This was pre app dating and online dating was very different then. Women were a lot more hesitant to give out their numbers and meet up, and it was typical to invest a lot more prior to meeting. Exchanging several lengthy messages was not uncommon. I also did some craigslist dating. Posting a very lengthy, well-written ad actually did lead to some solid responses and meeting several decent women.

One response really stuck out. Witty and similar sense of humor, into the same anime, video games, memes. Big time cosplayer. Even recommended some solid anime I hadn't seen that I ended up watching and enjoying. She looked like a 6 or so in her pics, potentially chubby. I was still incredibly, incredibly excited about meeting her.

We met for dinner and I was very surprised when a fit, thin objective 8.5, subjective 11 showed up. She was about 20 minutes late from traffic. Her personality came across even better than it had in email: sweet, witty, and nerdy. I had never been so intensely attracted to someone before, nor have I been since. I can't really remember how weak or strong my game was because my brain pretty much froze up, but 10:1 I was reduced to a complete beta dork. At the end of the date as we were leaving, she asked where I lived. It turned out that we were probably 45+ minutes apart, likely the death knell if she was on the fence, although I didn't realize it at the time.

Within an hour of dinner, I received a "Thanks for dinner, I had a great time :)" text. I had finally maed it. My dream girl and I was *in*. I replied with something similar, then waited. No response. I didn't read much into that because internet dating moved at a slower pace back then, and spent the next few days in a fantastic mood mentally mapping out what our relationship would be like. When I texted again a few days later as a prelude to setting up the second date and she did not respond, I realized that her text was just a polite rejection. I was absolutely devastated.

A couple of years later, I came across her profile on okcupid. It had some type of arrogant line in it about everyone always telling her she was the "perfect girl," but having a hard time finding guys who met her standards. A couple of years after that, I googled her. Surprisingly, she had gotten more attractive if anything. However, she had also gotten married . . . to a guy less successful than me and probably 2 points lower. If I had just been in the right place at the right time, it could have been me that she settled for.

That isn't really the point of this thread though. The point of this thread is that after I realized she had rejected me, I sent her an email. An email that makes Dux look like an alpha lady killer. An email that if posted, would open me to ridicule of a "sup brady" magnitude for the remainder of my time here. If I get enough blank bumps, I will post this email.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3892681&forum_id=2#35399485)

so thanks for that, faggot

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3892681&forum_id=2#35399490)

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Hey [REDACTED]. Typically it's not my style to bug a girl who isn't interested, but in this case, just once, I thought I'd ask if there was anything in particular I did to put you off or if it was just one of those random lack of chemistry/attraction things. I am one of those types who gets a near perfect sat score without studying, but misses out on things obvious to most people, and I'm pretty clueless about dating in general because my first relationship went [REDACTED] years. In the year and a half since, all I've really noticed is that "normal" chicks I make small talk with (and am totally bored by), are the ones who are interested, whereas the very few I've liked and had something in common with have not been. So because of that, I've never even really been on a second date, although I've been kind and generous enough to hook up with the couple of chicks who asked nicely. lol. Since you seemed like a really nice person overall and also seemed like pretty much the exact type I wanted to end up with (and I'm painfully aware that this type is basically .001% of the female population, or less), I just thought I might ask your opinion for the hell of it so that maybe things will work out better in 6 months (roughly the average time it takes me to come across someone cool). Nothing to fear but the delete button right? Anyways, take care!

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3892681&forum_id=2#35405939)

you're a good sport DDC.

i assume she didn't respond?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3892681&forum_id=2#35406090)

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So, this is probably a long shot but I thought I'd try it anyway.

I was just cleaning out my old email and I came across this. I remembered that when I sold you my DS, you struck me as someone who falls within the very narrow type of girl I like (cute, nerdy, artistic). Maybe I mis-typed you but I usually have a decent sense for these things. If you're single, I wouldn't mind getting to know you better. I am a lawyer and I spend most of my time outside of work at the gym or playing with my computer, so it's hard for me to find people I'm interested in.

This seems like a low risk, high reward move, which is pretty much my style.

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Hi [Chad]!

You probably didn't mis-type me (as I tend to go to fall into all three categories), but I happen to not actually be single. My only suggestion to you would be to spend less time at the gym, because hardly any nerdy girls play there (I certainly don't, unless I'm using the sparring room), and, hm.... I would say "and in more places nerdy girls hang out," but I hang out in my room a lot, and hanging out in girls' rooms would be just a tad creepy, right? Pretty sure there's even a law against that! Good thing you're a lawyer and you don't need me to tell you that.

Pretty low risk, yeah, and I guess statistically speaking you had a 50/50 chance of me saying yes or no (though mathematicians generally know that isn't true, because various other factors would affect the statistics). Also, your lizard-y thing is awesome! Assuming it's yours and assuming the iguana won't be offended for me calling it a lizard-y thing.

Best of luck! (And the DS has a lovely home here, don't worry about her! :D)

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3892681&forum_id=2#35406435)

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I wish!! Lol I'm way to short for that!

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Lol, NBA player Mugsy Bogues was your height and could dunk, what's your excuse?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3892681&forum_id=2#35406505)