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the hellish dating landscape of the San Francisco Bay Area (WaPo)

A ­39-year-old San Francisco tech entrepreneur who has g...
olive soggy spot nibblets
  02/19/18
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olive soggy spot nibblets
  02/19/18
A koan of the local dating scene: “The odds are good, but th...
electric doobsian internal respiration
  02/19/18
haha, 180.
Smoky piazza shitlib
  02/19/18
that so old I first heard it from my great grandmother
pink vigorous mood
  02/19/18
One 22-year-old graduate student at Stanford University says...
diverse incel indian lodge
  02/19/18
she's a first year grad student at a college! She shouldn't ...
pink vigorous mood
  02/19/18
how fat is she?
Bat-shit-crazy Fighting Immigrant
  02/19/18
also is she complaining about being taken to a bunch of bars...
diverse incel indian lodge
  02/19/18
Probably thinks she's too good to date other students.
Curious party of the first part crotch
  02/20/18
these "people" sound irredeemably broken.
Well-lubricated Adventurous Electric Furnace Whorehouse
  02/19/18
they're not really meant for each other. time for the men to...
Hairraiser abnormal market
  02/19/18
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olive soggy spot nibblets
  02/19/18
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diverse incel indian lodge
  02/19/18
this article is the most encouraging thing i've read all day...
thriller love of her life
  02/19/18
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olive soggy spot nibblets
  02/19/18
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fuchsia center mad cow disease
  02/19/18
Right, just leave it to proles to do all the breeding for us...
titillating chestnut institution blood rage
  02/19/18
"One thing distinguishes the Silicon Valley dating pool...
Stirring Church
  02/19/18
Man Diego is probably the worst I had no issues w San Jose i...
diverse incel indian lodge
  02/19/18
SD has plenty of kyooot chicks i guess they may all get ...
Stirring Church
  02/19/18
it does but in the Bay Area for some reason I get tons o...
diverse incel indian lodge
  02/19/18
only prole SD chicks like military "chads." most ...
alcoholic misunderstood school
  02/19/18
Shouldn’t the nation wide average be 100:100? What am I miss...
underhanded death wish
  02/19/18
Older men dating younger women -> male dominance
aphrodisiac dysfunction roommate
  02/20/18
Jfc women
underhanded death wish
  02/20/18
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magical vivacious preventive strike
  02/19/18
love that "you can't hurry love" appears in an xo ...
canary hot brethren
  02/19/18
How is this different from MFH? XO makes it seem like MFH is...
exciting scourge upon the earth
  02/19/18
SF: more men than women, low quality women & men MFH:...
Multi-colored Crackhouse
  02/19/18
This article was shared on FB by the Azn megashrew, btw.
Citrine beta french chef
  02/19/18
lmao
olive soggy spot nibblets
  02/19/18
...
Clear legend
  02/20/18
Who doesn't live in SV though, right?
Curious party of the first part crotch
  02/20/18
Nope. I think she just related to the foreveralone aspect.
Citrine beta french chef
  02/20/18
She would fit perfectly in SF.
olive soggy spot nibblets
  02/23/18
does that D ring pain you every time you see it in her photo...
Appetizing Boltzmann
  02/23/18
You can't seriously consider moving to the bay area as a sin...
Smoky piazza shitlib
  02/19/18
i've seen tech nerds dating FOB filipinas from daly city and...
arousing forum partner
  02/19/18
cr. my brother moved there, but he was already married. ...
olive soggy spot nibblets
  02/19/18
you can do ok if you are chill and fratty (so obviously no x...
Stirring Church
  02/19/18
naw, there are still alpha dudes there who also make $10m a ...
olive soggy spot nibblets
  02/19/18
of course, but they arent dating random 6.5 recruiting chick...
Stirring Church
  02/19/18
https://www.siliconvalley.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/01/sjm...
Smoky piazza shitlib
  02/20/18
would you be worried about your attractive gf going to SF as...
Multi-colored Crackhouse
  02/19/18
yes. that is because of the incredible ratio. SF is a ci...
olive soggy spot nibblets
  02/19/18
fml
Multi-colored Crackhouse
  02/19/18
The last time I peoplemeeted/thingdid in the SF Bay Area, I ...
olive soggy spot nibblets
  02/19/18
if you say that word again i will reach thru your monitor an...
Stirring Church
  02/19/18
I thought it was incel-speech.
olive soggy spot nibblets
  02/19/18
I’ll say this much about SF guys: I get hit on a normal amou...
fragrant shaky boiling water gaping
  02/19/18
Would love to know what you think "hitting on" you...
seedy azn
  02/19/18
:: unzips ::
Appetizing Boltzmann
  02/23/18
I’m an art dude with no job and am doing ok...
stimulating brunch
  02/20/18
meets guys at do-it-yourself crafting meetups I’m sorry, ...
Marvelous Very Tactful Property Keepsake Machete
  02/19/18
she's flaming
Topaz degenerate
  02/19/18
ITT: dating in the third world
Razzle-dazzle cowardly sanctuary ape
  02/19/18
Has any XO single bros lived in both MFH and SF, so we can g...
Orchid hilarious stag film
  02/19/18
SF is the worst place for a single male on the planet
Topaz degenerate
  02/19/18
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magical vivacious preventive strike
  02/19/18
single straight male for gays must be heaven
deep cheese-eating associate old irish cottage
  02/19/18
i joked about this to some bitchy SF shrews and they acted a...
submissive patrolman
  02/20/18
titcr
indigo box office jap
  02/21/18
SF is far superior to mountain view, palo alto, sunnyvale, s...
Smoky piazza shitlib
  02/20/18
I've visited NYC for a bit and done app swiping in both SF a...
submissive patrolman
  02/20/18
I’ve lived in both places. NYC the women are plentiful and g...
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  02/21/18
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submissive patrolman
  02/22/18
"They’re looking for this 6-foot-tall Adonis who also h...
red wild step-uncle's house corn cake
  02/19/18
? Chad is real. She just means Chad will never enter LTR ...
olive soggy spot nibblets
  02/19/18
wrong. if you were in the bay area you'd know that people...
onyx razzmatazz haunted graveyard shrine
  02/19/18
lol @ work obsessed dorks in the bay area! wonder why t...
onyx razzmatazz haunted graveyard shrine
  02/19/18
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magical vivacious preventive strike
  02/19/18
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Cerebral lodge multi-billionaire
  02/23/18
Doesn't the large gay population make the ratio a little bet...
galvanic garnet hospital
  02/19/18
please state your iq before we engage you further
onyx razzmatazz haunted graveyard shrine
  02/20/18
Why on earth are there multiple negative anecdotes from wome...
Narrow-minded Gas Station Clown
  02/20/18
The 7s are all gold digging for founders and growing frustra...
Mind-boggling laser beams locale
  02/20/18
These women are almost all "on the cusp." They ar...
submissive patrolman
  02/20/18
polygamy under sharia is the true feminism. chadwivesma...
onyx razzmatazz haunted graveyard shrine
  02/21/18
Gotta say watching this hellscape has made me appreciate my ...
racy orange sneaky criminal
  02/21/18
http://whytherearenogirls.blogspot.com/
Provocative jet candlestick maker
  02/22/18
interesting reads but last poast was 2011
submissive patrolman
  02/22/18


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Date: February 19th, 2018 3:54 PM
Author: olive soggy spot nibblets

A ­39-year-old San Francisco tech entrepreneur who has given up on dating apps said, “I have a higher confidence in making another million dollars than I do in finding a spouse.”

https://www.washingtonpost.com/business/economy/why-silicon-valley-singles-are-giving-up-on-the-algorithms-of-love/2018/02/14/6cbd74ee-1041-11e8-8ea1-c1d91fcec3fe_story.html

Kate Chan, a 30-year-old digital marketer in Silicon Valley, first approached dating apps with a blend of curiosity and hope that they’d help her find a great guy.

But after six months of dead-end mismatches with guys she thought were boring or work-obsessed, she has gone back to what she called “meeting the old-fashioned way”: without a screen. She now meets guys at do-it-yourself crafting meetups and her rock-climbing gym.

“I didn’t want to rely on the algorithms anymore,” she said. “When it comes down to it, I really have to see that person face to face, to get that intuition, that you don’t get in a digital way.”

The singles of Silicon Valley, the heart of America’s technological ambition, spend much of their lives in quiet devotion to the power of the almighty algorithm, driven by the belief that technology can solve the world’s most troubling ills.

But when it comes to the algorithms of love, many say they are losing faith. They wonder whether Silicon Valley — a place infamously inhospitable to romance and with the most lopsided gender imbalance in the country — has proved too vexing for even its own dating apps. But they’re also left with a more fundamental doubt: Maybe the human mysteries of chemistry and attraction aren’t problems big data can solve.

Melissa Hobley, an executive at the dating app OkCupid, hears the complaints about the apps regularly and thinks they get a bad rap. Silicon Valley workers “are in the business of scalable, quick solutions. And that’s not what love is,” Hobley said. “You can’t hurry love. It’s reciprocal. You’re not ordering an object. You’re not getting a delivery in less than seven minutes.”

Finding love, she added, takes commitment and energy — and, yes, time, no matter how inefficiently it’s spent.

“You have a whole city obsessed with algorithms and data, and they like to say dating apps aren’t solving the problem,” Hobley said. “But if a city is male-dominant, if a city is known for 16-hour work days, those are issues that dating apps can’t solve.”

One thing distinguishes the Silicon Valley dating pool: The men-to-women ratio for employed, young singles in the San Jose metro area is higher than in any other major area. There were about 150 men for every 100 women, compared with about 125 to 100 nationwide, of never-married young people between 25 and 34 in San Jose, U.S. Census Bureau data from 2016 shows.

That ratio permeates the economy here, all the way to the valley’s biggest employers, which have struggled for years to bring more women into their ranks. Men make up about 70 percent of the workforces of Apple, Facebook and Google parent Alphabet, company filings show. The firms are also so big that different departments, with differing gender balances, barely mix.

When Jonathan Soma, a data-visualization professor at Columbia University’s journalism school, used Census Bureau numbers to map Silicon Valley’s singles, he was astounded: There were entire Zip codes around Palo Alto with 40 percent more single men than women. (He counseled viewers to follow the depressing results with “several cartons of ice cream” and a Netflix binge.)

Women here say they feel outnumbered, overworked and underwhelmed by the tech industry’s egos and eccentricities: A koan of the local dating scene: “The odds are good, but the goods are odd.”

Men, in return, say they feel outmatched or overlooked. A ­39-year-old San Francisco tech entrepreneur who has given up on dating apps said, “I have a higher confidence in making another million dollars than I do in finding a spouse.”

The valley’s solitude helps throw a spotlight onto the changing shape of American love. Men and women are getting married later, and less, but their ways to meet one another keep growing — and they’re still coupling up. The number of adults living together out of wedlock has climbed about 30 percent over the past decade, census data shows.

Millions across the United States have made the apps a key element of their love lives, according to Pew Research Center surveys, which found a quarter of Americans between 18 and 34 had used an online dating service by 2015. But it’s unclear how successful those apps are for lifelong romance: Among couples who had been together for five years or less, 88 percent said they had met their partner offline — no dating app required.

In the San Francisco and San Jose areas, home to such dating apps as Coffee Meets Bagel, Zoosk and the League, the marriage rate for adults ages 18 to 49 fell about 6 percent between 2005 and 2016, census data shows. Just 1 in 4 here are married by age 30.

But the area’s gender imbalance has dampened even the act of finding a match. When Facebook in 2014 crunched its own data for a ranking of major cities where users went from “single” to “in a relationship,” it found San Francisco had the lowest rate of new couples, with San Jose not far behind.

These were problems the dating apps offered an ability to fix, with technologies ranging from brute-force mass attraction to personalized profile matching. OkCupid users refine their interests by answering up to 3,000 questions, including “Should a country always need the U.N.’s approval before declaring war?”

Many of the most popular have the feel of a slot machine, including Tinder (swipe right on someone you like, and you chat if there’s a match); Bumble (swiping, but only women can initiate) and Coffee Meets Bagel (swiping, but with only a handful of matches each day).

In this city of digital natives and first adopters, the apps were successful at attracting users: Many singles here say they cling to the apps, even though they doubt they’ll help, because they’re effectively a requirement for the dating scene — and because they think everyone else is addicted to them, too.

“It’s almost like Stockholm syndrome,” one male software engineer said. “No one likes the situation, but everyone accepts these are the rules of the game.”

Bumble, whose 400,000 users in Silicon Valley have matched up 20 million times since 2014, says users here have a “lower-than-average right-swipe proportion” than other large metro areas. In other words, they typically like what they see a bit less.

“You should Bumble with the intent to connect, not people-watch,” said Alexandra Williamson, Bumble’s head of brand. “Once you start taking an Instagram approach to the swiping experience, fatigue is only a matter of time.”

One 22-year-old graduate student at Stanford University says she used Bumble to go on more than 10 first dates in the last few months — including, she said, to virtually every bar and restaurant seen in the backdrop of the HBO tech satire “Silicon Valley.” The dates were so disappointing that she decided to leave her love life to a matchmaker instead. “I just don’t have that much time to be on disappointing apps,” she said.

Silicon Valley’s sweeping expanse of drab office parks was never known as a lovers’ paradise. But random, serendipitous meetings at a bar or party seem increasingly rare, several singles complained, and virtually every introduction, first sight and flirtation plays out first on screen.

“When you go talk to a stranger and they say no, they’ve rejected you. You know they’ve rejected you,” said Mc Kenna Walsh, a ­29-year-old start-up consultant. “On Tinder, if someone doesn’t swipe on you, you don’t get a notification. You don’t remember. You don’t even really know.”

The apps’ dominant hold on the dating scene has fueled its own cottage industry of valley types hoping to optimize their chances. GetSetDate, a San Francisco-based “dating consultancy” that sells app-ready self-portrait shoots starting at $500, assures buyers: “You are not a collection of facts. We are not an algorithm.”

Some local singles turn to valley matchmakers such as Amy Andersen, the founder of Linx Dating, who says many clients tried the apps first but ditched them because they felt like “searching for the impossible.”

Tech-industry professionals, Andersen said, are often some of the least comfortable pouring their personal desires into a dating app. Some are also staggeringly hyper-selective: When some singles come in to tell Andersen about their type, “their list is so exaggerated: They’re looking for this 6-foot-tall Adonis who also happens to be a billionaire. And I tell them: What you are looking for does not exist. It’s a unicorn,” Andersen said. “It’s like an invincible mentality: I’ve achieved all these things in my life and career. Why can’t I have this, too?”

Her services are pricey: Getting in the door costs $2,500; “basic premium” matchmaking memberships start at $35,000; and VIP packages, featuring wardrobe consultations, date planning and “romantic concierge” services, can extend into the hundreds of thousands of dollars. To those who balk at the price, she offers an alternative: “Swipe, swipe, swipe away.”

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3897657&forum_id=2#35438390)



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Date: February 19th, 2018 4:54 PM
Author: olive soggy spot nibblets



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3897657&forum_id=2#35438830)



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Date: February 19th, 2018 4:59 PM
Author: electric doobsian internal respiration

A koan of the local dating scene: “The odds are good, but the goods are odd.”

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3897657&forum_id=2#35438881)



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Date: February 19th, 2018 6:08 PM
Author: Smoky piazza shitlib

haha, 180.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3897657&forum_id=2#35439298)



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Date: February 19th, 2018 6:23 PM
Author: pink vigorous mood

that so old I first heard it from my great grandmother

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3897657&forum_id=2#35439415)



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Date: February 19th, 2018 4:59 PM
Author: diverse incel indian lodge

One 22-year-old graduate student at Stanford University says she used Bumble to go on more than 10 first dates in the last few months — including, she said, to virtually every bar and restaurant seen in the backdrop of the HBO tech satire “Silicon Valley.” The dates were so disappointing that she decided to leave her love life to a matchmaker instead. “I just don’t have that much time to be on disappointing apps,” she said.



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3897657&forum_id=2#35438882)



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Date: February 19th, 2018 6:24 PM
Author: pink vigorous mood

she's a first year grad student at a college! She shouldn't need apps to find dates.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3897657&forum_id=2#35439426)



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Date: February 19th, 2018 6:42 PM
Author: Bat-shit-crazy Fighting Immigrant

how fat is she?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3897657&forum_id=2#35439609)



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Date: February 19th, 2018 9:57 PM
Author: diverse incel indian lodge

also is she complaining about being taken to a bunch of bars that were in a popular show

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3897657&forum_id=2#35441222)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 12:48 AM
Author: Curious party of the first part crotch

Probably thinks she's too good to date other students.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3897657&forum_id=2#35442548)



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Date: February 19th, 2018 5:21 PM
Author: Well-lubricated Adventurous Electric Furnace Whorehouse

these "people" sound irredeemably broken.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3897657&forum_id=2#35439012)



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Date: February 19th, 2018 5:22 PM
Author: Hairraiser abnormal market

they're not really meant for each other. time for the men to just go for COCK

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3897657&forum_id=2#35439017)



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Date: February 19th, 2018 5:24 PM
Author: olive soggy spot nibblets



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3897657&forum_id=2#35439023)



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Date: February 19th, 2018 5:41 PM
Author: diverse incel indian lodge



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3897657&forum_id=2#35439102)



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Date: February 19th, 2018 5:32 PM
Author: thriller love of her life

this article is the most encouraging thing i've read all day. we need as few of these "people" to reproduce as possible

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3897657&forum_id=2#35439069)



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Date: February 19th, 2018 5:32 PM
Author: olive soggy spot nibblets



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3897657&forum_id=2#35439070)



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Date: February 19th, 2018 5:33 PM
Author: fuchsia center mad cow disease



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3897657&forum_id=2#35439072)



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Date: February 19th, 2018 5:43 PM
Author: titillating chestnut institution blood rage

Right, just leave it to proles to do all the breeding for us.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3897657&forum_id=2#35439106)



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Date: February 19th, 2018 5:34 PM
Author: Stirring Church

"One thing distinguishes the Silicon Valley dating pool: The men-to-women ratio for employed, young singles in the San Jose metro area is higher than in any other major area. There were about 150 men for every 100 women, compared with about 125 to 100 nationwide, of never-married young people between 25 and 34 in San Jose, U.S. Census Bureau data from 2016 shows."

it's called MAN JOSE for a reason

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3897657&forum_id=2#35439075)



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Date: February 19th, 2018 5:39 PM
Author: diverse incel indian lodge

Man Diego is probably the worst I had no issues w San Jose it must be mostly Nu males on apps

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3897657&forum_id=2#35439095)



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Date: February 19th, 2018 6:05 PM
Author: Stirring Church

SD has plenty of kyooot chicks

i guess they may all get taken by the military chads though

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3897657&forum_id=2#35439278)



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Date: February 19th, 2018 6:53 PM
Author: diverse incel indian lodge

it does

but in the Bay Area for some reason I get tons of matches and messages, could be because I'm a new face there though



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3897657&forum_id=2#35439726)



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Date: February 19th, 2018 10:42 PM
Author: alcoholic misunderstood school

only prole SD chicks like military "chads." most of the latter are white trash fucktards that stand around outside gaslamp bars with no idea of what to do with themselves.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3897657&forum_id=2#35441693)



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Date: February 19th, 2018 10:37 PM
Author: underhanded death wish

Shouldn’t the nation wide average be 100:100? What am I missing here?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3897657&forum_id=2#35441648)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 12:21 AM
Author: aphrodisiac dysfunction roommate

Older men dating younger women -> male dominance

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3897657&forum_id=2#35442440)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 12:24 AM
Author: underhanded death wish

Jfc women

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3897657&forum_id=2#35442459)



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Date: February 19th, 2018 5:39 PM
Author: magical vivacious preventive strike



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3897657&forum_id=2#35439092)



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Date: February 19th, 2018 5:44 PM
Author: canary hot brethren

love that "you can't hurry love" appears in an xo thread the day after sing a snap video parody of the Supremes/Phil Collins song "you can't hurry love" targeted at MPA. There is a greater force in the universe

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3897657&forum_id=2#35439110)



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Date: February 19th, 2018 6:01 PM
Author: exciting scourge upon the earth

How is this different from MFH? XO makes it seem like MFH is fucking paradise for single men.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3897657&forum_id=2#35439253)



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Date: February 19th, 2018 6:09 PM
Author: Multi-colored Crackhouse

SF: more men than women, low quality women & men

MFH: more women than men, high quality women & third of men are gay

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3897657&forum_id=2#35439306)



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Date: February 19th, 2018 6:05 PM
Author: Citrine beta french chef

This article was shared on FB by the Azn megashrew, btw.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3897657&forum_id=2#35439280)



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Date: February 19th, 2018 6:12 PM
Author: olive soggy spot nibblets

lmao

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3897657&forum_id=2#35439327)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 12:45 AM
Author: Clear legend



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3897657&forum_id=2#35442540)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 12:49 AM
Author: Curious party of the first part crotch

Who doesn't live in SV though, right?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3897657&forum_id=2#35442551)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 1:08 AM
Author: Citrine beta french chef

Nope. I think she just related to the foreveralone aspect.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3897657&forum_id=2#35442646)



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Date: February 23rd, 2018 12:51 AM
Author: olive soggy spot nibblets

She would fit perfectly in SF.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3897657&forum_id=2#35467271)



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Date: February 23rd, 2018 12:43 AM
Author: Appetizing Boltzmann

does that D ring pain you every time you see it in her photos?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3897657&forum_id=2#35467240)



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Date: February 19th, 2018 6:09 PM
Author: Smoky piazza shitlib

You can't seriously consider moving to the bay area as a single straight guy. Doesn't matter how good and plentiful the jobs are. It's just not an option.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3897657&forum_id=2#35439310)



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Date: February 19th, 2018 6:11 PM
Author: arousing forum partner

i've seen tech nerds dating FOB filipinas from daly city and other weird combinations due to lack of supply.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3897657&forum_id=2#35439319)



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Date: February 19th, 2018 6:12 PM
Author: olive soggy spot nibblets

cr. my brother moved there, but he was already married.

his wife is basically horrified by all the locals

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3897657&forum_id=2#35439324)



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Date: February 19th, 2018 6:13 PM
Author: Stirring Church

you can do ok if you are chill and fratty (so obviously no xoers qualify), there are enough kyooot marketing/pr/recruiting chicks around and they dont have a lot of options

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3897657&forum_id=2#35439331)



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Date: February 19th, 2018 6:16 PM
Author: olive soggy spot nibblets

naw, there are still alpha dudes there who also make $10m a year. there aren't many, but there also aren't many appealing women, so there.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3897657&forum_id=2#35439353)



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Date: February 19th, 2018 6:17 PM
Author: Stirring Church

of course, but they arent dating random 6.5 recruiting chicks

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3897657&forum_id=2#35439360)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 11:11 AM
Author: Smoky piazza shitlib

https://www.siliconvalley.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/01/sjm-breakthru-1205-010.jpg?w=792

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3897657&forum_id=2#35444385)



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Date: February 19th, 2018 6:17 PM
Author: Multi-colored Crackhouse

would you be worried about your attractive gf going to SF as opposed to almost any other city?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3897657&forum_id=2#35439362)



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Date: February 19th, 2018 6:19 PM
Author: olive soggy spot nibblets

yes.

that is because of the incredible ratio. SF is a city where the 5% of dudes who are jacked chads making $10m a year are all pursuing the 4% of women who are anywhere above a frumpy 6.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3897657&forum_id=2#35439387)



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Date: February 19th, 2018 6:20 PM
Author: Multi-colored Crackhouse

fml

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3897657&forum_id=2#35439394)



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Date: February 19th, 2018 6:21 PM
Author: olive soggy spot nibblets

The last time I peoplemeeted/thingdid in the SF Bay Area, I was told that I was a solid 7 by SF woman standards.

I am a man.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3897657&forum_id=2#35439401)



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Date: February 19th, 2018 6:24 PM
Author: Stirring Church

if you say that word again i will reach thru your monitor and cockslap you. get your fuckign reddit nerdspeak out of here

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3897657&forum_id=2#35439420)



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Date: February 19th, 2018 6:25 PM
Author: olive soggy spot nibblets

I thought it was incel-speech.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3897657&forum_id=2#35439433)



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Date: February 19th, 2018 6:24 PM
Author: fragrant shaky boiling water gaping

I’ll say this much about SF guys: I get hit on a normal amount in most cities. Nobody ever hit on me in SF.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3897657&forum_id=2#35439430)



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Date: February 19th, 2018 6:41 PM
Author: seedy azn

Would love to know what you think "hitting on" you constitutes

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3897657&forum_id=2#35439603)



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Date: February 23rd, 2018 12:45 AM
Author: Appetizing Boltzmann

:: unzips ::

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3897657&forum_id=2#35467245)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 11:04 AM
Author: stimulating brunch

I’m an art dude with no job and am doing ok...

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3897657&forum_id=2#35444332)



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Date: February 19th, 2018 6:19 PM
Author: Marvelous Very Tactful Property Keepsake Machete

meets guys at do-it-yourself crafting meetups

I’m sorry, what?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3897657&forum_id=2#35439379)



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Date: February 19th, 2018 9:45 PM
Author: Topaz degenerate

she's flaming

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3897657&forum_id=2#35441061)



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Date: February 19th, 2018 6:22 PM
Author: Razzle-dazzle cowardly sanctuary ape

ITT: dating in the third world

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3897657&forum_id=2#35439407)



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Date: February 19th, 2018 6:23 PM
Author: Orchid hilarious stag film

Has any XO single bros lived in both MFH and SF, so we can get a sense of how different they are?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3897657&forum_id=2#35439408)



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Date: February 19th, 2018 9:46 PM
Author: Topaz degenerate

SF is the worst place for a single male on the planet

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3897657&forum_id=2#35441076)



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Date: February 19th, 2018 9:56 PM
Author: magical vivacious preventive strike



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3897657&forum_id=2#35441211)



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Date: February 19th, 2018 10:55 PM
Author: deep cheese-eating associate old irish cottage

single straight male

for gays must be heaven

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3897657&forum_id=2#35441806)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 9:53 PM
Author: submissive patrolman

i joked about this to some bitchy SF shrews and they acted all offended by my insinuation that gay men are more promiscuous.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3897657&forum_id=2#35448962)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 11:15 PM
Author: indigo box office jap

titcr

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3897657&forum_id=2#35457825)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 11:14 AM
Author: Smoky piazza shitlib

SF is far superior to mountain view, palo alto, sunnyvale, san jose, etc.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3897657&forum_id=2#35444406)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 1:46 AM
Author: submissive patrolman

I've visited NYC for a bit and done app swiping in both SF and NYC. Currently been in SF for a year. I get plenty of matches in SF but been on a ton of shitty dates with lower quality women who all have attitude or are boring as fuck. NYC girls are way more interesting, albeit less preftigious but who gives a fuck about that.

In NYC, I'll get hit on or eyefucked regularly by chicks every time I go out at night. When I use Coffee Meets Bagel, on average, I get 10 chicks sending me likes per day (which costs tokens and sometimes money) on the "Discover" section instead of waiting for me to like them first.

In SF, I'll get hit on by a sloppy drunk chick maybe 20% of the time I go out. I almost never see attractive girls out at night who aren't already with dudes. Usually it'll be like a group of 6 dudes and 1 or 2 girls. Otherwise you'll get a few average body type chicks who don't feel the make themselves attractive and wear feminine clothes or makeup because that would be "giving in to the patriarchy." As for Coffee Meets Bagel, on average, I get 1 girl who likes me first on the "Discover" section and they're usually 35-40 yrs old and Asian. I've been using other apps which have been okay but Coffee Meets Bagel is just easy to compare since I can switch my location for free without actually physically being in the city.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3897657&forum_id=2#35442800)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 11:10 PM
Author: dashing metal police squad

I’ve lived in both places. NYC the women are plentiful and generally attractive. They actively compete against each other for men. SF the women are Asian and stuck up. There are cute girls because it’s california but everybody ugly or hot is a career oriented bitch and thinks they’re better than they are.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3897657&forum_id=2#35457769)



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Date: February 22nd, 2018 9:56 AM
Author: submissive patrolman



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3897657&forum_id=2#35459761)



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Date: February 19th, 2018 6:40 PM
Author: red wild step-uncle's house corn cake

"They’re looking for this 6-foot-tall Adonis who also happens to be a billionaire. And I tell them: What you are looking for does not exist. It’s a unicorn,”

--

XO Chad theory DEBUNKED

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3897657&forum_id=2#35439593)



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Date: February 19th, 2018 9:39 PM
Author: olive soggy spot nibblets

?

Chad is real. She just means Chad will never enter LTR with them.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3897657&forum_id=2#35441018)



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Date: February 19th, 2018 9:49 PM
Author: onyx razzmatazz haunted graveyard shrine

wrong.

if you were in the bay area you'd know that people constantly talk about founding/funding/finding a "unicorn" company/job. if you're NOT in on a "unicorn" you're a loser and the same applies to the dating market.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3897657&forum_id=2#35441125)



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Date: February 19th, 2018 9:47 PM
Author: onyx razzmatazz haunted graveyard shrine

lol @ work obsessed dorks in the bay area!

wonder why they aren't all chill, fratty, laid-back Stanford neurosurgery residents/google machine learning researchers/biglaw associates/PE ballers/serial entrepreneurs.

I mean, is it too much to ask for a man who's like, ambitious but not like, work obsessed? I just want a man whos successful when he wants to be but prefers to spend his time sailing to hidden wine taverns with me, is that so hard?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3897657&forum_id=2#35441094)



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Date: February 19th, 2018 9:56 PM
Author: magical vivacious preventive strike



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3897657&forum_id=2#35441217)



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Date: February 23rd, 2018 1:00 AM
Author: Cerebral lodge multi-billionaire



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3897657&forum_id=2#35467306)



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Date: February 19th, 2018 10:18 PM
Author: galvanic garnet hospital

Doesn't the large gay population make the ratio a little better?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3897657&forum_id=2#35441470)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 12:11 AM
Author: onyx razzmatazz haunted graveyard shrine

please state your iq before we engage you further

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3897657&forum_id=2#35442368)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 12:44 AM
Author: Narrow-minded Gas Station Clown

Why on earth are there multiple negative anecdotes from women?

I know there's a LOT of unappealing dudes there, but the gender imbalance is so huge that it's got to be trivial for women to routinely punch above their weight class

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3897657&forum_id=2#35442535)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 1:04 AM
Author: Mind-boggling laser beams locale

The 7s are all gold digging for founders and growing frustrated when the only thing they can find is Bachman. The founders would rather date a divorced Miranda Kerr.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3897657&forum_id=2#35442620)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 1:55 AM
Author: submissive patrolman

These women are almost all "on the cusp." They are hot enough to fuck but not hot enough to lock down the highest quality guys. Just like in other cities, well-adjusted, beautiful women are rarely single in SF.

The ones that are single are just taking their time picking among their many rich tech chad suitors. They know they'd probably be happy with any of them but are just being deliberate and making sure they get the most high value guy they can.

As for the ones with negative experiences, yeah, they got ghosted, pumped and dumped, or just aren't attractive/interesting enough to hold the attention of a man they find attractive.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3897657&forum_id=2#35442850)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 10:54 PM
Author: onyx razzmatazz haunted graveyard shrine

polygamy under sharia is the true feminism.

chadwivesmatter

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3897657&forum_id=2#35457630)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 10:56 PM
Author: racy orange sneaky criminal

Gotta say watching this hellscape has made me appreciate my organic college wife significantly more.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3897657&forum_id=2#35457639)



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Date: February 22nd, 2018 11:10 AM
Author: Provocative jet candlestick maker

http://whytherearenogirls.blogspot.com/

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3897657&forum_id=2#35460272)



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Date: February 22nd, 2018 11:50 PM
Author: submissive patrolman

interesting reads but last poast was 2011

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3897657&forum_id=2#35466878)