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All right, fine. I'll give dating a shot. Taking ?s and advice (CharlesXII)

I've been nagged by people on-board and IRL to give it a sho...
Deranged police squad stock car
  04/15/18
Is online dating a requirement? No leads through friends or...
fear-inspiring becky
  04/15/18
It's not a requirement, but clearly friends or church haven'...
Deranged police squad stock car
  04/15/18
holy shit
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  04/15/18
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  04/15/18
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Rambunctious doctorate
  04/15/18
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  04/15/18
(1) Be upfront about the fact that you are a good Catholic b...
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  04/15/18
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i'd say to only do (3) if people regularly go out of their w...
Bateful national
  04/15/18
Are you serious about the books? Geez, I stopped reading boo...
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  04/15/18
Don’t go into the online dating cesspool. Target 18-22 C...
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  04/15/18
Terrible advice - he needs to meet a high volume of chicks a...
clear soul-stirring casino philosopher-king
  04/15/18
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razzle multi-billionaire base
  04/15/18
Flame. Unless he tries an east european dating site.
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  04/15/18
This is why I created this thread. I literally have no idea ...
Deranged police squad stock car
  04/15/18
You think too much. The girls that you’d be into are even mo...
deep multi-colored bawdyhouse
  04/15/18
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Rambunctious doctorate
  04/15/18
Elaborate on this. I am truly clueless.
Deranged police squad stock car
  04/15/18
If you talk to a girl that shares some key similarities to y...
deep multi-colored bawdyhouse
  04/15/18
This is tough but solid advice.
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  04/15/18
Women are insanely insecure. You can't understand until you ...
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  04/15/18
Men are more insecure than women are.
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  04/15/18
In general?
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What's potential is the failure. The humiliation is certain....
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Develop a new passion for a culture/country where catholicis...
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describe flaws in e europe girls
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  04/15/18
They are extremely racist so girls will only marry out of th...
razzle multi-billionaire base
  04/15/18
they are racist against western white men? i don't think so.
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  04/15/18
You're thinking of the greedy ones and yeah they will come t...
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this is ungodly stupid
Rambunctious doctorate
  04/15/18
I think Charles would only date a white woman
Unhinged razzle-dazzle state
  04/15/18
Charles should reconsider that
Exciting bearded dysfunction
  04/15/18
Why? What's wrong with wanting to create white children?
Unhinged razzle-dazzle state
  04/15/18
nothing at all
Exciting bearded dysfunction
  04/15/18
pretty sure this isn't true.
Wine market
  04/15/18
he refuses to respond to it, which means it probably is true
Unhinged razzle-dazzle state
  04/15/18
I'm more attracted to white women and I think I relate bette...
Deranged police squad stock car
  04/15/18
as an american living abroad, great point about foreign girl...
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Some thoughts... Hair - What remaining follicles you do h...
crystalline lay
  04/15/18
Sorry... I basically said the same thing below without readi...
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  04/15/18
CharlesXII, I think you would look good in some tortoiseshel...
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  04/15/18
I met my wife off OKC. I am a Midwestern trumpmo, and I met ...
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  04/15/18
Have you considered butt sex with men?
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try okc or match, id avoid the swipe apps. i mean you can us...
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I've said it before, but I'll say it again. Start watching s...
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  04/15/18
To me, #1 reason chuck 12 needs to go online is to get used ...
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cr to put it in CXII terms it's like an rpg, you have to lev...
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I agree. It's amazing how many of my sexless friends are...
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  04/16/18
You really need to learn how to dress well. Dressing like a ...
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  04/15/18
how does Ross Douthat dress? I'm a dad who shops at Marshall...
clear soul-stirring casino philosopher-king
  04/15/18
Well, I thought his goal was to meet a girl or something, no...
Useless Windowlicker
  04/15/18
I'm sure Ross Douthat gets plenty of female attention
clear soul-stirring casino philosopher-king
  04/15/18
this can't be
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  04/15/18
RD with one of his groupies http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-pgD...
Rambunctious doctorate
  04/15/18
he's downright Yglesian https://www.catholicnewsagency.com/...
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  04/15/18
his wife is better looking than he https://static01.nyt.c...
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cr Charles should cuck Douthat. He's got everything Douthat'...
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  04/15/18
I’m in fully engorged agreement with you
Rambunctious doctorate
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Faggioli is right
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  04/15/18
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  04/15/18
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Deranged police squad stock car
  04/15/18
If you aren't fat get some tailored dark wash jeans and high...
Useless Windowlicker
  04/15/18
Try joining a book club (like one of the ones at politics an...
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  04/15/18
Lmao, P&P is filled to the brim with rancid shitlibs
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  04/15/18
Didn't OP do that gay ass dating column thing you fags are o...
Ivory gay wizard
  04/15/18
yup, and he crushed it, but he has no follow through
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  04/15/18
I don't think he's ever mentioned participating in a dating ...
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  04/15/18
I don't know if he confirmed, but I think it's 99% doobs con...
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  04/15/18
stfu fag
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  04/16/18
? I've never posted about anything like that.
Deranged police squad stock car
  04/15/18
good luck in your pursuits. should make for some good conte...
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  04/15/18
Woah there, nothing like that ever happened. You must be mi...
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I’m going to oversimplify it. You need a combination of ...
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CR. Maybe one in a million will find something we could w...
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Consider meetup.com events. Find ones that interest you that...
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This is a really fucking excellent idea. There are so many o...
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  04/15/18
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  04/15/18
Ty for this. I've been trying to do more church stuff in the...
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  04/15/18
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  04/15/18
I tried that and it seemed like a waste of time. Nobody was ...
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  04/16/18
ChristianMingle bro
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  04/15/18
You'll get in everywhere you apply.
arousing disrespectful athletic conference
  04/15/18
Do not date girls who work in DC. Get a car (any kind will...
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  04/15/18
I think this is 100% correct
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  04/15/18
Car is a necessary first step
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  04/15/18
Excellent advice in this thread. I know DC very well... you ...
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  04/15/18
Teachers are great advice. How about Catholic-school teacher...
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  04/15/18
Your appeal is sort of niche, use your irl network to prequa...
Pea-brained brethren
  04/15/18
The first part of this is the best advice in this thread.
Self-centered prole pisswyrm
  04/15/18
organic is not the right approach for chuck. he needs lots o...
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  04/15/18
What makes you think he has a fear of rejection? He has ver...
Self-centered prole pisswyrm
  04/15/18
My social circle has frankly been a huge disappointment as f...
Deranged police squad stock car
  04/15/18
Sorry to hear that, how explicitly have you asked your socia...
Pea-brained brethren
  04/15/18
He doesn't need to "get good at dating", he needs ...
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  04/15/18
Highly suggest you avoid swipe apps and check out eHarmony, ...
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Re: The last one, is international marriage/Filipina women a...
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I agree but importing one I do think is a bad idea because t...
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Idk brother, there are definitely tales of men getting fucke...
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  04/15/18
a decent Filipina could easily be in a loyal relationship wi...
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  04/15/18
CR. GDP per capita in the Phillipines is like $3K. Even ...
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LJL, no girl is going to want anything to do with you. Bald ...
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  04/15/18
Likely CR and this has always been my assumption but we may ...
Deranged police squad stock car
  04/15/18
lmao at singling out THIS post to reply to. c'mon dude
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  04/15/18
CR Charles can’t be helped if he’s drawn to the negative ...
Rambunctious doctorate
  04/15/18
This is exactly the wrong attitude to have. Women are attrac...
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  04/15/18
In general: Be yourself Don’t be picky re: looks Re...
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Charles "play eating" his bewildered 4/10 shrew da...
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  04/16/18
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Deranged police squad stock car
  04/16/18
Guys give so much conflicting advice about dating, and they ...
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  04/15/18
In what situations is this true?
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  04/15/18
just gotta get your reps in
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  04/16/18
I would look into Catholicmatch, you are much more likely to...
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  04/15/18
settle for a smart homely girl or you're gonna drive the CRV...
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  04/15/18
You will regret this
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  04/15/18
having a car, dating apps, wardrobe -- who cares about any o...
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  04/15/18
I have always had low self-esteem regardless of life circums...
Deranged police squad stock car
  04/15/18
I had a similar attitude. After trying to be "friends&q...
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  04/15/18
Isn’t it obvious? He’s bald and ugly. Some people have low s...
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  04/15/18
Plenty of ugly/short/dweebish/introverted people have a grea...
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  04/15/18
They should not reproduce.
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  04/15/18
enjoy stormfront
Thriller olive field
  04/15/18
I don't hate my life at all. I just have low self-esteem.
Deranged police squad stock car
  04/15/18
reminder: this is actually JJC
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  04/15/18
i appreciate the poasters trying to give him advice but this...
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  04/15/18
"Go out and get rejected by lots of GC tinder whores; t...
Self-centered prole pisswyrm
  04/15/18
As far as I can tell that's because dating itself is toxic a...
Deranged police squad stock car
  04/15/18
How exactly is it toxic? I mean, there are a couple unhinged...
crystalline lay
  04/15/18
The dating market is toxic as fuck. We just happen to live ...
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  04/15/18
Serious response: the only thing that matters to a woman is ...
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  04/15/18
What does challenge refer to
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  04/15/18
Be one. Don't be too available in the early stages even if h...
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  04/15/18
Jfc shut up you basically want to throw makeup on him and pe...
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  04/15/18
no non religious woman is going to wait until marriage to ha...
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  04/15/18
I think Charles will fail at this because he is basically a ...
razzle multi-billionaire base
  04/15/18
Good to hear man. Some advice from someone who’s been on hun...
excitant brunch
  04/15/18
you've been on a THOUSAND dates? are you including truck st...
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  04/15/18
ok, hundreds.
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  04/15/18
same questions
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There are two problems with your laserlike focus on a chaste...
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  04/15/18
You need to pay for tinder to work. Girls won't match with y...
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  04/15/18
I spend 3 minutes using up my 5 superlikes and I get 1-3 mat...
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Isn't super liking considered cringey/tryhard by most girls?...
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Girls will consider you cringey/tryhard if you're not chad
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  04/15/18
Lolwut this is 100% false
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don't give yourself a chance to love her for god's sake
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Flushed dashing parlour double fault
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C12, Go into DC. Hang out on the Mall or something. Wal...
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Pathetic
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Holy Water test: splash some on the bitch to see whether she...
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xoxo is lulzy on weekends. great thread and a lulzy, lulzy r...
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  04/15/18
just want to wish you luck and note that you're a great poas...
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  04/15/18
I am crafting an OKC because a friend is an enthusiast (met ...
Deranged police squad stock car
  04/15/18
Happy to throw ideas out there. I think--given your goals--y...
Blue Naked Shrine
  04/15/18
Any suggestions as to phrasing, just based on what I've post...
Deranged police squad stock car
  04/15/18
Do you have any weird personal achievements/anecdotes? That ...
Blue Naked Shrine
  04/15/18
I have a lot of interesting work stories but a lot are prett...
Deranged police squad stock car
  04/15/18
you really need to emphasize the religious bit bc all of ...
flatulent persian
  04/15/18
wait you're literally a published author? that's huge.
clear soul-stirring casino philosopher-king
  04/15/18
Only individual pieces, not a book or anything.
Deranged police squad stock car
  04/15/18
Good luck, C12. I don’t have any specific advice, but I gene...
hideous queen of the night corn cake
  04/15/18
Thanks for the suggestions. What makes Hinge stand out? I ha...
Deranged police squad stock car
  04/15/18
really surprised Catholicism is preferred but not required -...
flatulent persian
  04/15/18
The only non-negotiable thing is that kids need to be raised...
Deranged police squad stock car
  04/15/18
you'll need to meet someone pretty young, introverted & ...
flatulent persian
  04/15/18
Yeah, I think any potential spouse is more likely to be Cath...
Deranged police squad stock car
  04/15/18
it seems you've been disheartened by an unfitting dating poo...
flatulent persian
  04/15/18
You keep saying you'll try OKC, maybe Hinge or Coffee meets ...
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Christian Mingle, Catholic Match, or OkC/Match (using religi...
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I'm not sure why the first three wouldn't also be devastatin...
Deranged police squad stock car
  04/16/18
I know guys who didn’t receive a single match on Bumble/Tind...
frisky whorehouse
  04/16/18
You would still get turned down plenty but you would at leas...
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  04/16/18
The no sex before marriage thing is going to be a dealbreake...
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  04/16/18
Your problem is aiming for genetic females. You'll have the ...
cerebral faggot firefighter
  04/16/18
"Has any women EVER expressed interest in you in a sexu...
Deranged police squad stock car
  04/16/18
They can sense that you're afraid of them. The fact that you...
cerebral faggot firefighter
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it is possible you were too awkward and naive to notice it
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Rambunctious doctorate
  04/17/18
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  04/16/18
some limited online dating might be a good idea just to get ...
Flushed dashing parlour double fault
  04/16/18
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Date: April 15th, 2018 3:18 AM
Author: Deranged police squad stock car

I've been nagged by people on-board and IRL to give it a shot for years now. I'm still not really sold on it, but now is the time to make an attempt. I'm finally not a decrepit fatass, my income is out of poverty range, and I'm still in my 20s; I won't be able to start at 35.

Barring a few one-offs, I have never dated at all, so I'm definitely going to need some XO advice to get myself up to speed and avoid common pratfalls. Hence, this thread. Also, I figure content creation will keep me motivated.

The goal: Get into a marriage-track relationship with a quality genetic female prior to age 30 (T-minus 2 1/2 years).

The method: I have long despised the very concept of online dating and I think it poisons people long-term, but I may have no option but to at least try them. A friend has suggested OKC, but I'm open to trying other venues or many at once (especially early on just to get practice). And of course, I'm also willing to try developing organic relationships IRL.

Some core attributes:

Appearance- 5'10, ~160 pounds. Not particularly muscular but improving with a lifting regimen. I am a Norwood 4 and shave my head short. Facial aesthetics average at best.

Values- I practice Catholicism, and would find that preferable in a partner though it's not an absolute requirement. I would prefer to not have sex prior to marriage.

Lifestyle- I'm in journalism and work an unusual schedule. I'm typically free in the morning but work until the late evening on weekdays. Weekends are free. I live in a generic 2-BR apartment in Arlington with a roommate. Currently have no car but this is purely a money-saving choice. If I bought one, it would be very basic and unimpressive.

Income- ~75k base plus some side gigs that get me just above 90k. Family is reasonably well-off but this isn't immediately obvious and I don't get any support from them.

Perceived strengths or advantages:

-My job isn't lucrative, but is more interesting than the standard lawyer/lobbyist/bureaucrat stuff that dominates D.C. I have quite a few interesting stories I can tell.

-I'm probably in better-than-average shape, even for 20-somethings.

-Ivy UG

-I read a ton and am really well-informed on a lot of topics (or at least come off that way)

-It's hit-or-miss, but I spout a lot of XO shit IRL and some people consider me seriously funny, insightful, or at least unusual. My friends often want to introduce me to other people just to see what happens.

Perceived weaknesses:

-I have low self-esteem and while it can be suppressed for a while it inevitably shows. On a related note, I'm pretty "beta" in my personal demeanor by default.

-5'10, bald

-Total inexperience at relationships, with all that entails

-I have some absurdly nerdy pussy-repellent hobbies, in particular tabletop wargaming and retro game collecting (I have a gigantic SNES collection).

-I'm generally a homebody who follows routines; constantly trying out new restaurants or doing random shit like escape rooms every Saturday does not appeal much to me (and the expense of 'going out' so much would irritate me). I do enjoy travel, though, and if I had a car and somebody to go with I could see myself going on lots of short weekend trips to places in the vicinity of D.C.

-No outward signs of wealth.

-Zero fashion sense; I pretty much have to be told directly whether something looks good or looks bad or I won't really know.

I've rambled on long enough. To summarize:

Bros, it's me again. I'm a 27 year old virgin trying to lose his virginity this decade and any tips you could give me would be much appreciated. This is a big step in my life and I don't feel like I can do it without my Internet friends.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35843705)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 3:20 AM
Author: fear-inspiring becky

Is online dating a requirement? No leads through friends or church?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35843707)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 3:23 AM
Author: Deranged police squad stock car

It's not a requirement, but clearly friends or church haven't really led anywhere or I wouldn't be making this thread. I'm happy to pursue IRL opportunities that crop up and they're probably ideal (in the sense that 'organic' relationships >>> Internet box-checking)

Only one friend has ever really tried to set me up with somebody and it just didn't work out either time.

Maybe I'm unlucky but church has never been a great venue for meeting people for me. I've mentioned this before but generally I don't actually hit it off great with Catholic chicks for one reason or another.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35843714)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 3:21 AM
Author: crystalline lay

holy shit

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35843711)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 3:23 AM
Author: vermilion heady piazza



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Date: April 15th, 2018 3:23 AM
Author: Deranged police squad stock car

?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35843715)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 3:33 AM
Author: Rambunctious doctorate



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35843737)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 7:35 AM
Author: Ivory gay wizard



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35843941)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 3:23 AM
Author: clear soul-stirring casino philosopher-king

(1) Be upfront about the fact that you are a good Catholic boy looking for a good Catholic girl. This will weed out people you aren't long term compatible with.

(2) Early in your profile mention that you are trying to read 100 books in 2018, mention how many you've read so far, and namedrop some of the more interesting ones. There are nerdy girls who will find this very alluring.

(3) One of the best ways to show off your sense of humor on OKC is clever captions on your pictures

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35843716)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 12:57 PM
Author: brilliant antidepressant drug set



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35845032)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 3:29 PM
Author: Bateful national

i'd say to only do (3) if people regularly go out of their way to compliment your sense of humor.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35845920)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 7:26 PM
Author: titillating bistre dilemma

Are you serious about the books? Geez, I stopped reading books when I started poasting on Xo. It's been many years, LJL.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35847287)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 3:23 AM
Author: deep multi-colored bawdyhouse

Don’t go into the online dating cesspool.

Target 18-22 Catholicmo-ettes, conservaheroines. Get them talking about. themselves. ywia!

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35843717)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 3:25 AM
Author: clear soul-stirring casino philosopher-king

Terrible advice - he needs to meet a high volume of chicks and can only do that online

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35843718)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 3:26 AM
Author: razzle multi-billionaire base



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35843720)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 3:26 AM
Author: deep multi-colored bawdyhouse

Flame.

Unless he tries an east european dating site.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35843721)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 3:26 AM
Author: Deranged police squad stock car

This is why I created this thread. I literally have no idea how to go about doing this and I suspect any effort to do so will simply end in failure and potentially humiliation.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35843722)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 3:29 AM
Author: deep multi-colored bawdyhouse

You think too much. The girls that you’d be into are even more insecure than you are.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35843729)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 3:34 AM
Author: Rambunctious doctorate



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35843739)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 3:35 AM
Author: Deranged police squad stock car

Elaborate on this. I am truly clueless.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35843740)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 3:40 AM
Author: deep multi-colored bawdyhouse

If you talk to a girl that shares some key similarities to you ... Roman Catholic, conservative, reading/writing ... and you find her attractive ... and she doesn’t mention her “boyfriend” within the first 2 minutes of talking ... you need to make the move. She won’t.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35843746)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 5:27 PM
Author: Mahogany son of senegal therapy

This is tough but solid advice.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35846574)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 4:54 AM
Author: walnut sanctuary incel

Women are insanely insecure. You can't understand until you live with one.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35843812)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 8:31 AM
Author: zippy lodge wrinkle

Men are more insecure than women are.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35844028)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 11:19 AM
Author: walnut sanctuary incel

In general?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35844541)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 9:36 AM
Author: Cracking Cruise Ship

What's potential is the failure. The humiliation is certain.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35844165)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 12:58 PM
Author: brilliant antidepressant drug set



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35845037)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 3:29 AM
Author: pungent mother den

18 year olds swooning over bookish beta man approaching thirty.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35843728)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 3:30 AM
Author: Deranged police squad stock car



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35843731)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 3:35 AM
Author: razzle multi-billionaire base

Develop a new passion for a culture/country where catholicism is still relevant and then just start chatting their girls up. Learn the language. Brazilians/flips are extremely friendly and won't realize you're an autismo until they're in too deep

Avoid white girls like they're carrying a disfiguring disease. Do not get mixed up with E. Euro girls

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35843741)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 3:38 AM
Author: vermilion heady piazza

describe flaws in e europe girls

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35843743)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 3:45 AM
Author: razzle multi-billionaire base

They are extremely racist so girls will only marry out of their group if they are genuine libs or if they are really materialistic. He will only get the greedy ones.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35843750)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 3:49 AM
Author: vermilion heady piazza

they are racist against western white men? i don't think so.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35843756)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 3:55 AM
Author: razzle multi-billionaire base

You're thinking of the greedy ones and yeah they will come to really dislike his family, his brand of catholicism, the fact that he doesn't want to just do everything in Polish etc

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35843762)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 3:56 AM
Author: vermilion heady piazza



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35843766)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 7:26 AM
Author: Buff hyperactive puppy

all polish women love bbc (big british cock)

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2433654/Polish-women-UK-promiscuous-new-study-shows.html

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35843933)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 3:57 AM
Author: Rambunctious doctorate

this is ungodly stupid

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35843767)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 3:40 AM
Author: Unhinged razzle-dazzle state

I think Charles would only date a white woman

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35843747)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 3:55 AM
Author: Exciting bearded dysfunction

Charles should reconsider that

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35843763)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 3:58 AM
Author: Unhinged razzle-dazzle state

Why? What's wrong with wanting to create white children?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35843769)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 4:00 AM
Author: Exciting bearded dysfunction

nothing at all

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35843770)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 4:42 AM
Author: Wine market

pretty sure this isn't true.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35843800)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 7:03 PM
Author: Unhinged razzle-dazzle state

he refuses to respond to it, which means it probably is true

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35847130)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 9:31 PM
Author: Deranged police squad stock car

I'm more attracted to white women and I think I relate better to them on average, but it's not a requirement in itself.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35848137)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 3:05 PM
Author: 180 smoky dopamine background story

as an american living abroad, great point about foreign girls. being a white man is a huge plus to most women around the world, especially asians. filipinas are desperate to have a relationship with any white man.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35845772)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 4:38 AM
Author: crystalline lay

Some thoughts...

Hair - What remaining follicles you do have need to be kept short. Regularly buzz it with a #2 or thereabouts.

Glasses - I know it might be at odds with your bookworm image, but have you considered contacts? Almost nobody looks better in glasses.

Wardrobe - This could be a megathread on its own but see these Reddit threads for a starter:

https://www.reddit.com/r/malefashionadvice/comments/5da1dc/the_basic_bastard_basic_wardrobe_and_inspiration/

https://www.reddit.com/r/malefashionadvice/comments/5da1xt/building_a_basic_wardrobe_v60/

To be successful at online dating, you need good photos. Do you know anybody with a good camera?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35843795)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 8:11 AM
Author: cream library

Sorry... I basically said the same thing below without reading this poast.

Agree 100%

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35843993)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 6:48 PM
Author: hideous queen of the night corn cake

CharlesXII, I think you would look good in some tortoiseshell horn-rimmed style glasses. At the very least, you could add them to the rotation at a fairly low cost. I think Warby Parker frames, which probably aren’t hip anymore if they ever even were, are $95. That’s a small price for an experiment that could have a significant effect on your appearance.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35847051)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 4:50 AM
Author: walnut sanctuary incel

I met my wife off OKC. I am a Midwestern trumpmo, and I met her in a coastal town. Life isn't perfect, but I don't regret it.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35843807)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 5:05 AM
Author: Passionate mental disorder digit ratio

Have you considered butt sex with men?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35843822)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 5:26 AM
Author: Yapping snowy candlestick maker trailer park

I'd rather recommend heterosexual anal buttsex in the ass with men, but to each his own I guess

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35843845)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 5:56 AM
Author: peach swashbuckling chapel

try okc or match, id avoid the swipe apps. i mean you can use them for lulz and practice, but i think youve got a story and its important the girl vibes with it, which isnt really that compatible with tinder and shit

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35843862)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 7:01 AM
Author: cream library

I've said it before, but I'll say it again. Start watching some Corey Wayne videos now, so you don't shoot yourself in the foot right out of the gate.

It would be particularly useful for someone such as yourself. It's mostly common sense and will prevent you from making some stupid mistakes.

One more thing, you can't let rejection affect you. This is a difficult concept for a lot of dudes to comprehend, but you need to accept rejection early on. It's no big deal and eventually, you'll find someone you click with. It really is a numbers game. The more you practice, the better you'll get.

I'll be rooting for you, you would be a great catch for a like minded morally grounded catholic chick.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35843895)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 7:27 AM
Author: clear soul-stirring casino philosopher-king

To me, #1 reason chuck 12 needs to go online is to get used to rejection. he needs to experience rejection dozens of girls at a time so he gets used to it.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35843934)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 7:54 AM
Author: Dark Business Firm Wagecucks

cr to put it in CXII terms it's like an rpg, you have to level up by grinding out some easy enemies before you take on a hard challenge.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35843959)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 1:00 PM
Author: brilliant antidepressant drug set



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35845050)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 8:01 AM
Author: cream library

I agree.

It's amazing how many of my sexless friends are mortified by rejection. I'm thinking of one in particular.

I remember when I was in high school selling newspaper subscriptions door-to-door, and the first few times I was rejected I was demoralized. I kept at it though (it was the only job I could find in the winter as a 16 year old). After like 100 rejections, I really didn't care anymore. I was just doing my job. Ever since, rejection has never really bothered me, particularly by women. I've found there are more than enough positive reactions to make the many, many negative ones insignificant. Alcohol certainly helps, but isn't necessary. I honestly think that stupid job was an essential building block in my, sometimes immoral, foundation.

I have a feeling, this will be Chucks largest hurdle, but if he persists, he'll do just fine. He also needs to learn how to feign confidence with a casual IDGAF attitude. With time he can master it.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35843973)



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Date: April 16th, 2018 4:59 PM
Author: frisky whorehouse



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35853385)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 7:19 AM
Author: Useless Windowlicker

You really need to learn how to dress well. Dressing like a dork is devastating and makes people embarrassed to be around you. There's an art to it, if you go too far into 'high fashion' you will look ridiculous and tryhard, but if you go the 'Dad shopping at Marshall's' route then it's all over.

You should try to project a cooler image than your current virginal Catholic nerd one. I don't know if this is possible - what mainstream and countercultural society regards as cool is so far removed from a Catholic saving himself for marriage. Maybe you can be one of those tough broody Catholics like Damien Karras? Anyway, it's going to be hard to generate real attraction in a partner unless you do something about that, and if she was never attracted in the first place then you will make your life miserable by getting involved with her.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35843924)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 7:30 AM
Author: clear soul-stirring casino philosopher-king

how does Ross Douthat dress? I'm a dad who shops at Marshalls and Ross Douthat seems to dress like I do. Ross Douthat is like a more successful CharlesXII, why shouldn't Charles model himself on Ross?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35843938)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 7:42 AM
Author: Useless Windowlicker

Well, I thought his goal was to meet a girl or something, not to be Ross Douthat.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35843946)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 7:51 AM
Author: clear soul-stirring casino philosopher-king

I'm sure Ross Douthat gets plenty of female attention

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35843956)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 7:53 AM
Author: Dark Business Firm Wagecucks

this can't be

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35843958)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 7:59 AM
Author: Rambunctious doctorate

RD with one of his groupies

http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-pgDmGt9G1kI/TwsttuJaitI/AAAAAAAAAO0/4Z4Ytz1sf8k/s1600/ross+douthat.jpeg

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35843965)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 8:00 AM
Author: Dark Business Firm Wagecucks

he's downright Yglesian

https://www.catholicnewsagency.com/news/commentators-douthat-and-faggioli-to-debate-pope-francis-83699

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35843969)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 8:03 AM
Author: Rambunctious doctorate

his wife is better looking than he

https://static01.nyt.com/images/2007/09/21/fashion/weddings/23DOUTHAT-190.jpg

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35843977)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 8:05 AM
Author: Dark Business Firm Wagecucks

cr Charles should cuck Douthat. He's got everything Douthat's got, but ten years younger. Plus imagine the street cred that would give him in DC Catholic intellectual circles

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35843981)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 8:06 AM
Author: Rambunctious doctorate

I’m in fully engorged agreement with you

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35843983)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 8:09 AM
Author: clear soul-stirring casino philosopher-king



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35843992)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 11:29 AM
Author: judgmental locale

Faggioli is right

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35844585)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 7:59 AM
Author: clear soul-stirring casino philosopher-king

But if there ARE women who love Ross Douthat, that's gotta be Charles's top target.

Charles knows Ross Douthat in person right? He might want to follow him around and take his cast-off groupies.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35843968)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 8:00 AM
Author: Dark Business Firm Wagecucks

no

no no no

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35843970)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 8:08 AM
Author: cream library

I agree with this as well. Based on the pictures I've seen, he needs an overhaul.

Not like I have any sense of style, but I dress comfortably and I don't think I look like a dweeb.

A huge step for Chuck would be not tucking in his shirt for starters... even on a date. I think he wears an outdated sort of glasses frame too (IIRC). He should try and get some new frames... well outside of his comfort zone, or go with contacts.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35843986)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 8:49 AM
Author: Dark Business Firm Wagecucks

IIRC he's shed some lbs. since then. That should help. He probably needs to buy smaller clothes though - nothing Says "I don't date" more clearly than baggy clothes hanging off a guy

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35844058)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 10:03 AM
Author: Deranged police squad stock car

I did actually reboot my wardrobe a few months ago for this exact reason. It's improved now but could certainly still be better.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35844261)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 1:16 PM
Author: Useless Windowlicker

If you aren't fat get some tailored dark wash jeans and high quality blue and white Oxford buttondowns. Don't wear dorky "hiking" sneakers or anything gay like that. Keep it simple but pay attention to how everything fits

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35845105)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 7:39 AM
Author: sickened public bath

Try joining a book club (like one of the ones at politics and prose or something). They are full of single women, some of whom will appreciate your erudite nature. Also might be fun.



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35843945)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 7:48 AM
Author: Rambunctious doctorate

Lmao, P&P is filled to the brim with rancid shitlibs

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35843951)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 7:43 AM
Author: Ivory gay wizard

Didn't OP do that gay ass dating column thing you fags are obsessed with?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35843947)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 7:48 AM
Author: Rambunctious doctorate

yup, and he crushed it, but he has no follow through

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35843954)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 7:52 AM
Author: clear soul-stirring casino philosopher-king

I don't think he's ever mentioned participating in a dating column

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35843957)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 7:56 AM
Author: Ivory gay wizard

I don't know if he confirmed, but I think it's 99% doobs confirmed.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35843960)



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Date: April 16th, 2018 1:47 PM
Author: Flushed dashing parlour double fault

stfu fag

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35851734)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 10:04 AM
Author: Deranged police squad stock car

?

I've never posted about anything like that.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35844262)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 10:34 AM
Author: Ivory gay wizard

good luck in your pursuits. should make for some good content.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35844389)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 10:12 AM
Author: arousing disrespectful athletic conference

Woah there, nothing like that ever happened. You must be mixing this up with some other chatblog.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35844291)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 8:07 AM
Author: Disturbing Native

I’m going to oversimplify it.

You need a combination of finding a good person (not going to be the perfect person), be willing to accept flaws, & not self-sabotage because she doesn’t hit every checklist. No one does; you won’t for her, either.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35843984)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 8:09 AM
Author: cream library



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35843987)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 9:16 AM
Author: arousing disrespectful athletic conference

CR.

Maybe one in a million will find something we could whimsically call a soulmate. For everybody else, the best case scenario is settling for somebody who is settling for you.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35844111)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 8:15 AM
Author: magical bonkers office

Consider meetup.com events. Find ones that interest you that will appeal to a mix of men and women. Go to them. Meet women.

This is a way to use the internet to make a connection with multiple women, yet allow you the opportunity to meet said women organically.

This is not a fast-moving method, however. It’s a slow play, but you’ll at least know from the outset 1) that you have something in common to talk about and 2) that she’s more than some Tindr camwhore just looking for her next guy.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35843997)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 8:33 AM
Author: Cruel-hearted party of the first part place of business



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35844034)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 3:37 PM
Author: 180 smoky dopamine background story

This is a really fucking excellent idea. There are so many of these groups in DC. And they are mostly just people meeting up in bars or cafes and talking about stuff they find interesting.

Also, events put on by organizations generally (museum events, cultural groups such as Goethe Institut, etc is what I would recommend for normal people... for this guy I have no idea, but probably groups aligned with his individual interests would be better)

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35845970)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 9:41 PM
Author: magical bonkers office

ty brother

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35848211)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 9:46 PM
Author: Deranged police squad stock car

Ty for this. I've been trying to do more church stuff in the last few months for a similar purpose. Was just at one tonight actually.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35848240)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 10:03 PM
Author: flatulent persian

cr

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35848344)



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Date: April 16th, 2018 1:51 AM
Author: Ungodly greedy gas station

I tried that and it seemed like a waste of time. Nobody was dating. Think about it, it's shitty for the exact same reason trying to date someone in your 1L section would be shitty.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35849479)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 8:15 AM
Author: spruce hell community account

ChristianMingle bro

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35843998)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 9:15 AM
Author: arousing disrespectful athletic conference

You'll get in everywhere you apply.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35844109)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 9:30 AM
Author: rusted principal's office

Do not date girls who work in DC. Get a car (any kind will do) and plan to date teachers or the like from deep in Fairfax.

Younger DC girls will not be forgiving of your looks. Possibly if you had a superior income of 200+ or more but for 75 you won’t receive any pass on that. You will also have a hard time from them due to your political leaning and even residence. There is a notion among superlibs that VA and even Arlington is gun haven KKK land or something.

If you date outside the city you’ll find more conservative types, girls who still live at home, girls who are happy to go to cheaper less pretentious restaurant options like Olive Garden, and girls who will be more impressed by your 75k year high profile job.

The best hope in DC would be Glover Park or North Arlington girls, but the former is looking for big income and family money and the latter is looking for frat stars. Even if you dip into the ballston or south Arlington crowd they are dreaming of some kind of biglaw dood and fancy dinners in DC that you don’t want to deal with. Just throw down $12k on a used accord and consider it the cost of doing business. Your initial results online should give credence to my theory. Toss out a few flyers to quirky Centerville chicks and see what happens.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35844154)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 9:38 AM
Author: glassy alcoholic university immigrant

I think this is 100% correct

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35844170)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 9:43 AM
Author: Dark Business Firm Wagecucks

Car is a necessary first step

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35844182)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 3:41 PM
Author: 180 smoky dopamine background story

Excellent advice in this thread. I know DC very well... you seem to know DC very well as well.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35845992)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 4:55 PM
Author: Bateful national



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35846355)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 5:42 PM
Author: Mahogany son of senegal therapy

Teachers are great advice. How about Catholic-school teachers?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35846674)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 7:11 PM
Author: excitant brunch



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35847182)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 9:52 AM
Author: exhilarant erotic range

180

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35844211)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 10:10 AM
Author: Pea-brained brethren

Your appeal is sort of niche, use your irl network to prequalify your market

Have them help you turn cold leads into warm leads

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Explicitly ask your irl couple friends for their help

Irl friends who are in long term relationships that you suspect aren't terrible, butter them up, tell them that it seems like to you they have a really good relationship, you would love to be in a relationship like theirs, if they have any female friends who are single who they think you might hit it off with, you would appreciate the introduction...

In general, girls in relationships tend to like setting up their single friends, but you might have to iterate this process more than once.

If they seem interested, you can try to prequalify what your looking for a little, but don't go crazy, give them a chance of actually knowing someone who might be a good match

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More generally, anyone they set you up with, keep an open mind to, and give a generous chance to, don't write them off as XO stereotypes, if they express an interest in travel, or mention having ever been to brunch, or express an interest in post-graduate education, just roll with it for a while, see the good in people.

Don't pattern match people you don't know against people you've had poor experiences in the past with.

Accept that people aren't perfect.

Accept that you might have to sell your worldview a bit to find a mate who shares your worldview.

Accept that that is unlikely to be a 1 date process.

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Good luck, I'm rooting for you, I believe that a world in which you've found someone to treat well, who treats you well, is a better one than we currently live in.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35844282)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 12:45 PM
Author: Self-centered prole pisswyrm

The first part of this is the best advice in this thread.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35844956)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 12:47 PM
Author: clear soul-stirring casino philosopher-king

organic is not the right approach for chuck. he needs lots of practice and a lot of exposure to rejection (so he can get over fear of rejection) and he can only get that kind of volume online

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35844966)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 12:54 PM
Author: Self-centered prole pisswyrm

What makes you think he has a fear of rejection? He has very low T and very low interest in women in general. He is unattractive without great money, religious with a niche personality. His social circle knows him and if he asks for dates through them, they would prescreen for good girls that aren't money hungry and don't care about looks. Going through the online whore market really isn't going to get him where he wants to be.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35845012)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 1:11 PM
Author: Deranged police squad stock car

My social circle has frankly been a huge disappointment as far as potential dates go. Only one person has so much as helped arrange a conversation with somebody; sadly those people simply turned out to not be a good match.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35845085)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 2:39 PM
Author: Pea-brained brethren

Sorry to hear that, how explicitly have you asked your social network for help? The older you get the more success you might have with this ask, the more people take themselves out of the mating market, the more their willing to help others out,

Like all networking, people like to help people who will make them look good, the further your career progresses, the more success you're likely to have getting your network to help you on this manner,

If you feel you've sufficiently queried your social network, consider taking steps to expand your network, you probably need to know someone pretty well to make that ask, but you might get a lot of mileage out of some pretty weak ties (use your judgment)

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35845621)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 5:44 PM
Author: Pea-brained brethren

He doesn't need to "get good at dating", he needs to take enough at bats to find someone who'll look past the fact that he's not particularly good at dating

Then he needs to be good at being in a relationship, which he probably will be already, and which going on a high volume of app dates won't help him with

(I don't think he should rule out explicitly religious dating sites), I just think he have better luck breaking past the first date wall having his irl friends give him a warm intro and explaining why the should give him a shot even if his first 10 minute impression doesn't blow them away

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35846693)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 10:11 AM
Author: trip amethyst crackhouse generalized bond

Highly suggest you avoid swipe apps and check out eHarmony, and match.com. I haven't used them tbh but they aren't filled with girls who are looking for only hookups because they are pay sites. And maybe OKcupid, at least you can do a lot of filtering first.

See if there are catholic dating sites out there too. It is hard to overstate how put off you will likely be by Tinder, and how put off many of those women will be by you.

If you are only attracted to women your own race thats fine but as you know there are catholic minority women who may share a similar worldview to you.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35844285)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 10:14 AM
Author: arousing disrespectful athletic conference

Re: The last one, is international marriage/Filipina women an option? The modal woman from the Philippines is hot and even more Catholic than you are.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35844298)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 10:19 AM
Author: trip amethyst crackhouse generalized bond

I agree but importing one I do think is a bad idea because their motivation will simply be citizenship. That's for any country not just Philippines. There are plenty already here who have conservative worldviews, strong work ethics, family oriented, that would be happy to meet a guy like him.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35844320)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 11:23 AM
Author: arousing disrespectful athletic conference

Idk brother, there are definitely tales of men getting fucked over by imported brides. But you can also get fucked over by native women too. I'm just saying don't rule it out.

I haven't looked into how much a man can insulate himself/enforce a prenup against a foreign bride if worse comes to worse, but I do understand there are immigration consequences (you're responsible for making sure she doesn't become a public charge) so that is something to seriously consider. But a lot of the men looking into this are probably really sleazy and a good dude CatholicMo would probably stand out among the crowd.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35844554)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 11:32 AM
Author: Rambunctious doctorate

a decent Filipina could easily be in a loyal relationship with a dorky white provided she’s able to take care of her family back home (i.e. send back like $700-800 a month). you could say it’s abouy money but it doesn’t necessarily have to feel like that to the guy

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35844591)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 11:40 AM
Author: arousing disrespectful athletic conference

CR.

GDP per capita in the Phillipines is like $3K. Even lawfags like us are basically millionaires to them. Sending $800 home a month is the same as a chick from ARE COUNTRY hooking up with a millionaire who hooks her family up with $100K a year.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35844625)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 10:19 AM
Author: kink-friendly vigorous rigpig forum

LJL, no girl is going to want anything to do with you. Bald incel freak

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35844321)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 10:25 AM
Author: Deranged police squad stock car

Likely CR and this has always been my assumption but we may as well give it a shot just in case. I'm not getting any better.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35844353)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 11:29 AM
Author: Wine market

lmao at singling out THIS post to reply to. c'mon dude

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35844581)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 11:34 AM
Author: Rambunctious doctorate

CR

Charles can’t be helped if he’s drawn to the negative side. motherfucker needs to say YOLO and fuck the haters. would a Knight in the crusades listen to some pumo fag who said “you’ll never get Iberia back, let the Muslims be”

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35844594)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 1:44 PM
Author: sickened public bath

This is exactly the wrong attitude to have. Women are attracted to confidence, and repulsed by insecurity or guys who don’t think they are worth their time.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35845243)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 10:25 AM
Author: Beady-eyed purple cuck elastic band

In general:

Be yourself

Don’t be picky re: looks

Realize nothing is personal and don’t get hung up on the outcome of any date and try to have fun, if it doesn’t work with a girl it takes two to tango and you guys were just incompatible etc etc

In particular:

Don’t be afraid to disagree with a girl when she says stuff (get good at disagreeing in a way that makes you seem surprised she thinks whatever she does, but also interested in why she thinks so — this might be easier for attractive people but it’s important to be authentic in your interactions with people and that includes being able to have conversations on things you disagree on.) Be good at pivoting from disagreements to new topics, though, so that conversation doesn’t get stuck.

Be calm during dates. smile and try to find humor in her jokes

Don’t be afraid to make physical contact with her if you get positive signs.

Don’t be afraid to play kiss/eat her if y’all are drinking and she gives you very positive signs

MAKE EYE CONTACT

MAKE EYE CONTACT

MAKE EYE CONTACT WHEN SHE TALKS, you DONT need to make as much eye contact while you’re talking. (Don’t know how aspie you are)

If I think of more I will poast

Edit: dress nice dude. Slacks, either dress shirt or t shirt depending on your cibe. If dress shirt then nicer slacks, nice shoes and belt. If t shirt then more like khakis, and not nice shoes (and definitely not running shoes) but some flat soled street shoes like skate shoes. Wear nice sweaters in winter, wear nice shorts (end above knee, NOT cargo shorts) in summer. Colors include khaki, blue, pink ok if you’re crafty.

Get better at taking life a little less seriously (if you’re a serious guy)

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35844351)



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Date: April 16th, 2018 1:55 AM
Author: Ungodly greedy gas station

Charles "play eating" his bewildered 4/10 shrew date is a 180 visual

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35849486)



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Date: April 16th, 2018 2:03 AM
Author: Deranged police squad stock car



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35849497)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 10:34 AM
Author: Godawful idea he suggested

Guys give so much conflicting advice about dating, and they give it with 100% certainty. Understand that some advice can be true in some situations, and other advice in others. You have to develop an intuition for which is which, and that takes time. Take everything that you hear with a grain of salt.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35844386)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 11:57 AM
Author: Crawly orchid heaven old irish cottage

In what situations is this true?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35844709)



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Date: April 16th, 2018 1:49 PM
Author: Flushed dashing parlour double fault

just gotta get your reps in

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35851753)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 11:49 AM
Author: frisky whorehouse

I would look into Catholicmatch, you are much more likely to find someone on there that fits your unique requirements. Bumble/Match are you second best options. I would work hard in the gym to get more muscular, get some decent clothes that fit for dates, be open minded and don’t take rejection too hard. I think your career has a coolness factor you can play up and will make you stand out.

https://www.catholicmatch.com

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35844678)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 11:54 AM
Author: Crawly orchid heaven old irish cottage

settle for a smart homely girl or you're gonna drive the CRV of women for the rest of your life

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35844704)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 11:57 AM
Author: rough-skinned mildly autistic church

You will regret this

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35844711)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 12:05 PM
Author: plum fragrant trump supporter

having a car, dating apps, wardrobe -- who cares about any of this.

you mentioned in passing that you have low self-esteem. have you given thought to why this is, and how it might affect your relationships?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35844757)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 12:27 PM
Author: Deranged police squad stock car

I have always had low self-esteem regardless of life circumstances so it's hard for me to say what would cause it. It could just be my default outlook.

I suppose it's gotten worse since college or so, where I was mocked rather frequently behind my back and only found out later. As such I generally operate on the assumption that people dislike me and do not like spending time with me. This makes me shy around new aquaintances and I'm rarely one to propose doing things with other people.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35844878)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 12:35 PM
Author: Thriller olive field

I had a similar attitude. After trying to be "friends" with everyone, I steadily withdrew more and more, and disliked the social events I went to. Then, by just being myself and doing what I wanted and asking people to do what I wanted, it was actually fairly quick that people would sort themselves out -- the many who weren't interested fell off my radar, and the few who were interested became my best friends. I like the idea of just being yourself (at least outside the professional realm), and others either like or don't like it.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35844919)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 12:32 PM
Author: kink-friendly vigorous rigpig forum

Isn’t it obvious? He’s bald and ugly. Some people have low self esteem for a good reason

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35844906)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 12:37 PM
Author: Thriller olive field

Plenty of ugly/short/dweebish/introverted people have a great time in life though. Knowing your social capital is low doesn't mean your self esteem has to be low. There's a reason they have their own social ecosystems.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35844927)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 12:38 PM
Author: kink-friendly vigorous rigpig forum

They should not reproduce.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35844932)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 12:47 PM
Author: Thriller olive field

enjoy stormfront

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35844965)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 12:46 PM
Author: Deranged police squad stock car

I don't hate my life at all. I just have low self-esteem.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35844963)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 6:00 PM
Author: cordovan area boiling water

reminder: this is actually JJC

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35846790)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 12:58 PM
Author: indigo church building dog poop

i appreciate the poasters trying to give him advice but this thread is toxic as fuck

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35845041)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 1:00 PM
Author: Self-centered prole pisswyrm

"Go out and get rejected by lots of GC tinder whores; that will improve your confidence!"

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35845051)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 1:12 PM
Author: Deranged police squad stock car

As far as I can tell that's because dating itself is toxic and horrible.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35845092)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 2:05 PM
Author: crystalline lay

How exactly is it toxic? I mean, there are a couple unhinged people taking shots at him, but that's nothing new for XO.

As far as the actual advice goes, all of it is credited to a certain extent. There's tips on how he can improve his appearance; that advice isn't toxic at all, it's a fact of life that you need to put your best foot forward.

As for strategy, yes, there is a lot of highly conflicting advice. However, you can distill those disparate approaches into one concrete truth: he needs to be doing *something*. It's too easy to get intimidated by how difficult the task is that he's facing and choose to not do anything (like he has for years now).

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35845372)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 2:06 PM
Author: arousing disrespectful athletic conference

The dating market is toxic as fuck. We just happen to live ini t.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35845375)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 1:09 PM
Author: Exciting bearded dysfunction

Serious response: the only thing that matters to a woman is if she finds you attractive. There are 3 characteristics you need to exude for a woman to find you attractive. Confidence. Control. Challenge. Be those 3 things and you can attract any woman you want.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35845076)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 1:10 PM
Author: kink-friendly vigorous rigpig forum

What does challenge refer to

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35845079)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 1:12 PM
Author: Exciting bearded dysfunction

Be one. Don't be too available in the early stages even if he really enjoys her company. Don't put her on a pedestal ever. This should be easiest of the 3 for Charles because he has a really cool job and is a very busy man. That's automatic social validation.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35845094)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 1:10 PM
Author: Self-centered prole pisswyrm

Jfc shut up you basically want to throw makeup on him and peacock him like the mystery method

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35845082)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 1:41 PM
Author: nighttime hairraiser haunted graveyard tattoo

no non religious woman is going to wait until marriage to have sex.

Honestly, the no sex thing is your biggest disadvantage.

You might as well just get on some Christian dating app.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35845214)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 1:45 PM
Author: razzle multi-billionaire base

I think Charles will fail at this because he is basically a shrew. Fetishizes lifestyle such as to eclipse the possibility of relating deeply to different kinds of people. Fatally he also has his own fantasy life related to relationships - My Catholic Marriage, My Chaste Wife, My Domestic Idyll. To the extent that stuff exists, it's in a context of genuine reciprocity and humility, which is foreclosed by Charles's religiously/ideologically inflected yuppie consumerism

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35845244)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 1:58 PM
Author: excitant brunch

Good to hear man. Some advice from someone who’s been on hundreds of dates:

General: almost all dating is incredibly superficial. You need to mentally prepare for that, and not use it as an excuse to give up. Remember, you find one great girl and you don’t have to do it anymore. I wouldn’t recommend online dating for you, it’s basically hookup culture and it doesn’t play to your strengths. If you must, try something like match or okc.

I think you should target places where you know you will find a girl with your values/interests. Churches, libraries, or socio-cultural clubs/events. Have you ever thought of joining a book club? You might fucking pwn that scene, dude.

Also, you cant let xo toxicity ruin things for you. Approach dating like an opportunity to try new things and venture outside of your comfort zone. It can be very fun and rewarding.

Style:

Your body is above average so you should wear good clothes that fit you.

https://dappered.com/2014/03/3-key-pieces-of-advice-for-guys-just-getting-into-style/

http://i.imgur.com/3JInmni.png



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35845340)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 3:15 PM
Author: frozen appetizing hall

you've been on a THOUSAND dates? are you including truck stop encounters, or are you just that bad at keeping women around after the first time?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35845825)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 3:20 PM
Author: excitant brunch

ok, hundreds.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35845867)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 3:35 PM
Author: frozen appetizing hall

same questions

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35845958)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 3:10 PM
Author: crystalline lay

There are two problems with your laserlike focus on a chaste Catholic girl. The obvious problem is that those types are somewhat rare. The second part is that even if you were to find yourself on a date with a girl that checks off all your boxes, you are so out of practice with dating that you're likely not going to make a good first impression on a first date.

I think you ought to date some women that *don't* check off all your boxes simply to gain practice in going on dates. Gaining comfortability in things like having flirtatious conversations, physical escalation, etc., would be beneficial for you. I know you don't want to have sex before marriage, but would it really be that big of a deal for you to have makeout sessions with lapsed Protestant girls?

App dating is awful, but it may yield some valuable practice for you if you're able to maintain a healthy mentality toward it.

There are some tools for Tinder that claim to be able to let you auto-swipe on girls. I've never tried this and I have no idea how well it works, but I can't help but think that it might help in keeping a healthy attitude toward Tinder. It's very taxing to manually swipe on hundreds of girls just to get a couple of matches. Automating the process could theoretically help a lot.

https://chrome.google.com/webstore/search/tinder

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35845800)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 3:19 PM
Author: razzle multi-billionaire base

You need to pay for tinder to work. Girls won't match with you unless you "super like" (the premium version of the right swipe) because the free right swipes put you at the bottom of a pile of 10000+ matches. But if you are superliking you will have a good ratio.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35845859)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 3:40 PM
Author: crystalline lay

There's no doubt that it works a lot better when you pay for premium & engage with the app to maximize the effectiveness of your superlikes, but that means spending hours a week doing judicious swiping. That's a pretty exhausting task for him when there are incredibly few chaste Catholic girls on there.

I'm suggesting a near-zero effort approach to get a handful of dates with some 3s and 4s that he wouldn't really want a relationship with anyway.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35845986)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 3:59 PM
Author: razzle multi-billionaire base

I spend 3 minutes using up my 5 superlikes and I get 1-3 matches per day as a result

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35846099)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 4:53 PM
Author: Puce potus abode

Isn't super liking considered cringey/tryhard by most girls? Just overly aggressive

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35846347)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 4:59 PM
Author: razzle multi-billionaire base

Girls will consider you cringey/tryhard if you're not chad

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35846389)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 7:34 PM
Author: Puce potus abode

fuck

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35847348)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 5:09 PM
Author: curious hominid temple

Lolwut this is 100% false

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35846448)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 3:17 PM
Author: Histrionic rehab

don't give yourself a chance to love her for god's sake

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35845842)



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Date: April 16th, 2018 1:55 PM
Author: frisky whorehouse



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35851808)



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Date: April 16th, 2018 1:57 PM
Author: Flushed dashing parlour double fault



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35851820)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 3:28 PM
Author: frozen appetizing hall

C12,

Go into DC. Hang out on the Mall or something. Walk up to every girl you see and talk to her. Most will be uninterested. The more they reject you the better off you are. Tell them stupid shit. Make up stuff about Civil/Revolutionary War battles and generals and shit that didn't happen. Doesn't matter. They're probably clueless tourists anyway.

"Hey, you know you're standing right on a lesser-known historical landmark? Yeah, Nathaniel Greene gathered his troops here to address them before the British siege. Except Greene had a bad case of the flu, as did half his troops. He had this famous speech he liked to give. You've heard the line death before dishonor? Yeah, Greene came up with that.

Anyway, he works himself into a frenzy, and right as he's screaming "DISHON- "BLEECHCCHH!!!" he projectile vomits right onto the head of the horse he's riding. Two things happen. One, the horse throws him and bolts right into the troops. Two, half the men in the front lines start vomiting themselves sympathetically. Which causes the men behind them to vomit, etc. Unfortunately, other horses in the vicinity also panic as a result of the confusion. Long story short, the horses trample twenty-eight soldiers to death and sixty more are injured literally slipping on puke getting out of the way. It's the biggest pre-battle casualty event in American military history, and it came to be known as the Georgetown Incident. By the way, you're cute. I'm Charles."

Once you do this about 12000 times you'll be able to talk to any girl that comes across your path. Profit.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35845913)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 7:54 PM
Author: Crawly orchid heaven old irish cottage

Pathetic

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35847457)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 4:54 PM
Author: Transparent Crotch Tanning Salon

Holy Water test: splash some on the bitch to see whether she sizzles

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35846352)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 7:05 PM
Author: autistic talented corner roommate

xoxo is lulzy on weekends. great thread and a lulzy, lulzy reminder of how much the board has changed since 2007

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35847141)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 7:06 PM
Author: stimulating house reading party

just want to wish you luck and note that you're a great poaster & boart treasure.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35847151)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 7:14 PM
Author: henna indian lodge coldplay fan

Dating is largely based on a points system. If you are 4, you should target 3-5.

Dating is also, outside of internet dating, based almost exclusively on social interaction and familiarity aka social circle.

So, what I would do is go to an event where you are “part of the crowd.” You said church does not work, try college alumni events (any ivy will have them in DC) or political events. Hell, go to anti-abortion rallies. Something that (1) you will be part of the social circle and (2) the type of woman you are after will be present.

Then, talk to people. Start out just having conversations. Have a couple drinks to loosen yourself up. Don’t go into it looking for a wife (or even a date) just to practice talking to women. Keep the conversation light. Don’t tell your a virgin. If one seems interested (remember target 3-5 range women) then ask her for her number and try a date.

Another angle is through friends. Everyone knows someone. Ask them if they know any single women.

Go out to a bar (choose one that would have someone you are looking for — I mean are there locals type Irish bars in DC with lots of Catholics).

Or just do Christian mingle/eharmony and you will find someone fairly quickly. You are very unusual as a 27 year old male virgin looking for marriage and there are more women in your market than men.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35847208)



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Date: April 16th, 2018 1:51 PM
Author: Flushed dashing parlour double fault

180 suggesting him to go to anti-abortion rallies to meet chicks

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35851773)



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Date: April 16th, 2018 6:19 PM
Author: Charcoal Bbw



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35853966)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 7:19 PM
Author: Blue Naked Shrine

Can we crowdsource draft any dating app/site profiles you might have?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35847240)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 9:23 PM
Author: Deranged police squad stock car

I am crafting an OKC because a friend is an enthusiast (met his wife on it). I'm happy to take suggestions on how to work profiles in various venues.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35848066)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 9:47 PM
Author: Blue Naked Shrine

Happy to throw ideas out there. I think--given your goals--your profile should be more or less repellent to 98% of women, with the hope of catching something in the remaining 2%. It will save you and them a lot of time.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35848248)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 9:50 PM
Author: Deranged police squad stock car

Any suggestions as to phrasing, just based on what I've posted up top? For example, what should an intro paragraph for OKC or the like say?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35848263)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 9:54 PM
Author: Blue Naked Shrine

Do you have any weird personal achievements/anecdotes? That is, if you were on Jeopardy, what would you talk with Alex after the commercial break?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35848295)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 10:10 PM
Author: Deranged police squad stock car

I have a lot of interesting work stories but a lot are pretty politically-tinged so perhaps not great to open with. Non-political stuff:

-I try to read at a 100-book-per-year pace

-I spent a school term studying archaeological ruins in Greece.

-I have had comedic works published for money

-I have been on a champion bar trivia team

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35848392)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 10:12 PM
Author: flatulent persian

you really need to emphasize the religious bit

bc all of those cool highlights are MAJOR lib bait

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35848412)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 10:17 PM
Author: clear soul-stirring casino philosopher-king

wait you're literally a published author? that's huge.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35848445)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 10:30 PM
Author: Deranged police squad stock car

Only individual pieces, not a book or anything.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35848535)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 7:20 PM
Author: hideous queen of the night corn cake

Good luck, C12. I don’t have any specific advice, but I generally agree with those advocating for numbers and experimentation. You need to narrow down your core values (e.g., Catholicism/chastity, politics maybe) and be open to those who might not otherwise meet some of the standards you have in mind.

It’s good to have a rational idea of what you want in a woman, but people are complicated. A lot of the dimensions of a person that you might never consider intellectually end up being the ones that determine mutual attraction and your ability to bond/have a successful relationship.

I assume you are disregarding the advice that you should get with a prole teacher from Centerville or whatever. You are correct to disregard it.

You might want to expand experimentation in your dating life more broadly. It doesn’t cost a lot to add new items to your wardrobe. You could also try boozing a little bit on dates. Even if you’re not crazy about it, it’ll probably loosen up your date, and it’s pretty harmless if you’re not getting sauced.

Incidentally, my experiences with app dating have been much more positive recently. Hinge is the best of the bunch IME.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35847253)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 9:25 PM
Author: Deranged police squad stock car

Thanks for the suggestions. What makes Hinge stand out? I have another friend who is a CMB fan, and in this case his spouse is an intense Catholic so I'm considering giving it a look for that reason alone.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35848089)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 9:24 PM
Author: flatulent persian

really surprised Catholicism is preferred but not required - explain

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35848078)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 9:27 PM
Author: Deranged police squad stock car

The only non-negotiable thing is that kids need to be raised in the same religion that I practice. With the spouse it's merely a significant preference.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35848103)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 9:35 PM
Author: flatulent persian

you'll need to meet someone pretty young, introverted & bright-eyed and who will look up to you and readily defer to you - something difficult about that may be that any woman who would value your intellect - while also garnering *your* respect - would likely have enough of a foundation of education, personality and opinions that unless she just so happens to be Catholic, you could end up in a sticky situation re: religious negotiation

I admire your oath of chastity - however, I worry that if you were to truly open yourself up to someone, unless she's a cold, neurotic fish (boo! no! not wife material!) her wiles will pull you over to the dark side - even if she starts out as pure and idealistic in her own virginity

falling in love is a drug - beware



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35848163)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 9:44 PM
Author: Deranged police squad stock car

Yeah, I think any potential spouse is more likely to be Catholic for just that reason. At a minimum it greatly simplifies things.

Second paragraph is a concern, and there's the flipside that trying to stick to my code will get me stuck with cold, neurotic fish. Certainly not desireable. Still I think it's just something that will have to be dealt with when it arrives.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35848230)



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Date: April 15th, 2018 9:54 PM
Author: flatulent persian

it seems you've been disheartened by an unfitting dating pool church-side, but you could still get lucky on that front

you should proactively talk to your priest or someone else you really trust in your archdiocese about this big step you're taking - you'll need support to get through the online dating process, and while I love this great bort, the movement towards extremes due to crippling anxiety and an accumulation of staggering disappointment will likely hinder your resolve

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35848290)



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Date: April 16th, 2018 10:02 AM
Author: Aromatic federal hospital

You keep saying you'll try OKC, maybe Hinge or Coffee meets bagel (aka AZN central) ... Seriously OKC is fine for normies but I can't imagine you would find a nice religious virgin on there.

Christian Mingle. It's literally made for people like you.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35850223)



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Date: April 16th, 2018 1:57 PM
Author: frisky whorehouse

Christian Mingle, Catholic Match, or OkC/Match (using religious filters) are clearly the best online options for Charles. Bumble/Tinder would be a waste of time and probably a massive blow to the ego.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35851824)



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Date: April 16th, 2018 1:59 PM
Author: Deranged police squad stock car

I'm not sure why the first three wouldn't also be devastating ego blows.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35851834)



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Date: April 16th, 2018 2:45 PM
Author: frisky whorehouse

I know guys who didn’t receive a single match on Bumble/Tinder. It is totally superficial. The other ones at least you are sending messages to girls who fit your criteria. It is still going to be an ego blow. Online dating is an ego blow for almost all men.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35852093)



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Date: April 16th, 2018 2:50 PM
Author: sepia vivacious plaza

You would still get turned down plenty but you would at least be in a crowd receptive to your worldview. Literally round-to-zero nobody on tinder, bumble, non-filtered OKC, etc has interacted with an actual Christian religmo in a decade. On the Christian sites it would be about finding a good fit, not getting scoffed at by flying spaghetti monster shitlibs

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35852135)



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Date: April 16th, 2018 1:59 PM
Author: lascivious really tough guy

The no sex before marriage thing is going to be a dealbreaker for all non religious and even most semi religious women.

I don’t think any dating app other than niche very religious ones are going to work for you.

If your social circle isn’t going to work for you, start going to meetup groups or other social groups on the internet for Catholics.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35851836)



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Date: April 16th, 2018 2:13 PM
Author: cerebral faggot firefighter

Your problem is aiming for genetic females. You'll have the greatest success with a hot t girl. She will also be most likely to be a traditionalist wrt the female role in a relationship. You will never find this with a genetic female. The hot t girl will also be most likely to overlook your physical appearance.

If t girls don't go for you, fire up grindr.

What really comes across in this thread is you're terrified of having your ego hurt. Get over it. The only way you'll ever get laid is by sacking up and dealing with it.

Has any women EVER expressed interest in you in a sexual way?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35851912)



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Date: April 16th, 2018 2:39 PM
Author: Deranged police squad stock car

"Has any women EVER expressed interest in you in a sexual way?"

No

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35852058)



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Date: April 16th, 2018 2:41 PM
Author: cerebral faggot firefighter

They can sense that you're afraid of them. The fact that you can't handle ego damage will prevent you from ever dating anyone.

You can't expect to get laid without facing a little rejection. Through rejection you'll find your actual sexual market value.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35852069)



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Date: April 16th, 2018 2:50 PM
Author: Deranged police squad stock car



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35852133)



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Date: April 16th, 2018 2:44 PM
Author: Sapphire twinkling uncleanness headpube

it is possible you were too awkward and naive to notice it

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35852085)



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Date: April 16th, 2018 3:19 PM
Author: Flushed dashing parlour double fault



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35852395)



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Date: April 17th, 2018 11:24 AM
Author: Rambunctious doctorate



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35858712)



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Date: April 16th, 2018 2:52 PM
Author: Razzmatazz Center

dont do online dating. just focus on church and church events

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35852152)



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Date: April 16th, 2018 3:20 PM
Author: Flushed dashing parlour double fault

some limited online dating might be a good idea just to get some familiarity with going on dates, etc. C12 just needs to get some reps in at this point.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35852399)



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Date: April 16th, 2018 2:53 PM
Author: sepia vivacious plaza

Charles you are getting a lot of good advice itt and only a little shitty advice (from jjc). Listen to the bort, ask questions, etc but ultimately it can work. I was a huge beta faggot and got legit good xo advice on online dating and am now married to an objective 10 chick

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35852156)



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Date: April 16th, 2018 6:36 PM
Author: Avocado provocative institution national security agency

Get height surgery where they break your leg in various places. Then you will become a 6'3 CHARLES CHAD

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35854072)



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Date: April 16th, 2018 8:29 PM
Author: adventurous soggy degenerate

Online dating consultant worked for a friend. Did a little coaching, wardrobe and the consultant took nice pics. Also wrote a custom profile. The last one might be hard for u since ur a writer. The bio was cheesy, written with lots of superlatives and a few cliches ("passionate about programming job", "would drop everything and go on a spontaneous trip to see jam bands"). It hurts to read, but you need that fast, high impact positive language to cut through the noise. Save subtlety and cynicism for later. He never had a gf or date before, went on a few dates and is now proposing.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35854889)



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Date: April 17th, 2018 10:56 AM
Author: Flushed dashing parlour double fault

actually sounds like titcr for some incel bros

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3949722&forum_id=2#35858467)