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Parenting question about academic habits
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Date: November 25th, 2024 3:16 PM Author: .,.,.,....., Middle school kid will blow deadlines, have zeros entered into gradebook, and then wheel & deal with teachers to accept late work.
It often works, but sometimes teachers can't be bothered and he eats the zero.
Ive gotten on his case but he keeps working this way. His argument is, "Don't judge me till the final grade, I will take care of business before the door slams shut."
I am tempted to punish / correct him now. Teach the importance of deadlines, etc. Of course, it doesnt help that the school doesnt seem to treat deadlines as actual deadlines, but with any eye towards his maturation, would you enforce "no zeroes at any time" as a household rule with reasonable consequences?
Or just let slide to let him try to work the system, and only punish a final result? |
Date: November 25th, 2024 3:37 PM Author: boltzmann brains chortling in the dark Assuming you are in a good school district, the teachers progressively tighten up on that stuff as the kids get older. Mine was 100% the same way in middle school but the 8th grade teachers started tightening up and the 9th grade teachers working in conjunction with this. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5640003&forum_id=2#48379814) |
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Date: November 25th, 2024 4:01 PM Author: rocko Lmao what? I went to one of the best public school districts in my state and it was the opposite. Once we got to HS is was more “you’re on your own if you don’t want to do this.”
Middle school was when you had to get your parents to sign your agenda book every night. |
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Date: November 25th, 2024 4:03 PM Author: it's like a retiarius without the net (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5640003&forum_id=2#48379898) |
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Date: November 25th, 2024 4:03 PM Author: MASE (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5640003&forum_id=2#48379902) |
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Date: November 25th, 2024 4:10 PM Author: boltzmann brains chortling in the dark I was speaking as to the slackness of deadlines and the forgiveness of teachers for turning stuff in late. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5640003&forum_id=2#48379933) |
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Date: November 25th, 2024 4:35 PM Author: lowkey wry poster The worst thing teachers can do is act indulgently once. The kids then treat that as an entitlement that they have a right to every single time (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5640003&forum_id=2#48380026) |
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Date: November 25th, 2024 3:40 PM Author: MASE I would 100% start punishing him if he continues to do this so he corrects these habits before high school starts which is when grades start mattering. Don't assume some shitty teacher is going to do it for you. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5640003&forum_id=2#48379828) |
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Date: November 25th, 2024 3:42 PM Author: hank_scorpio I did this all the way through high school, mostly with math homework, I'd just turn in a blank sheet and take the zero, not sure what you're supposed to do about that unless you are going to check every single assignment your kid ever gets, seems better to let him either learn to manage it or suffer the consequences (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5640003&forum_id=2#48379835) |
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Date: November 25th, 2024 3:43 PM Author: Gregor you have to set the tone now. Though it is difficult if the school doesnt GAF. Maybe set a reward system. All homework in on time then unlimited TV/videogames/whatever on Saturday. Missed deadlines then no TV for a week. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5640003&forum_id=2#48379840) |
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Date: November 25th, 2024 3:54 PM Author: .....;;,,.........;.;.;.;.,;,;,;.;.;,; We had a big issue with this from 3rd-6th grade and cracked down hard this year. It’s a pain in the ass but he had straight As his first report card and he’s improving significantly at managing all his school bullshit now. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5640003&forum_id=2#48379871) |
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Date: November 25th, 2024 4:07 PM Author: posting in histrionic thread Insane thread... better train your kid as early as possible to be a compliant order taker (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5640003&forum_id=2#48379917) |
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Date: November 25th, 2024 4:12 PM Author: jevv he's learning how to negotiate and get his way. that's a way better skill than book learnin. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5640003&forum_id=2#48379938) |
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Date: November 25th, 2024 4:20 PM Author: rocko Agreed. That line about “worry about the bottom line” was alpha for his age . (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5640003&forum_id=2#48379958) |
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Date: November 25th, 2024 4:34 PM Author: jevv he almost certainly has a bigger cock than OP too (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5640003&forum_id=2#48380022) |
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Date: November 25th, 2024 4:36 PM Author: an under-resourced social program You should probably tighten up a bit. But the irony is that the persuasive skills you kid is demonstrating here are going to be far more useful for obtaining success as a grownup than just being smart and getting As for hard work. A lot of people don’t get this. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5640003&forum_id=2#48380032) |
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Date: November 25th, 2024 4:39 PM Author: MASE High levels of deception + persuasiveness is Godlike if you're educated and know how to play the game. The fact that he's taking some 0s on assignments means he's not good enough at it yet to escape the "drug addict failson" tier (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5640003&forum_id=2#48380042) |
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Date: November 25th, 2024 5:42 PM Author: snoot *guy who just watched a saved by the bell marathon* (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5640003&forum_id=2#48380302) |
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Date: November 25th, 2024 4:38 PM Author: Fratty my kid does the same but mostly out of forgetfulness
i find that reminding him about any outstanding projects twice a week (on mon and thurs) is enough to nudge him in the right direction without it being too big a deal |
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Date: November 25th, 2024 5:36 PM Author: snoot Sounds like he has ADHD, immediately put him on high dosage stimulants and estrogen. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5640003&forum_id=2#48380259) |
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Date: November 25th, 2024 5:37 PM Author: lowkey wry poster hehehe so glib (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5640003&forum_id=2#48380267) |
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Date: November 25th, 2024 5:41 PM Author: snoot all the serious responses were already taken. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5640003&forum_id=2#48380294) |