just returned from date, no kiss = friend-zoned?
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Date: August 2nd, 2012 12:42 AM Author: Floppy Trust Fund
to be fair, I didn't really make a move, but she didn't seem too inviting.
try again on second date? or give up? I asked her out to a movie on Friday and said, "ball's in your court."
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2011940&forum_id=2.#21238244) |
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Date: August 2nd, 2012 10:37 PM Author: light base codepig
date 1: i went in for the kiss, she sort of pre-empted me and dove in for a hug while facing away. i didn't think that this was a big deal since it was date 1.
dates 2-3: we went out to dinner to places not within walking distance of either of our apartments, and we were both getting off at different metro stops. i think doing a first kiss as you pull into a stop has the potential to be a bit awkward. also, we just went directly from dinner to the metro both times (she had plans with her sister after both dates) and didn't get drinks/walk around/hold hands or do too much to build intimacy beforehand. kind of awkward to dive into the first kiss without that sort of intimacy buildup IME.
dates 4-5 were more relaxed (walking around a park, eastern market, etc).
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2011940&forum_id=2.#21245709) |
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Date: September 20th, 2012 10:11 PM Author: Tantric Big Scourge Upon The Earth
is she Mormon
that said, hey, your on date 5? 6? if she didn't like you, there would not have been a date 2
anyway, hang in there little breh, you never know
also, alcohol helps
ps: this poast is from a female
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2011940&forum_id=2.#21625511) |
Date: August 2nd, 2012 1:50 AM Author: charismatic idiot nibblets
If you're good at giving hugs, you can usually close a 1st date well without a kiss. It has to be a 5+ second, very affectionate hug where you look her in the eyes. Downside for the XO sociopaths: this kind of affection is hard to fake-- you have to actually really like the girl-- and it's not "alpha"... but 15 seconds of betaness won't hurt you if the girl likes you.
Second date: go for the kiss. Have the right mentality, though. It's not something to "get"; it's something you give because you want her to experience a great kiss. (I am a 180 kisser, so this attitude works for me.)
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2011940&forum_id=2.#21238812) |
Date: August 6th, 2012 7:25 PM Author: Electric Deer Antler
I think the best way to resolve the end-of-first-date kiss issue is to kiss her in the middle of the date (assuming you're at a bar or somewhere conducive to it, which you should be). Works almost all the time bc they aren't expecting it; it's also dominant and opens the possibility to further escalation at the end of the date. Very little downside because a girl is going to err on the side of letting you kiss her if she hasn't made up her mind that she's not into you, which she is more likely to do if she has an opportunity to think about it, as she will prior to the end-of-date kiss. Plus if she's already kissed you she's likely to engage in after-the-fact rationalization of the behavior, which will often get her to like you more.
Also in the unlikely event that she does balk you can bail early.
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2011940&forum_id=2.#21274440) |
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