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Break up over her history of casual sex?
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Date: August 17th, 2014 8:30 AM Author: Onyx Rigor I have been taking this gf seriously as wife material. She's hot, smart, loving, would be a great mom etc. BUT I am disgusted by her history of casual sex. It was basically her freshman year of college, she went into a rebellious phase and just jumped into bed with a series of guys (3 I think) without any commitment/love/whatever.
I come from a somewhat religious background, and while I wouldn't expect her to be a virgin, I'm somewhat conservative in thinking that sex should be in the context of a committed relationship. I guess this is a moral standard for me, and I'm fighting feelings of disgust that she would just give it away to "friends with benefits" types.
She seems to regret what she did, and she is objectively the best girl I've been with. Is it unreasonable for me to throw this relationship away because of this psychological hangup? How do I get over it?
EDIT: She subsequently had LTR which lasted a couple years. That doesn't bother me. Seems like a normal healthy sexually active relationship. Have no objections to that. |
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Date: August 17th, 2014 9:02 AM Author: rough-skinned wagecucks ATD (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2647874&forum_id=2#26145813) |
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Date: August 17th, 2014 9:09 AM Author: amethyst free-loading stage well, if you really love her, then set her free (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2647874&forum_id=2#26145839) |
Date: August 17th, 2014 8:34 AM Author: 180 business firm masturbator LOL at her selling you on three (3) guys as a rebellious phase that ended quickly. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2647874&forum_id=2#26145760) |
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Date: August 17th, 2014 7:50 PM Author: Magenta jew national (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2647874&forum_id=2#26148924) |
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Date: August 17th, 2014 8:34 AM Author: Histrionic Trailer Park Patrolman Dump her. Let her find a real man. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2647874&forum_id=2#26145761) |
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Date: August 17th, 2014 8:38 AM Author: stimulating misanthropic generalized bond address she forgot to mention that there is a zero after the 3 (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2647874&forum_id=2#26145765) |
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Date: August 17th, 2014 8:41 AM Author: galvanic juggernaut (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2647874&forum_id=2#26145770) |
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Date: August 17th, 2014 8:41 AM Author: Onyx Rigor I know her well enough that I could tell when she is lying about shit. There were 3 of them. And honestly that's gross enough for me. 3 v. 10 v. whatever isn't a huge difference to me...it's more the principle. Am I right that she is unmarriable? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2647874&forum_id=2#26145771) |
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Date: August 17th, 2014 10:19 AM Author: amethyst free-loading stage Yes, you're completely right. She should be stoned to death for being such a remorseless slut. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2647874&forum_id=2#26145962) |
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Date: August 17th, 2014 1:37 PM Author: Irradiated Shrine Mental Disorder (XO Caliphate) (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2647874&forum_id=2#26146671) |
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Date: August 17th, 2014 7:52 PM Author: Poppy tanning salon ratface (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2647874&forum_id=2#26148934) |
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Date: August 17th, 2014 8:39 AM Author: Exhilarant Domesticated Dysfunction Locale poor flame. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2647874&forum_id=2#26145766) |
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Date: August 17th, 2014 8:44 AM Author: Onyx Rigor not flame. seems like a reasonably common scenario. wondering if anyone ever dealt with something similar. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2647874&forum_id=2#26145773) |
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Date: August 17th, 2014 8:49 AM Author: Twinkling telephone terrible flame (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2647874&forum_id=2#26145782) |
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Date: August 17th, 2014 8:44 AM Author: Frisky salmon cruise ship antidepressant drug How old are you/is she? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2647874&forum_id=2#26145772) |
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Date: August 17th, 2014 8:45 AM Author: Onyx Rigor I'm 26. She's 23. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2647874&forum_id=2#26145774) |
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Date: August 17th, 2014 8:46 AM Author: Frisky salmon cruise ship antidepressant drug And how did you pry this information out of her so you could find an excuse to destroy a good relationship? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2647874&forum_id=2#26145776) |
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Date: August 17th, 2014 8:53 AM Author: Onyx Rigor we've shared pretty much everything. stems from talking about her oppressive parents and how she rebelled against them once she got the freedom of college.
so my standards are unreasonable? pretty much everyone has casual sex these days?? |
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Date: August 17th, 2014 8:57 AM Author: Frisky salmon cruise ship antidepressant drug Terrible, terrible flame. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2647874&forum_id=2#26145799) |
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Date: August 17th, 2014 7:53 PM Author: Poppy tanning salon ratface (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2647874&forum_id=2#26148938) |
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Date: August 17th, 2014 8:47 AM Author: bearded forum Good luck finding anyone that meets your standards. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2647874&forum_id=2#26145777) |
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Date: August 17th, 2014 8:49 AM Author: beady-eyed round eye You are an idiot. 3 dudes freshman year. If that's the "worse" she's done get over yourself you self-righteous fuck. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2647874&forum_id=2#26145781) |
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Date: August 17th, 2014 8:49 AM Author: Twinkling telephone terrible flame (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2647874&forum_id=2#26145783) |
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Date: August 17th, 2014 8:52 AM Author: hairraiser kink-friendly international law enforcement agency den LOL at you supposedly worrying about her casual sex with THREE guys.
This is either abysmal flame or you have a mental disorder. |
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Date: August 17th, 2014 8:56 AM Author: Bright double fault I understand brother. I had the same issue with my chick. The older you get, the more likely a single chick will have these types of activities (e.g., multiple friends with benefits, Pumps and Dumps, etc.). The best way to approach this is to consider the overall person. She seems to hit every one of your main points, except for the sexual part. All things considered, having 3 friends with benefits (or pumps and dumps)is not that raunchy considering what other women do. Also, she was honest with you about it, which is a great thing. (Or, at least, she was honest about that part. We never really know if she divulged everything.) Knowing all of this do you:
1. Love her? 2. Trust her? 3. Think that phase is over?
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Date: August 17th, 2014 9:00 AM Author: Onyx Rigor Thanks. Yes she is an amazing person overall and I feel like I am getting stuck on this one little thing.
I do love her, and I know that she is serious about me. She comes from a conservative background and wants to settle down and have a normal family etc. What does worry me is that she stills deals with crazy parents and I think there could be lingering effects of growing up with psychos who didn't let her do anything in high school etc. |
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Date: August 17th, 2014 8:57 AM Author: Infuriating know-it-all potus Would you desribe yourself as intellectual? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2647874&forum_id=2#26145800) |
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Date: August 17th, 2014 9:02 AM Author: Onyx Rigor pseudo-intellectual perhaps (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2647874&forum_id=2#26145814) |
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Date: August 17th, 2014 9:04 AM Author: Self-absorbed Spectacular Laser Beams Awful flame. Doesn't even enter the "so bad it's good" category. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2647874&forum_id=2#26145817) |
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Date: August 17th, 2014 9:05 AM Author: Twinkling telephone (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2647874&forum_id=2#26145822) |
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Date: August 17th, 2014 9:26 AM Author: hairraiser kink-friendly international law enforcement agency den (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2647874&forum_id=2#26145871) |
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Date: August 17th, 2014 12:03 PM Author: Lascivious iridescent temple volcanic crater (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2647874&forum_id=2#26146325) |
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Date: August 17th, 2014 7:53 PM Author: Poppy tanning salon ratface (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2647874&forum_id=2#26148941) |
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Date: August 17th, 2014 8:44 PM Author: Magenta jew national (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2647874&forum_id=2#26149266) |
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Date: August 20th, 2014 5:28 PM Author: Black Boyish Coffee Pot Keepsake Machete (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2647874&forum_id=2#26171046) |
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Date: August 17th, 2014 9:04 AM Author: rusted sticky sex offender national security agency why do people even bring up past sexual history of their current partners? hard to see anything good coming out of that (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2647874&forum_id=2#26145819) |
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Date: August 17th, 2014 9:08 AM Author: Onyx Rigor good point. this was a big mistake. would have been much better off not knowing...i think she was trying be my soulmate or some shit and sharing her regrets and her past problems. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2647874&forum_id=2#26145835) |
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Date: August 17th, 2014 9:24 AM Author: stirring old irish cottage how big were they? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2647874&forum_id=2#26145867) |
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Date: August 17th, 2014 1:28 PM Author: Passionate box office hunting ground how black were they? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2647874&forum_id=2#26146627) |
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Date: August 17th, 2014 9:27 AM Author: Crawly Bawdyhouse yes (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2647874&forum_id=2#26145872) |
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Date: August 17th, 2014 9:31 AM Author: sienna set lol breh. if this is the only casual sex shit in her past, she is about as good as you're going to find outside of 18-21 year olds at a conservative church (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2647874&forum_id=2#26145881) |
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Date: August 17th, 2014 9:47 AM Author: Onyx Rigor Is it really that impossible to find a girl who's just had a couple of stable relationships and only had sex in those contexts? wtf (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2647874&forum_id=2#26145911) |
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Date: August 17th, 2014 10:13 AM Author: Provocative ungodly piazza So you'd prefer she had 3 long-term relationships where she had sex dozens if not hundreds of times rather than 3 guys she had sex with a few times each and that was it? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2647874&forum_id=2#26145951) |
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Date: August 17th, 2014 10:17 AM Author: Onyx Rigor Yes absolutely. It's about her character and sense of self-esteem. Not the number of times she's been boned. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2647874&forum_id=2#26145959) |
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Date: August 17th, 2014 10:27 AM Author: Provocative ungodly piazza I think you should dump her. Such a model citizen/christian as yourself should aim higher. She is certainly not worthy of your perfection. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2647874&forum_id=2#26145976) |
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Date: August 17th, 2014 9:42 AM Author: Mind-boggling Plaza Deer Antler I don't know 3 guys at once is a lot. Imagine her mouth, ass and pussy all being filling with cock (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2647874&forum_id=2#26145901) |
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Date: August 17th, 2014 7:54 PM Author: Poppy tanning salon ratface I lol'd. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2647874&forum_id=2#26148951) |
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Date: August 17th, 2014 9:12 PM Author: Mind-boggling Plaza Deer Antler hehehe (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2647874&forum_id=2#26149435) |
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Date: August 17th, 2014 9:45 AM Author: stirring old irish cottage when she is walking down the aisle you will keep seeing the image of some frat bro pounding her hard doggie only to pull out, flip her over, and fire a load in her mouth that she eagerly swallows, showing him her tongue at the end to prove it's all gone.
as long as you are cool with that then it shouldn't be a problem at all |
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Date: August 17th, 2014 10:53 AM Author: vermilion excitant dragon elastic band ATD (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2647874&forum_id=2#26146038) |
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Date: August 17th, 2014 12:07 PM Author: Swollen Pocket Flask Station She would not be a great mom. You are beta bucks after her alpha fucks. A fat slob doesn't suddenly go from munching on cheeseburgers daily to doing cross fit and becoming vegan. Neither will a cock-hungry sloot suddenly decide that -this time- one cock is enough.
Btw if you know about 3 that means she's probably had at least 12 dicks in her. |
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Date: August 17th, 2014 12:17 PM Author: Onyx Rigor does it help if she had an LTR between then and now? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2647874&forum_id=2#26146371) |
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Date: August 17th, 2014 12:36 PM Author: Dun sexy state knife LOL at all these idiots missing the point. Somehow you need to find the crucial fact: were you here biggest cock. If you were as she I fact did go through a slut phase sampling dozens of cocks and yours wins out--you are golden.
If not, anything else is irrelevant because you're my marriage material to her |
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Date: August 17th, 2014 1:33 PM Author: Orange Becky Is this copypasta?
In any case, a millennial who's had only 3 casual encounters is one in a million. Wife material right there. |
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Date: August 17th, 2014 1:36 PM Author: Cerebral Mauve Hall 3 is an insanely low number but 23 is way too young for a girl to settle down in a culture where all women have been sold on the dream of romance, etc. and where there is a relatively permissive attitude towards casual sex.
you seem pretty beta so she will cheat on you eventually. |
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Date: August 17th, 2014 7:54 PM Author: Supple mentally impaired twinkling uncleanness LOL at dumping her and finding a 23 year old who hasn't sucked at least 10 different cocks!!!!! (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2647874&forum_id=2#26148948) |
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Date: August 17th, 2014 8:48 PM Author: Laughsome Deranged Principal's Office Did she do BBC anal? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2647874&forum_id=2#26149284) |