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Date: October 14th, 2014 4:28 PM Author: Jade school cafeteria
serious question. for bros in their early/mid 20's still figuring things out. i find deciding on what to do in life extremely stressful. looking for advice from older bros who have been through the process.
How do you know what is the right step in life? IE JD/MBA, make a ton of money for a tradeoff in work/life balance, work in the public interest, raise a family, travel, work at a restaurant and surf and smoke weed all day, etc. is it all the same in the end? what key factors help in determining what is right for me?
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Date: October 14th, 2014 4:29 PM Author: bespoke friendly grandma house
This is me to a T. I have no idea what the FUCK to do. I'm at the position where I could try to do:
Work experience->MBA->IB assoc.
OR
JD(if T6 with not too much debt) -> Death
OR
Work experience->work experience->work experience.
I just don't know.
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Date: October 14th, 2014 5:34 PM Author: Effete stag film
Here's an upper bound: Do what you love doesn't mean, do what you would like to do most this second. Even Einstein probably had moments when he wanted to have a cup of coffee, but told himself he ought to finish what he was working on first.
It used to perplex me when I read about people who liked what they did so much that there was nothing they'd rather do. There didn't seem to be any sort of work I liked that much. If I had a choice of (a) spending the next hour working on something or (b) be teleported to Rome and spend the next hour wandering about, was there any sort of work I'd prefer? Honestly, no.
But the fact is, almost anyone would rather, at any given moment, float about in the Carribbean, or have sex, or eat some delicious food, than work on hard problems. The rule about doing what you love assumes a certain length of time. It doesn't mean, do what will make you happiest this second, but what will make you happiest over some longer period, like a week or a month.
Unproductive pleasures pall eventually. After a while you get tired of lying on the beach. If you want to stay happy, you have to do something.
As a lower bound, you have to like your work more than any unproductive pleasure. You have to like what you do enough that the concept of "spare time" seems mistaken. Which is not to say you have to spend all your time working. You can only work so much before you get tired and start to screw up. Then you want to do something else—even something mindless. But you don't regard this time as the prize and the time you spend working as the pain you endure to earn it.
I put the lower bound there for practical reasons. If your work is not your favorite thing to do, you'll have terrible problems with procrastination. You'll have to force yourself to work, and when you resort to that the results are distinctly inferior.
To be happy I think you have to be doing something you not only enjoy, but admire. You have to be able to say, at the end, wow, that's pretty cool. This doesn't mean you have to make something. If you learn how to hang glide, or to speak a foreign language fluently, that will be enough to make you say, for a while at least, wow, that's pretty cool. What there has to be is a test.
So one thing that falls just short of the standard, I think, is reading books. Except for some books in math and the hard sciences, there's no test of how well you've read a book, and that's why merely reading books doesn't quite feel like work. You have to do something with what you've read to feel productive.
I think the best test is one Gino Lee taught me: to try to do things that would make your friends say wow. But it probably wouldn't start to work properly till about age 22, because most people haven't had a big enough sample to pick friends from before then.
http://www.paulgraham.com/love.html
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Date: November 5th, 2014 11:01 PM Author: provocative plaza place of business
Was Ok til the last few paragraphs.
1. Try to do something that would make your friends say "wow" -- this is one of the easiest ways to wind up extremely unhappy, chasing prestige and "wows"
2. Try to do something that you can admire and say that's pretty cool -- a philosophy that excludes 99.99999% of the jobs from being worthwhile can't be right. this is some boomer shit where everyone ends up getting lib arts degrees, trying to write the next big novel, and wanting to practice "international" whatever.
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Date: October 14th, 2014 4:36 PM Author: Domesticated locus sweet tailpipe
i don't know but kinda think you should go all in one path or the other and not dither or switch it up prematurely.
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Date: October 14th, 2014 5:44 PM Author: Talking internal respiration
Answer: reading, networking, trial and error.
Reading: consumer trade newsletters, blogs, books about shit you might like, XO
Networking: talk to people be it alumni in a professional capacity or friends of friends doing shit you might like (note this advice is not just about jobs, it can be about living in Japan or taking up surfing or whatever)
And then trial and error: so you read a lot and networked a lot and think maybe you want to be a psychologist or a cop; you might live in Chicago or California; well, time to start trying those things out
Get on with life so by 30 you're on the "path" of whatever you pick.
XO is TOTAL FLAME w/r/t the idea that after 25 or something you're done here, but XO is right that if you bounce around for too long you're done
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Date: October 14th, 2014 5:44 PM Author: Talking internal respiration
also op u sound like a real big fag when ur 2 life choices are IB and biglaw
jfc
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Date: October 14th, 2014 6:03 PM Author: Talking internal respiration
REDUCTIVE MASTERMAN
because they're two of the worst, safest, risk averse careers out there and everyone hates them and each has 23423423432423 articles written about them and in the end it's the same shit just pushing paper or excel for rich jews
who the fuck grows up in life and is like "I BANKING OR LAW??!?!?!?!?" only a very specific subset of upper middle class elite zip code strivers, that's who.
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Date: October 14th, 2014 10:13 PM Author: Yellow dashing genital piercing principal's office
it's easier to see a path if you can recall where you've already walked than if there's a vast amount of space ahead
that's kind of where I'm going with it
it's crazy fucking overwhelming to narrow one's life down to a single path, imo
especially at a young age when one may not have any obligations
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Date: October 14th, 2014 8:37 PM Author: hairraiser corner becky
Many approaches. Whatever you do, don't let life pick your path for you. Most people are victims of circumstance.
GO HAVE ADVENTURES. Try shit out.
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Date: October 14th, 2014 8:38 PM Author: hairraiser corner becky
Also JD/MBA is a FUCKING SCAM. Do not do that.
Fucking pick one. And by "one", I mean the MBA
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Date: October 14th, 2014 8:49 PM Author: hairraiser corner becky
Fair enough.
My advice? Go do something dangerous and fun. For me that was the Marines.
You are only young once
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Date: October 27th, 2014 1:53 PM Author: Zombie-like stirring turdskin
you seem dumb dude. academia is the LEAST creative, adventurous career out there. just because you CAN do something for a living doesnt mean you should. why is academia the BEST FUCKING JOB EVER OMG to you? its fucking boring. also academia is very rent-seeking too.
doctor is a truly noble profession. you can build a practice, do research and do good.
bankers/consultants often move on to become titans of industry, starting/running businesses, etc. you see a lot of these guys moving into gov't and contributing to and running non-profits later on too. ppl who are psyched about grinding and moving up in a firm are usually FOB or middling IQ PROLE.
law is the only shitty one, but i don't know anything about it. most kids are poli-sci shitheads tho and im sure some have some interest in BIGFED or politics.
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Date: October 28th, 2014 1:06 AM Author: odious sexy library selfie
1. Spend an appropriate amount of time (not more than a year or two) navel gazing, then pick something, and move forward in a continuous path. Don't pick something by default, and don't waste your entire twenties trying to find yourself.
2. Think about where you want to be 10-20 years out, not 1-2 years out, and plan backwards from there.
3. It's possible, though hard, to find a path that is both lucrative and enjoyable. Ideally, pick one of the few paths that allow both (doctor in some specialties, solo attorney, professor, pilot, etc.), but if you can't have both, pick something you enjoy but that will allow you to afford at least the basic necessities.
4. Balance enjoyment of the moment with steady progress toward your goals. Don't sacrifice more than a year or two of your life to just work and postponement of happiness, but don't let a year or two pass without making progress either.
5. Profit.
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Date: October 28th, 2014 1:44 AM Author: Exciting meetinghouse roommate
if you fall in love, take that path and fight for it.
if you're confused, try meditation. and remember everyone else is too.
rumor has it lsd, psilocybin, peyote, dmt, etc. can be illuminating.
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