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Date: November 12th, 2018 9:20 AM Author: Exciting den
https://www.law.com/americanlawyer/2018/11/12/big-law-killed-my-husband-an-open-letter-from-a-sidley-partners-widow/
'Big Law Killed My Husband': An Open Letter From a Sidley Partner's Widow
The wife of Sidley Austin partner Gabe MacConaill shares her story.
By Joanna Litt | November 12, 2018 at 09:00 AM
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Gabriel MacConaill and Joanna Litt on their wedding day.
Joanna Litt’s husband, Gabe MacConaill, a 42-year-old partner at Sidley Austin, committed suicide in the parking garage of the firm’s downtown Los Angeles office last month.
My husband took his life—our life—on Sunday, Oct. 14, one month to the day before our 10-year wedding anniversary. We had been planning a trip for over a year in anticipation of celebrating.
I’m beyond lost and I don’t know how I’m going to get through the rest of my life. Gabe was my best friend, my partner, my lover, and my constant. I turned to him for everything, and he was always there with the most perfect advice and words. He was my world, and after losing him, I can absolutely say, my better half. Gabe and I did not have children (except for our dog Ivy) and we made that deliberate choice so we could focus solely on our life together, because we were happy. And now he’s gone. He saw no other choice or path.
I never thought in a million years that he could or would do that. And I keep going back to one thought: “Big Law” killed my husband.
We met on our first day of law school (he graduated third in our class). We had every class together and sat next to each other for two bars because of our last names. He was the smartest person I had ever met. He was also the kindest, most selfless person I’ve ever met.
I know in my heart that overall, more than anything, we were happy. I would find myself during the day thinking how lucky I was to have him and our life. No one made me feel more special and loved— everything he did, he did for us. And that’s why I have this overwhelming need to tell our story, his story. I don’t want anyone else to experience the utter shock and pain I am in.
Gabe and I worked hard at our marriage. Marriage isn’t easy and I would never pretend it was. Our most serious problem revolved around Gabe’s struggle with binge drinking. It wasn’t on a daily basis, but maybe three or four times a year there would be some event or function where he drank too much. I was hard on him for it—it made me so uncomfortable and mad and sad when he would cross that line. I didn’t have much compassion or realize his drinking was masking a deeper pain and I made him feel felt very guilty. As a result, he would stop drinking for a month or two and be OK for a while, but then there’d be a lapse.
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Gabriel MacConaill delivering a toast at his brother’’s wedding.
He saw someone professionally a few times, but that was it. In his way, he was working on it— and that meant a lot to me, so we stayed together.
Then there were a series of ill-fated events at work. First, his mentor and confidant suddenly announced he was leaving the firm. This had a huge impact on Gabe personally. It also caused a big shake up at the firm, and another of his treasured partners left to take early retirement.
Gabe, thrust suddenly into an important leadership role, was told in no uncertain terms that the firm was not going to hire any lateral support. Shortly thereafter, the last partner who was senior to Gabe decided to leave, and an associate whom Gabe spent a lot of time mentoring also left. The Los Angeles bankruptcy group Gabe had so deeply cherished and relied on for support had fallen apart.
It was also during this time that Gabe was asked to chair the summer associate program. Sidley’s position in some rankings had fallen and Gabe poured his heart and soul into that program. I know there were many others that helped him, but he passionately assumed responsibility for all 13 candidates, wanting to make sure they had the professional summer experience of a lifetime and wouldn’t hesitate to accept an offer from the firm. The success of the program was overwhelming and he didn’t even tell me. I found out from someone after he died that the associate reviews were glowing.
Finally, Gabe started working on the Mattress Firm case—a huge bankruptcy. It was a little over a month away from filing a Chapter 11 petition, and I had never seen him so stressed out and anxious. He was trying not to burden me with what was going on, but he wasn’t sleeping, I hadn’t seen him smile in weeks, and most everything he said was negative.
He told me he had experienced stress during cases before, but it had never been this bad. I didn’t know what to do. I tried to be positive and encouraging and just make our home as pleasant a place to come home to as possible.
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Gabriel MacConaill and Joanna Litt recreating their engagement photo.
The Sunday before leaving to file in Delaware, he spent all day at the office. When I finally called him that evening, it was clear he was in distress and had been working himself to exhaustion. He told me his body was failing him. I picked him up and we decided he should go to the emergency room. He actually said to me on the way there, “You know, if we go, this is the end of my career.”
I’ve never felt so helpless in my life. I didn’t know whom to reach out to or to tell my husband was in crisis. I called his closest colleague and asked if she had noticed anything unusual with his behavior at work. She said he was working more with his door closed, and then she said something I’ll never forget: She said his sense of humor had been gone for a while. I asked her to keep an eye on him at work and then I just brought him home. I tried to make sure he slept and was rehydrating and eating so he could make the trip to Delaware.
About a week later Mattress Firm publicly filed. I sent an article announcing the bankruptcy to my mom and a couple of close friends with the exact words, “This is the case that is killing my husband.”
Gabe came home from Delaware late Tuesday evening. I was hoping the worst was over, but he wasn’t any better. I convinced him to skip a conference in Los Angeles that he was supposed to attend that Wednesday and Thursday and we stayed home together. I thought this would do him some good, but what I found out later was that he had stopped responding to work emails. And when he told me he was going into work that Friday, he instead spent the day at his biological father’s grave—a man he never met—a couple of hours away from our home.
During this terrible spiral, I told him to quit. I told him we could sell our beautiful house and move to Mammoth, our happy place, and snowboard all winter and then figure it out. He said he couldn’t quit in the middle of a case. The irony is not lost on me that he found it easier to kill himself. I thought after this case was over, we’d find a path back to being happy.
Suicide has now become my new world and I am desperately searching for answers. Because to those that knew him best, his family, friends and colleagues, this came without warning. Though it’s only the beginning stages of trying to figure out why this happened, I came across a concept, maladaptive perfectionism, that combines unrealistic standards of achievement with hypercriticism of failing to meet them.
Gabe displayed most if not all of the characteristics. Simply put, he would rather die than live with the consequences of people thinking he was a failure.
MacConaill with his dog Ivy.
Looking back on the things Gabe confided in me, I now know I missed a lot of signs. He told me he felt like he was doing the work of three people—and I think that’s being generous. He told me the deal to resolve the bankruptcy kept changing. He also felt that while a senior partner in Chicago was heading the case, a lot of pressure fell directly on him.
We spoke a handful of times about how he should just try to care less about the work, but knowing the kind of person my husband was, that was never going to happen. He said he felt like a phony who had everyone fooled about his abilities as a lawyer, and thought after this case was over, he was going to be fired—despite having won honors for his work.
On the morning he killed himself, he said he got an email and had to go into work to put something together. I wanted to ask if I could go with him and just sit there, but instead, I simply offered to make him a sandwich for lunch. And without any hesitation, he said, “No baby, I’ll be fine—I won’t be long.” I’ll be haunted by those words forever. He gave me a few kisses, and tried to get Ivy to come cuddle me.
And then he left, taking his gun with him, and shot himself in the head in the sterile, concrete parking structure of his high-rise office building.
I feel like I lost my husband so quickly—within the course of a month—but I’m now starting to realize how hard he must have been on himself all the time. The constant striving to be perfect at work, to be the perfect husband, son, uncle, brother and friend. And then living with this deep unbearable shame that he wasn’t performing to the impossibly high standards he set for himself. He said a few times how he couldn’t turn off his head, but again, I didn’t understand the severity of that statement.
Maladaptive perfectionists lack self-compassion. I should have held him just a little longer, loved him a little harder, and told him way more often how proud I was of him and how much I loved him—exactly as he was. I’ll make penance for this for the rest of my life and for just not seeing the depth of the sorrow and pain he was going through.
Then came Sidley’s handling of Gabe’s suicide—“damage control” that included a last-minute invitation for me and my mom to attend a service at the firm. We went because I needed to see what kind of narrative they were creating. There were a handful of attorneys there, but in the immense receiving line of people who patiently waited to tell us about their unique story of Gabe, most were support staff. One told me that after working at the firm for years, Gabe was the only attorney to take the time to know her name.
I heard story after story about Gabe’s encouraging nature and how he made people feel like they could succeed at anything they put their mind to. One close colleague said she wished “Gabe had his own Gabe.”
Finally, packing up his office, I was handed a gift left by someone who just missed saying goodbye to him. He had decided to go to law school after numerous discussions with Gabe. The gift was a leather plaque; on it was inscribed, “It Can Be Done.”
Gabe lived his life with integrity and treated those around him with sincerity, kindness, and a genuine sense of presence. Unfortunately, I know my husband died not knowing the impact he had on so many people. I believe he died feeling overworked, inferior and undervalued. And I know he died with a lot of shame.
So as I write our story and think about it more and more, I know “Big Law” didn’t directly kill my husband—because he had a deep, hereditary mental health disorder and lacked essential coping mechanisms. But these influences, coupled with a high-pressure job and a culture where it’s shameful to ask for help, shameful to be vulnerable, and shameful not to be perfect, created a perfect storm.
I don’t have any immediate solutions, but for the sake of retaining people like Gabe in these important professions, something needs to change. We need people like him walking this earth; they make it a better place. My husband was impeccable with his word, and actually cared so immensely about the job he did and how people viewed him. He wasn’t focused on the bottom line or lining his pockets with more money. He cared about his clients and the hundreds and thousands of people impacted by a corporation filing bankruptcy. Not to mention, he was really good at what he did.
I was having a hard time getting older. I’m 41 and would think about how time was flying by. We weren’t as young or vibrant. I feel like I’ve answered the age-old question how do you make time slow down. You lose the love of your life. Now, there’s just so much time left, and infinite sadness. I’ll live the rest of my life trying to fill his shoes and help anyone from having to go through this horrendous, needless experience.
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4130893&forum_id=2#37214875) |
Date: November 12th, 2018 9:22 AM Author: racy startled dopamine
I found out from someone after he died that the associate reviews were glowing
I found out from someone after he died that the associate reviews were glowing
I found out from someone after he died that the associate reviews were glowing
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4130893&forum_id=2#37214879) |
Date: November 12th, 2018 9:23 AM Author: Doobsian Stage
" I feel like I’ve answered the age-old question how do you make time slow down. You lose the love of your life."
--Cosmo would cover this story very differently.
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4130893&forum_id=2#37214887) |
Date: November 12th, 2018 9:25 AM Author: Violent dark step-uncle's house
No kids and years of biglaw partnership, the dude must've been loaded. Why the fuck didn't he GTFO and enjoy his money?
"The Los Angeles bankruptcy group Gabe had so deeply cherished and relied on for support had fallen apart."
The sheer absurdity of this is sad.
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4130893&forum_id=2#37214896) |
Date: November 12th, 2018 9:35 AM Author: slate bbw
Dude could have taken his millions and tried to enjoy life outside biglaw.
He took the easy way out.
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4130893&forum_id=2#37214943) |
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Date: November 12th, 2018 10:39 AM Author: blathering impressive sandwich
you know that scene in braveheart where william wallace leads the scottish townspeople into the english fort to kill the local magistrate (the guy that killed wallace's wife)?
the townspeople eventually kill all the soldiers inside the fort and start closing in on the magistrate and his one personal guard while making terrifying "aiyaiyaiyai!" barbarian sounds. the guard basically shits his pants and surrenders, and the townspeople kill the magistrate.
gabe macconail, bless his soul, was the lone guard in this scenario. and he should have surrendered.
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4130893&forum_id=2#37215379) |
Date: November 12th, 2018 9:37 AM Author: Doobsian Stage
KEY PORTION:
"he had a deep, hereditary mental health disorder and lacked essential coping mechanisms."
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4130893&forum_id=2#37214965) |
Date: November 12th, 2018 9:43 AM Author: Lime outnumbered menage telephone
https://www.linkedin.com/in/gabe-macconaill-90138b90/
he was UG summa but ended up going to Penn State (Happy Valley campus)? Must have been 150s lsat bro trying to hack through a woods too dense
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4130893&forum_id=2#37214992) |
Date: November 12th, 2018 9:43 AM Author: thriller jew theater
lol this woman gave her husband hell for getting drunk a couple times a year? you can tell he knew he couldnt keep the marriage together if he lost his huge paying biglaw job. sounds horrible
hey man, nice shot
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4130893&forum_id=2#37214993) |
Date: November 12th, 2018 9:44 AM Author: Chestnut Cowardly Crackhouse Alpha
"for the sake of retaining people like Gabe in these important professions, something needs to change."
actually this "profession" needs to be thrown in the trash.
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4130893&forum_id=2#37214997) |
Date: November 12th, 2018 10:04 AM Author: racy startled dopamine
Gabe and I did not have children (except for our dog Ivy)
Gabe and I did not have children (except for our dog Ivy)
Gabe and I did not have children (except for our dog Ivy)
Gabe and I did not have children (except for our dog Ivy)
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4130893&forum_id=2#37215146) |
Date: November 12th, 2018 10:15 AM Author: Aphrodisiac Degenerate Stead
Imagine at 42 years old realizing that all you had was your corporate legal practice. You were particularly adroit at completing paperwork in a fastidious and timely manner. Beyond that, nothing. No children to watch grow. No involvement with the community, save for a few articles you've published in legal journals discussing your fastidious and timely paperwork skill. No close circle of friends to enjoy weekend barbecues with. A wife who is more a room mate.
Sure, you have a pile of money, but after your short flame in this universe is extinguished, you will be forgotten. No progeny. No legacy. Maybe a short firm-wide email. By next Thursday, your office has been given to another partner.
Our modern world is full of traps. Spend your time carefully.
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4130893&forum_id=2#37215217) |
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Date: November 12th, 2018 11:03 AM Author: floppy magenta dilemma
This is 100% the takeaway from this article.
This was all a problem because his job was the only thing in his life that gave him meaning, or a purpose. Probably that and consumerism. I mean, even his wife threw in a line about how they were just about to take some trip.
We often like to talk about how kids of wealthy parents who make it big with some idea or business are "playing with house money", and in some respects it's true, because there isn't a risk of failure. If it works great, but if it doesn't who cares or on to the next thing.
We've gotten away from "playing with house money" spiritually. The reason all of this was too much to bear was because this guy had nothing else in his life to give him purpose. Sitting in some ski house with his wife just snowboarding and spending money on dinners wasn't it. His wife couldn't tell that his real issue was that there was nothing there to give his life greater purpose.
In the past things like family (and i mean a real family -- children), faith, community, etc. all gave people tremendous purpose. People weren't nearly as wrapped up in money and jobs as a way to give their lives meaning -- the money and work was simply a way to provide for the things that were ACTUALLY meaningful.
What this guy needed was something to give his life meaning. He needed to have children who loved him, or he needed to find God, or he needed to become a mentor to kids who lost their fathers. Something, anything other than tying one's entire worth and identity to a bankruptcy filing and an anniversary trip, which was expensive as hell no doubt.
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4130893&forum_id=2#37215547) |
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Date: November 13th, 2018 12:39 PM Author: floppy magenta dilemma
Don't you think it's more than that though, especially as you move down the IQ/ability chain into the lower classes?
Organized religion not only provides a moral code and guidance on how one should live, but it also provides a higher purpose, and treats life on Earth as just one part of the journey.
For a group of people who already failed the marshmallow test as kids, and thus have a hard time delaying gratification, doesn't the concept of an afterlife and judgment help to serve as an additional way to keep people doing the right thing, and striving for paradise in eternity?
I mean, if you're Tyrone from the ghetto with no religion, and you believe life is just life and then you die, can you really blame him for just wanting to live as hedonistically as possible?
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4130893&forum_id=2#37223740) |
Date: November 12th, 2018 11:01 AM Author: henna temple
JFC:
“Then came Sidley’s handling of Gabe’s suicide—“damage control” that included a last-minute invitation for me and my mom to attend a service at the firm. We went because I needed to see what kind of narrative they were creating. There were a handful of attorneys there, but in the immense receiving line of people who patiently waited to tell us about their unique story of Gabe, most were support staff. One told me that after working at the firm for years, Gabe was the only attorney to take the time to know her name.
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4130893&forum_id=2#37215531) |
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Date: November 12th, 2018 11:22 AM Author: Dead Burgundy Principal's Office
lawyers sitting 2 cubicles down
lawyers sitting 2 cubicles down
lawyers sitting 2 cubicles down
lawyers sitting 2 cubicles down
Every time you get irritated with ARE reptile, please remember that this is his life, and be compassionate.
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4130893&forum_id=2#37215670) |
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Date: November 12th, 2018 11:58 AM Author: floppy magenta dilemma
All that matters is what he made during his (almost) 5 years as a partner at Sidley.
Even if you assume only $500k saved before partnership, he could have averaged $1M per year the last 5 years. That coupled with some stock market gains could have easily given him $2-3M. No reason to believe he couldn't have saved $1M on $4-5M of partnership profits.
I don't know what Sidley pays its new partners, or how easy it is to advance in partnership distributions, but that's all that matters.
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4130893&forum_id=2#37215895) |
Date: November 12th, 2018 12:02 PM Author: Sick gay wizard
lol at deranged lawyers ITT unable to fathom the complexities of consciousness that would compel someone to killself
"b-but he must've had so much money, it was just a deal gone wrong, I don't get it derp derp"
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4130893&forum_id=2#37215917) |
Date: November 12th, 2018 12:14 PM Author: mind-boggling maroon pit becky
"He said he felt like a phony who had everyone fooled about his abilities as a lawyer, and thought after this case was over, he was going to be fired—despite having won honors for his work."
He strove to death
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4130893&forum_id=2#37215993) |
Date: November 12th, 2018 1:16 PM Author: odious therapy site
Upon reading this a 2nd time — whoa does it come across as self-centered. Holy shit. MY husband took OUR lives. We didn’t have kids intentionally so we could focus on US (read: the lifestyle she craved). He did this one month to the day before OUR anniversary vacation (hers) that WE planned for a year (she planned, probably with all photo ops carefully charted).
Then she rats the guy out for binge drinking.
Seems like a lot of the purpose behind this essay is blame shifting due to deep guilt.
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4130893&forum_id=2#37216443) |
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Date: November 12th, 2018 1:25 PM Author: floppy magenta dilemma
the person above who said the wife seemed childish was probably right.
stuff like that is such a childish response to a life event.
it's like people who go on vacation a bunch of times and talk about how amazing travel is or how great other countries are, instead of realizing that vacation is nice.
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4130893&forum_id=2#37216520) |
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Date: November 12th, 2018 1:28 PM Author: odious therapy site
Seems like it’s a plea to let people know it’s not *her* fault.
I’m sure she’s fishing for a lot of, “You did your best,” “It’s not your fault,” “There was nothing you could do” type of sympathetic responses.
Then again, she does make some good points about Biglaw.
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4130893&forum_id=2#37216550) |
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Date: November 12th, 2018 3:16 PM Author: odious therapy site
There are plenty of things in there that scream “shrew.”
She mentions where he ranked in his LS class.
She says she told him they could sell their “beautiful” home.
She says she told him they could move to “their happy place,” which was a ski resort.
Think she isn’t status obsessed? Think the marriage would have lasted if he wasn’t bringing in big money to sustain the lifestyle she wanted? Think he wasn’t acutely aware of the pressure on him to support that lifestyle?
Then there’s this quote, that says it all: “He was my world, and after losing him, I can absolutely say, my better half.”
So she didn’t fully appreciate him until he was gone?
Like I said, it’s tragic & I’m willing to cut her slack; but there are definitely signs this guy was under immense pressure in his personal life in addition to his professional life. And her reaction to his drinking indicates she probably has a controlling personality. This poor guy felt like he had no way out but death.
I think ggtp has grasped it perfectly ITT.
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4130893&forum_id=2#37217389) |
Date: November 12th, 2018 2:10 PM Author: Razzmatazz Shivering Business Firm Mexican
Everyone is way too hard on the wife here and drawing every possible inference against her and making some up as well.
She wrote that she Told him he should quit his job and they would downsize.
The guy had serious mental health issues and none of those are necessarily the fault of his wife.
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4130893&forum_id=2#37216909) |
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Date: November 12th, 2018 3:01 PM Author: rusted stock car lodge
I'm also a shitty striver like the guy who killedself - also don't have much else going on in life. But I have enough sociopath tendencies to not give a shit and derive too much value from the work.
My wife is extremely good at her job and is loved by everyone and takes the extra effort in everything she does professionally - including being really nice to all support staff and making cookies and shit to thank them for stuff they are supposed to do.
She also takes career slights very hard and personally sometimes. If she had to deal with half the shit I deal with from lawyers and clients she would probably kill herself or rampage the company too.
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4130893&forum_id=2#37217286) |
Date: November 12th, 2018 5:17 PM Author: Medicated Razzle-dazzle Property Milk
Guy probably did work himself to death. Bill high threes for a few months and see how you feel. Add the pressure of a wife with a made up job and other commitments.
Someone needs to pull Sidley’s bill (debtor’s counsel has to submit bills) to see how many hours he was working. I’d do it, but my firm would wonder why I was pulling it.
If he had just taken a weekend, or even a night, to have a binge drink, he probably would have been fine. But his wife would not let him, and work commitments likely did not allow it.
I wonder what his hereditory mental illness was? Probably bipolar. Maybe schizophrenic. And knock his schools, but summa UG and summa LS
takes some doing and he did make partner at a good firm (although I am not sure, but I think Sidley is two tier so he was probably making biglaw associate money, not $2m a year).
I would like to have a binge drink to honor him, but I got too much work to do.
RIP
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4130893&forum_id=2#37218235) |
Date: November 12th, 2018 5:35 PM Author: lascivious national toilet seat
Poasting in a 400 poast thr-
Oh wait
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4130893&forum_id=2#37218360) |
Date: November 12th, 2018 8:10 PM Author: Doobsian Stage
I'd just like to register my complaint about the handful of holier-than-thou poasters who have come in here to gripe about the xo way of mourning. I will gladly discuss my poasting ITT with the widow. I feel for this guy, feel for her, know people like'em, not such bad folk, just don't know what they're signing up for, what they're doing, or how to get out. Lots of us are trapped in the maze like that, and I'll be God-damned if you're going to deprive us of our gallows humor.
But you tut-tutters, know this: your haughtiness does not make you compassionate. You felt the need to take this thread, which was about honoring our fallen colleague and lightly roasting his wife, and make it all about how _you_ are better than everyone else, because _you_ feel only-and-just the socially-prescribed emotions at the socially-prescribed times, in perfect mechanical sequence like a breech-loading gun. Fuck off!
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4130893&forum_id=2#37219365) |
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Date: November 12th, 2018 10:38 PM Author: Boyish Ticket Booth
i'm one of the people you're talking about, brother.
while reading this thread, i was thinking that there's a better-than-usual chance, given his background, given her background, that she might come across these comments on xo.
and while reading the widow's article, i asked some of the same questions raised here. but i saw her statements, well-annotated by the xo crew, as an effort to lay bare the couple's struggles and her own foibles in hopes of helping others avert the same tragedy. as awake poasters who contemplate killing areselves on a nightly basis, surely we can find a moment of grace for this woman. if there's a time to give her the benefit of the doubt, surely now is that time. if not for her, then for areselves.
you're also right to point out the danger of sanctimony for my ilk. but i don't agree that the comments ITT are light roasts of the widow. they are substantially darker and less restrained than that. and i make these points not because i am better than any of you, but because i have also been a shithead on xo, and from time to time, we can all use a reminder from are friends not to be a shithead. and we are all friends here.
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4130893&forum_id=2#37220554) |
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Date: November 14th, 2018 12:37 AM Author: Gold Legend Nibblets
woah
mattress retailer
that's a guy's life, huh? a mattress retailer.
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4130893&forum_id=2#37228593) |
Date: November 12th, 2018 11:21 PM Author: copper buck-toothed area athletic conference
non-lawyer here -
if after he went to the emergency room he had taken a short leave for mental health care, what's the most likely consequence he would have seen at work?
and if they demoted or fired him, could he have sued?
the line about him feeling like his career would end if he followed the path of treating his symptoms gave me chills
truly sad story
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4130893&forum_id=2#37220921) |
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Date: November 13th, 2018 1:40 AM Author: thriller jew theater
he would get ghosted out of the firm. its not like the day he got back theyd say "GOTCHA, YOURE FIRED", he would just see his work dry up, then his reviews would note that he's not producing and that if he doesnt shape up they will have to think of 'alternative options'. inevitably, no more work would come his way and he'd be told to leave. it's very hard to sue in a situation like that, and as a white heterosexual male, he wouldnt have any of the crutches that people like to lean on in those sorts of discrimination suits. so i think his success in going after the firm would be limited.
of course, no other firm is going to touch a 40+ guy who washed out of sidley under dubious circumstances.
so he was totally right about that
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4130893&forum_id=2#37221503) |
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Date: November 13th, 2018 2:35 AM Author: Insanely Creepy Anal Piazza Halford
False - completely dependent on how long he took off. If it was a 1 day ER visit, no problem whatsoever. Work emails get delayed all the time.
A couple of days probably fine as well as long you tell the firm you have a medical issue and there are no important deadlines that absolutely requires his involvement (a senior associate could probably competently cover for him). A week or longer than it depends on how busy the practice is and how many other people there are that can do your job. It sounds like they were short-staffed as it was, don't think they were in any rush to cut him.
Partners in their 40s get hired by mid-sized firms all the time. Lower ranked firms also like to poach service partners from top tier firms. You make it sound like his only option was to lateral to Kirkland, when there are a slew of places like DLA or Dorsey who would probably hire the dude, not to mention the hundreds of midsized firms that would be interested in hiring a biglolyer.
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4130893&forum_id=2#37221609) |
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Date: November 13th, 2018 2:24 AM Author: Insanely Creepy Anal Piazza Halford
Nah - he may have gotten a few passive aggressive "you back now?" emails from his senior partners, but they wouldn't pull him from the middle of the case. And he probably would have gone the next few months or couple of years with an asterisk next to his name with something like "may be unreliable on a critical case." But I've seen people "disappear" for a few days for various medical reasons (of course they or a family member let the firm know they'd be out for a few days) and nobody fired them, just a bit of gossip and fake concern.
But they probably would have let him stay on as partner, as long as the market didn't nosedive. The fact that half his team defected indicates strong job security.
If he were to take an extended leave of absence (say longer than a week), then questions would be raised and it's probably 50/50 whether he'd be out the door at the end of the year - depends on how busy the practice is and staffing.
Even if he left, he could have easily lateralled to a midsized firm or maybe even a peer firm. It's incredibly easy for biglaw partners from decently ranked places like Sidley to lateral to lower-tiered firms as a non-equity partner.
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4130893&forum_id=2#37221598) |
Date: November 13th, 2018 1:51 AM Author: indigo nursing home
what a shit show. I don't doubt that biglaw killed this guy, and I am skeptical its the result of some latent mental illness, except in the sense that he lacked certain proactive abilities to manage his life effectively (including the understanding of when to quit).
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4130893&forum_id=2#37221531)
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Date: November 13th, 2018 12:07 PM Author: elastic band
Global chairman for baker Mackenzie took a leave of absence for exhaustion. People came out in support of him. He’s not done here like some people above would say he’d be.
I know things would be different for a junior service partner but not everyone in biglaw is as insanely ruthless as people make them out to be.
What would have happened if the dude got into a car accident or had cancer? Would his career have been over too? People in that position should just take a break if they are literally on the brink of breaking themselves.
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4130893&forum_id=2#37223475) |
Date: November 13th, 2018 3:44 PM Author: tan dragon
Not sure why people are beating up on the wife. There’s nothing to suggest she was riding him to continue working like this for the money.
The sad thing is that this guy strived really hard to get to where he was and just couldn’t see why it wasn’t worth it. I feel bad for him and his wife. At least no children involved.
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4130893&forum_id=2#37224943) |
Date: November 14th, 2018 2:52 AM Author: blathering impressive sandwich
My girlfriend has repeatedly told me that I “need to ffind more balance in my work life” (been billing 12-14 hours daily for the last several weeks)
I told her I understand, that I’m trying the best I can and asked her if she had any ideas on how I might do that
She says no, I don’t know anything about your job
I say, “exactly”
She tells me I’m being mean
I tell her that, as a mid level with crushing student debt, the amount of shit I have to eat at work is basically fixed at “unreasonably demanding”
I tell her then that, assuming a fixed workload, her demanding “more balance” from me without offering a way to achieve that balance is no different from her saying “work faster” or “be better”
“Let’s go snowboarding in mammoth” no different from “get back in”
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4130893&forum_id=2#37229028) |
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Date: November 14th, 2018 10:17 AM Author: elastic band
Your workload isn’t fixed. Is your firm free market or do you get assigned deals? Either way you can find a way to take on less work.
What do your loans have to do with it? If paying back loans was your only goal, you can do that without killing yourself at work. You won’t get fired for Having lower hours and if you do get pushed out it won’t be for years, at which point you can rinse and repeat at another firm if you still have debt.
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4130893&forum_id=2#37230181)
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Date: November 14th, 2018 2:43 PM Author: blathering impressive sandwich
the debt means i have less leverage to walk away
yes people with mortgages also have this problem, but at the end of the day you can still sell your house
what's your practice area?
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4130893&forum_id=2#37231906)
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Date: November 14th, 2018 10:27 AM Author: Aphrodisiac Degenerate Stead
I'm a solo in a high volume practice and it's no better. I also work 60+ hours almost every week.
My wife tells me to just "care about work less" or "take it less personally" when clients make unreasonable demands. She means well, but I already don't care about the clients or the work. It's a matter of survival. I have to care about doing shit timely and with at least a minimal level of competency to avoid getting sued by clients or disbarred.
It's hard not to live in a perpetual state of anxiety and depression when you get a work email every two minutes on average, all while trying to do actual work. I woke up to 15 work emails this morning.
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4130893&forum_id=2#37230241) |
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Date: November 14th, 2018 12:45 PM Author: elastic band
Yep. I’m at a v10. Billing 1900-2100 a year for 4 years now, so an average of 40 hours a week with a month of vacation each year. Some crazy nights when signing or closing but most days I say fuck it and bounce by 5-6.
What if you have a sudden fire drill on a deal but you’re already on an important call for another deal? You can’t drop the call to handle the other matter. The second matter will just have to wait until you can turn to it. Start treating aspects of your personal life as being as important as an important call for a deal. Anyone chases you? Tell them you were tied up. Literally no one has ever asked what other matter I was working on that caused the delay. They just assume you were busy with work.
If anything, doing this makes you look even busier and partners and clients start to learn they can’t just make you jump whenever they say jump. If it’s partnership you’re looking for then that isn’t a good thing, but if you prioritize self respect and work life balance, just stand up for yourself more.
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4130893&forum_id=2#37231017) |
Date: November 15th, 2018 12:05 AM Author: effete liquid oxygen
I’ve gone something along the lines of 240, 310, 260 the last three months and it’s like something in my head broke during that 310 month. Was on a trip with buddies and they were like “man you just don’t look happy” as I checked my phone for the 80th time when they just turned theirs off.
When the job isn’t bad, I like it a lot. But those few months coupled with a tough superior and a tough client or two make it into something downright terrible and you are deluding yourself if you think otherwise.
Human beings were not meant to behave in this way. Law used to be a noble profession now it’s just an assembly line of emails emptying into a trough as we slop it up with the other out of shape piggies.
People in this thread are bashing the shrew wife. So odd to me. Clearly there were several horrid things at play in this bros life. But they key takeaway is the mercenary nature of this shit - even moreso at a firm like Sidley that actually tries to sell law students and laterals on being more collegial than others (ljl). Can’t make this shit the center of the universe or you will crack. I don’t have any answers to any of this. I just know where the blame lies and it isn’t with the wife.
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4130893&forum_id=2#37236047) |
Date: July 11th, 2019 2:26 PM Author: Lilac fighting dingle berry
https://www.ft.com/content/1e8293f4-a1db-11e9-974c-ad1c6ab5efd1
FT with a rather brutal takedown. LJL at his group heads not even writing his widow a note!
Sorry would c/p but on my phone.
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4130893&forum_id=2#38515863) |
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Date: July 11th, 2019 2:57 PM Author: Claret antidepressant drug chad
"Dude should have just quit."
Maybe. But then what? He'd be DONE HERE.
"Early 40s non-equity service partner with no book here. I can has job?"
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4130893&forum_id=2#38516057) |
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Date: July 11th, 2019 2:59 PM Author: Fishy Hideous Heaven
Despite these efforts, Litt is still angry. In the months since, she feels Sidley Austin’s response has been minimal. “The two managing partners of the bankruptcy division did not call me, email me, send me a letter,” she says. “I still haven’t heard from either partner. I also didn’t hear from the slightly senior partner who Gabe was working Mattress Firm with. None of them.”
Sidley Austin stands by its actions as appropriate. “Simply put, I’m exceptionally proud of the way the firm handled the announcement and communication of his death without stigma, without embarrassment, without hiding it,” says Clivner. “They don’t teach you this in law school and for myself personally, and for the firm, we did it right.”
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4130893&forum_id=2#38516069)
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Date: July 11th, 2019 4:18 PM Author: Ruby Fanboi
JFC
Dan Clivner, managing partner of Sidley Austin’s Los Angeles . . . says MacConaill did not go to any of his senior partners about his mental health or workload, and that for Sidley to be able to provide support, an employee would need to be willing to ask for help. To illustrate his point, Clivner references his own personal struggle at the time: his husband had terminal cancer, and the firm was supportive of his needs.
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4130893&forum_id=2#38516463)
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