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Does anyone here have lazy siblings who didn't want to be parents?
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Date: November 10th, 2024 8:53 AM Author: ...,..,,,.,.,.,.,.,. I visited my brother a few months back (we live in different cities so it wasn't a regular occurrence). The moment I walked in, he dumped his 2-year-old on me for over 3 hours.
I figured I'd watch him for a bit since I was just visiting, but I wasn't expecting to be a babysitter. He seemed desperate for a nanny so he could escape. He and his wife take turns, so it's not like he only deals with his son when he's back from work (he WFH.)
Now I'm debating whether I even want to visit again because it seems like he hates being a parent. Just the other day, we were on a video call with the rest of our siblings, and he was clearly annoyed that his son was making noise in the background.
JFC at parents who hate being parents. |
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Date: November 10th, 2024 5:35 PM Author: Emotionally + Physically Abusive Ex-Husband Wait, this sounds like you're the lazy sibling who doesn't want kids. What's going on here? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5631348&forum_id=2#48319847) |
Date: November 10th, 2024 8:56 AM Author: Bill DaWall its not even "not wanting to be parents". a lot of millennial men were just stupid faggots that got roped into shitty marriages and let the women control where you live (an extra 20 minute commute is totally worth it for marble countertops), where you work, etc. and they got pwned. its probably not even the doods fault. its not watching kids thats the problem. its prancing around like a bitch doing what your cunt millennial wife tells you to do forever out of fear of getting sued. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5631348&forum_id=2#48318199) |
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Date: November 10th, 2024 9:01 AM Author: Mig (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5631348&forum_id=2#48318208) |
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Date: November 10th, 2024 9:02 AM Author: donal tron Never heard of women pushing to live further out in the suburbs, they’re usually the ones who demand to be closer to OH THE CULTURE while their more pragmatic husbands advocate for somewhere safe and white
Maybe it’s different w libs idk |
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Date: November 10th, 2024 9:04 AM Author: Bill DaWall they want INSTA PICS now. you sacrifice QOL for housing aesthetics. i know ton of people that have done it and its dumb. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5631348&forum_id=2#48318216) |
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Date: November 10th, 2024 9:09 AM Author: ...,,..;...,,..,..,...,,,;.., Again, it’s white schools. You’re too dumb to realize that. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5631348&forum_id=2#48318226) |
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Date: November 10th, 2024 9:09 AM Author: Mig Again, you don't get it (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5631348&forum_id=2#48318230) |
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Date: November 10th, 2024 9:10 AM Author: ...,,..;...,,..,..,...,,,;.., You just want to virgin rage against women on Sunday morning (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5631348&forum_id=2#48318236) |
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Date: November 10th, 2024 9:11 AM Author: Mig You don't get the thread (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5631348&forum_id=2#48318237) |
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Date: November 10th, 2024 9:06 AM Author: ...,,..;...,,..,..,...,,,;.., Stupid post. It’s white schools, not white marble countertops. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5631348&forum_id=2#48318218) |
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Date: November 10th, 2024 9:08 AM Author: Bill DaWall there are functioning schools in districts ten feet outside of major cities. its a matter of dealing with the woman in terms of what house you actually end up buying. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5631348&forum_id=2#48318223) |
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Date: November 10th, 2024 9:09 AM Author: ...,,..;...,,..,..,...,,,;.., Just stop (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5631348&forum_id=2#48318228) |
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Date: November 10th, 2024 9:09 AM Author: Mig You don't get this thread (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5631348&forum_id=2#48318227) |
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Date: November 10th, 2024 9:10 AM Author: ...,,..;...,,..,..,...,,,;.., This thread is virgin Sunday morning rage, not reality (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5631348&forum_id=2#48318232) |
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Date: November 10th, 2024 9:10 AM Author: Mig You don't get it. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5631348&forum_id=2#48318233) |
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Date: November 10th, 2024 9:21 AM Author: voting It's mostly this. A lot of these guys can't tell their woman NO. Which is all it takes. What's she gonna do, leave you? Lol, good luck toots.
Never EVER let a woman tell you where to live under any circumstances. It's your decision. |
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Date: November 10th, 2024 9:21 AM Author: Mig (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5631348&forum_id=2#48318260) |
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Date: November 10th, 2024 9:30 AM Author: ...,..,,,.,.,.,.,.,. They live out in a nice suburb, but that doesn't really change anything.
He also lifts the kid up by his feet, holding him upside down—the kind of shit I'd never do to a small child.
I have no idea where this might lead, but as an uncle, it makes me worry that one day he might ask me to take on more of a "full-time" role. Or worse, if something happens to them, I'd be stuck stepping in. |
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Date: November 10th, 2024 9:26 AM Author: niggerboi this is a cope from millennial men who are usually immature soyboy losers and don't make enough money or have enough to offer your average self-hating fridge woman beyond being whiny eunuchs/maids (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5631348&forum_id=2#48318287) |
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Date: November 10th, 2024 9:29 AM Author: voting (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5631348&forum_id=2#48318306) |
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Date: November 10th, 2024 9:49 AM Author: lex it's ultimately the fault of millennial men, agreed, but the most salient problems are disposition and willpower, not just resources. if you're too weak-willed to take charge, of course women, especially when corrupted by a shitty culture, are going to destroy your quality of life in all sorts of keeping up with the joneses ways, whether you have money or not. take that UMC LI guy who killselfed when he couldn't keep his "influencer" wife's instagram life going, for example. sidenote: blaming culture for being shitty right now is like blaming winter for being cold, of course, so pussyish men whining about it just heaps sadness upon the futility. |
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Date: November 10th, 2024 12:30 PM Author: Mig millennial men lack identities from which to take charge as a result of feminism condoning the lowest female instincts. you would know this if you rejected your feminism. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5631348&forum_id=2#48318858) |
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Date: November 10th, 2024 5:09 PM Author: lex "There is little of man here; therefore their women strive to be mannish. For only he who is man enough will release the woman in woman." (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5631348&forum_id=2#48319746) |
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Date: November 10th, 2024 12:35 PM Author: AOC TEAM SIX (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5631348&forum_id=2#48318869) |
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Date: November 10th, 2024 9:01 AM Author: Mig (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5631348&forum_id=2#48318209) |
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Date: November 10th, 2024 9:17 AM Author: Wilbur Mercer, permanently embarrassed millionaire (Safari) You seem like a great brother and uncle yourself (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5631348&forum_id=2#48318250) |
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Date: November 10th, 2024 9:19 AM Author: ...,..,,,.,.,.,.,.,. What do you mean? I watched the kid and didn't say anything to him. I am sharing it here, is that the "issue"? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5631348&forum_id=2#48318256) |
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Date: November 10th, 2024 9:20 AM Author: Mig This issue is everyone itt is your brother (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5631348&forum_id=2#48318257) |
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Date: November 10th, 2024 9:21 AM Author: ...,..,,,.,.,.,.,.,. I usually visit him when I'm on vacation. I would be taking a break from a stressful job to immediately get hired as a babysitter for $0/hr, lmao. Fuck that bs. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5631348&forum_id=2#48318259) |
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Date: November 10th, 2024 9:17 AM Author: Mig Op is correct any anyone denying it is exactly who he's talking about. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5631348&forum_id=2#48318252) |
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Date: November 10th, 2024 9:22 AM Author: trump l'oeil correct about what? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5631348&forum_id=2#48318261) |
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Date: November 10th, 2024 9:17 AM Author: niggerboi that sounds terrible but can you also go back to china or whatever (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5631348&forum_id=2#48318253) |
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Date: November 10th, 2024 11:14 AM Author: Trump Wins Lol what? Why was the wife not watching the kid? You are a male who is not the dad there is no expectation that you “babysit” (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5631348&forum_id=2#48318612) |
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Date: November 10th, 2024 12:44 PM Author: ...,..,,,.,.,.,.,.,. They both have WFH jobs and take equal turns with the kid.
They bring in similar incomes, so it's not like he's the sole breadwinner. It's a 50/50 situation.
She can go to the gym and groceries, and he can do the same. Not sure how this would be unfair. |
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Date: November 10th, 2024 11:23 AM Author: fetch made baguette Great thread. Many arguments (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5631348&forum_id=2#48318639) |
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Date: November 10th, 2024 12:45 PM Author: white boy winter (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5631348&forum_id=2#48318897) |
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Date: November 10th, 2024 5:32 PM Author: Emotionally + Physically Abusive Ex-Husband (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5631348&forum_id=2#48319834) |
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Date: November 10th, 2024 12:45 PM Author: you\'re the puppet (Trump Trump Trump) I'm the lazy sibling who does not want to be a parent. Unfortunately, so is everyone else in my family and my husband's family. This is why you get an au pair. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5631348&forum_id=2#48318896) |
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Date: November 10th, 2024 12:57 PM Author: ...,..,,,.,.,.,.,.,. So mothers agree too?
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Date: November 10th, 2024 1:13 PM Author: you\'re the puppet (Trump Trump Trump) Everyone. We're not a maternal bunch. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5631348&forum_id=2#48319015) |
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Date: November 10th, 2024 1:21 PM Author: ...,..,,,.,.,.,.,.,. What female poster are you? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5631348&forum_id=2#48319039) |
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Date: November 10th, 2024 1:33 PM Author: you\'re the puppet (Trump Trump Trump) mandy (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5631348&forum_id=2#48319070) |
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Date: November 10th, 2024 1:35 PM Author: ...,..,,,.,.,.,.,.,. Did you end up having children? I thought you retired. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5631348&forum_id=2#48319074) |
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Date: November 10th, 2024 1:56 PM Author: you\'re the puppet (Trump Trump Trump) I'm doing it all. I've never formally retired, just got busy off and on. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5631348&forum_id=2#48319139) |
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Date: November 10th, 2024 1:34 PM Author: ...,..,,,.,.,.,.,.,. I don't get why raising kids is so damn slow and annoying. It should be like puppies—5 years tops, and they're out of the house.
You spend nearly a third of your life getting them ready to leave, only for them to repeat the cycle a decade later. And once you're finally free, they end up dumping their kids on you whenever they're overwhelmed. |
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Date: November 10th, 2024 5:12 PM Author: alpha dood Traditional life is a scam. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5631348&forum_id=2#48319760) |
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Date: November 11th, 2024 5:56 PM Author: ...,..,,,.,.,.,.,.,. Titcr
The OP is just a silly example. I have great aunts who are full-time nannies without pay. They baby-sit their grandkids close to full-time because their daughters want to have fun and feel single for months at a time. |
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Date: November 10th, 2024 12:48 PM Author: hank_scorpio men weren't really meant to care for toddlers for any extended period of time, kids only get good at around 5 (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5631348&forum_id=2#48318909) |
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Date: November 10th, 2024 12:56 PM Author: ...,..,,,.,.,.,.,.,. Even at 5, they're terrible. A friend of mine has a 5 and a 7-year-old. The 5-year-old is constantly screaming when things don't go his way, and the two of them fight all day.
They literally have to split up on their days off just so the kids don't end up in fight mode. |
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Date: November 10th, 2024 1:07 PM Author: hank_scorpio well that's their fault for not being able to manage their children, you certainly shouldn't have to avoid being together (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5631348&forum_id=2#48318990) |
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Date: November 10th, 2024 1:12 PM Author: ...,..,,,.,.,.,.,.,. True, they're soft with the kids, like most parents these days, or maybe it was because I was there.
I was riding with them once, and their 5-year-old kept yelling at his mom that he didn't like something. She just kept calmly saying, "I'm right here, you don't need to yell."
Back in the day, you'd get scolded harshly for that, not just gently told to stop multiple times. |
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Date: November 10th, 2024 1:02 PM Author: "'"'"""''" We got a timeshare once at the beach with two adjacent family units, one for my family and one for my brother's. They have two kids. The plan was for all of us to stay there, maybe not the whole week but at least three or four days apiece. On day 1 they brought both their kids to the timeshare, then declared that they had work to do all week and could we please just take their kids and look after them also. "Your wife loves kids!" Then they went back home, leaving their kids with us for the week with no prior notice or discussion or opportunity to say no. One of their kids is special needs. |
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Date: November 10th, 2024 1:05 PM Author: ...,..,,,.,.,.,.,.,. Holy shit, how old were the kids? It was definitely a bad idea to get a timeshare with them. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5631348&forum_id=2#48318987) |
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Date: November 10th, 2024 1:12 PM Author: "'"'"""''" Their special needs kid was 6 and the older one, a girl, was 11.
The girl was starting to show and had no bras or training in that regard or anything like that. She should have been wearing bras since about age 10 but was not because her mother had never taken her out to buy any. Boys on the street were noticing. It was bad enough for my boomer dad to make a tactless FB comment about her boobs showing! So, in supreme irritation with my sister-in-law for completely neglecting the issue, my wife took my niece out shopping for some training bras during the course of the week. The special needs boy would routinely go too deep in the water both in the pool and in the ocean and I'd have to keep fishing him out. He'd also whizz all over the toilet seat three times a day, just to further endear my wife to the situation.
I had a talk with my brother about their lack of consideration afterwards and now his wife just refuses to go anywhere with us, period. |
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Date: November 10th, 2024 1:16 PM Author: ...,..,,,.,.,.,.,.,. Insane if your brother is actually MC or UMC. Makes you wonder the kind of shit that goes on in working class families, never mind poors who decide to bring kids to the world. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5631348&forum_id=2#48319021) |
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Date: November 10th, 2024 1:19 PM Author: "'"'"""''" In terms of income, he is upper middle class. He and his wife did a couple of tear downs and built them back up as gargantuan mansions, and they live in one and rent out the other. I think they both have some flooding issues in the basements of both of them but they are stacking mad cash. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5631348&forum_id=2#48319030) |
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Date: November 10th, 2024 1:24 PM Author: ...,..,,,.,.,.,.,.,. So they had enough money to have a full-time nanny?
It's crazy to think that an UMC mother would be so careless with her two children as described. |
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Date: November 10th, 2024 1:32 PM Author: "'"'"""''" No comment. We (my wife and I) are not happy with that aspect of things. But you know the expression, which is critical when you want to offer input on another person's kids: stay in your lane. |
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Date: November 10th, 2024 1:41 PM Author: ...,..,,,.,.,.,.,.,. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5631348&forum_id=2#48319096) |
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Date: November 10th, 2024 5:35 PM Author: Emotionally + Physically Abusive Ex-Husband Lmao you're DINKs? Did you see that thread someone made? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5631348&forum_id=2#48319843) |
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Date: November 10th, 2024 1:18 PM Author: ...,..,,,.,.,.,.,.,. Not to mention that ungrateful sister-in-law. You babysat for them, pointed out important things, and she still had the nerve to act offended.
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Date: November 10th, 2024 1:22 PM Author: "'"'"""''" Yes. She's very stubborn and does not like to be told things or corrected. I'm sorry to say but she absolutely refused to recognize that her son had special needs for years and it was getting to the point where it was just painfully awkward for everyone around.
I think it finally broke about a year ago when my dad and I forced my brother on the issue as part of making sure the kid was getting extra help through the county but we still don't know the exact diagnosis.
She will say or do stuff that drives my wife wild with irritation, not because she's putting a burden on my wife so much but rather that she's so insensitive, inflexible, and does not seem to get the point of trying to cultivate closeness between all the kids, for example. |
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Date: November 11th, 2024 6:12 PM Author: ceci n'est pas un avocat is op female (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5631348&forum_id=2#48323954) |
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Date: November 11th, 2024 6:31 PM Author: nude poster Just because a dad asks a sibling to spend a few hours with his kid doesn’t mean he’s a bad parent or lazy imo… (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5631348&forum_id=2#48324028) |
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Date: November 11th, 2024 6:35 PM Author: kike attorney Does anyone here have lazy siblings who don’t want to be uncles/aunts like op? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5631348&forum_id=2#48324042) |
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Date: November 11th, 2024 6:35 PM Author: Soren "Bob" Odenkierkegaard ran here (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5631348&forum_id=2#48324045) |