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Date: April 17th, 2014 8:39 PM Author: Umber corner codepig
to bang. EDIT: this was over FB
Hey [Mary], I’m up waiting for a 4AM Skype but I wanted to clear up a few things. I realized that the text I sent might’ve sounded hostile with “set the record straight” and a few other infelicities. Instead, my goal is just to be sure that we’re on the same page.
Before I continue, you’re probably wondering why I care so much as to write this to you. For one thing, you’re 300 miles away and we’re unlikely to see each other again, since our attendance obviously won’t overlap at [School A]. Quite simply, I care because I care about what other people think of me. I want to be in people’s good graces, whether yours or [Bro]’s or some random guy down the hall right now I’ve never spoken to. That’s why I don’t like thinking that someone else might think that I slighted them, as you might.
(If the text even got to you. I think I sent it after I woke up from a long train ride from [City 1] to [City 2]. At that time I was still on the train so I didn’t have WiFi. I don’t have data either so I couldn’t access facebook. I thought that a full explanation is better done on facebook, or any medium besides a text message. Anyway the reason I’m uncertain whether you received it is that I never quite jotted down your number. I just got it because [Oscar] flashed it to [Bro] and me a few times apparently in triumph. I have a pretty good memory so I just took a mental note. I already knew the area code, and [###] is pretty easy to remember because my old number when I was in [City 3] was ### ### #### which was memorable because it was repetitive. And likewise with yours. I’m just unsure of your last 4 digits).
Long parenthetical short, I wanted to explain a few things that night.
First, I pulled you aside to ask you about [School A]’s social scene for two reasons. I tried to preface my question with those 2 reasons but maybe they didn’t get through. The first is that I thought you’d be more candid if you didn’t have Oscar and [Bro], who I’m cool with, judging. The second is that I didn’t need them judging my very asking of that question either, because like I said it betrays an insecurity and, like you said, a concern that they might secretly share.
Then there’s why I even asked at the time that I did. It was 1:30AM and everyone is having a grand time. I chose—or, more accurately, was left with—that time because I really did have a 2AM train to [City 2] to catch. I had no intentions of being stuck in [City 1] that night, because if I had missed the train, I would’ve needed to make emergency arrangements with friends in the area…to take me in at 2AM. So as the night progressed I kind of just enjoyed myself and laughs with [Bro] and co, until it became apparent that it was 1:30 or never.
Because I had a 2AM bus, and more importantly because I knew that you were graduating and I incoming, I likewise had no intentions of trying anything funny with you or anyone else. Maybe Oscar had other ideas. But I understand that no one wants to be in the way of a good thing in progress, so if you and Oscar had plans, there’s no interrupting that. But the truth of the matter is that I and most of the other guys in the bar thought Oscar’s—we call it the—shotgun approach wasn’t getting anywhere, so I didn’t think there was anything for me to interrupt. True, there’s nothing quite like evaluating success or failure from the perspective two people directly involved, but the consensus thought only an overgenerous assessment of the situation could’ve given the benefit of the doubt to the potential that maybe there was something more. But I could be wrong.
At any rate, because I had no intentions of trying anything funny with you or anyone that evening, it came as a great surprise to me when you said “neither of our (I guess Oscar and mine) approaches appeal to you.” As to Oscar, yes, it was painfully transparent that there was an approach going on. However, I myself wasn’t even aware that I was on an approach, so I didn’t know how you concluded that. My goal that night was to ask one last current student for their evaluation of [School A]’s and the greater area’s social scene. I see that as [School A]’s primary—but as you point out, not sole—advantage over [School B], so I figured if I was going to make the best, most informed decision in a life-changing moment, I had better be sure that my own perceptions of the two places are accurate.
However, after thinking about it more, I suppose that, from your perspective, you couldn’t have known that that was my goal. Based on your previous interactions with guys, you probably thought “either he’s trying something funny or he’s in it for information only, and odds are he’s not in it for information only.”
So that’s one thing. Then, when I asked you to elaborate on your response of “neither approach works,” and say what you thought my approach was, you said some things about my being your intellectual equal, but that doesn’t mean….
You didn’t finish the sentence, but I kind of knew where you were going. Since you both kind of said “your [School B] ass is too smart for your own good,” I figured that when Osama pulled you aside, you guys must have discussed me and how I think that having gotten into [School B] somehow elevates me.
That too took me aback. One, I don’t think having gotten into [School B] means anything more than getting into [School A]. If I did think that, I wouldn’t be asking you about factors that could lead me to leave [School B] on the table and walk away. But two, as I said above, I wasn’t pitching myself to you in any respect, and definitely not my smarts. Because A. a crowd of [School A] people is the wrong group to be pitching your smarts to, and B. even if it weren’t a [School A] crowd, pitching smarts is a losing proposition that means I have another think coming to me.
Lastly, the reasons why I asked you the questions I did.
First, I asked about [School A]’s social scene because I came from a middle school where socializing meant socializing with the wrong people. A high school, [HS 1], where it seemed like everyone else was too busy studying to do any socializing. A college, [UG], whose environment paralleled [HS 1]’s even as I evolved.
That’s why I think it’s time for a change. Hence why I’d have no qualms walking away from [School B]’s—disputably—better academic setting and professional outcomes, if [School A] is the place to be.
Second, I asked about Oscar’s approach not because I wanted to cockblock him or whatever he thought. That’s not my concern—that’s up to you. Rather, my experience thus far, as outlined above, hasn’t been quite like [Bro]’s or Oscar’s. They were greek. I went to [UG], and even if I hadn’t come to [UG], there’s no telling whether I could’ve gone Greek if I wanted to, as a dorky freshman or as I am now.
Moreover, I only turned 21 X or Y months ago. I haven’t been in bars all that much, but often enough so that Oscar’s “let me find 100 excuses to buy a girl a drink by intentionally losing bets” game wasn’t novel to me. In my mind, that’s a non-starter. But maybe you think differently. However you think, it wasn’t my business to aid or block that “strategy.” And I didn’t want to, and in my mind I simply didn’t do that. But then you thought I had something of my own going on. When I didn’t—what I did would’ve been a sorry excuse for game if I did.
Anyway this is probably long enough as it is—you’re probably thinking “yea, you really disproved your awkwardness by sending a Harry Potter installment over facebook.” So I hope it finds you well. After this, there’s no more explanation I can add, so if you still think as you did on Sunday then that’s that. I also hope you have a great graduation ceremony.
Thanks,
XOXOHTH
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2545844&forum_id=2#25400754)
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Date: April 18th, 2014 2:14 AM Author: Floppy hot antidepressant drug heaven
Date: April 17th, 2014 8:39 PM
Author: Down the Boulevard
to bang. EDIT: this was over FB
Hey [Mary], I’m up waiting for a 4AM Skype but I wanted to clear up a few things. I realized that the text I sent might’ve sounded hostile with “set the record straight” and a few other infelicities. Instead, my goal is just to be sure that we’re on the same page.
Before I continue, you’re probably wondering why I care so much as to write this to you. For one thing, you’re 300 miles away and we’re unlikely to see each other again, since our attendance obviously won’t overlap at [School A]. Quite simply, I care because I care about what other people think of me. I want to be in people’s good graces, whether yours or [Bro]’s or some random guy down the hall right now I’ve never spoken to. That’s why I don’t like thinking that someone else might think that I slighted them, as you might.
(If the text even got to you. I think I sent it after I woke up from a long train ride from [City 1] to [City 2]. At that time I was still on the train so I didn’t have WiFi. I don’t have data either so I couldn’t access facebook. I thought that a full explanation is better done on facebook, or any medium besides a text message. Anyway the reason I’m uncertain whether you received it is that I never quite jotted down your number. I just got it because [Oscar] flashed it to [Bro] and me a few times apparently in triumph. I have a pretty good memory so I just took a mental note. I already knew the area code, and [###] is pretty easy to remember because my old number when I was in [City 3] was ### ### #### which was memorable because it was repetitive. And likewise with yours. I’m just unsure of your last 4 digits).
Long parenthetical short, I wanted to explain a few things that night.
First, I pulled you aside to ask you about [School A]’s social scene for two reasons. I tried to preface my question with those 2 reasons but maybe they didn’t get through. The first is that I thought you’d be more candid if you didn’t have Oscar and [Bro], who I’m cool with, judging. The second is that I didn’t need them judging my very asking of that question either, because like I said it betrays an insecurity and, like you said, a concern that they might secretly share.
Then there’s why I even asked at the time that I did. It was 1:30AM and everyone is having a grand time. I chose—or, more accurately, was left with—that time because I really did have a 2AM train to [City 2] to catch. I had no intentions of being stuck in [City 1] that night, because if I had missed the train, I would’ve needed to make emergency arrangements with friends in the area…to take me in at 2AM. So as the night progressed I kind of just enjoyed myself and laughs with [Bro] and co, until it became apparent that it was 1:30 or never.
Because I had a 2AM bus, and more importantly because I knew that you were graduating and I incoming, I likewise had no intentions of trying anything funny with you or anyone else. Maybe Oscar had other ideas. But I understand that no one wants to be in the way of a good thing in progress, so if you and Oscar had plans, there’s no interrupting that. But the truth of the matter is that I and most of the other guys in the bar thought Oscar’s—we call it the—shotgun approach wasn’t getting anywhere, so I didn’t think there was anything for me to interrupt. True, there’s nothing quite like evaluating success or failure from the perspective two people directly involved, but the consensus thought only an overgenerous assessment of the situation could’ve given the benefit of the doubt to the potential that maybe there was something more. But I could be wrong.
At any rate, because I had no intentions of trying anything funny with you or anyone that evening, it came as a great surprise to me when you said “neither of our (I guess Oscar and mine) approaches appeal to you.” As to Oscar, yes, it was painfully transparent that there was an approach going on. However, I myself wasn’t even aware that I was on an approach, so I didn’t know how you concluded that. My goal that night was to ask one last current student for their evaluation of [School A]’s and the greater area’s social scene. I see that as [School A]’s primary—but as you point out, not sole—advantage over [School B], so I figured if I was going to make the best, most informed decision in a life-changing moment, I had better be sure that my own perceptions of the two places are accurate.
However, after thinking about it more, I suppose that, from your perspective, you couldn’t have known that that was my goal. Based on your previous interactions with guys, you probably thought “either he’s trying something funny or he’s in it for information only, and odds are he’s not in it for information only.”
So that’s one thing. Then, when I asked you to elaborate on your response of “neither approach works,” and say what you thought my approach was, you said some things about my being your intellectual equal, but that doesn’t mean….
You didn’t finish the sentence, but I kind of knew where you were going. Since you both kind of said “your [School B] ass is too smart for your own good,” I figured that when Osama pulled you aside, you guys must have discussed me and how I think that having gotten into [School B] somehow elevates me.
That too took me aback. One, I don’t think having gotten into [School B] means anything more than getting into [School A]. If I did think that, I wouldn’t be asking you about factors that could lead me to leave [School B] on the table and walk away. But two, as I said above, I wasn’t pitching myself to you in any respect, and definitely not my smarts. Because A. a crowd of [School A] people is the wrong group to be pitching your smarts to, and B. even if it weren’t a [School A] crowd, pitching smarts is a losing proposition that means I have another think coming to me.
Lastly, the reasons why I asked you the questions I did.
First, I asked about [School A]’s social scene because I came from a middle school where socializing meant socializing with the wrong people. A high school, [HS 1], where it seemed like everyone else was too busy studying to do any socializing. A college, [UG], whose environment paralleled [HS 1]’s even as I evolved.
That’s why I think it’s time for a change. Hence why I’d have no qualms walking away from [School B]’s—disputably—better academic setting and professional outcomes, if [School A] is the place to be.
Second, I asked about Oscar’s approach not because I wanted to cockblock him or whatever he thought. That’s not my concern—that’s up to you. Rather, my experience thus far, as outlined above, hasn’t been quite like [Bro]’s or Oscar’s. They were greek. I went to [UG], and even if I hadn’t come to [UG], there’s no telling whether I could’ve gone Greek if I wanted to, as a dorky freshman or as I am now.
Moreover, I only turned 21 X or Y months ago. I haven’t been in bars all that much, but often enough so that Oscar’s “let me find 100 excuses to buy a girl a drink by intentionally losing bets” game wasn’t novel to me. In my mind, that’s a non-starter. But maybe you think differently. However you think, it wasn’t my business to aid or block that “strategy.” And I didn’t want to, and in my mind I simply didn’t do that. But then you thought I had something of my own going on. When I didn’t—what I did would’ve been a sorry excuse for game if I did.
Anyway this is probably long enough as it is—you’re probably thinking “yea, you really disproved your awkwardness by sending a Harry Potter installment over facebook.” So I hope it finds you well. After this, there’s no more explanation I can add, so if you still think as you did on Sunday then that’s that. I also hope you have a great graduation ceremony.
Thanks,
XOXOHTH
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2545844&forum_id=2#25400754)
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2545844&forum_id=2#25402598) |
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Date: April 17th, 2014 9:05 PM Author: Umber corner codepig
yea I had a lot of 1. 2. A. B. 1. 2. in there. I played it cool because I thought that I had literally no stake in this besides my reputation. I'm not banging her now or ever. I figured if I hesitated on this letter when there are no stakes, I'd second guess everything when the stakes are higher.
So I just sent it and now I'm done with it.
Yea but note in the letter that she says "just because you're really intelligent doesn't mean..."
Intelligence doesn't impress her because she's also an intellectual elite. Think Top 3 school in her field (HMS, Penn etc) and Top 5 jerb in her field.
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2545844&forum_id=2#25400949) |
Date: April 17th, 2014 10:00 PM Author: Vermilion Cerebral Home
tl;dr
it doesn't even matter what the message says. sending a message this long to some chick you barely know is beta as fuuuuuuuuuuuuuck.
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2545844&forum_id=2#25401374) |
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Date: April 18th, 2014 1:32 AM Author: Umber corner codepig
Bro do you understand my thinking though.
I thought:
1. I have no stake in this. literally none
2. If I contemplated sending this and chicken out now, when there are no stakes involved, how much more hesitant would I be when there are actual stakes in play?
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2545844&forum_id=2#25402406) |
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Date: April 18th, 2014 1:42 AM Author: Umber corner codepig
Bro, I dwelled on this shit for like 3 days after it happened on Sunday.
Somehow Oscar's idiotic game and her inability to hold it together when drunk became my problem, and I came out of that looking like the bad guy.
What I mean by stakes is.
I think she's cute and I'd like to fuck her, but it's not going to happen and I accepted that even before I ran into her at the bar that night. It wasn't even on my mind.
I'm not really losing anything by fucking this up.
There's nothing for me to lose. No blown chances at getting laid nothing.
So I figured that if I hesitated in this instance when there's no opportunity to be blown, I'd be completely immobilized when the "stakes" are higher--i.e., I'd either get laid or I won't depending on what I say or do.
Yes I guess I want to fix my rep in her eyes and maybe this wasn't the best way to go about that, but the other benefit to having done this is that I learned a lot about myself.
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2545844&forum_id=2#25402457) |
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Date: April 18th, 2014 1:45 AM Author: Slimy frum boltzmann gaming laptop
ugh man i can't even read this
the only way to fix whatever dumb aspie shit you did is to find another chick and try again
enough with the oscar bullshit, who cares
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2545844&forum_id=2#25402471) |
Date: April 18th, 2014 1:52 AM Author: out-of-control cuck foreskin
REMINDER: OP is DV PUMO.
In addition to being the most psychotic, maladjusted, aspie loser in the history of the bort, he's also a child beater.
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2545844&forum_id=2#25402504) |
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Date: April 18th, 2014 1:59 AM Author: Floppy hot antidepressant drug heaven
i can't bear to read the whole thing, but just reading individual paragraphs out of context is fantastic:
(If the text even got to you. I think I sent it after I woke up from a long train ride from [City 1] to [City 2]. At that time I was still on the train so I didn’t have WiFi. I don’t have data either so I couldn’t access facebook. I thought that a full explanation is better done on facebook, or any medium besides a text message. Anyway the reason I’m uncertain whether you received it is that I never quite jotted down your number. I just got it because [Oscar] flashed it to [Bro] and me a few times apparently in triumph. I have a pretty good memory so I just took a mental note. I already knew the area code, and [###] is pretty easy to remember because my old number when I was in [City 3] was ### ### #### which was memorable because it was repetitive. And likewise with yours. I’m just unsure of your last 4 digits).
in the most mundane letter possible he tried to include the most mundane footnote possible. this has to be flame.
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2545844&forum_id=2#25402530) |
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Date: April 18th, 2014 2:15 AM Author: Umber corner codepig
WTF no. I just searched one of DV Pumo's threads and he has one post ITT, all while I've maintained my own moniker.
True, I just registered, but I did so using my own edu account. I tried using Maricopa but it was a blocked domain. You really think I'd risk using my own edu account if there was the slightest chance that someone would think I'm DV Pumo?
Also, what are you talking about when you say that the writing style is classic DV Pumo?
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2545844&forum_id=2#25402600) |
Date: April 18th, 2014 2:11 AM Author: white idea he suggested
go shove your twiney pissworm up your own asshole doobs
Thanks.
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2545844&forum_id=2#25402585) |
Date: April 18th, 2014 12:12 PM Author: Crusty partner sneaky criminal
Just printed this off and read portions of it aloud to a couple of normal IRL girls. I told them a friend of mine had just gotten this letter from a guy she doesn't know too well and asked for their thoughts.
Girl 1: "WTF was that? Is english his first language?"
Girl 2: "She should call the police."
Girl 1: "Yeah."
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2545844&forum_id=2#25403581) |
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Date: April 18th, 2014 2:15 PM Author: out-of-control cuck foreskin
Date: April 18th, 2014 12:25 PM
Author: '''''"""'""
In the middle of the day, employed, hanging with 2 girls.
Bro I know this is flame because the OP is impeccable English. LJL I don't speak anything but English
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2545844&forum_id=2#25403662)
forgot to switch your moniker, DV PUMO
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2545844&forum_id=2#25404337) |
Date: April 18th, 2014 12:18 PM Author: Ocher regret space
PROFESSIONAL LEVELS OF INSANITY ITT
NEXT TIME JUST BEAT DEM FOREARMS WITH WRENCH
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2545844&forum_id=2#25403615) |
Date: April 25th, 2014 2:26 AM Author: violent stage
Date: April 17th, 2014 8:39 PM
Author: Down the Boulevard
to bang. EDIT: this was over FB
Hey [Mary], I’m up waiting for a 4AM Skype but I wanted to clear up a few things. I realized that the text I sent might’ve sounded hostile with “set the record straight” and a few other infelicities. Instead, my goal is just to be sure that we’re on the same page.
Before I continue, you’re probably wondering why I care so much as to write this to you. For one thing, you’re 300 miles away and we’re unlikely to see each other again, since our attendance obviously won’t overlap at [School A]. Quite simply, I care because I care about what other people think of me. I want to be in people’s good graces, whether yours or [Bro]’s or some random guy down the hall right now I’ve never spoken to. That’s why I don’t like thinking that someone else might think that I slighted them, as you might.
(If the text even got to you. I think I sent it after I woke up from a long train ride from [City 1] to [City 2]. At that time I was still on the train so I didn’t have WiFi. I don’t have data either so I couldn’t access facebook. I thought that a full explanation is better done on facebook, or any medium besides a text message. Anyway the reason I’m uncertain whether you received it is that I never quite jotted down your number. I just got it because [Oscar] flashed it to [Bro] and me a few times apparently in triumph. I have a pretty good memory so I just took a mental note. I already knew the area code, and [###] is pretty easy to remember because my old number when I was in [City 3] was ### ### #### which was memorable because it was repetitive. And likewise with yours. I’m just unsure of your last 4 digits).
Long parenthetical short, I wanted to explain a few things that night.
First, I pulled you aside to ask you about [School A]’s social scene for two reasons. I tried to preface my question with those 2 reasons but maybe they didn’t get through. The first is that I thought you’d be more candid if you didn’t have Oscar and [Bro], who I’m cool with, judging. The second is that I didn’t need them judging my very asking of that question either, because like I said it betrays an insecurity and, like you said, a concern that they might secretly share.
Then there’s why I even asked at the time that I did. It was 1:30AM and everyone is having a grand time. I chose—or, more accurately, was left with—that time because I really did have a 2AM train to [City 2] to catch. I had no intentions of being stuck in [City 1] that night, because if I had missed the train, I would’ve needed to make emergency arrangements with friends in the area…to take me in at 2AM. So as the night progressed I kind of just enjoyed myself and laughs with [Bro] and co, until it became apparent that it was 1:30 or never.
Because I had a 2AM bus, and more importantly because I knew that you were graduating and I incoming, I likewise had no intentions of trying anything funny with you or anyone else. Maybe Oscar had other ideas. But I understand that no one wants to be in the way of a good thing in progress, so if you and Oscar had plans, there’s no interrupting that. But the truth of the matter is that I and most of the other guys in the bar thought Oscar’s—we call it the—shotgun approach wasn’t getting anywhere, so I didn’t think there was anything for me to interrupt. True, there’s nothing quite like evaluating success or failure from the perspective two people directly involved, but the consensus thought only an overgenerous assessment of the situation could’ve given the benefit of the doubt to the potential that maybe there was something more. But I could be wrong.
At any rate, because I had no intentions of trying anything funny with you or anyone that evening, it came as a great surprise to me when you said “neither of our (I guess Oscar and mine) approaches appeal to you.” As to Oscar, yes, it was painfully transparent that there was an approach going on. However, I myself wasn’t even aware that I was on an approach, so I didn’t know how you concluded that. My goal that night was to ask one last current student for their evaluation of [School A]’s and the greater area’s social scene. I see that as [School A]’s primary—but as you point out, not sole—advantage over [School B], so I figured if I was going to make the best, most informed decision in a life-changing moment, I had better be sure that my own perceptions of the two places are accurate.
However, after thinking about it more, I suppose that, from your perspective, you couldn’t have known that that was my goal. Based on your previous interactions with guys, you probably thought “either he’s trying something funny or he’s in it for information only, and odds are he’s not in it for information only.”
So that’s one thing. Then, when I asked you to elaborate on your response of “neither approach works,” and say what you thought my approach was, you said some things about my being your intellectual equal, but that doesn’t mean….
You didn’t finish the sentence, but I kind of knew where you were going. Since you both kind of said “your [School B] ass is too smart for your own good,” I figured that when Osama pulled you aside, you guys must have discussed me and how I think that having gotten into [School B] somehow elevates me.
That too took me aback. One, I don’t think having gotten into [School B] means anything more than getting into [School A]. If I did think that, I wouldn’t be asking you about factors that could lead me to leave [School B] on the table and walk away. But two, as I said above, I wasn’t pitching myself to you in any respect, and definitely not my smarts. Because A. a crowd of [School A] people is the wrong group to be pitching your smarts to, and B. even if it weren’t a [School A] crowd, pitching smarts is a losing proposition that means I have another think coming to me.
Lastly, the reasons why I asked you the questions I did.
First, I asked about [School A]’s social scene because I came from a middle school where socializing meant socializing with the wrong people. A high school, [HS 1], where it seemed like everyone else was too busy studying to do any socializing. A college, [UG], whose environment paralleled [HS 1]’s even as I evolved.
That’s why I think it’s time for a change. Hence why I’d have no qualms walking away from [School B]’s—disputably—better academic setting and professional outcomes, if [School A] is the place to be.
Second, I asked about Oscar’s approach not because I wanted to cockblock him or whatever he thought. That’s not my concern—that’s up to you. Rather, my experience thus far, as outlined above, hasn’t been quite like [Bro]’s or Oscar’s. They were greek. I went to [UG], and even if I hadn’t come to [UG], there’s no telling whether I could’ve gone Greek if I wanted to, as a dorky freshman or as I am now.
Moreover, I only turned 21 X or Y months ago. I haven’t been in bars all that much, but often enough so that Oscar’s “let me find 100 excuses to buy a girl a drink by intentionally losing bets” game wasn’t novel to me. In my mind, that’s a non-starter. But maybe you think differently. However you think, it wasn’t my business to aid or block that “strategy.” And I didn’t want to, and in my mind I simply didn’t do that. But then you thought I had something of my own going on. When I didn’t—what I did would’ve been a sorry excuse for game if I did.
Anyway this is probably long enough as it is—you’re probably thinking “yea, you really disproved your awkwardness by sending a Harry Potter installment over facebook.” So I hope it finds you well. After this, there’s no more explanation I can add, so if you still think as you did on Sunday then that’s that. I also hope you have a great graduation ceremony.
Thanks,
XOXOHTH
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