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The Everyday Of Keeping House From Turning Into A Shithole Is So Exhausting
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Date: January 19th, 2026 4:35 PM Author: ...,,..;...,,..,..,...,,,;.., it's so easy to let the house become a complete shithole, and it's exhausting to keep up with it.
just seems like a never ending hamster wheel to prevent the house from going to hell, and wastes so much precious time at the end of the workday.
it's all little stuff but it all adds up. loading and unloading dishwasher, cleaning the shit that doesnt go in the dishwasher, wiping down the kitchen countertops, sweeping/vacuuming under where the kids eat, opening delivery boxes and putting shit away, breaking down the boxes and taking them to the garbage, taking the garbage out on trash days etc. |
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Date: January 20th, 2026 3:19 AM Author: fully online and responsive Translation: "I'm a filthy inbred jewish dumbass living in a pigsty hovel" (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5824017&forum_id=2Elisa#49602987) |
Date: January 19th, 2026 4:52 PM Author: Trust If Aryan This is why you need a housekeeper you have sex with (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5824017&forum_id=2Elisa#49601817) |
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Date: January 19th, 2026 4:55 PM Author: ...,,..;...,,..,..,...,,,;.., it's horrible enough having our redneck nanny around for 6 hrs a day. cant imagine having live-in help. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5824017&forum_id=2Elisa#49601826) |
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Date: January 19th, 2026 4:56 PM Author: Trust If Aryan you need to upgrade- au pair style (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5824017&forum_id=2Elisa#49601827) |
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Date: January 19th, 2026 5:02 PM Author: ...,,..;...,,..,..,...,,,;.., our house isn't big enough. it's 2800 SF, but only 4 bedrooms, and the baby is already in the 3rd car garage which is our gym. there's nowhere to put an au pair.
and then i cant walk around in my boxers, i cant just speak racist all the time, etc |
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Date: January 19th, 2026 5:04 PM Author: Darnell don't you live in are country? why is your home so small? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5824017&forum_id=2Elisa#49601850) |
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Date: January 19th, 2026 5:05 PM Author: ...,,..;...,,..,..,...,,,;.., that's the typical house around where our are country shul is. it's actually on the bigger side (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5824017&forum_id=2Elisa#49601852) |
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Date: January 19th, 2026 5:03 PM Author: you\'re the puppet they don't clean your house though (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5824017&forum_id=2Elisa#49601848) |
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Date: January 19th, 2026 5:00 PM Author: .,.,...,.,.;,.,,,:,.,.,::,.,..,:,.;,.., eventually you just stop trying and accept you'll do a gut reno at some point (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5824017&forum_id=2Elisa#49601838) |
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Date: January 19th, 2026 5:00 PM Author: norwood ultra your kids will be able to do it soon enough (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5824017&forum_id=2Elisa#49601839) |
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Date: January 19th, 2026 5:03 PM Author: ...,,..;...,,..,..,...,,,;.., doesnt seem on the horizon. they absolutely trash their play area and i have to yell at them to clean it up. they eventually do it after tons of fighting and pushback and stalling and dicking around. it'd be easier to just do it ourselves, but that doesnt teach them. i dont see them being neat on their own anytime oson. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5824017&forum_id=2Elisa#49601847) |
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Date: January 19th, 2026 9:44 PM Author: .,.,...,..,.,..:,,:,......,;:.,.:..:.,:,::,. How old are they? You can get them involved by making cleaning up their toys fun and like a game. Or help them make a chore list and give them some kind of modest allowance or treat to incentivize cleanliness. Don't give in to your own laziness and allow them to be messy and lazy. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5824017&forum_id=2Elisa#49602564) |
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Date: January 19th, 2026 9:47 PM Author: ...,,..;...,,..,..,...,,,;.., recently 5 and 3. we do stickers/treats for cleaning up, but they still take forever and fight it.
i'm stubborn and don't give in. it's a struggle. |
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Date: January 19th, 2026 9:49 PM Author: .,.,...,..,.,..:,,:,......,;:.,.:..:.,:,::,. Your 5 year old puts away toys at school so they can put away toys at home too. Give your kids some discipline now or they'll be absolutely out of control when they're older. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5824017&forum_id=2Elisa#49602582) |
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Date: January 19th, 2026 5:03 PM Author: you\'re the puppet amen (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5824017&forum_id=2Elisa#49601846) |
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Date: January 19th, 2026 6:32 PM Author: ...,,..;...,,..,..,...,,,;.., (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5824017&forum_id=2Elisa#49602054) |
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Date: January 19th, 2026 5:11 PM Author: theranchman wah wah wah u pedo faggot (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5824017&forum_id=2Elisa#49601863) |
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Date: January 19th, 2026 9:35 PM Author: Kenneth Play (emotional girth) we must imagine sisyphus happy (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5824017&forum_id=2Elisa#49602535) |
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Date: January 19th, 2026 9:41 PM Author: ...,,..;...,,..,..,...,,,;.., :( (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5824017&forum_id=2Elisa#49602553) |
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Date: January 20th, 2026 7:23 AM Author: potluck (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5824017&forum_id=2Elisa#49603073) |
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Date: January 19th, 2026 9:47 PM Author: .,.,...,..,.,..:,,:,......,;:.,.:..:.,:,::,. Just give yourself breaks, order takeout sometimes so you don't have to clean up so much, get a housekeeper every few weeks. It's not so bad. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5824017&forum_id=2Elisa#49602574) |
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Date: January 19th, 2026 9:53 PM Author: ...,,..;...,,..,..,...,,,;.., tbf, we have plenty of breaks -- my parents watch them a ton. we're extremely lucky in that respect. and it's STILL a fucking grind. i dont know how 2 income families who dont have the help we do even survive.
a housekeeper coming every other week doesnt deal with the daily grind.
takeout? rofl there's no kosher restaurants here. |
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Date: January 19th, 2026 9:48 PM Author: party marty Yeah we just gave up and have been living in absolute squalor for the past 6 years (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5824017&forum_id=2Elisa#49602578) |
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Date: January 20th, 2026 7:12 AM Author: potluck (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5824017&forum_id=2Elisa#49603063) |
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Date: January 19th, 2026 9:52 PM Author: Yummy Phase Pol Pot Some people are giving you shit, but it is true. A lot of life is really just low level maintenance to keep things running in some way shape or form. Easy to go crazy when you look at the full picture:
--Need to get 7+ hours of sleep to have energy for the day --Need to go to a gym to do exercise to stay physically fit (because your job is sitting in front of a screen all day) --Need to eat healthy food and possibly even track what you eat to stop from getting a gut --Need to cook your meals (to stay healthy and manage spending) which means you have to clean dishes and all that bullshit --Need to clean up around the house so it doesn't get out of hand --Need to clean up after your kids --Oh wow would you look at that its 10pm. Better get to sleep so you can do it all over again tomorrow!! |
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Date: January 19th, 2026 9:56 PM Author: ...,,..;...,,..,..,...,,,;.., exactly. now imagine some other random shit comes up, further wasting your time. plus we have a baby.
wife and i have decided not to sacrifice on any of those things -- we both want to be healthy and well rested, and not live in squalor. it's exhausting.
wife feels like she barely has any quality time with the kids, and the evenings with them are just us engaged in slavery to feed them and get them ready for bed and in bed and to clean up their toys. |
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Date: January 19th, 2026 10:03 PM Author: Yummy Phase Pol Pot I don't know your whole story, but if your wife also works then it is truly a grind. To your earlier point, no clue how two income households make it work with minimal outside help. I do think some people are just "built" to have kids and big families to some extent.
The plus side is that once the kids hit a certain age, it will chill out. Lots of ultra concentrated effort for a relatively short time that reaps big benefits for everyone over the long haul. Obviously that doesn't make it less unpleasant when you're stacking the dishwasher for the 9,000th time. |
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Date: January 19th, 2026 10:07 PM Author: ...,,..;...,,..,..,...,,,;.., yes, we both work. both wfh which makes the grind much better. plus we have a home gym. so easier to eat healthy lunches and work out.
and as mentioned above, we have lots of family help. it's still an insane grind.
im hoping it chills out soon. the baby stuff is obviously making things worse. |
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Date: January 19th, 2026 10:49 PM Author: .,.,...,..,.,..:,,:,......,;:.,.:..:.,:,::,. You're in a great situation. Just try to focus on how lucky you are to be able to WFH and not commute to an office on top of all the other stuff you're responsible for. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5824017&forum_id=2Elisa#49602710) |
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Date: January 20th, 2026 7:46 AM Author: ...,,..;...,,..,..,...,,,;.., that's the scary think -- we're in a better position than most, and it's still an exhausting hamster wheel just to remain healthy, well rested and not have the house go to shit (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5824017&forum_id=2Elisa#49603093) |
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Date: January 20th, 2026 7:17 AM Author: cowgod Why do you hate it so much? Is it making it impossible to find time for Gaming? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5824017&forum_id=2Elisa#49603064) |
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Date: January 20th, 2026 7:46 AM Author: ...,,..;...,,..,..,...,,,;.., *poasting (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5824017&forum_id=2Elisa#49603094) |
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Date: January 19th, 2026 10:04 PM Author: Fucking Fuckface You can drop your squalor off at my place. I don't mind (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5824017&forum_id=2Elisa#49602633) |
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Date: January 19th, 2026 10:07 PM Author: theranchman "slavery"
theyre youre kids u faggot |
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Date: January 19th, 2026 10:00 PM Author: zesty i have robots that clean almost everything every day
robot vacuum, robot window washer, robot toilet cleaner, air purifiers for dust, robot lawn mower, robot shower cleaner, then its just a few things to do everyday and the maid does the rest once a week |
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Date: January 19th, 2026 10:02 PM Author: ...,,..;...,,..,..,...,,,;.., a robot cant do 95% of the shit i identified in the OP (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5824017&forum_id=2Elisa#49602620) |
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Date: January 19th, 2026 10:07 PM Author: theranchman stop bitching like a fucking woman to a support group u fucking pedo faggot (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5824017&forum_id=2Elisa#49602642) |
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Date: January 19th, 2026 10:10 PM Author: zesty thats life man, u either do it or raise ur kids to think being a pig is normal (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5824017&forum_id=2Elisa#49602648) |
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Date: January 19th, 2026 10:02 PM Author: Gay Factory dare i say ... TP? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5824017&forum_id=2Elisa#49602623) |
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Date: January 19th, 2026 10:52 PM Author: .,.,...,..,.,..:,,:,......,;:.,.:..:.,:,::,. You could probably afford to pay a house manager 60-70K per year to take over all those repetitive tasks like cleaning, grocery shopping, organizing your house, cooking, dropping off and picking up your kids, etc. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5824017&forum_id=2Elisa#49602718) |
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Date: January 20th, 2026 7:48 AM Author: ...,,..;...,,..,..,...,,,;.., rofl no. this is 3-4 different employees (maid, nanny, chef, house manager). no one person is gonna do all that shit properly. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5824017&forum_id=2Elisa#49603095) |
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Date: January 19th, 2026 10:52 PM Author: bo nix that's normal stuff lol I thought this would be about actual repairs does your wife not do anything (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5824017&forum_id=2Elisa#49602719) |
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Date: January 20th, 2026 7:19 AM Author: cowgod Millennial wives do like 25% of housework imo (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5824017&forum_id=2Elisa#49603065) |
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Date: January 20th, 2026 7:49 AM Author: ...,,..;...,,..,..,...,,,;.., as i said above, add in random repairs and other random shit that inevitably comes up to the regular stuff.
wife does a ton too. works full time plus is constantly nursing our 6 month old baby, plus has her own hamster wheel of feeding the kids dinner, policing the dinner, making kid's lunch for school the next day, getting kids in pajamas and teeth brushed and to bed, etc. |
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Date: January 20th, 2026 12:45 AM Author: Pumonymous Don't jews like living in filth anyway? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5824017&forum_id=2Elisa#49602909) |
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Date: January 20th, 2026 7:50 AM Author: ...,,..;...,,..,..,...,,,;.., absolutely. i refuse to. i cant stand it. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5824017&forum_id=2Elisa#49603100) |
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Date: January 20th, 2026 3:54 AM Author: ;::;:;;::;;;;;:::: I used to try and rely on wife... now just pay consuela to show up at least once a week (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5824017&forum_id=2Elisa#49603000) |
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Date: January 20th, 2026 7:23 AM Author: chefboy rd monasticism is the way (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5824017&forum_id=2Elisa#49603072) |
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Date: January 20th, 2026 7:32 AM Author: Federal Mask Mandate You should get rid of the nanny. It’s fucking disgraceful that you have some stranger raising your kids. Get housecleaning help instead. At one point we had someone coming every day for half a day to clean. Then backed off to 3 days per week, now once a week. It’s money well spent and you’re not outsourcing your most important jerb (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5824017&forum_id=2Elisa#49603083) |
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Date: January 20th, 2026 7:52 AM Author: ...,,..;...,,..,..,...,,,;.., wife makes too much to quit her job.
the "cleaning" that housekeepers do isnt the day to day household help that we need help with. we have a good maid who cleans the bathrooms. bathrooms dont need to be cleaned every day. |