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Being charismatic is, literally, the best thing in the world
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Date: February 25th, 2014 9:11 PM Author: tantric razzle mad cow disease address I'm not claiming that I am the most charismatic person out there, but I think it is one of the best things. There are many other important parts of my personality, but charisma seems to be what nets me the best things in life. I'm pretty sure it has been primarily responsible for most major jobs that I've landed, and clients that I have landed. Charisma, also known as charm, also got me a 180 wife. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2503817&forum_id=2#25087876) |
Date: February 25th, 2014 9:12 PM Author: Talented Space Indirect Expression it's a form of influence, whoopeddoo (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2503817&forum_id=2#25087879) |
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Date: February 25th, 2014 9:12 PM Author: Drab Apoplectic Native Affirmative Action (guy with 4-inch penis) (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2503817&forum_id=2#25087887) |
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Date: February 25th, 2014 9:14 PM Author: tantric razzle mad cow disease address I have to admit I have no idea how to isolate the variable of my large cock. Hence why I am discussing this idea with other scholars to gather more evidence. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2503817&forum_id=2#25087900) |
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Date: February 25th, 2014 9:16 PM Author: Drab Apoplectic Native Affirmative Action Large cock -----> charisma a/k/a don't give a fuck attitude. Are they the same thing?
Generally it takes me a bit of work to fuck a girl the first time with my BWC, but after that they won't leave me alone. But I think that's pretty normal. |
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Date: February 25th, 2014 9:18 PM Author: charcoal abode giraffe with chicks knowing you're packing helps a lot. Because, at the end of the day, if you strike out. it's their loss...and you know it. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2503817&forum_id=2#25087928) |
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Date: February 25th, 2014 9:20 PM Author: Drab Apoplectic Native Affirmative Action Especially if they have friends they tell it to. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2503817&forum_id=2#25087955) |
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Date: February 25th, 2014 9:25 PM Author: charcoal abode giraffe best press, brother. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2503817&forum_id=2#25088000) |
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Date: February 25th, 2014 9:31 PM Author: tantric razzle mad cow disease address Obviously wrong, since I experienced being charismatic long before cock size was ever an issue. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2503817&forum_id=2#25088042) |
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Date: February 25th, 2014 9:45 PM Author: Comical mewling dopamine public bath there's a lot more to charisma than a DGAF attitude (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2503817&forum_id=2#25088163) |
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Date: February 25th, 2014 9:13 PM Author: Thriller naked dragon legal warrant thread is meaningless without more.
explain what you mean by "charisma." give examples of charismatic traits. |
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Date: February 25th, 2014 9:24 PM Author: tantric razzle mad cow disease address Well, this was just a stream of consciousness so yeah my next question is what is charisma? I'll start with google definition:
exercising a compelling charm that inspires devotion in others. "a charismatic leader" synonyms: charming, fascinating, strong in character; More
I like that last synonym, strong in character. I think there's sort of an argument there that charm tends to require the virtue of honesty, although obviously in some instances, abilities that might be called charisma have been used to deceive or kill. |
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Date: February 26th, 2014 12:16 AM Author: vivacious trailer park community account Scholarship. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2503817&forum_id=2#25089308) |
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Date: February 25th, 2014 9:15 PM Author: excitant hunting ground generalized bond agreed. mine is very fragile though and when i lose out on something i can end up a shut-in for a while (see: i poast on xo) (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2503817&forum_id=2#25087907) |
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Date: February 25th, 2014 9:15 PM Author: vigorous nursing home personal credit line CR. No other attribute in modern society comes close to the value of charisma. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2503817&forum_id=2#25087910) |
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Date: February 25th, 2014 9:17 PM Author: charcoal abode giraffe OP is correct. I get most of what I get through charisma. But charisma is about having empathy/sympathy, actually fucking listening when people speak (and NOT just waiting to talk), knowing how to make solid eye contact, use hand gestures when speaking, and being present.
here is where charisma plays a huge role:
2 guys both have proven they have good academic pedigrees and "can be taught", one with no charisma says it and the interviewer thinks "he's telling me what I want to hear"...the charismatic one says it and they think "he believes it." It gets you to the stage where you can "keep faking it until you make it". But, you can't fake charisma. |
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Date: February 25th, 2014 9:18 PM Author: Thriller naked dragon legal warrant define it (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2503817&forum_id=2#25087930) |
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Date: February 25th, 2014 9:25 PM Author: charcoal abode giraffe I'm charismatic according to people I know. I feel like it's a bit inherited (my father is charismatic as fuck) or, better said, I learned from watching him. Any conversation he is listening and actually gives a shit. he's able to give you his opinion on everything while being hilarious. he's humble without being self effacing. He'll give a lot and has a high tolerance for bullshit, but he won't allow you to disrespect. he's a great storyteller. he's had a really interesting life and tries new shit and is always trying to learn new shit. he's curious about what you have to say and what you've done. I try to emulate all of that in my interactions. I wish I could give you a better definition. But when he talks (and I tend to get the same response from people), people fucking listen. He's not successful in the american sense because he's a blue collar worker/immigrant but, conversely, he's asked to do all this volunteer/charitable work and has been acknowledged on the national level multiple times, has been invited to the fucking white house to meet the president...and he's a fucking truck driver. that's charisma. I wish there was a formula I could give. here is a big thing--he is not bitter and never operates from malice. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2503817&forum_id=2#25087997) |
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Date: February 25th, 2014 9:29 PM Author: excitant hunting ground generalized bond this reminds me of a comment thread to an article on introversion. self-proclaimed extroverts kept coming in and writing these ridiculously long comments and the introverts who were megaposting in the comments section kept being like "this is exactly why we hate you fuckers. the shit you are saying is absolutely fucking meaningless." (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2503817&forum_id=2#25088023) |
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Date: February 25th, 2014 9:31 PM Author: charcoal abode giraffe I gave what I could. it's a slippery concept. I can tell it was no help for you. the digital environment sucks because you can't read body language, feel the tone, so on. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2503817&forum_id=2#25088050) |
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Date: February 25th, 2014 9:32 PM Author: excitant hunting ground generalized bond oh no hey i like you man, don't take it the wrong way. just putting this out there as a counterpoint to this charismatic ideal you're putting forth - there are going to be some people who have a sense that you're a bullshit artist. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2503817&forum_id=2#25088059) |
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Date: February 25th, 2014 9:33 PM Author: charcoal abode giraffe i feel you. sometimes I catch myself and say "wait a minute, stop stop...I'm bullshitting. my bad"
if you own it and catch yourself, I think that's part of charisma. owning your flaws. |
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Date: February 25th, 2014 9:37 PM Author: Thriller naked dragon legal warrant just be a genius-bro from Arkansas who chilled at YLS for 3 years i think that helps (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2503817&forum_id=2#25088096) |
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Date: May 22nd, 2015 1:54 PM Author: amethyst disturbing reading party Underrated (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2503817&forum_id=2#27943453) |
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Date: February 25th, 2014 9:38 PM Author: excitant hunting ground generalized bond some people are going to see it as bullshit all the way down. like just now: how you tried to justify it by reintegrating it into the positive trope of "charisma". to a lot of people it's just going to seem like a greater willingness to talk when you don't have a good sense of what's going on. since a lot of those people are people who feel shy about speaking even when they do know what's going on, they'll resent you for it. this probably happens far more often than you think. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2503817&forum_id=2#25088110) |
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Date: February 25th, 2014 9:39 PM Author: Thriller naked dragon legal warrant literally captured how i feel about that bro wow (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2503817&forum_id=2#25088116) |
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Date: February 25th, 2014 9:41 PM Author: charcoal abode giraffe I can see that. I wonder if that's a byproduct of people bullshitting them all the time. I feel like, a lot of the time, everyone feels like they're being worked. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2503817&forum_id=2#25088127) |
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Date: February 26th, 2014 7:05 PM Author: electric self-centered church building America is an extremely bullshit-oriented culture. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2503817&forum_id=2#25093692) |
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Date: February 25th, 2014 9:45 PM Author: charcoal abode giraffe one other thing...I feel as if charisma is a bit about follow through. if you want to build a relationship, you have to get over that initial skepticism. I'm from and deal with NYers. They're inherently skeptical of everything and everybody. So I get a sense that, in any case, you have to go a little above to cultivate a relationship to inspire loyalty...ie...charisma. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2503817&forum_id=2#25088165) |
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Date: February 25th, 2014 10:24 PM Author: excitant hunting ground generalized bond see this sounds like bullshit again. what does it mean to go a little above? what do you mean by follow-through? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2503817&forum_id=2#25088431) |
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Date: February 25th, 2014 10:26 PM Author: charcoal abode giraffe 1-I need to stop megapoasting...besides the point.
2-if a relationship is worth cultivating, then you have to break through the cynicism society trains people to have. you have to give a little, bro. work through it. |
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Date: February 25th, 2014 10:26 PM Author: excitant hunting ground generalized bond i don't understand what you mean by that, though (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2503817&forum_id=2#25088453) |
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Date: February 25th, 2014 10:29 PM Author: charcoal abode giraffe remember you said people think it's bullshit. yes, some do. you have to train yourself to read the body language, signs, etc and if they're someone you want to be in your circle, you reach out, call, offer to catch a drink, etc. Basically, charisma is about being able to cultivate relationships and strong loyalty in them. You're able, at the end of the day, to create strong friends and not acquaintances. You, as someone who is considered charismatic, has to push through their natural cynicism and show them "hey, he's in for real. he's in it to get to know me." etc.
of course, this is all premised on this being genuine in the first instance. |
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Date: February 25th, 2014 10:34 PM Author: excitant hunting ground generalized bond yeah but none of this seems necessarily genuine. they all just seem like tactics. that's why you don't dispel the notion that it's bullshit. i mean, by "going above and beyond" or whatever you said - do you actually do things for people a lot? or do you just have moves like eye contact, reaching out, shit like that? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2503817&forum_id=2#25088522) |
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Date: February 25th, 2014 10:36 PM Author: charcoal abode giraffe no "go to" moves. more like "I find this person interesting and their default disposition is off put by my exuberant personality, maybe I can break through this and build something".
sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. I don't think there are go to moves like a PUA, I think it's a personality orientation that anyone can have if they get over a variety of social hangups. |
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Date: February 25th, 2014 10:37 PM Author: excitant hunting ground generalized bond fair enough. sorry if i pushed u a bit in this thread, im curious about the mindset (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2503817&forum_id=2#25088552) |
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Date: February 25th, 2014 10:39 PM Author: charcoal abode giraffe no, it's totally cool. im in full superpoasting mode. I took a day off because I had a new job thing-a-ma-bob I had to go to so I'm straight chilling today. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2503817&forum_id=2#25088571) |
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Date: February 26th, 2014 5:04 PM Author: awkward locale Ahhhh... You love your daddy. How sweet. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2503817&forum_id=2#25092809) |
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Date: February 25th, 2014 9:20 PM Author: umber idiotic toaster Uh charisma has nothing to do with empathy. It's about being able to "fake it" more effectively. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2503817&forum_id=2#25087950) |
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Date: February 25th, 2014 9:21 PM Author: Drab Apoplectic Native Affirmative Action " But charisma is about having empathy/sympathy, actually fucking listening when people speak"
Lol, what? Charisma is about me talking and everyone listening. |
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Date: February 25th, 2014 9:23 PM Author: excitant hunting ground generalized bond i don't think this is charisma (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2503817&forum_id=2#25087976) |
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Date: February 25th, 2014 9:26 PM Author: charcoal abode giraffe you kinda need all of that to set the stage for charisma. if you have a gift, you need to set the table for the meal...
edit: that sucked, sorry. better said, you need to set the stage for people to even pay attention to you. getting peoples' rapt attention and them wanting more involves an initial give and take. you can walk into a room and just "turn on the charm" and half in the room would be like "who's the asshole". that's a key difference. |
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Date: February 25th, 2014 9:27 PM Author: excitant hunting ground generalized bond (charismatic guy just spewing out non sequitur analogies) (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2503817&forum_id=2#25088014) |
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Date: February 25th, 2014 9:28 PM Author: charcoal abode giraffe i edited above. admittedly, that sucked. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2503817&forum_id=2#25088021) |
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Date: February 26th, 2014 12:19 AM Author: umber idiotic toaster You should start a self-help seminar, you milquetoast little shit. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2503817&forum_id=2#25089316) |
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Date: February 25th, 2014 9:26 PM Author: tantric razzle mad cow disease address Exactly. And because you can't fake charisma, most people have to be saying things they really believe in order to achieve it. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2503817&forum_id=2#25088004) |
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Date: February 25th, 2014 11:55 PM Author: ungodly keepsake machete cruise ship (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2503817&forum_id=2#25089180) |
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Date: February 26th, 2014 12:01 AM Author: lascivious ticket booth its when ur personality makes your baby cousin DVP herself (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2503817&forum_id=2#25089205) |
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Date: February 26th, 2014 12:01 AM Author: excitant hunting ground generalized bond rofl (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2503817&forum_id=2#25089207) |
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Date: February 26th, 2014 12:02 AM Author: soul-stirring gas station GO KILL YOURSELF DV PUMO (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2503817&forum_id=2#25089213) |
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Date: February 26th, 2014 12:06 AM Author: ungodly keepsake machete cruise ship (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2503817&forum_id=2#25089243) |
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Date: February 26th, 2014 12:04 AM Author: Vibrant scourge upon the earth sweet tailpipe Yeah I like playing Fallout too. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2503817&forum_id=2#25089222) |
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Date: February 26th, 2014 5:08 PM Author: orange base turdskin there is also an initial phase when you meet someone (I think someone referred to it as "setting the table" above) where you need to flatter but maintain a reasonable balance of give and take in the conversation. A key element of give and take IMO is leaving those who you interact with with a feeling like they want more, or that they somehow benefitted from the conversation (they could benefit in many, many, ways. For example you left them with a thought provoking double entendre or showed them a new perspective without being patronizing, or you just made them laugh) Naturally, this shows them that you care about the connection, and that they could benefit from maintaining the relationship.
There is nothing worse than talking to someone and seeing that this person is trying too hard - it's almost pathetic. And in this light, the most important aspect of social interaction is reading and measuring people - know when to shut up and when to take the reins, dont change micro-topics too quickly but change them when your converser needs to be lead back to right path. this needs to be done mid-conversation, and it actually takes some effort on your part at first (especially for you maladjusted FB youjizz.com losers). |
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Date: February 26th, 2014 5:09 PM Author: excitant hunting ground generalized bond (extrovert who finds himself endlessly interesting) (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2503817&forum_id=2#25092849) |
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Date: May 22nd, 2015 1:49 PM Author: learning disabled at-the-ready weed whacker home If anyone needs to see what charisma is, watch million dollar listing ny
Frederick is the definition of charismatic |
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Date: May 22nd, 2015 2:31 PM Author: Lime fluffy tanning salon He doesn't want to sell you a house - he wants you to have a happy home. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2503817&forum_id=2#27943642) |
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Date: May 22nd, 2015 2:53 PM Author: Cocky whorehouse jewess Charisma --> arrhythmia --> wormfood (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2503817&forum_id=2#27943746) |
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Date: August 7th, 2015 10:06 AM Author: learning disabled at-the-ready weed whacker home (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2503817&forum_id=2#28499668) |