around the house that he actually read during our trips or that were presents we gave each other on special occasions. I would have handed any of them over in a heartbeat. But no, he specifically asked for the rare, priceless, sentimental heirloom from my dead grandfather. I’d like to say I’m lost for words, but in fact I have plenty, and they’re all insults.

Naturally, I said no: my grandfather's book is coming with me to my new life, where it belongs. And, of course, he replied in a very smooth-talking way that I was doing the right thing (of course I was) and that, in fact, he was even grateful to me just for considering it (and it was very hard for me not to reply, "And I thank you for having the nerve to try and ask me that; thank you for making it easier for me every single day over the last two years to realise that life is so much better without you").

Cheers to girl dinner, which is actually lunch: potatoes & bacon frittata sandwich and rice.

EDIT: since many of you seem to be rightfully concerned, I was already home with the book when I got the message and I'm not moving from here today. Tomorrow the book will be brought to a safe place. I don't think he's going to steal it but I'm not taking chances with it! Thanks a lot to all of you for the comments and the investment in this story

https://www.reddit.com/r/GirlDinnerDiaries/comments/1vhy1jy/my_exhusband_asked_for_a_small_sentimental/

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5872439&forum_id=2)#50051441)

at first i thought it was really sweet, they'd get coffee after shifts and stuff. but then it turned into texting 24/7. then going over her moms house for dinner every week. then helping her move apartments. i was trying so hard to just be the cool supportive gf who lets him heal family trauma or whatever, but something in my gut felt off.

cut to this morning. he's passed out asleep and his phone lights up on the nightstand. i glanced over and saw the notification preview from her:

Chloe: do u think jen needs to know about last night? i just feel kinda bad

im so non confrontational i literally froze. he wakes up in like three hours for work and ive just been sitting here cutting this fish directly on the board because i cant even fathom doing dishes right now, staring at a whole block of goat butter like it has the answers. my stomach hurts so bad and honestly the only coherent thought i have right now is wondering how much of this butter i can eat straight up before i throw up.

has anyone else eaten their weight in random dairy while trying to process that their mans is probably sleeping with his stepsister?? bc wtf

https://www.reddit.com/r/GirlDinnerDiaries/comments/1voeu6f/fish_goat_butter_and_suspicious_texts_from_his/

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5872439&forum_id=2)#50068643)

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5872439&forum_id=2)#50069290)

I had met this guy on hinge and we casually dated for a a month before he asked me to be his girlfriend, I thought he was so sweet, he was introducing me to all his friends, I met his brothers, we did Christmas, new years, Valentine's together!

Then one weekend he decided he wanted to try doing mushrooms! I guess the underlying guilt he was feeling came out and he confessed everything to me while we were both tripping, that was the craziest experience I ever had... I honestly kind of feel bad for him bcs I did not take it well at all 😭 I basically was screaming in his face and sobbing and then switching back to being loving it makes me cringe thinking about it.

His girlfriend, of 2 years was gone doing her residency to become a fucking doctor, so that's why he had so much free time to spend with me 🤠 unfortunately I never got her full name and he blocked me everywhere after he broke up with me, so Emily if you're out there I'm sorry girl.

(This was almost 4 years ago now, when I was 21 and I have an amazing boyfriend now so it all worked out but she was still crazy)

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5872439&forum_id=2)#50069313)

He was kind of just a rambling potato for the first 2 hours cuz they just gave him a dose of painkillers before discharging him. And he couldn’t physically move cuz it hurt, so he just sat on the sofa completely still. So we had a nice long conversation.

I could immediately tell he wasn’t normal cuz he was so much more uncensored and just said whatever he wanted to. It was such a turn on. He kept doing this really silly thing, where he would go “I’m gonna say something unhinged,” then I would wait and expect something truly unhinged, but he’d say the sweetest shit and looked so shy saying it😭. My personal favourites were him saying that he smells my conditioner sometimes when he’s stressed out cuz it reminds him of me, and that he gets goosebumps when I touch him cuz his “body can’t handle” me. He also says he gets turned on everytime I wear a sports bra😩, which is interesting considering I go on a run almost daily… That has to be the most romantic set if things I’ve ever heard him say, and its such a pity he said it while basically high on painkillers 😭.

We talked a bunch more and then the topic went to relationships, then marriage and family. And then he said something that made me tear up so bad. He asked if I ever wanted kids, and I said yea. Then I asked him back, and he said he wants kids only if I’m okay with it. Then I asked him why. And he proceeded to express his incredibly deep fear and hatred of nausea and vomitting, and said that he’d be really anxious seeing me like that for months. And that resonated with me in 2 ways. Cuz firstly, I just spent less than a week taking care of him being all nauseous and vomitting really badly, and yea, it was incredibly scary and sad, and it’s so comforting that he also recognises that. And secondly, it just made me feel so blessed, because he’s so considerate and cute😩.

Btw I am drunk for the first time in awhile. Reason being, I got selected for my internship! Unfortunately I’m celebrating alone because he can’t have alcohol with painkillers. Also he got the internship too and I’ll tell him in the morning. Good night friends❤️

Edit: turns out u guys found it cute too❤️. That’s alot of upvotes. Thanks. On a side note, we had a chat in the morning and he does remember all of it😩. And he’s happy about the internship so thats a plus🎉.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5872439&forum_id=2)#50069314)

I’m glad it’s only been about a month. When we first started dating he told me his parents died in an accident at 10. My heart went out to him! I was so gentle.

He was a gentleman. He paid for everything. Planned dates. Asked questions. Paid attention, remembered details about me, waited on physical intimacy.

When I looked up his company I saw his name. A few days later I asked to add him on social media and he gave me a different name. I was like hmm. After a bit I asked if he ever used a different last name. He said: “No. Why?”

I asked him to come over to clear the air. During that time I checked him out on Instagram and asked why he had thousands of girls following him but my close friends who did didn’t know a thing about him. He asked who he should unfollow. I said no - why? Why do you follow only girls? Why do my friends not know a thing about you? He shrugged. My sister remembered him breeding dogs, I asked him and he flat out lied to me on my couch. I told him I found the accounts he was using to sell the puppies.

Then he told me the story of why he changed his name (he didn’t, I looked) and sitting on my couch recounted these horrific things that happened to him … cried. Let me hold him. The whole time he’s talking his heart beat never changed. No pounding or racing.

I dug. I dug with the legal name. He lied about his age. He lied about his name. I found the charges, he’s currently on probation, I found the real age. I looked for obituaries. My stomach knew. I found his grandmother’s obituary.

And I found his mom’s Facebook profile. She’s very much alive, posted a photo a few years ago with “my children” and he’s in the middle. I wanted to vomit. I blocked him immediately.

Everything this man told me was a lie. And he was dangerously good at it.

I posted in the group and in the last two hours dozens of girls have come forward with their stories - him lying about his age to girls while he was 32 and they were 14.

I feel sick.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5872439&forum_id=2)#50069315)

so i found out 4 days ago that my boyfriend of 3 years has another girlfriend. not a talking stage not a situationship. a whole entire girlfriend with matching phone cases and everything

how i found out is almost embarrassing. he left his ipad at my place and a facetime call came in from a contact saved as a heart emoji. i answered because i thought it was maybe his mom or something. it was not his mom. it was a very confused woman who said "who are you" and i said "who are YOU" and thats how i met jessica

instead of screaming at each other we actually ended up talking for like 2 hours. turns out hes been telling her he works late on the nights hes with me. and telling me hes at the gym on the nights hes with her. this man built an entire second life

neither of us has told him we know yet. jessica and i have been texting nonstop since tuesday and we are meeting for coffee tomorrow to compare notes and figure out how we want to handle this. shes honestly really cool and im lowkey mad hes the reason we met

anyway cheers to the absolute audacity of men. this beef and rice is hitting different tonight

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5872439&forum_id=2)#50069316)

Mall Chinese food AKA my comfort food

For context, I have always been a regular cycle girlie, and I’ve had a copper IUD or a Paragard for about 2 years. For days and days I’d been experiencing nausea and I’d never experienced that before so I’d bring it up to my mom, as well as the fact that I was two weeks late on my period. She right away told me that she thought I was pregnant. Me saying “no way”… just to get a test with a boyfriend (?) and finding out that in fact I am. It’s his baby.

Him and I had been on and off for years mainly due to me because I wasn’t sure how it was going to work out from us going to two colleges far away from each other. Now, we are really close but again, we only see each other during the summer (so it’s the only time I’m sexually active) and during the school year we keep up with each other. He was so incredibly supportive and kept telling me that on the bright side it meant that I’m very fertile from the fact that I got pregnant even after a 99% chance that I wouldn’t from the IUD. 😭 He told me whatever I choose that he’ll support, but from the get-go I told him that I didn’t think keeping it would be the best option for us.

We are both in college, I still have many years of schooling left. I’m not ready to be a mother. The next day I called all of the places I could find that offered abortion care, and I ended up landing on just having the medication abortion pills delivered sometime next week. (In 2-5 business days), yet I leave in 10 days from now. I also went to the ER and got an ultrasound and my IUD taken out, just to make sure it wasn’t ectopic as well. This has just all been crazy to me as only 48 hours ago I had no idea that this could have been a possibility. Now I am looking into maybe having to go a little late to college, depending on when the pills get here and how long it’ll take to recover. I tried to find a surgical procedure but the earliest was in 2 weeks unfortunately.

I am grateful for the love and support that I have from both my mom and my boyfriend. He was the one that took me to the ER and paid for whatever I needed but most importantly provided the emotional support that I needed. But this has been the craziest experience. Even crazier to know that the worst part isn’t even over yet 😭 But we’ll make it through. :,)

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5872439&forum_id=2)#50069317)