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This partner at a law firm I once worked at's daughter died,...
up-to-no-good puce institution telephone
  01/21/18
Female law partner? LJL
Sepia new version
  01/21/18
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vivacious stage
  01/21/18
was she hot?
beta ruby senate
  01/21/18
I thought so, she always looked like this one particular mov...
up-to-no-good puce institution telephone
  01/21/18
clearly the daughter.
beta ruby senate
  01/21/18
haha. Well when I knew the mother she was pretty but I guess...
up-to-no-good puce institution telephone
  01/21/18
of course.
beta ruby senate
  01/21/18
...
Sepia new version
  01/21/18
...
Cream Becky
  01/21/18
Lol
Khaki lodge people who are hurt
  01/21/18
PROTIP: you will always be in the right for extending condol...
tan floppy gas station
  01/21/18
cool. Should I just omit anything about how I found out?
up-to-no-good puce institution telephone
  01/21/18
the more stalking detail the better usually around funerals ...
beta ruby senate
  01/21/18
yes, yes, this is very helpful..
up-to-no-good puce institution telephone
  01/21/18
just don't send a "sorry ur daughter died. Thank."...
swashbuckling primrose den
  01/21/18
lol, it won't look like that, although I don't know exactly ...
up-to-no-good puce institution telephone
  01/21/18
can you find her home address to mail a card? or stop by the...
swashbuckling primrose den
  01/21/18
she died a couple of years ago. We aren't in touch, I was sn...
up-to-no-good puce institution telephone
  01/21/18
lol a couple of years ago? Just let it go, you aren't in tou...
swashbuckling primrose den
  01/21/18
a year & couple of months.
up-to-no-good puce institution telephone
  01/21/18
i think it would be weird. I wouldn't want to get a card or ...
swashbuckling primrose den
  01/21/18
Yeah, I should let it go. We didn't part on the best terms a...
up-to-no-good puce institution telephone
  01/21/18
CR
Sepia new version
  01/21/18
lololol
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  01/21/18
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soul-stirring ticket booth chad
  01/21/18
your message is confusing. you should buy him a drink someti...
fiercely-loyal gaping
  01/21/18
Not confusing: you must have been wasted when you read this,...
up-to-no-good puce institution telephone
  01/21/18
lol
beta ruby senate
  01/21/18
i guess someone that has to mince around asking questions li...
fiercely-loyal gaping
  01/21/18
Nothing wrong with a warm message if you mean it and genuine...
Green appetizing plaza
  01/21/18
I'm weirded out about the suddenness of her death and don't ...
up-to-no-good puce institution telephone
  01/21/18
how did she die/
beta ruby senate
  01/21/18
Something weird where an important function just stopped wor...
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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:07 AM
Author: up-to-no-good puce institution telephone

This partner at a law firm I once worked at's daughter died, should I send her condolences even though it would be obvious I was googling her to find her and happened to see the obit? I never knew the daughter, actually I worked for this lawyer so long ago she had the kid after we parted ways.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35200860)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:37 AM
Author: Sepia new version

Female law partner? LJL

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35201035)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 6:00 PM
Author: vivacious stage



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35204585)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:07 AM
Author: beta ruby senate

was she hot?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35200866)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:09 AM
Author: up-to-no-good puce institution telephone

I thought so, she always looked like this one particular movie star I thought. But do you mean the daughter? Yes, pictures of her show that she was pretty good looking.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35200872)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:09 AM
Author: beta ruby senate

clearly the daughter.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35200874)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:10 AM
Author: up-to-no-good puce institution telephone

haha. Well when I knew the mother she was pretty but I guess it depends what age you're looking for. The mother would be older now of course.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35200879)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:10 AM
Author: beta ruby senate

of course.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35200881)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:37 AM
Author: Sepia new version



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35201037)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 5:33 PM
Author: Cream Becky



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35204404)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 5:57 PM
Author: Khaki lodge people who are hurt

Lol

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35204566)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:10 AM
Author: tan floppy gas station

PROTIP: you will always be in the right for extending condolences in these situations

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35200882)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:12 AM
Author: up-to-no-good puce institution telephone

cool. Should I just omit anything about how I found out?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35200891)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:14 AM
Author: beta ruby senate

the more stalking detail the better usually around funerals and deathbeds.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35200901)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:16 AM
Author: up-to-no-good puce institution telephone

yes, yes, this is very helpful..

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35200910)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:14 AM
Author: swashbuckling primrose den

just don't send a "sorry ur daughter died. Thank." work email

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35200900)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:15 AM
Author: up-to-no-good puce institution telephone

lol, it won't look like that, although I don't know exactly what its going to say or how I'm going to send it. She's retired I think - and I only have what I think is her facebook address.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35200907)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:23 AM
Author: swashbuckling primrose den

can you find her home address to mail a card? or stop by the visitation to express condolences in person?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35200961)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:28 AM
Author: up-to-no-good puce institution telephone

she died a couple of years ago. We aren't in touch, I was snooping.

I found her email address. Is that too impersonal?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35200990)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:29 AM
Author: swashbuckling primrose den

lol a couple of years ago? Just let it go, you aren't in touch, no need to bring up a death from years ago.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35200994)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:30 AM
Author: up-to-no-good puce institution telephone

a year & couple of months.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35201003)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:34 AM
Author: swashbuckling primrose den

i think it would be weird. I wouldn't want to get a card or email from an ex-coworker I haven't spoken to in years expressing condolences for a loved on who died over a year ago.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35201019)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:38 AM
Author: up-to-no-good puce institution telephone

Yeah, I should let it go. We didn't part on the best terms anyway.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35201040)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 12:38 AM
Author: Sepia new version

CR

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35201042)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 1:52 AM
Author: Submissive Burgundy Casino Nowag

lololol

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35201239)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 5:55 PM
Author: soul-stirring ticket booth chad



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35204548)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 1:46 AM
Author: fiercely-loyal gaping

your message is confusing. you should buy him a drink sometime.



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35201209)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 5:31 PM
Author: up-to-no-good puce institution telephone

Not confusing: you must have been wasted when you read this, if you didn't realize I was talking about a her, not a him.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35204395)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 5:37 PM
Author: beta ruby senate

lol

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35204434)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 5:53 PM
Author: fiercely-loyal gaping

i guess someone that has to mince around asking questions like this probably did take orders from a woman partner



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35204536)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 5:36 PM
Author: Green appetizing plaza

Nothing wrong with a warm message if you mean it and genuinely cared for her in some way. She might be surprisingly touched. Just be a normal human being about it.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35204423)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 5:41 PM
Author: up-to-no-good puce institution telephone

I'm weirded out about the suddenness of her death and don't think anyone deserves that. But I'm not sure how weird it would be to send the note because we didn't part on the best of terms. I probably won't do it if I'm not even sure about my own motivations..

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35204460)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 6:01 PM
Author: beta ruby senate

how did she die/

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35204598)



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Date: January 21st, 2018 7:44 PM
Author: up-to-no-good puce institution telephone

Something weird where an important function just stopped working. I don't know if it was brought on by self-abuse (it can be). But it's so true that you can have all the money & prestige in the world but you can't always buy a restart to your body. Makes me squeamish.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3866078&forum_id=2#35205513)