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345 days of sobriety.. move out of Sober Living House?
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Date: December 12th, 2016 12:15 PM Author: lilac jet-lagged friendly grandma I signed a lease for Dec 31st in an apartment for me and my fiancee. I plan to move in some time in January, when I will have a full year of sobriety.
Then I talked to the house manager. He thinks I'm moving way too fast with this getting married thing (i've known the girl for 3.5 months) and it might complicate things to put me in a higher risk for relapse. |
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Date: December 12th, 2016 1:44 PM Author: Bright Skinny Woman Puppy fleshlight, you'd acquired a blank slate: a new account, a new moniker. and yet your distinct stench of horrible poasting has soiled that blank slate inside a single week. sad! (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3457308&forum_id=2#32120369) |
Date: December 12th, 2016 12:17 PM Author: Shimmering locus If not flame he's right. That's insane to marry someone you've known for 3.5 months. You are moving too fast. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3457308&forum_id=2#32119540) |
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Date: September 18th, 2018 1:49 AM Author: Brilliant Pontificating New Version what's an acceptable period? 6 months? 1 year? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3457308&forum_id=2#36830800) |
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Date: December 12th, 2016 12:18 PM Author: Stirring Obsidian Den Doctorate how do you already have another fiancee (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3457308&forum_id=2#32119545) |
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Date: December 12th, 2016 1:00 PM Author: yapping trailer park (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3457308&forum_id=2#32119953) |
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Date: December 12th, 2016 2:14 PM Author: multi-colored dysfunction BAC (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3457308&forum_id=2#32120670) |
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Date: December 12th, 2016 2:14 PM Author: flirting quadroon (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3457308&forum_id=2#32120675) |
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Date: December 12th, 2016 12:18 PM Author: bronze contagious bbw AAmo here - wait so you've been sober 1 year and plan on getting married to a girl you've known for 3.5 months? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3457308&forum_id=2#32119548) |
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Date: December 12th, 2016 12:19 PM Author: lilac jet-lagged friendly grandma yeah... and i've done all 12 steps (i know last 3 steps are lifelong steps and I'm still going to 2-3 meetings a week) (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3457308&forum_id=2#32119559) |
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Date: December 12th, 2016 12:24 PM Author: bronze contagious bbw JFC - the only way this could be worse is if the girl is also early on in sobriety
Seriously though if you've been using a long time you're brain is still recovering - in several years you'll look back at yourself with only 1 year sober like you look at your 16 year old self |
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Date: December 12th, 2016 12:37 PM Author: Domesticated dilemma faggotry For the love of God THIS (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3457308&forum_id=2#32119729) |
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Date: December 12th, 2016 12:50 PM Author: lilac jet-lagged friendly grandma so as much as i feel i had improved this past year, i will improve more later? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3457308&forum_id=2#32119869) |
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Date: December 12th, 2016 1:57 PM Author: bronze contagious bbw Yes (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3457308&forum_id=2#32120510) |
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Date: December 12th, 2016 1:58 PM Author: Bright Skinny Woman Puppy (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3457308&forum_id=2#32120514) |
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Date: December 12th, 2016 12:19 PM Author: Stimulating autistic genital piercing how would u react if the relationship starts failing (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3457308&forum_id=2#32119558) |
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Date: December 12th, 2016 12:23 PM Author: Effete disgusting ratface black woman you're totally nuts. bring the tracker back online (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3457308&forum_id=2#32119587) |
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Date: December 12th, 2016 12:26 PM Author: Fragrant Bawdyhouse Main People wtf no (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3457308&forum_id=2#32119619) |
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Date: December 12th, 2016 1:03 PM Author: Vibrant mother uhh no WMTP (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3457308&forum_id=2#32119981) |
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Date: December 12th, 2016 12:26 PM Author: soul-stirring indirect expression electric furnace 3.5 months seems fast whether you're in recovery or not. In any event, guard your sobriety first. Sounds like you have worked Steps. I'm more of a CBT/SMART guy, but whatever works. Keep doing that. Nothing can make you do or feel anything; you make that choice. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3457308&forum_id=2#32119615) |
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Date: December 12th, 2016 12:26 PM Author: flirting quadroon Don't get married (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3457308&forum_id=2#32119617) |
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Date: December 12th, 2016 12:29 PM Author: bipolar snowy church LJL @ addictionmos (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3457308&forum_id=2#32119644) |
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Date: December 12th, 2016 1:55 PM Author: Fuchsia codepig (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3457308&forum_id=2#32120469) |
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Date: December 12th, 2016 12:31 PM Author: bronze contagious bbw Also - please God don't tell us this is a girl you met in sobriety who is newly sober as well..... (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3457308&forum_id=2#32119672) |
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Date: December 12th, 2016 12:34 PM Author: thriller trump supporter Someone copy paste the full story on your fiancee please. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3457308&forum_id=2#32119700) |
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Date: December 12th, 2016 12:37 PM Author: lilac jet-lagged friendly grandma i haven't posted about her
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Date: December 12th, 2016 12:59 PM Author: thriller trump supporter You gotta give it to us now. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3457308&forum_id=2#32119948) |
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Date: December 12th, 2016 1:04 PM Author: Spectacular Mentally Impaired Milk Home did u meet in recovery bro (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3457308&forum_id=2#32119992) |
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Date: December 12th, 2016 1:07 PM Author: lilac jet-lagged friendly grandma nope.
she's a normie.. never touched drugs doesn't even drink. has two masters degrees. both parents are doctors. |
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Date: December 12th, 2016 1:25 PM Author: razzle-dazzle state mad cow disease Why not just DATE for another 9 months and then get engaged? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3457308&forum_id=2#32120180) |
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Date: December 12th, 2016 12:35 PM Author: Boyish Cream Senate hold up bro describe why you want to get married, girl, etc. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3457308&forum_id=2#32119711) |
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Date: December 12th, 2016 12:35 PM Author: deranged razzmatazz theater You haven't even lived with her?
Jfc you're still in the honeymoon phase of your relationship. You're fucking crazy man |
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Date: December 12th, 2016 1:07 PM Author: Medicated Hyperactive Idea He Suggested House i knew a couple who got engaged after knowing each other for only 3 months. they were married 9 months after they started dating. their marriage lasted less than a year and the guy got financially fucked having to pay for an attorney, interim support, etc. his physical appearance went all to hell due to the stress, gained weight, started smoking again, etc.
so don't say you weren't warned. |
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Date: December 12th, 2016 1:09 PM Author: Marvelous bonkers theatre volcanic crater jfc dont get married after 3.5 months wtf are you doing dude (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3457308&forum_id=2#32120048) |
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Date: December 12th, 2016 1:12 PM Author: transparent library I dont know about marrying her so quickly, but you should definitely have a kid, move cities, and do a career change at the same time you try to live on your own sober. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3457308&forum_id=2#32120067) |
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Date: December 12th, 2016 1:24 PM Author: lilac jet-lagged friendly grandma i thought moving in with a chick helps me transition out of SLE. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3457308&forum_id=2#32120173) |
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Date: December 12th, 2016 1:33 PM Author: transparent library Man, even the best woman will bring you aggravation that living alone will not have.
You might make the case that she will hold you accountable and help talk you out of relapsing, but I still think the cons outweigh the pros.
And youre not proposing just living with her but marrying her.
Flame and all, but still -- at year one, you should trust your sponsor more than your stinking thinking. You need to re-learn all the practical living shit and you propose doing that while also learning how to be married. |
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Date: December 12th, 2016 1:38 PM Author: lilac jet-lagged friendly grandma good advice. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3457308&forum_id=2#32120304) |
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Date: December 12th, 2016 1:39 PM Author: lilac jet-lagged friendly grandma was ur username designed to break the tracker's string parser? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3457308&forum_id=2#32120311) |
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Date: December 12th, 2016 1:51 PM Author: Bright Skinny Woman Puppy titcr (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3457308&forum_id=2#32120434) |
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Date: December 12th, 2016 2:07 PM Author: Spruce Giraffe "stinking thing" "normie" "earthling" why should he trust some random person who has no professional training in substance abuse, psychology, or anything else? This is the craziness of AA. also their retarded sayings. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3457308&forum_id=2#32120616) |
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Date: December 12th, 2016 1:50 PM Author: Bright Skinny Woman Puppy it's my impression that it's pretty widely accepted that people in recovery should avoid initiating romantic relationships for the first 12 months of sobriety.
it's pretty self-evident as to why. so why in the hell do you think it's a good idea to MARRY someone you met after only 8 months in recovery? |
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Date: December 12th, 2016 2:01 PM Author: bronze contagious bbw It is - people still do it but it ends badly more often than not. Even after a year sober your brain is still like an infant and recovering from years and years of drug abuse. You don't realize it until you look back - but much like he thought he was batshit crazy at 3 months sober - in several years he'll look back at right now and think he was batshit crazy at 1 year sober.... (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3457308&forum_id=2#32120558) |
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Date: December 12th, 2016 2:02 PM Author: Bright Skinny Woman Puppy yeah, this is what i thought. i'd like to know why rangus thinks he's exempt from what's tantamount to the 13th step. there's a reason it is, and should be, strongly discouraged. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3457308&forum_id=2#32120578) |
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Date: December 12th, 2016 1:55 PM Author: Fuchsia codepig Lmao...3.5 months
Hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha |
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Date: December 12th, 2016 1:56 PM Author: lavender jew knife *drives by thread blaring "Rude" by magic! (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3457308&forum_id=2#32120485) |
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Date: December 12th, 2016 2:15 PM Author: multi-colored dysfunction (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3457308&forum_id=2#32120683) |
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Date: September 18th, 2018 1:48 AM Author: Marvelous bonkers theatre volcanic crater (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3457308&forum_id=2#36830797) |
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Date: December 12th, 2016 11:18 PM Author: walnut indian lodge What the fuck is wrong with you
Also weren't you in rehab for video games? Do you call not playing video games being "sober"? |
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Date: December 13th, 2017 6:26 PM Author: beady-eyed regret pretty sure it was for meth (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3457308&forum_id=2#34911944) |
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Date: December 12th, 2016 11:19 PM Author: Bat shit crazy frum abode clown What did you use brother? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3457308&forum_id=2#32125851) |
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Date: December 13th, 2017 6:24 PM Author: bat-shit-crazy sex offender elastic band Lol at me a year ago. Getting amazing blowjobs and making idiot decisions |
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Date: January 27th, 2018 11:16 PM Author: Self-centered Public Bath So how did this turn out? Lol. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3457308&forum_id=2#35257377) |
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Date: December 13th, 2017 6:29 PM Author: Provocative Police Squad Dingle Berry Don’t listen to these faggots. If you love her, go for it. You think your ancestors spent more than three months courting their mates ? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3457308&forum_id=2#34911977) |
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Date: September 18th, 2018 1:35 AM Author: talented lodge (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3457308&forum_id=2#36830768) |
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Date: September 18th, 2018 10:06 AM Author: talented lodge (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3457308&forum_id=2#36831683) |
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Date: September 21st, 2018 1:38 AM Author: talented lodge (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3457308&forum_id=2#36854991) |