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Should I feel bad about taking my full 3-month paternity leave?

company has a 3-month policy that matches maternity and pate...
dashing transparent filthpig chapel
  02/20/18
fuck yeah
Red floppy box office
  02/20/18
fuck yeah i should feel bad?
dashing transparent filthpig chapel
  02/20/18
no fuck yeah you should take the full amount
Red floppy box office
  02/20/18
...
dashing transparent filthpig chapel
  02/20/18
do u actually have a kid?
cerebral faggot firefighter shrine
  02/20/18
lol yeah
dashing transparent filthpig chapel
  02/20/18
doesn't have to actually be his
swashbuckling whorehouse
  02/20/18
how long before shrews demand "peternity" leave
Milky volcanic crater dilemma
  02/20/18
Moar like “eternity leave”
Mustard multi-colored range
  02/20/18
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bateful antidepressant drug goal in life
  02/21/18
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azure quadroon principal's office
  02/21/18
do you have to be married or can you match some other chick'...
Electric yellow queen of the night hell
  02/20/18
i'm not sure tbh.
dashing transparent filthpig chapel
  02/20/18
firm-wide email.
Electric yellow queen of the night hell
  02/20/18
you should only feel bad if you fail to take advantage of th...
adventurous site
  02/20/18
ty bro. i just get anxious about being fired.
dashing transparent filthpig chapel
  02/20/18
i'm not sure i can help with that, just with whatever moral ...
adventurous site
  02/20/18
You mean you get anxious about the future FMLA lawsuit payda...
fluffy really tough guy
  02/20/18
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sadistic den milk
  02/20/18
what's the grace period after i come back
dashing transparent filthpig chapel
  02/20/18
However long you can credibly claim they retaliated against ...
fluffy really tough guy
  02/21/18
good to know friend, ty
dashing transparent filthpig chapel
  02/21/18
Fuck. This has happened to me twice now. I would pay to see ...
fishy alcoholic jew philosopher-king
  02/21/18
Relevant to my interests.
fishy alcoholic jew philosopher-king
  02/20/18
State your IQ if you have to ask this question?
Concupiscible toilet seat wagecucks
  02/20/18
prob 110-120 tbh, not that high.
dashing transparent filthpig chapel
  02/20/18
of course not. America 2018 is a complete $mash&grab
claret crawly idea he suggested institution
  02/20/18
cr. use this time off to find an even better job for more...
frisky gold state
  02/20/18
spin, ratfucks
marvelous church building gay wizard
  02/20/18
...
180 Pit
  02/20/18
You’re fucking insane if u don’t do this. Holy shit.
khaki newt
  02/20/18
...
dashing transparent filthpig chapel
  02/20/18
I took two months and got immediately fucked when I got back
fishy alcoholic jew philosopher-king
  02/20/18
fucked how?
dashing transparent filthpig chapel
  02/20/18
Director decided I was under utilized. My boss is retiring a...
fishy alcoholic jew philosopher-king
  02/20/18
What kind of shit job do you have where you get "writt...
godawful mildly autistic useless brakes ticket booth
  02/20/18
Standard govt. That's not the terminology they use but same ...
fishy alcoholic jew philosopher-king
  02/20/18
honestly if you don't think you'll be there much longer, you...
chestnut spectacular theater
  02/20/18
hehe
Vigorous locus
  02/20/18
lol @ this good little goy wagecuck feeling guilty he's taki...
Galvanic Headpube
  02/20/18
...
frisky gold state
  02/20/18
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walnut arousing church
  02/22/18
UPDATE: got a job offer today, pay is $7k higher than curren...
dashing transparent filthpig chapel
  02/21/18
I wouldn’t. Sounds objectively worse. The 7k sounds ins...
Mustard multi-colored range
  02/21/18
current base is 110, this is 117. assume 15% bonus for both....
dashing transparent filthpig chapel
  02/21/18
I would gladly give up 7k for an additional 2 weeks vacation...
Mustard multi-colored range
  02/21/18
Toss up on vacation. Direct reports for sure are not worth 7...
fishy alcoholic jew philosopher-king
  02/21/18
Yes
fishy alcoholic jew philosopher-king
  02/21/18
expound pls
dashing transparent filthpig chapel
  02/21/18
Better setup. Direct reports opens entirely new field of po...
fishy alcoholic jew philosopher-king
  02/21/18
we will have 1-3 more kids. i've had direct reports in the p...
dashing transparent filthpig chapel
  02/21/18
no, that sounds worse in all respects. can you negotiate wo...
Exhilarant demanding address
  02/21/18
absolutely not. but i've reached the end of the rope at curr...
dashing transparent filthpig chapel
  02/21/18
need more opinions please.
dashing transparent filthpig chapel
  02/21/18
20 minutes one way? Take it, but don't give your boss 2 w...
frisky gold state
  02/21/18
terrible idea.
dashing transparent filthpig chapel
  02/21/18
?
frisky gold state
  02/22/18
they are insistent on the start date? that's lame. id try to...
awkward frozen plaza gaming laptop
  02/22/18
starting a new job when u have a 2 month old at home isn't i...
Fiercely-loyal stirring forum
  02/22/18
hell no you shouldn't feel bad. i'm taking like 2, maybe 3 w...
fuchsia wrinkle gas station
  02/21/18
You owe a corporation nothing. HTH!
Up-to-no-good Space
  02/21/18
...
frisky gold state
  02/21/18
What would GC do?
Histrionic turquoise indirect expression legend
  02/22/18
It will definitely be held against you. If you plan on leav...
awkward frozen plaza gaming laptop
  02/22/18
do you feel bad about cashing your full paycheck?
plum underhanded old irish cottage
  02/22/18
cr analogy
cracking ocher marketing idea
  02/22/18
I just saw what guys ahead of me were doing and followed sui...
learning disabled sticky gunner
  02/22/18


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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:52 PM
Author: dashing transparent filthpig chapel

company has a 3-month policy that matches maternity and paternity. i took 6 weeks to start. i'm 4.5 weeks in, but chatting with my boss tomorrow. thinking about taking the full time.

i don't see much of a future at this job, should i just yolo?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447233)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:52 PM
Author: Red floppy box office

fuck yeah

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447235)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:53 PM
Author: dashing transparent filthpig chapel

fuck yeah i should feel bad?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447242)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:56 PM
Author: Red floppy box office

no fuck yeah you should take the full amount

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447264)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:56 PM
Author: dashing transparent filthpig chapel



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447266)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:53 PM
Author: cerebral faggot firefighter shrine

do u actually have a kid?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447238)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:53 PM
Author: dashing transparent filthpig chapel

lol yeah

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447239)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:08 PM
Author: swashbuckling whorehouse

doesn't have to actually be his

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447360)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:12 PM
Author: Milky volcanic crater dilemma

how long before shrews demand "peternity" leave

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447390)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 7:03 PM
Author: Mustard multi-colored range

Moar like “eternity leave”

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447724)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 6:17 PM
Author: bateful antidepressant drug goal in life



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35455357)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 7:38 PM
Author: azure quadroon principal's office



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35455850)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:54 PM
Author: Electric yellow queen of the night hell

do you have to be married or can you match some other chick's maternity if you make a "good faith argument why you feel that you're the father."

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447245)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:54 PM
Author: dashing transparent filthpig chapel

i'm not sure tbh.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447246)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:55 PM
Author: Electric yellow queen of the night hell

firm-wide email.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447255)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:54 PM
Author: adventurous site

you should only feel bad if you fail to take advantage of the full 3 months plus whatever other extra time you can convince your employer is necessary

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447248)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:55 PM
Author: dashing transparent filthpig chapel

ty bro. i just get anxious about being fired.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447257)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:57 PM
Author: adventurous site

i'm not sure i can help with that, just with whatever moral qualms you might have about lying to your employer even knowing your employer will gladly fuck you over for profit with no qualms

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447278)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:57 PM
Author: fluffy really tough guy

You mean you get anxious about the future FMLA lawsuit payday you might get?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447281)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:59 PM
Author: sadistic den milk



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447293)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:00 PM
Author: dashing transparent filthpig chapel

what's the grace period after i come back

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447303)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 5:01 PM
Author: fluffy really tough guy

However long you can credibly claim they retaliated against you for taking your leave. Obviously settlement value goes down with each passing day and there is probably a point at which it is just too attenuated, especially if you fuck up post-leave. But LJL at them if they think your shitlawyer isn't going to get all your bosses and coworkers emails about you and comb through all of them for evidence that people were upset about your leave.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454770)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 5:02 PM
Author: dashing transparent filthpig chapel

good to know friend, ty

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454776)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 5:06 PM
Author: fishy alcoholic jew philosopher-king

Fuck. This has happened to me twice now. I would pay to see the emails my worthless shrew boss has sent. HR guy randomly told me L&I claims have a 3 year window.

That said, seems bitchmade.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454805)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:09 PM
Author: fishy alcoholic jew philosopher-king

Relevant to my interests.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447365)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:55 PM
Author: Concupiscible toilet seat wagecucks

State your IQ if you have to ask this question?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447251)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:56 PM
Author: dashing transparent filthpig chapel

prob 110-120 tbh, not that high.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447259)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:58 PM
Author: claret crawly idea he suggested institution

of course not. America 2018 is a complete $mash&grab

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447282)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:01 PM
Author: frisky gold state

cr.

use this time off to find an even better job for more money and fuck your boss and coworkers in the ass

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447307)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:04 PM
Author: marvelous church building gay wizard

spin, ratfucks

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447339)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 7:03 PM
Author: 180 Pit



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447729)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 5:59 PM
Author: khaki newt

You’re fucking insane if u don’t do this. Holy shit.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447290)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:03 PM
Author: dashing transparent filthpig chapel



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447326)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:00 PM
Author: fishy alcoholic jew philosopher-king

I took two months and got immediately fucked when I got back

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447296)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:00 PM
Author: dashing transparent filthpig chapel

fucked how?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447301)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:04 PM
Author: fishy alcoholic jew philosopher-king

Director decided I was under utilized. My boss is retiring and they gave me all of his job responsibilities (no raise or anything). Announced this to me the week I returned.

Not flame I filed a complaint. They pulled similar shit last time, writing me up my 4th day back. I work with all shrews.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447342)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:10 PM
Author: godawful mildly autistic useless brakes ticket booth

What kind of shit job do you have where you get "written up"

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447372)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:11 PM
Author: fishy alcoholic jew philosopher-king

Standard govt. That's not the terminology they use but same dif.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447381)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:45 PM
Author: chestnut spectacular theater

honestly if you don't think you'll be there much longer, you should take the full amount, and also use all of your benefit time every year including sick time. this might affect your chances for promotion, but a big company like this isn't going to fire you for using all of your 'benefit time.'

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447609)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 6:45 PM
Author: Vigorous locus

hehe

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447612)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 7:05 PM
Author: Galvanic Headpube

lol @ this good little goy wagecuck feeling guilty he's taking the full amount of what he was offered by his (((GC))) (((masters))) who would can his ass at a moment's notice if it suited them

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35447738)



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Date: February 20th, 2018 7:49 PM
Author: frisky gold state



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35448021)



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Date: February 22nd, 2018 1:26 AM
Author: walnut arousing church



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35458681)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 4:53 PM
Author: dashing transparent filthpig chapel

UPDATE: got a job offer today, pay is $7k higher than current job, benefits are worse (2 week vacation instead of 4, no match for 1 year instead of 4% at current), but position has better exit options, commute is shorter by about 20 minutes, and unlike current (no direct reports), i will have two. however, if i accept, i need to cut short my paternity at 6 weeks, give my two week notice, and start. take it?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454689)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 4:55 PM
Author: Mustard multi-colored range

I wouldn’t. Sounds objectively worse.

The 7k sounds insignificant, unless you make like 50k

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454712)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 4:58 PM
Author: dashing transparent filthpig chapel

current base is 110, this is 117. assume 15% bonus for both.

yeah it's very hard to give a shit about new job great first impressions, i will have to likely work my ass off for the next 3-6 months and all i'll have to show for it is a couple hundred dollars per paycheck (if that?), worse benefits, less vacation, etc.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454743)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 5:02 PM
Author: Mustard multi-colored range

I would gladly give up 7k for an additional 2 weeks vacation and no directs. Would weigh on the exit options.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454782)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 5:08 PM
Author: fishy alcoholic jew philosopher-king

Toss up on vacation. Direct reports for sure are not worth 7k but it's a great resume item. I'd give up a couple weeks to save 20 mins a day though.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454823)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 4:55 PM
Author: fishy alcoholic jew philosopher-king

Yes

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454717)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 5:00 PM
Author: dashing transparent filthpig chapel

expound pls

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454766)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 5:04 PM
Author: fishy alcoholic jew philosopher-king

Better setup. Direct reports opens entirely new field of positions. 20 Mins per day easily makes up for a couple weeks vacation. More money.

Transitions suck. Having direct reports will suck. What's the new environment? That's probably the biggest factor.

Don't even consider the paternity leave (unless you plan on having lots more kids)

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454792)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 5:17 PM
Author: dashing transparent filthpig chapel

we will have 1-3 more kids. i've had direct reports in the past. doesn't that dilute the value this time?

the environment is more stuffy and corporate (but overall collegial) i'd say. current company is 3-6 years old but relatively prestigious.

the commute admittedly is a big draw especially because wife's job is 10 minutes away from this new company and we might consider moving to that area.

however, lately, we've been thinking about risking it all and moving abroad, which makes me question whether i need to rock the boat at all right now.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454901)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 4:58 PM
Author: Exhilarant demanding address

no, that sounds worse in all respects. can you negotiate work from home?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454738)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 5:00 PM
Author: dashing transparent filthpig chapel

absolutely not. but i've reached the end of the rope at current job, with no hopes for promotion. would you say it's better to ride out my paternity and leave a few months later? job searching is scary, i suck at getting interviews but i'm at A++++ interview once they meet me.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454763)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 5:30 PM
Author: dashing transparent filthpig chapel

need more opinions please.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35455016)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 7:35 PM
Author: frisky gold state

20 minutes one way?

Take it, but don't give your boss 2 weeks notice, just continue vacationing then leave.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35455809)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 9:55 PM
Author: dashing transparent filthpig chapel

terrible idea.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35457086)



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Date: February 22nd, 2018 1:42 AM
Author: frisky gold state

?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35458756)



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Date: February 22nd, 2018 1:48 AM
Author: awkward frozen plaza gaming laptop

they are insistent on the start date? that's lame. id try to push back on that a little.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35458779)



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Date: February 22nd, 2018 3:33 PM
Author: Fiercely-loyal stirring forum

starting a new job when u have a 2 month old at home isn't ideal. better to coast on ur reputation at current job for another 6-12 months then find a new role.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35462500)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 4:56 PM
Author: fuchsia wrinkle gas station

hell no you shouldn't feel bad. i'm taking like 2, maybe 3 weeks from biglaw for babby 2 this summer. and my wife is having a c section.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454727)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 4:59 PM
Author: Up-to-no-good Space

You owe a corporation nothing. HTH!

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35454746)



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Date: February 21st, 2018 7:35 PM
Author: frisky gold state



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35455812)



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Date: February 22nd, 2018 1:24 AM
Author: Histrionic turquoise indirect expression legend

What would GC do?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35458670)



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Date: February 22nd, 2018 1:45 AM
Author: awkward frozen plaza gaming laptop

It will definitely be held against you. If you plan on leaving soon yes absolutely take it.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35458768)



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Date: February 22nd, 2018 3:06 PM
Author: plum underhanded old irish cottage

do you feel bad about cashing your full paycheck?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35462298)



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Date: February 22nd, 2018 3:13 PM
Author: cracking ocher marketing idea

cr analogy

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35462355)



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Date: February 22nd, 2018 3:10 PM
Author: learning disabled sticky gunner

I just saw what guys ahead of me were doing and followed suit, which was 1-2 weeks per pregnancy. What is actually customary at your job?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3898742&forum_id=2#35462325)