Pitfalls: procrastination/laziness, staying on the ball with social skills

Keys to success:

1. on procrastination/laziness, who knows? it is a problem that many have ruminated on. i still struggle with it. but, i feel like i have had a lot of success as well. the thing is, i know i am a hard worker and capable of working hard day in and day out. i try to focus on that knowledge often. but since moving beyond menial jobs in HS and college, procrastination is more of an issue, i think mainly because it is mental work instead of physical/relatively mindless. mental work is actually much harder than physical work.

2. social skills - This one is less of an issue than procrastination, it seems to me. I have great social skills in general. Everyone likes me. I interview well. I am gregarious on a regular basis, but it's not my default state- I have to psych myself up for it a bit (which I find easy to do as long as there is fun to be had or an objective to be accomplished by it AND I'm not too tired/worn down). I think the biggest issue I face is not continually maintaining open lines of communication. When I communicate, things are good. But I have been told that I am very hard to read. I think when I am in chill mode and not communicating, people don't know what to think and get the wrong idea sometimes, like they think I am uncomfortable or insecure when really I'm fine. So I think it's an issue of doing social things to keep the juices flowing, and always thinking about staying communicative with people.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2517072&forum_id=2#25182295)

Another thing I'd add is the tendency to get sucked into acquiring totally useless trivial information once my interest is piqued on some topic. I can waste an entire day analyzing shit like Pac-12 free throw percentage statistics.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2517072&forum_id=2#25182354)

On the issue of mental/physical work, one thing I love is to have projects to do around the house. Repairs, remodeling, construction, plumbing, electrical, landscaping. I can figure anything out and do it. It's a great way to get a sense of accomplishment on a Saturday and in the evenings after work.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2517072&forum_id=2#25182386)

Both of these things are a shift though, and I think it's just part of growing up for me and realizing that it's important to communicate (E/I) and get things done (P/J).

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2517072&forum_id=2#25182313)

http://www.mariakillam.com/selfawareness/

Thought it was a commonly known fact that most Fortune 500 ceos are ENTJ.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2517072&forum_id=2#25182371)

First of all, F500 ceo is not the definition of success. There are many people who I would deem adequately successful who are not F500 ceos. I would also take a more holistic idea of success and say that many F500 ceos are not even particularly successful at life overall, in my opinion.

Second, even if every single F500 ceo was ENTJ, and that was the pinnacle of success, that would tell us absolutely nothing about whether ENTJs are more likely to be successful in general. More interesting in terms of monetary success would be data as to the average earnings of each type, but I'm sure good data on that does not exist.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2517072&forum_id=2#25182443)

http://www.capt.org/mbti-assessment/estimated-frequencies.htm

Also S and F are far more common amongst women so we know how well S and F types get things done lol (but likely more inclined to nurture). Also virtually no women are ENTJ or INTJ.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2517072&forum_id=2#25182447)

I wouldn't be surprised though if ENTJs earned more money on average. So your hypothesis could be correct in that sense (though not proved). But then again I'd go back to the question of what is success really. $/hr could be a more interesting figure, for instance, than overall earnings.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2517072&forum_id=2#25182476)

Really the biggest downside though is that other types can be just as smart, but have diverse personality traits that can actually complement that talent, rather than serving it wholly.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2517072&forum_id=2#25182344)

Biggest downside IMHO is emotional unavailability/lack of understanding because emotions aren't logical and therefore we know they shouldn't dictate our actions. This drives women insane. But women are weak willed slaves to chemicals in their brains so who gives a shit, right?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2517072&forum_id=2#25182575)

I am familiar with thoughts running faster than a conversation that is taking place and causing me to not listen. This is a very negative thing IMO that might only happen when I am not functioning well for some reason or other. For example, I might get stuck on a point of logic and then miss most of what people are talking about. Then eventually I say something on that minute point I was stuck on while really missing the main points, the social tones, opportunities for taking conversation in a different direction, etc. This is not a good thing.

But as far as the games of logic that you mention, like arguments and hypotheticals, yes I am great with those. But in a conversation it is not something that should make people think you are aloof, quiet, or not on point. In fact it is something that you should employ to show that you are competent and a good listener. Listening comes first by a long shot. Use thinking sparingly to come up with a few cogent responses to their main points (and ideally other concerns you can perceive/anticipate that they haven't even articulated yet). I wouldn't really characterize this as internal monologue. Just regular conversation but with good thinking ability. Internal monologue the way you describe it sounds more like something that is interfering with your ability to converse.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2517072&forum_id=2#25183419)

are all INTPs chill though? i've tested as INTJ and my I/E metric slightly favors I. i don't think I'm all that different from other NTs.

can we all at least agree that "S" types are retarded sheep?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2517072&forum_id=2#25186595)

Not sure if this applies to the working world, but if so, there is nothing to be done about it other than adapt.

LOL, I'm pretty sure most INTPs weren't going to be a Newton or any kind of groundbreaking scientist anyway.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2517072&forum_id=2#25188031)

You might be right that our type is less able to fake things on the spot. But I'm mostly not faking things. I just have genuine confidence. Also this quality is actually what makes you a genuine person who people feel like they can trust, and that's a good thing.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2517072&forum_id=2#25188092)

i have poor people skills. combined with my avoidant tendencies and dat 120 non stop internal monologue, i'm a social disaster

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2517072&forum_id=2#26949035)