this gave it away for me

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2835579&forum_id=2#27530873)

You have two options: You will get married or you won’t get married. If you will get married then this article is for you. We will not review whether or not you should get married but we will review how to pick the right wife.

Picking the right wife is of utmost importance. Marriage is a life-long commitment and requires a great deal of forethought. Getting married without a plan and without any forethought is a terrible decision.

Getting married is a business decision. Marriage is a contract between two entities. You’ve got to enter into it with the ruthless mind of a determined businessman for it to work.

You’ve got to pick the right wife like a businessman picks a company to invest in. It shouldn’t be left to chance (“love”) – you’ve got to be pro-active, know what you want and then go after it.

Marriage isn’t about love or connecting with your soul-mate. Those are inventions of TV and movies. Marriage is an exchange of resources. Your wife shall provide A and you will provide B. If your wife doesn’t, or won’t, provide her share then she should not have the privilege of marriage with you.

Marriage is a contract and you’ve got to try your hardest to make sure that contract is reinforced. You cannot make the best decision when you’re emotionally love-sick like a 16 year old school girl. No businessman who wants to stay in business will sign a contract in an emotional state of mind and no man who wants to stay married will sign all of his power away just because he loves her. It takes rational, clear-headed planning and thinking to pick the right wife material.

There are only two reasons a man should ever get married:

1) He wants to start a family.

2) His career or political ambitions demand he has a wife (he is interested in going into politics). We will not talk about this except to say that a political wife is for show and show only. For this article we will assume the reader falls into the first category.

There is absolutely no other reason to ever get married. Love is not a reason to get married. When you get married you sign all your power over to your wife – it must be of some benefit for you to do so. That benefit is to grow old with your family.

The goals of a marriage should be:

1) Minimize the chance of divorce theft and child robbery.

2) Maximize wife’s happiness with her wifely and motherly duties (the complete opposite of everything you will see, read or hear). It’s not about empowerment (or any other buzzword designed to kill the traditional family), she should be completely devoted to her family. True happiness for a woman comes from her family, it does not come from her career, or her “independence”, or her sexually liberated point of view.

3) Have a healthy, happy family with well educated, respectful children – non-sissified sons and girlish daughters with strong family values.

Be honest about what you want:

Most men don’t want an “independent, empowered” woman. That’s code for bitchy slut with a chip on her shoulder.

We all want a sweet, nice, joyful, feminine woman who treats her man like a King.

Bullshitters will suck up to the dregs and say the opposite in a futile attempt to get some action. These poor suckers get shit on the most and never understand why. Hear this gentlemen – women love men who go after what they want, who don’t take a woman’s BS seriously, and treat her like a woman, not like a man in drag. Women hate suck-ups as much as they hate stepping in dog poop on the street. To a woman, a male suck-up is less than human.

Divorce:

There is no denying that marriage is a very, very bad deal. When you get married you immediately give your wife all the power over your money and your children. “No-fault” divorce really means “his-fault” divorce. If your wife is to decide she wants a divorce she can have all the benefits of being married and none of the drawbacks. Divorce is theft from the man. It’s a redistribution of wealth from men to women. She can live off of your paycheck via alimony and child support and she can keep your children and raise them in a single-mother or step-daddy household. She has the complete and full support of Papa Government behind her. In the eyes of the law she can do no wrong and you can do no right. And there is nothing you can do about any of that. That’s why you have to choose the right wife in the first place to eliminate much of that risk.

Steps should be taken to minimize the chances of divorce. You must take extra special precaution to choosing the right wife so you can avoid the possibility of a financially devastating and family ruining divorce.

When to get married:

The best time for a man to get married is after 30 years of age. At that age he has had a long time to live life, earn money, think of what he wants in a wife, and settle down a little bit. The ages of 20-30 are the wild years but after the 30 year mark men will tend to settle down. Most men under 30 years of age aren’t mature enough to make the best decision about who to spend their life with.

Now remember, 30 years old is the starting age to think of marriage. That doesn’t mean you should get married at 30 or by 30. Anytime between 30-45 is a good time to tie the knot. Between the ages of 30-45 is when a man’s marriage value is at its highest.

We have spoken about the need for a good woman here. In the following section we will look at how to determine good women from bad women.

The top 12 rules for picking the right wife to maximize a happy life and minimize the chance of divorce…

1) She should be young.

The woman should 30 years of age MAXIMUM. 25 is even better and 20 is the best age.

A woman’s body does not age well. You want the most amount of years with your wife having a tight, young, firm body. After 30 it goes downhill fast. At around the age of 31 a woman’s beauty really declines fast.

It’s a tradeoff, she gives you her good years and you put up with her in her bad years. Never take a woman already in her bad years.

Women do not age well. “Cougars”, older women that younger men find irresistible, are an invention of the movies. Single women over the age of 30 have wasted all their pretty years having a lot of random sex and now they want to find a sucker who will take care of them without having to give him any of her good years. Don’t be that sucker.

A young body is especially important for bearing children. Old women cannot have and don’t have healthy children. At 30 years of age a woman is already 15 years past her child-bearing prime.

But I like talking to smart women. 20 year olds are stupid.

Her IQ won’t grow much with age. A dumb 20 year old is a dumb 30 year old. The difference is that the 30 year old dumb woman is a lot more bitter and has a whole lot less to offer.

2) She has to come from an intact family with original mother and father.

No step-mommies and step-daddies. Children from single mommy homes cannot be healthy. A mother simply cannot raise healthy children alone or with step-daddies. You want an emotionally healthy wife. Women who grew up with divorce have too much baggage, use sluttery as a way to get attention from daddy, and will not know how to act in a proper family setting.

3) She cannot believe in divorce or even imagine getting a divorce.

If she mentions the word ‘divorce’, what to do in case of divorce, praises a friend who got a divorce, or says divorce is an option then she is not a keeper. Throw her back in the water and go fishing some more.

To make a marriage work, both the man and wife must think of divorce as no option at all.

4) She must have the natural body type you prefer.

Every woman will gain a few pounds when they settle with a man. It’s unavoidable. What is unacceptable is a woman blowing up to whale proportions. If a woman was once very fat, lost the weight on crash diets and ultra-gym sessions, that weight will ALL come back plus more when she gets married.

If she has to constantly diet and go to the gym she is about to blow up like a balloon when the ring is on her finger and the vows are spoken.

You must pick the natural body type you like. That means she must have the same body type her whole life, never yo-yo’ing up or down in weight.

She should have a pretty face. When her body goes the only thing that will be left is her face and you will have to see it every single day.

5) She must be image conscious.

A woman who gets pig-fat after marriage is a disgrace to herself and her family. She must be aware of her image and keep her body trim for you. Women will always gain a few pounds after marriage, but there is a difference between a few pounds and one hundred pounds. Take a look at all the women in her family, if they are all pig-fat it’s a good idea to walk away as fast as you can. You will have to see your wife daily, you don’t want to be thinking about skinning some bacon off of her back to cook breakfast.

6) She must be family oriented and not career oriented.

This is going to be the mother of your children and the keeper of your house. An Ass-kicker doesn’t need two incomes, he can provide, what he needs is a keeper of home and heart.

Two income households leave the raising of their children to expensive day cares and schools, and then mommy goes to work so they can afford to pay for day care and babysitters.

I don’t want children.

Don’t get married. The only reason to get married is to have a family.

But I want a career woman.

Doesn’t matter, even if she is a career woman when you meet she will not be when she is older. No woman wants to work but it takes some of them a long time to figure that out. They waste all their youth playing/working their career and then realize what a huge mistake they made and leave their jobs to take care of their (quite possibly retarded – that’s what happens when old ladies have babies) child. How many 45 year old married female lawyers or other professionals do you know?

The women who work in middle age do so because they have no choice and they whine about it every day of their life. They would give anything to leave their jobs and take care of their family instead.

No woman truly wants to work. Work is a man’s world and always will be. A woman’s work should be in the home taking care of the home and children.

7) She must be a “good” girl.

She cannot be a drinker or a smoker or have any tattoos. She cannot have a party girl past, a sordid past, and she cannot have gone out more than a couple times drinking. You cannot turn a whore into a housewife. The more sexual partners she has had the more likely the marriage will end in divorce.

Are you saying all party girls, smokers and drinkers are sluts?

Yes.

The fewer sexual partners your wife has had, the better. The ideal wife should be a virgin. Remember: The more sexual partners she has had the more likely you are to be divorced in about 6 years and lose most of your money, possessions, and your children.

If you think she needs help or that you are helping her and she is changing then you are being foolish and you are being played. It’s going to end badly for you when you get hitched to a woman like this.

Always pick a good girl. That means a virgin (or close), family oriented, pleasant, eager to help, a smiler, and patient.

8) She must have no problem signing a pre-nuptial agreement.

A Pre-nup probably won’t save you much money, if any, in the case of divorce but her signing a pre-nup does one very important thing for you: it shows you she is serious about making the marriage work.

9) She should change herself for you.

When a woman is in love she will change herself to please and conform toyou. Her new favorite food will become steak and eggs, she will enjoy watching all six Rocky movies with you, and she will do things to please you she has never done or liked before.

I don’t want a woman who flip-flops!

A woman who doesn’t flip-flop is a woman who does not respect you.

Women are not men and should not be held to the standards of men. A man who changes his views on the whims of a woman is a sissy. A woman who changes her views on the whims of a man is a woman who is in love. She should not be degraded for that because that’s what ‘keepers’ do.

10) She must look up to you and respect you.

Women marry up and men marry down, since the dawn of marriage. If she looks down on you she will leave with your money and your children. You’ve got to be a man that she can look up to, admire, love and respect – always.

11) She should not have any children from a previous affair.

In the animal kingdom when a Lion takes over a pride he kills the cubs of other Lions.

Raising someone else’s child is cuckoldry with your full knowledge and consent.

If you raise someone else’s child you will be taking care of another man’s seedling and there will always be another man in the picture.

Be selfish and keep your wife and children to yourself. They should be yours and only yours. Don’t settle for another man’s leavings and sloppy seconds.

Here is what women with children do: They have unprotected sex with a stud, get knocked up, and look for a sucker to raise the bastard.

or..

She has already been married, had children, and then divorced the father and left.

In each case the woman is unfit for marriage.

12) She should be a smiler.

She should smile when she sees you. Her eyes should light up. She should be excited each time she sees you and reward you with her beautiful smile.

A big, bright shining smile from a pretty girl is worth more than any university degree she has, worth more than any job she has, worth more than any other baloney modern women wrongly believe makes them attractive to men.

You want a happy woman. You don’t want a frowning, nagging, pessimistic bride.

Always pick a smiling, warm, happy-go-lucky woman to share your life with.

Things to remember:

American women have been indoctrinated since birth to believe in and embrace divorce. They have been indoctrinated and instructed to believe that their feminine instincts are wrong and bad. This causes a great deal of confusion in their minds and, to put it plainly, many of them are unfit for marriage and raising a family. Especially avoid women who use psychiatric drugs and especially avoid women who go to therapy. Therapy only makes women more insane and teaches them to blame men more for their problems.

Party girls are for fun, good girls are for marriage.

If a woman cannot or will not cook daily, how will she ever care for children? She can’t. To raise non-fat children you must marry a woman who can and will cook.

As a man your options do not dwindle as you age. Your options only increase with your age and wealth. Conversely, as a woman ages her options plummet. That’s because men age gracefully, like a fine wine, and women age like milk. That’s why you must pick a beautiful young lady. It is highly advisable for a man to wait until he is a little older to get married. 30 years of age is an acceptable starting age for a man to start thinking of marriage.

Never, ever take advice from a woman on how to be attractive to women. Be nice, be yourself, be courteous, buy her gifts only works to put you in the friend zone and rightfully so because it’s pathetic behavior.

You should avoid women who have a lazy, entitled, “me-first” attitude.

Don’t let your wife have complete and utter control of the home decor. You don’t want to live in emasculation-station with throw pillows and doilies and dolls and flowers everywhere.

Men are not women and women are not men. Things that women should do do not apply to men and vice versa. Double standards exist. That’s life.

You are the leader. She is the follower. Lead her.

When she loves and respects you she will enjoy all things about you. She will not demand and nag you into changing. If you smoke a big fat cigar and your clothes smell like an ashtray she will enjoy the smell. She should want to sleep in one of your shirts because it has your smell. That’s the power you should have over your wife for her to be happy and content.

If she’s a nagger before marriage then that is a sign you need to give her her walking papers. Nothing is going to get better with marriage, it will only amplify.

Marriage should be old school traditional for it to work. Pick a non-traditional woman and have some baloney non-traditional marriage and you can expect non-traditional results: Alimony payments, child support payments and seeing your children every other weekend.

Never get married just because. Have a purpose and a reason for the things you do.

Getting married is a dangerous proposition – make sure you know how to swim before you dive in head-first.

Dealing with the one who got away:

There are over 3 billion women in the world. The median age for women the entire world over is 29 years old. There are millions of women who are possible marriage material. “She” isn’t the one or your soul-mate or other baloney. There are millions just like her. And if she was your soul-mate you’d still be together. Let her go and move on. There are plenty more where she came from.

Personal recommendation from BOLD & DETERMINED to find a suitable wife:

Picking a woman from your own country and culture is always the best solution. Unfortunately, there is wholesale, systematic destruction of marriage and family in many 1st world countries, especially America and England, which has narrowed the options tremendously. One may have a broader selection if he were to go abroad to another country where marriage and family are still valued. But, and this is a big but, think long and hard before you marry a woman of another race and father half-breed children.

Remember, it is best to marry a woman of your culture and race. If that option is unappealing for the reasons described above there is a whole, big, wide world for you to choose from.

Conclusion:

Growing old alone and with no children to carry on your name seems a worse prospect than following this checklist and picking the best wife you can.

Civilization exists because of the nuclear family. Certainly marriage has been tainted in the last 50 years, to the detriment of all, but if you make smart decisions you can cut down your risk tremendously.

If you are going to get married, do it the smart way.

If you aren’t going to get married go ahead and have a beer.

Good luck and Godspeed.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2835579&forum_id=2#27530808)

religious

educated

C cup

at least 5'8

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2835579&forum_id=2#27530857)

1. Would she marry me? If yes, proceed to #2.

2. Nope.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2835579&forum_id=2#27530858)

Obedient

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2835579&forum_id=2#27530872)

I'm begging of you please don't take my man

Jolene, Jolene, Jolene, Jolene

Please don't take him just because you can

Your beauty is beyond compare

With flaming locks of auburn hair

With ivory skin and eyes of emerald green

Your smile is like a breath of spring

Your voice is soft like summer rain

And I cannot compete with you, Jolene

He talks about you in his sleep

There's nothing I can do to keep

From crying when he calls your name, Jolene

And I can easily understand

How you could easily take my man

But you don't know what he means to me, Jolene

Jolene, Jolene, Jolene, Jolene

I'm begging of you please don't take my man

Jolene, Jolene, Jolene, Jolene

Please don't take him just because you can

You could have your choice of men

But I could never love again

He's the only one for me, Jolene

I had to have this talk with you

My happiness depends on you

And whatever you decide to do, Jolene

Jolene, Jolene, Jolene, Jolene

I'm begging of you please don't take my man

Jolene, Jolene, Jolene, Jolene

Please don't take him even though you can

Jolene, Jolene

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Life is what you make it and don't let anyone ever tell you otherwise. Before you can change your situation, you have to change your mind. Don't look at your situation the way the rest of the world looks at theirs. Look around you; if you do what everyone else is doing, you'll end up like them. Don't take advice from people who aren't doing better than where you want to be. You don't go to bankrupt people and ask them how to make a million dollars.

The first thing you have to do is get that stinkin' thinkin' out of your head. You are literally programming yourself to fail with the language that you use to describe yourself and your situation.

This statement from another commenter here is complete and utter junk.

Don't expect anything though. Don't expect happiness. Just accept it. That will lead you to less disappointments.

That's the timid approach to life. Take it from someone who produces millions of dollars a year in business. Ignore the 'be timid, you'll have less disappointment' philosophy completely.

I have no college degree and my husband has no high school diploma and everyone in our family is still telling us that people can't do this while we're sitting here doing it. You're no different than us. We're no better than you.

Would you let me come in and talk down to you? You already said you left an abusive relationship. Why did you leave?

Because you know you're better than that. You know who you are. Now, all you have to do is walk in it. Raise your chin, keep your head high, keep your chest out, and go do what you know you're supposed to do.

DO expect happiness. DO expect fulfillment. DO expect to achieve your goals. There is no other option to get there.

People who don't expect happiness don't get it. People who don't expect fulfillment don't get it. People who don't expect to achieve their goals don't achieve them. Why? Because they don't believe they CAN. Just as you don't right now.

But, you can change that, because that's a decision that YOU and only YOU can make for yourself.

Success doesn't usually hinge on what you can or can't do. It hinges on what you WILL or WON'T do!

Let me tell you a story.

My husband was homeless for a little over 6 months in the early 1990's, long before the internet became popular, before Craigslist, long before any of the social networking groups for assistance (like this subreddit) were even a thing. During that time, he lived under a bridge. It was winter and the temperature ranged anywhere from 50 to 25 degrees at night and it was a wet cold, because it rained there almost every day. He scavenged out of abandoned houses to make his bed and blanket out of used dirty clothes and fished out of the creek to eat. He picked up soda & beer cans off the side of the road and scavenged through the garbage at businesses, such as bars, laundromats, etc. He walked about 8 miles a day on a route picking up cans every day. He turned his cans in on Mondays about 12 miles away because there was nowhere to turn them in where he was. Instead of spending the money on food, he obtained a metal coffee can and put the cash he earned from the cans into it and buried it about 4ft in the sand under the bridge where he slept. He fished out of the creek for the food and bought a tube of toothpaste and some razors. Even the toothbrush itself was found in one of the abandoned houses.

He made about $2 to $3 a day. Good days were $3. He spent his nights crushing the cans so they would all fit in the 3 burlap sacks he had to carry them in.

It was cold one night and he called his mother for the money to stay in a motel room (around $20). She decided instead of sending the money, she would call his dad to pick him up. He begged her not to call him; his dad was abusive and he didn't have a good relationship with him at all. About 20 minutes later, the police picked him up from the gas station where he had made the phone call and took him to jail because of a warrant he had for him for "theft" of a firearm that he had turned into the police station. The officer had asked for him by name "Are you X?" His dad had called the police.

A pastor bailed him out of jail after talking to him only a few times and moved him into one of his mobile homes on his property. Gave him money to buy his own groceries with. But, the first thing the pastor did after they left the jail house was take him to the bridge he was living under. He took him to go get his things from under the bridge and he started digging in the sand. The pastor was pretty confused at that point and asked what he was doing. He said "I'm getting my money".

He finally pulled up a coffee can out of the sand and opened it. The pastor looked inside and said "you didn't steal this, did you?" My husband said "no, I picked up cans for over 6 months and saved the money to buy a truck". It was around $350 that had stayed there for the 3 weeks or so he was in jail.

The pastor helped him find the truck, let him borrow his tools, and helped him start a construction company doing mostly roofing. Over a 6 year period, he built up a business making over $2 million a year until around the year 2000.

Then, it was lost to divorce and he ended up homeless again and lived a few different places between then and early 2007.

We met in mid-2007 and since 2008, we've been producers of millions of dollars worth of income annually. His entire family turned on him, he went through 2 divorces, and built it back each time. He says that he would not today be able to produce the income he does without having to have went through what he went through. You can't appreciate wealth if you didn't struggle to get it.

What you're going through now is what will make you stronger in the future. You have to learn from your mistakes and realize that they're YOUR mistakes, not society's. You can't blame what you have, because what you have is all you have. You can't blame the sun, the moon, the stars, the economy, other people's actions, etc. You have to make changes and adjust your philosophy. Almost anyone else would have spent that $2-$3/day made picking up cans to eat instead of finding another way. Would you have? What are you willing to sacrifice and do without to make your dreams come true? How important is it? Is it worth being hungry now so you can eat later?

There was a man that was broken down and he ran across a rich man. The rich man told him he would fix all his problems if he met him at the beach the next morning. The broken man showed up in a suit and the rich man made him follow him out into the water. The broken down man didn't like it. But, the rich man kept making him go further into the water until the water was at his nose. The broken man started struggling to tread water so he could keep breathing.

The rich man said, "When you want success as badly as you want that breath of air right now, you'll find success.

That's where you have to get to.

Don't let anyone tell you to just accept your fate. Not even yourself.

You were meant for more. And you know this already or you wouldn't be asking for help right now.

Go do what you know to do. Make sure you want to do game design as much as you want to breathe and it will become your reality. But, you won't get there listening to people who are just as negative as you're being with yourself right now.

My husband and I are both Christian. Real Christians don't treat people the way you've been treated. But, look at it like this: what they think of you is none of your business. Worrying about it can only serve to drag you down. Don't play in that cesspool of negative thinking, you'll only get dirty. Don't hang out with negative people or listen to their advice; if my hands are clean and I shake someone else's dirty hand, does my clean come off on them? Or does their dirt come off on me?

Stand up and be the person you know you are. You can do it.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2835579&forum_id=2#27532319)

Happy - duh.

Parents not divorced - If her parents are divorced, she is much more likely to get divorced.

Sees marriage as a sacred institution, etc - You don't want a girl who sees divorce as an option.

Tall - If she is short, your future son will be short.

Younger than you - Obvious reasons. Raising a child with a disability will ruin your life. Women go down hill quickly. Etc.

Intelligent - I'm not looking for someone as smart as me, but someone at the 174 LSAT level would be nice.

Educated - If she didn't go to a good school and do well, she likely isn't smart or conscientious.

Naturally thin - If she is thin due to dieting and exercise, she will blow up.

Nice - duh.

Not a status whore - Keeping up with the Jones behavior will lead to all sorts of problems down the road.

Slightly nerdy - I'm slightly nerdy, looking for a match there for obvious reasons.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2835579&forum_id=2#27535182)

"Intelligent - I'm not looking for someone as smart as me, but someone at the 174 LSAT level would be nice."

tyft

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2835579&forum_id=2#27535188)

Doesn’t matter, even if she is a career woman when you meet she will not be when she is older. No woman wants to work but it takes some of them a long time to figure that out. They waste all their youth playing/working their career and then realize what a huge mistake they made and leave their jobs to take care of their (quite possibly retarded – that’s what happens when old ladies have babies) child.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=2835579&forum_id=2#27540478)