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I married a top – but now he wants to be a bottom

I am a man in my early 30s married to a man in his mid-50s. ...
slate foreskin
  05/14/24
Pipe dream.
Geriatric irradiated dilemma
  05/14/24
ran here
Disgusting ivory hell
  05/15/24
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orange principal's office internal respiration
  05/15/24
'married'
smoky cruise ship party of the first part
  05/14/24
(bigot who doesn’t respect gay open marriages with 20+...
Hairraiser scarlet crotch
  05/15/24
Mods.
Bat shit crazy dead tanning salon
  05/14/24
Time to man up, doobs
Abusive brilliant resort blood rage
  05/14/24
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slate foreskin
  05/15/24
totally normal, talk to your kids about top burnout.
Cracking Ladyboy
  05/15/24
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charismatic jet-lagged hissy fit digit ratio
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Massive judgmental antidepressant drug skinny woman
  05/29/24
GLOBAL ISLAM NOW
racy lilac twinkling uncleanness mad-dog skullcap
  05/15/24
Summon UES jew
slate foreskin
  05/15/24
top burnout tp
charcoal hilarious national security agency office
  05/15/24
How do you address it? I'm a top btw
slate foreskin
  05/15/24
Prep
charcoal hilarious national security agency office
  05/15/24
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dashing menage famous landscape painting
  05/15/24
Top burnout is a fairly common occurrence
impertinent pit
  05/15/24
Lots of ppl with experience sounding off itt, glad we can ge...
slate foreskin
  05/15/24
does top burnout also occur in hetero couples? asking for my...
Cracking Ladyboy
  05/15/24
this is all ((completely)) normal and healthy, btw
charismatic jet-lagged hissy fit digit ratio
  05/15/24
my 14 year old son was struggling in school with mental heal...
Cracking Ladyboy
  05/15/24
Just tried to discuss my top burnout with wife but she wasn'...
Amber native
  05/15/24
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Hateful Point Legend
  05/15/24
honey i can't, my top burnout.
Cracking Ladyboy
  05/15/24
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Odious infuriating stage
  05/15/24
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submissive corner old irish cottage
  05/29/24
"in pursuit of a pipe dream " can someone exp...
offensive location boiling water
  05/15/24
The grody old top will NEVER be a twink bottom
slate foreskin
  05/29/24
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slate foreskin
  05/15/24
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slate foreskin
  05/29/24
this didn't get enough lulz, deserves to be a yuge meme.
Cracking Ladyboy
  05/29/24


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Date: May 14th, 2024 2:17 PM
Author: slate foreskin

I am a man in my early 30s married to a man in his mid-50s. We have always been in an open relationship: we met at a sex party. When we met I was always a bottom and he a top. Over time, however, he has become obsessed with bottoming. He never penetrates me, even in a group, and has starting expressing jealousy about the tops that I attract. I feel he is throwing our life away in pursuit of a pipe dream and I long to get back the dominant top that I married – a role he is suited for physically. He has been looking at escort websites, which I find depressingly inevitable. How can I wake him up to reality?

Top burnout is a fairly common occurrence and it can lead to a shift in a person’s power exchange preferences, usually temporarily. This is less likely to happen when partners switch, exchanging roles from time to time, but clearly that is not for you. It might be wise to relax about this and try to tolerate – even support – his period of exploration. In fact, dominance and submission are not so different; just polarised aspects of the same erotic style. So some tops frequently fantasise about bottoming but are not prepared to practise it – and vice versa. The top usually does most of the work: initiates, arranges the scene, toys and so on, so your husband may want a break from the responsibility. I can understand your disappointment and fear of losing your preferred sexual style, but people and relationships change and evolve over time so it would be best to talk patiently and lovingly with your husband – without reproaching or blaming him – about what he is feeling and the reasons for this change. You need to understand each other. Gently express your sadness about the potential loss you are facing. Then do your best to show that you love and support him.

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Date: May 14th, 2024 2:21 PM
Author: Geriatric irradiated dilemma

Pipe dream.

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Date: May 15th, 2024 11:38 AM
Author: Disgusting ivory hell

ran here

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Date: May 15th, 2024 1:28 PM
Author: orange principal's office internal respiration



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Date: May 14th, 2024 2:19 PM
Author: smoky cruise ship party of the first part

'married'

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Date: May 15th, 2024 10:39 PM
Author: Hairraiser scarlet crotch

(bigot who doesn’t respect gay open marriages with 20+ year age gaps)

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Date: May 14th, 2024 2:19 PM
Author: Bat shit crazy dead tanning salon

Mods.

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Date: May 14th, 2024 2:22 PM
Author: Abusive brilliant resort blood rage

Time to man up, doobs

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Date: May 15th, 2024 10:39 AM
Author: slate foreskin



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Date: May 15th, 2024 10:41 AM
Author: Cracking Ladyboy

totally normal, talk to your kids about top burnout.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5528470&forum_id=2#47663115)



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Date: May 15th, 2024 1:30 PM
Author: charismatic jet-lagged hissy fit digit ratio



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Date: May 29th, 2024 1:03 PM
Author: Massive judgmental antidepressant drug skinny woman



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Date: May 15th, 2024 10:56 AM
Author: racy lilac twinkling uncleanness mad-dog skullcap

GLOBAL ISLAM NOW

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Date: May 15th, 2024 11:14 AM
Author: slate foreskin

Summon UES jew

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Date: May 15th, 2024 11:31 AM
Author: charcoal hilarious national security agency office

top burnout tp

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Date: May 15th, 2024 11:37 AM
Author: slate foreskin

How do you address it? I'm a top btw

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Date: May 15th, 2024 11:39 AM
Author: charcoal hilarious national security agency office

Prep

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Date: May 15th, 2024 10:15 PM
Author: dashing menage famous landscape painting



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Date: May 15th, 2024 1:05 PM
Author: impertinent pit

Top burnout is a fairly common occurrence

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5528470&forum_id=2#47663757)



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Date: May 15th, 2024 1:05 PM
Author: slate foreskin

Lots of ppl with experience sounding off itt, glad we can get a conversation started

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5528470&forum_id=2#47663761)



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Date: May 15th, 2024 1:27 PM
Author: Cracking Ladyboy

does top burnout also occur in hetero couples? asking for my wife.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5528470&forum_id=2#47663845)



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Date: May 15th, 2024 1:30 PM
Author: charismatic jet-lagged hissy fit digit ratio

this is all ((completely)) normal and healthy, btw

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5528470&forum_id=2#47663855)



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Date: May 15th, 2024 1:33 PM
Author: Cracking Ladyboy

my 14 year old son was struggling in school with mental health issues until one day his health teacher talked about top burnout. realizing that he didn't *always* have to top was such a huge relief. there's so much social pressure on boys to dominate each other. toxic masculinity! ever since he started bottoming he's more relaxed and we're seeing a dramatic improvement in his grades.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5528470&forum_id=2#47663863)



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Date: May 15th, 2024 1:36 PM
Author: Amber native

Just tried to discuss my top burnout with wife but she wasn't very understanding

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5528470&forum_id=2#47663869)



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Date: May 15th, 2024 2:06 PM
Author: Hateful Point Legend



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Date: May 15th, 2024 10:50 PM
Author: Cracking Ladyboy

honey i can't, my top burnout.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5528470&forum_id=2#47665876)



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Date: May 15th, 2024 10:56 PM
Author: Odious infuriating stage



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Date: May 29th, 2024 1:05 PM
Author: submissive corner old irish cottage



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Date: May 15th, 2024 2:07 PM
Author: offensive location boiling water

"in pursuit of a pipe dream "

can someone explain

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Date: May 29th, 2024 1:09 PM
Author: slate foreskin

The grody old top will NEVER be a twink bottom

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5528470&forum_id=2#47700990)



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Date: May 15th, 2024 10:13 PM
Author: slate foreskin



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Date: May 29th, 2024 1:03 PM
Author: slate foreskin



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Date: May 29th, 2024 1:07 PM
Author: Cracking Ladyboy

this didn't get enough lulz, deserves to be a yuge meme.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5528470&forum_id=2#47700987)