Any associates ever push back on a verbally/psychologically abusive partner?
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Date: October 3rd, 2015 1:26 PM Author: Chocolate Elastic Band Nursing Home
To be fair,
*former associates
and yes, subject to the revision above
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Date: October 3rd, 2015 11:40 PM Author: irradiated temple patrolman
nice
coming from a similar culture of high tempered Mediterraneans who are some 0 to 1000 motherfuckers as well. You can only push so far till its on.
Being able to have the freedom to walk is a necessity and important. Fuck shit bosses and their small minded tyrant bullshit.
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3007645&forum_id=2#28895004) |
Date: October 3rd, 2015 11:12 PM Author: Infuriating school cafeteria
Yes and I fucked BOTH his wife and daughter
He still has no clue lol
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3007645&forum_id=2#28894775) |
Date: October 4th, 2015 4:48 AM Author: lake abode faggot firefighter
i do now as a mid level a little bit, but never as a junior. Nothing big, just little things that make it clear I'm not their complete bitch (just mostly their bitch).
examples:
(1) asked if I should send out revised docs to a client. Partner responded (copying whole team) "are you kidding? yes. obviously send."
I responded (copying team) "No, I wasn't kidding. If I was kidding it would have been a joke not a routine and appropriate request before sending something to your client."
(2) Partner yelling at me. Me: "You know you're yelling right?"
Him: calms down immediately.
(3) Partner at 11:00 pm on a Friday night after sending comments at 9:30 PM and not specifying he wanted the doc to go out.
"Why hasn't this gone out yet?"
Me: "I'm not in the office. It will go out tomorrow by the afternoon. In the future, please specify a timeline if you want something to go out late on a Friday night."
(4) I'm at a Rangers game. I had told the counsel I would be gone that night and unavailable. At 7:00 (when the game starts) she starts emailing, texting, and calling me saying she needs help. At 7:30 she copies in the partner saying i've "disappeared" and she'll just have to handle since she's "not sure if I'm still working on this transaction". I chuckle, turn off phone.
At 10:00 I forward the email in which I told her I'd be out of pocket to the partner and her and, for good measure, the two junior associates she'd also been copying. I state that I am still on the transaction, she needs to be more careful about monitoring her emails in the future, and that she shouldn't contact me on my personal phone unless there is a real emergency. No response from anybody but she was my bitch from then on.
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3007645&forum_id=2#28896064) |
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Date: October 4th, 2015 12:40 PM Author: lake abode faggot firefighter
I think I'm somebody who's entitled to a personal life. They are welcome to can me if they want, but I'm still here and still working for rainmakers at my V10 over a year later.
Sounds like you're a little bitch who doesn't know how to stand up for himself and play the game like a man.
The key is not to give a fuck if they fire you. This: (1) makes you a better lawyer because anxiety makes you dumb and error-prone; (2) makes you easier to be around because you're just another chill bro with partners instead of a typical neurotic law dork and (3) makes you happier and have a better balanced life.
If they tell me to walk I have 3 months. At my firm, that's a fucking eternity. I can lateral to any other firm I want outside Wachtell, S&C and Cravath within 3 months and maybe get an in-house gig.
In short, I just don't give a fuck if they want to fire for me for going to a rangers game and setting boundaries around my personal life. Go ahead fuckers. Do it. Not my problem.
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3007645&forum_id=2#28896950) |
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Date: October 4th, 2015 6:22 PM Author: Diverse trailer park round eye
"The key is not to give a fuck if they fire you. This: (1) makes you a better lawyer because anxiety makes you dumb and error-prone; (2) makes you easier to be around because you're just another chill bro with partners instead of a typical neurotic law dork and (3) makes you happier and have a better balanced life. "
100% CR
this should be stickied
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3007645&forum_id=2#28898999) |
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Date: October 4th, 2015 5:08 PM Author: Slate location
You are either very smooth/very good or they hate you
Or both
I have known people who have tried moves like you mention and been fired (always softly and after very lengthy warming up periods/hints)
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3007645&forum_id=2#28898524) |
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Date: October 4th, 2015 7:52 PM Author: lake abode faggot firefighter
i'm good with people and very good at my job. some partners don't like me. i don't work with them. i do most of my work for two partners that like me a lot.
i've never received any hints that i'm on the way out. in fact, they kinda suck my dick half the time.
i bill about 1900-2100 a year too, and mostly on my terms (i.e., i only take 2 or 3 deals at a time and just flat refuse to take any more than that).
If you're a normal guy who knows where the line is you can do so much shit and get away with it in biglaw. it's crazy.
but i've been like this my whole life so if you're not an experienced slacker then i don't suggest the above. just grind away while you and i get the same bonus and i do 20% less work :-)
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3007645&forum_id=2#28899525) |
Date: October 4th, 2015 5:29 AM Author: Garnet Jewess Police Squad
I think the military approach to responding works best. In the military it's a criminal offense to talk back disrepsectfully when a superior officer is chewing you out (or any time), so the best response is to remain totally unphased and calm, with ta slight bit of dismissiveness when you respond. Hold your ground as calmly as you can. The fact that the superior can't either rile you up or make you turn into jelly makes them look really bad, especially when there are others are present.
Or you can take the approach of a guy I know in biglaw, who challenged a partner to fight in his office. That seemed to work, too.
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3007645&forum_id=2#28896097) |
Date: October 4th, 2015 1:25 PM Author: lake abode faggot firefighter
Oh, and sometimes you get a really aspie partner. I mean somebody who is truly just incapable of normal social interaction. I work with this one psycho who FREAKS out if there are any "mistakes" (and by "mistakes" I mean not following her preferences).
At first I would try to defend myself, but that just made her angrier and more shrill. So now I just say okay. She always insults me and then pauses like she's waiting for me to defend myself so she can escalate the insult. I just say okay and wait in silence until she moves on and think about an especially good round with a girl or hockey or something while she's trying to figure out what's going on.
this one is super effective with people who are truly unhinged and can't be reasoned with.
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3007645&forum_id=2#28897166) |
Date: October 4th, 2015 5:11 PM Author: Slate location
Yes
I know of multiple different instances of partners being "reported" for inappropriate behavior
The partners had to attend remedial anger management or whatever training
The associates never worked with the partners again
In all cases the partners didn't matter/were junior at the time so it wasn't a big deal for the associate
Also know of batshit crazy associates who have had to attend similar anger management training for abuses of juniors, support staff and even the printer (lol)
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3007645&forum_id=2#28898560) |
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Date: October 6th, 2015 10:22 AM Author: Slate location
Printer filed a formal complaint against the individual and the firm
The individual was banned from working with the printer
On that deal the PARTNER had to then deal directly with the printer (the other associates on the deal were very junior, though still don't understand why the partner had to deal).
LOL JUST LOL
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3007645&forum_id=2#28909930) |
Date: October 4th, 2015 6:25 PM Author: claret insecure new version fortuitous meteor
some senior associate went apeshit at me over something dumb, and i just smirked and told him to calm down because it was nbd
we were on another deal like half a year later and he was going away for a weekend with his wife for their 10th anniversary or something like that while deal was close to signing. i faked a family emergency and partner made the dude cancel his trip.
other than that, nobody was ever really abusive with me or anything
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3007645&forum_id=2#28899014) |
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