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Break up over her history of casual sex?
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Date: August 17th, 2014 8:30 AM Author: haunting kitty I have been taking this gf seriously as wife material. She's hot, smart, loving, would be a great mom etc. BUT I am disgusted by her history of casual sex. It was basically her freshman year of college, she went into a rebellious phase and just jumped into bed with a series of guys (3 I think) without any commitment/love/whatever.
I come from a somewhat religious background, and while I wouldn't expect her to be a virgin, I'm somewhat conservative in thinking that sex should be in the context of a committed relationship. I guess this is a moral standard for me, and I'm fighting feelings of disgust that she would just give it away to "friends with benefits" types.
She seems to regret what she did, and she is objectively the best girl I've been with. Is it unreasonable for me to throw this relationship away because of this psychological hangup? How do I get over it?
EDIT: She subsequently had LTR which lasted a couple years. That doesn't bother me. Seems like a normal healthy sexually active relationship. Have no objections to that. |
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Date: August 17th, 2014 9:02 AM Author: irradiated bearded stead ATD (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2647874&forum_id=2#26145813) |
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Date: August 17th, 2014 9:09 AM Author: grizzly motley plaza well, if you really love her, then set her free (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2647874&forum_id=2#26145839) |
Date: August 17th, 2014 8:34 AM Author: Insane national LOL at her selling you on three (3) guys as a rebellious phase that ended quickly. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2647874&forum_id=2#26145760) |
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Date: August 17th, 2014 7:50 PM Author: Stirring self-centered locale (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2647874&forum_id=2#26148924) |
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Date: August 17th, 2014 8:34 AM Author: Silver floppy keepsake machete Dump her. Let her find a real man. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2647874&forum_id=2#26145761) |
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Date: August 17th, 2014 8:38 AM Author: Burgundy bat shit crazy station she forgot to mention that there is a zero after the 3 (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2647874&forum_id=2#26145765) |
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Date: August 17th, 2014 8:41 AM Author: Bateful blue puppy (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2647874&forum_id=2#26145770) |
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Date: August 17th, 2014 8:41 AM Author: haunting kitty I know her well enough that I could tell when she is lying about shit. There were 3 of them. And honestly that's gross enough for me. 3 v. 10 v. whatever isn't a huge difference to me...it's more the principle. Am I right that she is unmarriable? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2647874&forum_id=2#26145771) |
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Date: August 17th, 2014 10:19 AM Author: grizzly motley plaza Yes, you're completely right. She should be stoned to death for being such a remorseless slut. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2647874&forum_id=2#26145962) |
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Date: August 17th, 2014 1:37 PM Author: Bespoke Karate Factory Reset Button (XO Caliphate) (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2647874&forum_id=2#26146671) |
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Date: August 17th, 2014 7:52 PM Author: impertinent plum pistol (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2647874&forum_id=2#26148934) |
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Date: August 17th, 2014 8:39 AM Author: bisexual flesh halford poor flame. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2647874&forum_id=2#26145766) |
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Date: August 17th, 2014 8:44 AM Author: haunting kitty not flame. seems like a reasonably common scenario. wondering if anyone ever dealt with something similar. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2647874&forum_id=2#26145773) |
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Date: August 17th, 2014 8:49 AM Author: Sepia messiness prole terrible flame (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2647874&forum_id=2#26145782) |
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Date: August 17th, 2014 8:44 AM Author: histrionic headpube How old are you/is she? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2647874&forum_id=2#26145772) |
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Date: August 17th, 2014 8:45 AM Author: haunting kitty I'm 26. She's 23. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2647874&forum_id=2#26145774) |
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Date: August 17th, 2014 8:46 AM Author: histrionic headpube And how did you pry this information out of her so you could find an excuse to destroy a good relationship? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2647874&forum_id=2#26145776) |
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Date: August 17th, 2014 8:53 AM Author: haunting kitty we've shared pretty much everything. stems from talking about her oppressive parents and how she rebelled against them once she got the freedom of college.
so my standards are unreasonable? pretty much everyone has casual sex these days?? |
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Date: August 17th, 2014 8:57 AM Author: histrionic headpube Terrible, terrible flame. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2647874&forum_id=2#26145799) |
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Date: August 17th, 2014 7:53 PM Author: impertinent plum pistol (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2647874&forum_id=2#26148938) |
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Date: August 17th, 2014 8:47 AM Author: contagious opaque locus Good luck finding anyone that meets your standards. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2647874&forum_id=2#26145777) |
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Date: August 17th, 2014 8:49 AM Author: useless cream boistinker ape You are an idiot. 3 dudes freshman year. If that's the "worse" she's done get over yourself you self-righteous fuck. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2647874&forum_id=2#26145781) |
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Date: August 17th, 2014 8:49 AM Author: Sepia messiness prole terrible flame (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2647874&forum_id=2#26145783) |
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Date: August 17th, 2014 8:52 AM Author: Odious public bath telephone LOL at you supposedly worrying about her casual sex with THREE guys.
This is either abysmal flame or you have a mental disorder. |
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Date: August 17th, 2014 8:56 AM Author: Charcoal territorial garrison I understand brother. I had the same issue with my chick. The older you get, the more likely a single chick will have these types of activities (e.g., multiple friends with benefits, Pumps and Dumps, etc.). The best way to approach this is to consider the overall person. She seems to hit every one of your main points, except for the sexual part. All things considered, having 3 friends with benefits (or pumps and dumps)is not that raunchy considering what other women do. Also, she was honest with you about it, which is a great thing. (Or, at least, she was honest about that part. We never really know if she divulged everything.) Knowing all of this do you:
1. Love her? 2. Trust her? 3. Think that phase is over?
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Date: August 17th, 2014 9:00 AM Author: haunting kitty Thanks. Yes she is an amazing person overall and I feel like I am getting stuck on this one little thing.
I do love her, and I know that she is serious about me. She comes from a conservative background and wants to settle down and have a normal family etc. What does worry me is that she stills deals with crazy parents and I think there could be lingering effects of growing up with psychos who didn't let her do anything in high school etc. |
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Date: August 17th, 2014 8:57 AM Author: Obsidian Know-it-all Dragon Would you desribe yourself as intellectual? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2647874&forum_id=2#26145800) |
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Date: August 17th, 2014 9:02 AM Author: haunting kitty pseudo-intellectual perhaps (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2647874&forum_id=2#26145814) |
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Date: August 17th, 2014 9:04 AM Author: big macaca home Awful flame. Doesn't even enter the "so bad it's good" category. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2647874&forum_id=2#26145817) |
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Date: August 17th, 2014 9:05 AM Author: Sepia messiness prole (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2647874&forum_id=2#26145822) |
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Date: August 17th, 2014 9:26 AM Author: Odious public bath telephone (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2647874&forum_id=2#26145871) |
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Date: August 17th, 2014 12:03 PM Author: yellow property background story (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2647874&forum_id=2#26146325) |
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Date: August 17th, 2014 7:53 PM Author: impertinent plum pistol (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2647874&forum_id=2#26148941) |
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Date: August 17th, 2014 8:44 PM Author: Stirring self-centered locale (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2647874&forum_id=2#26149266) |
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Date: August 20th, 2014 5:28 PM Author: razzle-dazzle institution mad cow disease (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2647874&forum_id=2#26171046) |
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Date: August 17th, 2014 9:04 AM Author: Drab Underhanded Idea He Suggested Brunch why do people even bring up past sexual history of their current partners? hard to see anything good coming out of that (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2647874&forum_id=2#26145819) |
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Date: August 17th, 2014 9:08 AM Author: haunting kitty good point. this was a big mistake. would have been much better off not knowing...i think she was trying be my soulmate or some shit and sharing her regrets and her past problems. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2647874&forum_id=2#26145835) |
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Date: August 17th, 2014 9:24 AM Author: white pit how big were they? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2647874&forum_id=2#26145867) |
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Date: August 17th, 2014 1:28 PM Author: citrine nowag how black were they? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2647874&forum_id=2#26146627) |
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Date: August 17th, 2014 9:27 AM Author: magenta adventurous foreskin yes (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2647874&forum_id=2#26145872) |
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Date: August 17th, 2014 9:31 AM Author: Vibrant smoky state lol breh. if this is the only casual sex shit in her past, she is about as good as you're going to find outside of 18-21 year olds at a conservative church (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2647874&forum_id=2#26145881) |
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Date: August 17th, 2014 9:47 AM Author: haunting kitty Is it really that impossible to find a girl who's just had a couple of stable relationships and only had sex in those contexts? wtf (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2647874&forum_id=2#26145911) |
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Date: August 17th, 2014 10:13 AM Author: vengeful galvanic cruise ship party of the first part So you'd prefer she had 3 long-term relationships where she had sex dozens if not hundreds of times rather than 3 guys she had sex with a few times each and that was it? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2647874&forum_id=2#26145951) |
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Date: August 17th, 2014 10:17 AM Author: haunting kitty Yes absolutely. It's about her character and sense of self-esteem. Not the number of times she's been boned. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2647874&forum_id=2#26145959) |
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Date: August 17th, 2014 10:27 AM Author: vengeful galvanic cruise ship party of the first part I think you should dump her. Such a model citizen/christian as yourself should aim higher. She is certainly not worthy of your perfection. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2647874&forum_id=2#26145976) |
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Date: August 17th, 2014 9:42 AM Author: bat-shit-crazy electric hospital I don't know 3 guys at once is a lot. Imagine her mouth, ass and pussy all being filling with cock (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2647874&forum_id=2#26145901) |
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Date: August 17th, 2014 7:54 PM Author: impertinent plum pistol I lol'd. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2647874&forum_id=2#26148951) |
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Date: August 17th, 2014 9:12 PM Author: bat-shit-crazy electric hospital hehehe (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2647874&forum_id=2#26149435) |
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Date: August 17th, 2014 9:45 AM Author: white pit when she is walking down the aisle you will keep seeing the image of some frat bro pounding her hard doggie only to pull out, flip her over, and fire a load in her mouth that she eagerly swallows, showing him her tongue at the end to prove it's all gone.
as long as you are cool with that then it shouldn't be a problem at all |
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Date: August 17th, 2014 10:53 AM Author: puce gunner dingle berry ATD (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2647874&forum_id=2#26146038) |
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Date: August 17th, 2014 12:07 PM Author: Cracking codepig She would not be a great mom. You are beta bucks after her alpha fucks. A fat slob doesn't suddenly go from munching on cheeseburgers daily to doing cross fit and becoming vegan. Neither will a cock-hungry sloot suddenly decide that -this time- one cock is enough.
Btw if you know about 3 that means she's probably had at least 12 dicks in her. |
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Date: August 17th, 2014 12:17 PM Author: haunting kitty does it help if she had an LTR between then and now? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2647874&forum_id=2#26146371) |
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Date: August 17th, 2014 12:36 PM Author: honey-headed swollen theatre sound barrier LOL at all these idiots missing the point. Somehow you need to find the crucial fact: were you here biggest cock. If you were as she I fact did go through a slut phase sampling dozens of cocks and yours wins out--you are golden.
If not, anything else is irrelevant because you're my marriage material to her |
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Date: August 17th, 2014 1:33 PM Author: Lime beta athletic conference Is this copypasta?
In any case, a millennial who's had only 3 casual encounters is one in a million. Wife material right there. |
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Date: August 17th, 2014 1:36 PM Author: Green thriller roast beef wrinkle 3 is an insanely low number but 23 is way too young for a girl to settle down in a culture where all women have been sold on the dream of romance, etc. and where there is a relatively permissive attitude towards casual sex.
you seem pretty beta so she will cheat on you eventually. |
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Date: August 17th, 2014 7:54 PM Author: Cerise stag film LOL at dumping her and finding a 23 year old who hasn't sucked at least 10 different cocks!!!!! (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2647874&forum_id=2#26148948) |
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Date: August 17th, 2014 8:48 PM Author: Buff university incel Did she do BBC anal? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2647874&forum_id=2#26149284) |