Date: September 8th, 2012 12:25 PM
Author: .,,.,.,.,,,,,.......,.,,

U here

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2046504&forum_id=2#21527676)

Date: September 8th, 2012 12:29 PM
Author: Rina

Yeah man.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2046504&forum_id=2#21527705)

Date: September 8th, 2012 12:31 PM
Author: .,,.,.,.,,,,,.......,.,,

Need a female opinion

http://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=2040774&mc=120&forum_id=2

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2046504&forum_id=2#21527729)

Date: September 8th, 2012 12:33 PM
Author: Rina

Huh, how? You've erased all your posts!

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2046504&forum_id=2#21527756)

Date: September 8th, 2012 12:44 PM
Author: .,,.,.,.,,,,,.......,.,,

Well look towards the bottom

Basically drunk dialed my ex, we texted back and forth for a few days, had an hr long convo one day, and nw I'm really missing her

And I'm married

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2046504&forum_id=2#21527872)

Date: September 8th, 2012 1:07 PM
Author: Rina

You really are married? Any kids? Man, you have to get yourself together. You can't half-assedly pursue both relationships at a time. You need think hard, make a decision, and commit to it. And you need to be open with both women about your intentions.

But you didn't need me to tell you that. It makes me wonder if your solicitation for feedback is symptomatic of a larger need you feel to dwell over this and re-experience the pain and confusion and doubt because on some level it's delicious and exciting. Do you feel like your marriage is "missing" something?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2046504&forum_id=2#21528084)

Date: September 8th, 2012 1:16 PM
Author: .,,.,.,.,,,,,.......,.,,

No kids

Yea it's missing intimacy. We haven't had sex in 7-8 months. We argue a lot.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2046504&forum_id=2#21528129)

Date: September 8th, 2012 1:20 PM
Author: Rina

7-8 MONTHS? Wow.

You guys need to sit down and talk, like, 5 months ago. Not to blame or fight or make excuses but to be able to express to each other how you each are hurting (because both of you surely are), and to see if you can both commit to salvaging your relationship. If you can't even do this, your decision is possibly made for you.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2046504&forum_id=2#21528156)

Date: September 8th, 2012 6:34 PM
Author: .,,.,.,.,,,,,.......,.,,

What's a normal frequency?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2046504&forum_id=2#21530476)

Date: September 8th, 2012 6:47 PM
Author: Rina

I don't know what's normative. I don't have a lot of married couple friends yet. But I'm sure it's different for each couple, and even different at different times and phases of the relationship for each couple. A lapse of seven to eight months sounds like you've just stopped talking and joking and communicating in general, though. I mean, are you still friendly?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2046504&forum_id=2#21530592)

Date: September 8th, 2012 6:52 PM
Author: .,,.,.,.,,,,,.......,.,,

Yea 5 of those months were right at the end of wedding planning. We don't talk lightly or laugh much any more. Our convos center around tasks. We talk about our lack of intimacy every so often, and promise to hangs it, but nothing ever changes

Meanwhile I can't get this other chick out of my head. Would it be so bad if I text her a simple - hey?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2046504&forum_id=2#21530640)

Date: September 8th, 2012 7:10 PM
Author: Rina

So... you've only been married 2~3 months? And never had sex while married?

Anyway, I'm probably the biggest troll on this board for each spouse having his/her own male AND female friends, in addition to the shared friends of the couple. But it sounds like what excites you is the possibility of being more than friends, which I personally don't agree with.

To be clear, I do think that successful marriages can take all shapes and can even accommodate extramarital sex partners, but I really believe it has to be transparent with your spouse and you two have to mutually agree what the boundaries and limits are for your marriage.

Short answer: if your wife wouldn't feel comfortable with it, yes, it would be bad.

Like I said upthread, you need to either end it and make a clean break or work it out with your wife. Since you're married, it makes sense to me that you would at least try the latter first. You owe it to her to make a good faith effort to fix your marriage before leaving her, but that's just me.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2046504&forum_id=2#21530821)

Date: September 8th, 2012 9:51 PM
Author: .,,.,.,.,,,,,.......,.,,

I miss having options, I guess. And I'm not currently satisfied w my sex life.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2046504&forum_id=2#21532109)

Date: September 9th, 2012 12:08 AM
Author: .,,.,.,.,,,,,.......,.,,

.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2046504&forum_id=2#21533128)

Date: September 9th, 2012 8:24 PM
Author: .,,.,.,.,,,,,.......,.,,

Ok I'm over my ex. Had an epiphany last night

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2046504&forum_id=2#21538678)

Date: September 9th, 2012 8:25 PM
Author: slimshadyman leading u down a subthread wasteland (sarc)

!

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2046504&forum_id=2#21538683)

Date: September 9th, 2012 9:12 PM
Author: .,,.,.,.,,,,,.......,.,,



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2046504&forum_id=2#21539148)