Me and another friend went off to college. She had her baby. I came back from college after the first semester due to depression and never went back to a 4 year. I did eventually get my Associates. She tried to work at a pet store and I think she got her Associates too. Eventually she stopped working and kept having kids. Luckily she lived super close to her parents so they help out. I think when she was on her third, I was fb digging and saw a post from her mom about how she had a vision that she was surrounded by 100 grandchildren and that's been her dream. That gave me the weirdest feeling especially when her younger sister also got pregnant in high school. My friends fb posts were filled with memes about how her husband didn't help around the house and kid memes and pictures.

She popped in my head recently and I learned that she's now on her 8th kid anf one kid has down syndrome. Like the girl I knew was super smart, ambitious, funny, talented. She never mentioned that she wanted a big family or even kids at all. I just know her older kids are being parentified and that makes me sad too. We've had the same education, luckily our school district had comprehensive sex education so we were taught birth control and at a certain point she could have stopped this but idk if she just lost sight of it. We're both now 36.

Like I know people can change their minds about their life but she went to being steps away from college to becoming a stay at home mom in no time at all. I'm happy she has a support system via her mom, I don't see the father in any pictures. And I'm not looking down at her or anything, like the only good thing I have atm is a place to stay and a full time job. I guess I feel sad because of the potential she had.

I'm not anti kids. I think I do want one kid but I want a better salary and to find a good enough partner. I don't think it's going to happen especially now that I'm older.

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