http://elitedaily.com/dating/marry-complicated-girl/858579/

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2749066&forum_id=2#26874466)

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I know it’s cliché to quote “Sex and the City,” but it’s still so relevant.

This episode revealed to girls like me what we’ve subconsciously known for a long time: We are the type of girls you should be with, but you don’t want to be with.

Mr. Big was probably going to finish that statement with “easy.” Natasha, his soon-to-be wife, is easy — as in, she just goes with the flow. She doesn’t get angry or challenge him to be better.

She nods and laughs and is always comfortable. She’s sweet and good-natured and lets him do whatever he wants.

Carrie is complicated. She doesn’t put up with not getting everything she deserves. She craves more from Big. She has opinions and a life and dreams for the two of them together. She sometimes argues with him at inopportune times because she’s passionate and emotional, and she cares.

Not that Natasha doesn’t care. But, she is a basic girl who wants to keep the peace at any cost, even if that means she put her needs aside. Her mind isn’t quite as analytical and imaginative as Carrie’s, so she can put up with more. She’s simple.

I am not simple. I am a challenge for any man, I will admit. As hard as I try to be the simple girl, it is just not in my nature to be one. I demand more from everyone because I see great potential.

I only want the best for myself and for my partner, so I will never just go along with some semblance of a mediocre, passionless relationship.

An unevolved man or a boy will always want the simple girl. He doesn’t want to have to work hard for anything, especially not a relationship. He doesn’t want to be challenged or confronted.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2749066&forum_id=2#26874479)

jfc.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2749066&forum_id=2#26874514)

I haven't met one yet who's as intelligent and self aware as she thinks

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2749066&forum_id=2#26874880)

Ok--HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA

ok...

"they're not unicorns, either"

they're not unicorns, either they're not unicorns, either they're not unicorns, either they're not unicorns, either they're not unicorns, either they're not unicorns, either they're not unicorns, either they're not unicorns, either they're not unicorns, either they're not unicorns, either they're not unicorns, either they're not unicorns, either they're not unicorns, either they're not unicorns, either they're not unicorns, either they're not unicorns, either they're not unicorns, either they're not unicorns, either they're not unicorns, either they're not unicorns, either they're not unicorns, either they're not unicorns, either they're not unicorns, either they're not unicorns, either they're not unicorns, either they're not unicorns, either they're not unicorns, either they're not unicorns, either they're not unicorns, either they're not unicorns, either they're not unicorns, either they're not unicorns, either

Thanks Julia.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2749066&forum_id=2#26875076)

OH NO WHAT A HORRIBLE CURSE

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2749066&forum_id=2#26874807)

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2749066&forum_id=2#26874846)

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2749066&forum_id=2#26874914)

you pretend to be the simple bitch to lure guys in and try to use your sagging, slowly decaying body to keep them there after they discover you are actually insane.

you are worse than this mentally ill shrew who at least tries not to be the simple girl.

you're a broken shell of a human being who intellectually masturbates to this idea of being a strong, confident, intelligent woman, but then crawls on your hands and knees, smiles dumbly, and offers your asshole to anyone who will give you the time of day and make you feel less lonely and afraid.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2749066&forum_id=2#26874993)

*out of fucking nowhere a thunderbird soars in screeching that I need to sign up for couple's bellydance yoga*

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2749066&forum_id=2#26874885)

In real life, you and your significant other are going to do real shit together - deal with the death of loved ones, raise and discipline children, have financial difficulties, etc. Men (smartly) want a partner who will love them unconditionally and make the journey easier, rather than unnecessarily complicated - because it's complicated enough.

In real life men want a woman to live in the real world with them, not a complicated 40 year old woman who stomps her feet because her "boyfriend" had to work through brunch, or other frivolous bullshit that makes up the shrew world.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2749066&forum_id=2#26874945)

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2749066&forum_id=2#26874996)

Go home Julia, the adults are talking in this thread.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2749066&forum_id=2#26875019)

You're fighting some chimera that doesn't exist in any form -- not in real life, and not even as a fictitious character in that article.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2749066&forum_id=2#26875061)

"But, she is a basic girl who wants to keep the peace at any cost, even if that means she put her needs aside. Her mind isn’t quite as analytical and imaginative as Carrie’s, so she can put up with more. She’s simple."

Now isn't Carrie a brunch loving, 40 year old shrew who picks fights over dumb shit, talks about her "boyfriends" despite being old enough to be a grandmother, who has strong opinions over things that don't matter at all, and who cheats?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2749066&forum_id=2#26875110)

YOU ARE CREATING A STRAWMAN ARGUMENT BASED ON SOME FICTIONAL TV CHARACTER.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2749066&forum_id=2#26875180)

Got it, just so we're clear.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2749066&forum_id=2#26875321)

The author is your typical, bright, educated urban woman. She is not saying anything most women who are your peers don't already think. It is not the most articulate or convincing piece, but it adequately represents the problem.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2749066&forum_id=2#26875083)

If you write a lengthy screed trying to justify abrasive behavior, I think that it is fairly obvious which camp you occupy.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2749066&forum_id=2#26875145)

They obviously don't want a dumb bimbo, but they also don't want you.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2749066&forum_id=2#26875211)

there's a difference of being demanding of your partner (e.g., wanting them to treat you well, respect you, and so forth), and being demanding in general. nobody wants the latter.

now, the problem with the author, is she mistakes an agreeable girl with a girl that still doesn't require things of her partner. but her hero is carrie - someone that nobody in their right mind would want to actually hitch their fortunes to.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2749066&forum_id=2#26875583)

But all of this is 100% credited. For some doods, being "ride or die" will mean coming with some intellect and earning power - maybe a corporate chick will relate better to his struggles, who knows.

The key is to be able to roll through the bad shit with someone, and demand the right things (that they acknowledge your needs, fight respectfully, treat you well etc) in a productive way.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2749066&forum_id=2#33707716)

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2749066&forum_id=2#26875823)

The main problem with the piece (besides the author's obvious inflated ego) is the assumption that agreeable = dumb. Ideally, you find a woman that is smart enough to talk to about a variety of subjects but also recognizes that when two people want to share a life together, they both need to make sacrifices to make it work.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2749066&forum_id=2#26877096)

Reminder, the man married to this notorious megashrew cheated on her numerous times: http://biharipunjabi.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/12/Elizabeth-Hurley-Hot-Photoshoot-Images.jpg

Further, that woman has been divorced twice, has a child with another man, has had at least one engagement fall through, and is currently single. Get the fuck out of here with that "unless she's super hot" nonsense.

EDIT: I'm replying to a post from 2014, not proud of that.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2749066&forum_id=2#33709010)

And hey, suppose they WERE mutually exclusive. Finding a foreign policy debate partner is still not nearly as important than a partner who will say "Okay" when you ask if you can change the channel because there's two minutes left in the game. Someone who thinks otherwise is someone who thinks the best possible spouse is your most interesting attractive friend, and doesn't get how huge it is to be able to avoid a thousand little arguments than a more obstinate person would start a thousand times.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2749066&forum_id=2#26877181)

I think there's a difference between complex and complicated that this girl isn't getting. She seems to mistake self-centeredness and entitlement for depth and intelligence. You can be complex without being a difficult. And being in control of your emotions doesn't mean you don't have them. It just means you don't make everyone else responsible for your happiness. In any case, if she's 'worth' that much work, she should be giving a whole lot more than she seems willing to. Plus, simple and stupid are not synonyms.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2749066&forum_id=2#26877255)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kC16VC0vLBQ

i wonder what southern girl married this bitch's bf out from under her

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2749066&forum_id=2#26878311)