Here's a list of the things she now does that she didn't at all before we got married, or before we started dating.

She showers maybe every week or two, and only once I've fought about it with her for hours. Sometimes she doesn't use shampoo or soap in the shower even then.

She doesn't wash her hands after using the toilet. I don't think she wipes properly either. I have seen shit smears in her underwear when doing laundry.

She stopped brushing her teeth and now they're permanently yellow and her breath is atrocious.

She weighed about 140 pounds when we got married and was a healthy size for her height. Now she weighs over 200.

Related to the above point, her diet is objectively disgusting. The only foods besides candy and junk food like chips and soda that she'll touch are pepperoni pizza, kraft microwavable macaroni and cheese, sugary kids' cereals, fast food joint hamburgers, chicken nuggets, etc, and bread with butter. Yep. That's a complete list.

She doesn't wash her genitals. Even during or after her period. She's had some kind of vaginal infection for months that's causing grayish-white fishy discharge, she hasn't gone to the doctor. I stopped doing anything sexual with her because all of this got too disgusting to deal with.

I could go on but you get the idea. I'm staying at work as long as I can and hanging out with friends whenever they're free these days so that I don't have to be around the smell of her in our apartment.

Obviously this is no way to have a marriage, and I desperately want the woman I married back. Besides hygiene and health issues, she's the same person, which is why this is so weird to me. She has the same hobbies and interests, has kept up with her online degree program and is doing very well in it, wants/tries to socialize (her friends have gradually stopped wanting to be around her for obvious reasons), and in a general sense isn't doing anything that would indicate depression like sleeping all day or being irritable.

Since her personality is the same, I still love her. I don't know what to make of these changes. It's come to the point that I've had to point it out bluntly and ask if she's noticed how she's changed health-wise and why that is. She doesn't see any problem besides "Yeah I guess I've put on some weight, I should really cut back on junk food and go to the gym". Which never happens.

But this isn't even only about the weight, if it was just that I probably wouldn't be posting here. It's about the whole picture of not caring about basic necessary cleanliness. And on top of that, not showing a single sign of awareness or discomfort with things like having constantly oily skin and knotted greasy hair, nasty breath, and a genital infection. It's like she doesn't realize.

So...what do I do? I'm considering trying to convince her to see a doctor and letting them deal with getting through to her. Thoughts? I know this isn't normal and I don't know why it's happened because somehow she doesn't even see what's wrong besides the weight and diet problems.

TL;DR wife barely showers or does any other personal hygiene routines including wiping properly after #2, has become obese and mostly eats junk food, won't treat a chronic infection, and smells horrible. I've tried to talk about it directly but she does not admit anything is wrong except the weight gain. I'm baffled because otherwise her personality and behavior is pretty much the same as it's always been.

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