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Do you married bros miss the ability to take long stretches of solitary time?
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Date: August 30th, 2018 11:38 PM Author: Dashing candlestick maker Got married about a year ago.
I’m naturally an introvert and usually fill time after work with personal pursuits: reading, lifting, learning more about machine learning, crypto, etc. I could easily do this for years with no human contact and be fine with my own mind.
But the wife wants ATTENTION every waking HOUR and sometimes it just grates on me. Sure I’m happy to watch some Netflix or cook dinner with her or whatever for an hour or two, but IMO demanding that multiple evenings per week be spent 6-11 with HER HER HER seems a bit unreasonable.
And don’t get me started on weekends.
Anyone else feel this way? |
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Date: October 21st, 2018 8:22 PM Author: Cocky aqua casino sound barrier http://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=3506808&mc=52&forum_id=2 (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4065546&forum_id=2#37068851) |
Date: August 30th, 2018 11:39 PM Author: Aggressive digit ratio french chef like you want to go in the basement after dinner and lay in bed after she's passed out 3-4 nights a week and one night to fuck? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4065546&forum_id=2#36719469) |
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Date: August 30th, 2018 11:40 PM Author: Dashing candlestick maker I just want like two hours after dinner to myself. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4065546&forum_id=2#36719472) |
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Date: August 30th, 2018 11:43 PM Author: Aggressive digit ratio french chef that's nothing. she must have been a latchkey kid. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4065546&forum_id=2#36719492) |
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Date: August 30th, 2018 11:44 PM Author: Dashing candlestick maker Only child. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4065546&forum_id=2#36719505) |
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Date: August 30th, 2018 11:41 PM Author: Olive marvelous boiling water masturbator why don't you just tell her you want to be alone a few more hours each week? that you want to focus on some of your solo hobbies? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4065546&forum_id=2#36719477) |
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Date: August 30th, 2018 11:42 PM Author: Dashing candlestick maker It’s very hard to have that conversation in a way that doesn’t sound like I’m torpedoing the relationship. And she’ll complain nonetheless. She was an only child and is used to being the center of attention. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4065546&forum_id=2#36719488) |
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Date: October 22nd, 2018 1:11 PM Author: Scarlet pocket flask school Wtf? I spend at least 2 hours alone after work every night after wife goes to bed. If she is a morning bird then just be a night owl. If she’s a night owl then be a morning bird. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4065546&forum_id=2#37072473) |
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Date: August 30th, 2018 11:45 PM Author: thriller greedy useless brakes fake a business trip and get a hotel room sometimes (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4065546&forum_id=2#36719508) |
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Date: August 30th, 2018 11:46 PM Author: Dashing candlestick maker Yeah I might just go to a billion tech conferences.
I hate traveling but it could be worth it. |
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Date: October 22nd, 2018 11:24 AM Author: Wonderful Pink Becky It's not everything it's cracked up to be. Find your peace at home. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4065546&forum_id=2#37071718) |
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Date: August 30th, 2018 11:46 PM Author: Demanding Crystalline Dilemma congrats, you're on step 1 of 3 to fully coming out as a gay man (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4065546&forum_id=2#36719513) |
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Date: August 30th, 2018 11:46 PM Author: Dashing candlestick maker Flame. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4065546&forum_id=2#36719519) |
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Date: August 30th, 2018 11:57 PM Author: Demanding Crystalline Dilemma I think it's called "flamer" in the community.
anyways, there's nothing wrong with being gay man. |
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Date: August 30th, 2018 11:58 PM Author: Dashing candlestick maker I may be a twink but I am not gay. If I were gay I’d just leave her. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4065546&forum_id=2#36719610) |
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Date: August 30th, 2018 11:46 PM Author: mauve coiffed people who are hurt address “Work late” and cheat. You’re eventually going to do it anyway might as well start now (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4065546&forum_id=2#36719517) |
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Date: August 30th, 2018 11:47 PM Author: Dashing candlestick maker Nah I love her. Things are pretty good despite this complaint and the condom sex. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4065546&forum_id=2#36719524) |
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Date: August 30th, 2018 11:53 PM Author: Olive marvelous boiling water masturbator wait condom sex? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4065546&forum_id=2#36719572) |
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Date: August 30th, 2018 11:54 PM Author: Dashing candlestick maker http://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=4064632&mc=70&forum_id=2 (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4065546&forum_id=2#36719579) |
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Date: October 21st, 2018 9:07 PM Author: vibrant judgmental international law enforcement agency That’s bad, man. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4065546&forum_id=2#37069137) |
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Date: August 30th, 2018 11:50 PM Author: rose garrison most men probably have a special room they can go in for that, but if your wife has a loyal dog you can't ever really be alone. i technically have a 'den' that i can relax in, but Douglas thinks it's his special area as well. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4065546&forum_id=2#36719547) |
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Date: August 30th, 2018 11:51 PM Author: Jet station Not married but I feel you breh. Sorry for your lots. Privacy and solitude is ESSENTIAL. You should try to nip this in the bud before it’s really too late. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4065546&forum_id=2#36719559) |
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Date: August 30th, 2018 11:53 PM Author: Dashing candlestick maker Maybe I can distract her by buying her something. Idk.
Like a new bread mixer or something. |
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Date: August 31st, 2018 12:00 AM Author: Elite theater double fault women hate this but separate bedrooms is tcr if you want to have a productive intellectual life (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4065546&forum_id=2#36719616) |
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Date: August 31st, 2018 12:04 AM Author: Dashing candlestick maker They’re like children. Need constant physical contact. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4065546&forum_id=2#36719647) |
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Date: October 21st, 2018 7:56 PM Author: Dashing candlestick maker (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4065546&forum_id=2#37068720) |
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Date: October 21st, 2018 8:15 PM Author: khaki razzle travel guidebook Stay up late and do that stuff after she goes to bed (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4065546&forum_id=2#37068816) |
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Date: October 21st, 2018 8:19 PM Author: Dashing candlestick maker I wake up at 6 for wagecucking (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4065546&forum_id=2#37068840) |
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Date: October 21st, 2018 8:20 PM Author: khaki razzle travel guidebook lol ur done here! (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4065546&forum_id=2#37068843) |
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Date: October 21st, 2018 8:21 PM Author: Dashing candlestick maker (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4065546&forum_id=2#37068847) |
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Date: October 21st, 2018 8:22 PM Author: Brilliant Startling Field Ive been with the same person for 10 years and have been married for a few...we pretty much have at least 5 hours of solitary time each day...it's 180 (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4065546&forum_id=2#37068849) |
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Date: October 21st, 2018 8:22 PM Author: Plum elastic band My wife falls asleep about 3 hours before I do. If for whatever reason she doesn't go to bed early (say, she's sick and can't sleep) I actually go nuts. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4065546&forum_id=2#37068854) |
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Date: October 21st, 2018 8:23 PM Author: khaki razzle travel guidebook (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4065546&forum_id=2#37068857) |
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Date: October 21st, 2018 8:29 PM Author: Sinister persian gaping my ex GF expected me to be on her schedule, which was always crazy b/c she was doing her residency. if she went to bed at 10 pm or got up at 5 am, I had to also. she got very jealous of the free time and flexibility my work schedule afforded me and started to harass me about getting a second job (even though I make 6 figs with my current job) (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4065546&forum_id=2#37068891) |
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Date: October 22nd, 2018 9:54 AM Author: Doobsian Pearly Tattoo Trump Supporter lol jfc (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4065546&forum_id=2#37071270) |
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Date: October 22nd, 2018 10:26 AM Author: Medicated Range Marry her. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4065546&forum_id=2#37071365) |
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Date: October 22nd, 2018 1:13 PM Author: Scarlet pocket flask school Sounds like a real catch! (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4065546&forum_id=2#37072488) |
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Date: October 22nd, 2018 1:20 PM Author: Exhilarant faggotry https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fXdj6fzjxak (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4065546&forum_id=2#37072516) |
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Date: October 21st, 2018 8:27 PM Author: Sinister persian gaping this is one of the reasons why all my relationships invariably fail after 18 months-2 years. the GF increasingly wants more and more attention and consumers my time to the point that I'm seeing her 5+ days a week and never have alone time. the introvert in me gets very unhappy and it manifests into conflict w/ the girl. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4065546&forum_id=2#37068882) |
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Date: October 22nd, 2018 9:51 AM Author: Dashing candlestick maker BINGO (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4065546&forum_id=2#37071257) |
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Date: October 21st, 2018 8:32 PM Author: Bespoke big business firm gaming laptop wife is introverted. she likes to get away and read. so then i can poast. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4065546&forum_id=2#37068902) |
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Date: October 21st, 2018 8:43 PM Author: Vigorous toilet seat i wouldnt be able to deal with this. can't you read a book on your own? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4065546&forum_id=2#37068982) |
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Date: October 22nd, 2018 10:16 AM Author: flickering maniacal step-uncle's house ladyboy u best accept giving up private pursuits like playing ur instrument or writing poetry (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4065546&forum_id=2#37071336) |
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Date: October 22nd, 2018 10:18 AM Author: 180 rehab Alone time is a non-negotiable for me. It has nothing to do with whomever I'm in a relationship with, single or not, I've always needed a good amount of alone time to just be with myself or my thoughts.
I make this clear up front in relationships. You should simply talk to your wife about it. I don't think it would/should be an issue. |
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Date: October 22nd, 2018 10:25 AM Author: Medicated Range Camping. YW. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4065546&forum_id=2#37071363) |
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Date: October 22nd, 2018 12:22 PM Author: navy floppy dopamine (Ennis Del Mar) (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4065546&forum_id=2#37072124) |
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Date: October 22nd, 2018 10:37 AM Author: Chrome church building twinkling uncleanness it wasn't marriage, it was kids. my wife and i both have our own solitary interests, so it was never a problem for us both to find time to pursue them.
with needy ass kids, there's basically no time. when am i supposed to play guitar? when they are awake I'm watching them, when they are asleep, there's chores around the house and it's too loud. |
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Date: October 22nd, 2018 10:41 AM Author: motley crackhouse Let me guess - she either stays home or works way less than you do. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4065546&forum_id=2#37071430) |
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Date: October 22nd, 2018 10:43 AM Author: Spectacular Crawly Windowlicker lol wait until op has kids, he's fucked (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4065546&forum_id=2#37071436) |
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Date: October 22nd, 2018 11:23 AM Author: Dun Resort Place Of Business cr ljl at nokidmos thinking they dont have enough free time (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4065546&forum_id=2#37071702) |
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Date: October 22nd, 2018 12:59 PM Author: navy floppy dopamine Tcr this is a joke (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4065546&forum_id=2#37072399) |
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Date: October 22nd, 2018 10:45 AM Author: mentally impaired histrionic principal's office faggot firefighter you fix this by encouraging/paying for her to take "day trips" with her girlfriends or "getaway weekends" with her girlfriends for "self-care". (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4065546&forum_id=2#37071446) |
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Date: October 22nd, 2018 11:26 AM Author: Wonderful Pink Becky Kids are much bigger obstacle than wife (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4065546&forum_id=2#37071732) |
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Date: October 22nd, 2018 11:27 AM Author: chest-beating depressive immigrant Wife and I are both huge introverts but hanging out together is the exception. Probably because we got together so early. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4065546&forum_id=2#37071741) |
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Date: October 22nd, 2018 11:28 AM Author: Autistic hell why didn't you think about this BEFORE you got married? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4065546&forum_id=2#37071744) |
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Date: October 22nd, 2018 12:28 PM Author: Boyish disrespectful chad national You sound beta. If you cannot tell your wife this and have her be OK with it, then you picked the wrong woman to marry. Fuckin put your foot down now or enjoy 5 decades of slow misery (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4065546&forum_id=2#37072181) |
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Date: October 22nd, 2018 1:11 PM Author: Rough-skinned brunch nightmarish thread (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4065546&forum_id=2#37072469) |
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Date: October 22nd, 2018 1:13 PM Author: Exhilarant faggotry sounds like you screwed up and married a needy girl with no personal pursuits. sucks for you. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4065546&forum_id=2#37072486) |
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Date: October 22nd, 2018 1:23 PM Author: burgundy arrogant cuckoldry Dont you have a home office? Just say you have to work and go to your office. wtf how is this complicated? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4065546&forum_id=2#37072552) |