Being charismatic is, literally, the best thing in the world
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Date: February 25th, 2014 9:13 PM Author: Bossy pea-brained new version generalized bond
thread is meaningless without more.
explain what you mean by "charisma." give examples of charismatic traits.
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Date: February 25th, 2014 9:24 PM Author: sooty gay wizard
Well, this was just a stream of consciousness so yeah my next question is what is charisma? I'll start with google definition:
exercising a compelling charm that inspires devotion in others.
"a charismatic leader"
synonyms: charming, fascinating, strong in character; More
I like that last synonym, strong in character. I think there's sort of an argument there that charm tends to require the virtue of honesty, although obviously in some instances, abilities that might be called charisma have been used to deceive or kill.
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Date: February 25th, 2014 9:17 PM Author: Embarrassed to the bone elite dog poop
OP is correct. I get most of what I get through charisma. But charisma is about having empathy/sympathy, actually fucking listening when people speak (and NOT just waiting to talk), knowing how to make solid eye contact, use hand gestures when speaking, and being present.
here is where charisma plays a huge role:
2 guys both have proven they have good academic pedigrees and "can be taught", one with no charisma says it and the interviewer thinks "he's telling me what I want to hear"...the charismatic one says it and they think "he believes it." It gets you to the stage where you can "keep faking it until you make it". But, you can't fake charisma.
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Date: February 25th, 2014 10:29 PM Author: Embarrassed to the bone elite dog poop
remember you said people think it's bullshit. yes, some do. you have to train yourself to read the body language, signs, etc and if they're someone you want to be in your circle, you reach out, call, offer to catch a drink, etc. Basically, charisma is about being able to cultivate relationships and strong loyalty in them. You're able, at the end of the day, to create strong friends and not acquaintances. You, as someone who is considered charismatic, has to push through their natural cynicism and show them "hey, he's in for real. he's in it to get to know me." etc.
of course, this is all premised on this being genuine in the first instance.
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Date: February 25th, 2014 9:21 PM Author: Ocher Center Black Woman
" But charisma is about having empathy/sympathy, actually fucking listening when people speak"
Lol, what? Charisma is about me talking and everyone listening.
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Date: February 26th, 2014 5:08 PM Author: laughsome factory reset button abode
there is also an initial phase when you meet someone (I think someone referred to it as "setting the table" above) where you need to flatter but maintain a reasonable balance of give and take in the conversation. A key element of give and take IMO is leaving those who you interact with with a feeling like they want more, or that they somehow benefitted from the conversation (they could benefit in many, many, ways. For example you left them with a thought provoking double entendre or showed them a new perspective without being patronizing, or you just made them laugh) Naturally, this shows them that you care about the connection, and that they could benefit from maintaining the relationship.
There is nothing worse than talking to someone and seeing that this person is trying too hard - it's almost pathetic. And in this light, the most important aspect of social interaction is reading and measuring people - know when to shut up and when to take the reins, dont change micro-topics too quickly but change them when your converser needs to be lead back to right path. this needs to be done mid-conversation, and it actually takes some effort on your part at first (especially for you maladjusted FB youjizz.com losers).
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Date: May 22nd, 2015 1:49 PM Author: khaki lascivious national security agency
If anyone needs to see what charisma is, watch million dollar listing ny
Frederick is the definition of charismatic
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