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mid-30s divorced bro here - which room which I take?
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Date: November 15th, 2018 9:32 AM Author: umber resort ratface Need to find some furnished housing short term in MFH. Here are the options:
1) room in big modern loft apt with 2 other late 20s guys working finance ($3000)
2) room in smaller but moderately nice apt with 1 other early 20s NYU student girl ($1800)
Which option should I take and why? |
Date: November 15th, 2018 9:34 AM Author: cerebral dopamine Do you have kids? Why is it 3000 with two roommates? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4133718&forum_id=2#37237576) |
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Date: November 15th, 2018 9:35 AM Author: umber resort ratface one young kid.
b/c it's in an expensive neighborhood and it's a really nice loft. |
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Date: November 15th, 2018 9:37 AM Author: cerebral dopamine Custody expectations?
LJL at roommates wanting a kid at the apartment |
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Date: November 15th, 2018 9:38 AM Author: umber resort ratface wife is keeping custody - too young for me to share custody. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4133718&forum_id=2#37237600) |
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Date: November 15th, 2018 9:40 AM Author: cerebral dopamine No such thing. Don't allow this. Youll get raped in CS. Are you a lawyer?
Do you plan on being in child's life? |
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Date: November 15th, 2018 9:44 AM Author: umber resort ratface can't CS be settled as part of the overall settlement? we're planning to get a amicable settlement. she wants full custody, and won't push for a lot of support (probably 2-3k)
plan to visit once every week or two. |
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Date: November 15th, 2018 9:46 AM Author: cerebral dopamine L.J.L.
Never grant full custody, never move out. |
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Date: November 15th, 2018 9:48 AM Author: umber resort ratface would appreciate some legal education here bro. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4133718&forum_id=2#37237663) |
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Date: November 15th, 2018 9:49 AM Author: cerebral dopamine Your income and her income? CS is income and percentage of custody based. Not negotiable. It's a strict formula (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4133718&forum_id=2#37237673) |
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Date: November 15th, 2018 9:53 AM Author: umber resort ratface rn, 180k, but might be rising sharply next year to 400k fingers crossed.
her income is 200k annualized, but rn she's only working one day a week. she's starting her own business (medical practice) though, so it might be shitty for a bit while she gets it set up.
Parties can't waive child support? That doesn't seem right. |
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Date: November 15th, 2018 9:58 AM Author: cerebral dopamine You can't waive CS. Get a shit lawyer now.
She's bamboozling you. If she has 100% you'll be paying until child is 18. You will have no rights and is difficult to get 50/50 afterwards. Also, Google imputed income. If you lose job, you're expected to earn x$ forever. |
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Date: November 15th, 2018 11:03 AM Author: awkward clown If you think that parents can waive child support, you need to get a lawyer.
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Date: November 15th, 2018 9:57 AM Author: umber resort ratface What if the other parent and I have already worked out a plan for child support in our separation agreement? Can we use that instead of the guidelines?
Yes. You both can waive the basic child support obligations as long as the waiver is in writing, states what the basic child support obligation would have been, and states the reasons why your agreement should be adopted instead. Your agreement must also recite that you have been advised of Domestic Relations Law § 240 (1-b) and Family Court Act § 413(1)(b) and that the basic child support obligation would presumptively result in the correct amount of child support to be awarded. The reason for this is to assure that the parties are aware of their rights and obligations under the law and knowingly waive such rights. This provision may not be waived by either party or counsel. In other words, both parents must agree to go around the child support guidelines. And even when there’s an agreement, it’s not valid until approved by the court.
https://www.divorcenet.com/states/new_york/nyfaq01 |
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Date: November 15th, 2018 10:00 AM Author: cerebral dopamine Any NY shitlawyers care to opine? I have a feeling the courts don't approve many of these waivers. Definitely not in my JDX. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4133718&forum_id=2#37237727) |
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Date: November 15th, 2018 10:02 AM Author: umber resort ratface even if the judge doesn't approve of this waive, i don't think the judge would be able to approve the rest of the settlement and just strike out the waiver - i.e. if the judge strikes down the waiver, we can go back and renegotiate the custody. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4133718&forum_id=2#37237730) |
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Date: November 15th, 2018 10:07 AM Author: cerebral dopamine Please see an attorney before agreeing to this. I guarantee your ex has.
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Date: November 15th, 2018 10:09 AM Author: umber resort ratface she's in a pretty prestigious medical specialty - if her practice is successful, can I apply to the court to reassess the child support? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4133718&forum_id=2#37237766) |
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Date: November 15th, 2018 10:20 AM Author: cerebral dopamine Dude. YFWGI
Do not trust this woman for a second. |
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Date: November 15th, 2018 10:22 AM Author: umber resort ratface I have no idea why you think this is flame. b/c I'm asking a stupid question? I'm utterly ignorant about divorce law. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4133718&forum_id=2#37237844) |
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Date: November 15th, 2018 10:24 AM Author: cerebral dopamine Rule one: never trust a woman (especially during divorce) Rule two: a good divorce attorney is worth the cost in the long run. |
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Date: November 15th, 2018 10:26 AM Author: Salmon Cuck Sex Offender How much do divorce attorneys make in Alaska (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4133718&forum_id=2#37237877) |
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Date: November 15th, 2018 10:31 AM Author: cerebral dopamine Depends on the attorney. My surgeon buddy has already paid over a million dollars in legal fees for his divorce. I think I spent 20 total, with a lot of bullshit proceedings and filings (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4133718&forum_id=2#37237901) |
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Date: November 15th, 2018 1:58 PM Author: Bipolar stock car JFC, that's probably a high % of his net worth..how bad is your surgeon buddy's divorce? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4133718&forum_id=2#37239221) |
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Date: November 15th, 2018 10:10 AM Author: navy razzle-dazzle haunted graveyard (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4133718&forum_id=2#37237769) |
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Date: November 15th, 2018 9:42 AM Author: frozen bisexual national multi-billionaire Kill yourself (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4133718&forum_id=2#37237635) |
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Date: November 15th, 2018 9:35 AM Author: lavender greedy step-uncle's house i dont understand why these are your choices.
confronted with this i would killself.
xoxohth |
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Date: November 15th, 2018 9:36 AM Author: umber resort ratface these are the most attractive options in MFH rn, b/c I need housing ASAP. I'll look for better options after I find a place to sleep and put my stuff. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4133718&forum_id=2#37237588) |
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Date: November 15th, 2018 9:37 AM Author: cerebral dopamine Go cheap at first. You'll need every penny soon. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4133718&forum_id=2#37237596) |
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Date: November 15th, 2018 9:36 AM Author: vermilion aromatic hell 2. Girl can be wheedled into providing free child care. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4133718&forum_id=2#37237585) |
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Date: November 15th, 2018 9:38 AM Author: black masturbator telephone close to wife and kid, hth (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4133718&forum_id=2#37237607) |
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Date: November 15th, 2018 9:39 AM Author: umber resort ratface both are pretty close. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4133718&forum_id=2#37237610) |
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Date: November 15th, 2018 9:40 AM Author: black masturbator telephone NYU girl (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4133718&forum_id=2#37237616) |
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Date: November 15th, 2018 9:42 AM Author: umber resort ratface ok that's sensible. i was leaning toward the loft b/c my social life with two other dudes with similar interest would be a lot better. living with an early 20s girl is extremely awkward. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4133718&forum_id=2#37237629) |
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Date: November 15th, 2018 9:43 AM Author: black masturbator telephone exactly, you need some awkardness now (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4133718&forum_id=2#37237639) |
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Date: November 15th, 2018 9:40 AM Author: Trip codepig university leave nyc (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4133718&forum_id=2#37237615) |
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Date: November 15th, 2018 9:40 AM Author: umber resort ratface only other options with job is SF or DC. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4133718&forum_id=2#37237620) |
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Date: November 15th, 2018 9:42 AM Author: Trip codepig university ARE country just do librarian. hth (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4133718&forum_id=2#37237628) |
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Date: November 15th, 2018 10:58 AM Author: cerebral dopamine Take your own advice friendo (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4133718&forum_id=2#37238044) |
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Date: November 15th, 2018 11:07 AM Author: Trip codepig university fuck pwned (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4133718&forum_id=2#37238087) |
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Date: November 15th, 2018 11:28 AM Author: provocative tan hospital *intro bars to going Japanese crescendo* (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4133718&forum_id=2#37238223) |
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Date: November 15th, 2018 11:31 AM Author: Lilac Base Jew (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4133718&forum_id=2#37238253) |
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Date: November 15th, 2018 9:41 AM Author: jet international law enforcement agency i would take 2 and bang the chick. i also seem to make bad major life decisions. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4133718&forum_id=2#37237627) |
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Date: November 15th, 2018 9:47 AM Author: cerebral dopamine Same. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4133718&forum_id=2#37237659) |
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Date: November 15th, 2018 11:27 AM Author: purple bateful corner feces cr is to never make any major life decisions (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4133718&forum_id=2#37238213) |
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Date: November 15th, 2018 9:44 AM Author: exhilarant hissy fit center $3000/month on anything other than a mortgage is foolish. Basically like flushing money down the toilet. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4133718&forum_id=2#37237646) |
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Date: November 15th, 2018 9:45 AM Author: Pungent casino My subtle-flame radar detector is going off, but do you have relatives in the area you can stay with instead? Might be easier on the kid than some random strangers (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4133718&forum_id=2#37237647) |
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Date: November 15th, 2018 9:46 AM Author: umber resort ratface i don't plan on taking the kid to some random room in apt. I'll get my own place later.
And no I don't. |
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Date: November 15th, 2018 9:45 AM Author: disrespectful soul-stirring stain candlestick maker NYU girl so you can live blog ex wife's reaction to you leaving her to live with 20 yo female (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4133718&forum_id=2#37237649) |
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Date: November 15th, 2018 9:47 AM Author: black masturbator telephone this (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4133718&forum_id=2#37237657) |
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Date: November 15th, 2018 10:24 AM Author: Gay flatulent orchestra pit hunting ground She's gonna "react" by going out and fucking Chad while op listens to his roommate also fuck Chad in his own apartment (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4133718&forum_id=2#37237858) |
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Date: November 15th, 2018 9:46 AM Author: smoky address Why are you getting divorced? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4133718&forum_id=2#37237653) |
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Date: November 15th, 2018 9:47 AM Author: umber resort ratface wife is has already been pretty abusive. this time she called 911 to kick me out of the house by telling the operator I was being violent (reverse was true).
too scary for me to go back. |
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Date: November 15th, 2018 9:47 AM Author: smoky address And you are letting her have sole custody? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4133718&forum_id=2#37237662) |
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Date: November 15th, 2018 9:48 AM Author: umber resort ratface she's only abusive to me. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4133718&forum_id=2#37237667) |
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Date: November 15th, 2018 9:48 AM Author: black masturbator telephone think she'll hurt baby? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4133718&forum_id=2#37237664) |
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Date: November 15th, 2018 9:49 AM Author: umber resort ratface no. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4133718&forum_id=2#37237670) |
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Date: November 15th, 2018 9:51 AM Author: cerebral dopamine I had same experience. Literally. Spent night in jail. Case dismissed after judge realized I was the person physically struck. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4133718&forum_id=2#37237678) |
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Date: November 15th, 2018 9:52 AM Author: Sable Sneaky Criminal (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4133718&forum_id=2#37237683) |
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Date: November 15th, 2018 9:59 AM Author: umber resort ratface i got her to hang up the call by telling her i was leaving, then I called back 911 and told them what really happened and the police came to take our statements. i think she was too scared to lie in person to the officers in her statement, so at least I have it on record in my statement that she tried to make a false accusation of violence against me.
lol at #believeallwomen |
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Date: November 15th, 2018 10:00 AM Author: black masturbator telephone jfc (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4133718&forum_id=2#37237722) |
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Date: November 15th, 2018 10:13 AM Author: Sepia Juggernaut Which part of all of this makes you think your wife will be reasonable in the divorce?
Don't trust a single word she says and get the best lawyer you can afford
THIS IS LEGAL ADVICE |
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Date: November 15th, 2018 10:19 AM Author: cerebral dopamine This (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4133718&forum_id=2#37237821) |
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Date: November 15th, 2018 10:23 AM Author: umber resort ratface b/c i can use the documented domestic abuse evidence to push for full custody if she doesn't play ball? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4133718&forum_id=2#37237851) |
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Date: November 15th, 2018 10:37 AM Author: Scarlet den Unless she beat the kid, you'll still lose. She'll testify that you emotionally abused her and physically abused her but that she didn't report it out of fear. She'll cop custody and alimony and you'll be imputed at an income for life unless you start making more (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4133718&forum_id=2#37237936) |
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Date: November 15th, 2018 10:39 AM Author: cerebral dopamine ... (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4133718&forum_id=2#37237945) |
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Date: November 15th, 2018 10:39 AM Author: umber resort ratface dude that's just stupid.
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Date: November 15th, 2018 10:41 AM Author: cerebral dopamine (Guy who hasn't gone through a divorce before)
Family Court is ruthless towards men. Is getting better, but it's still awful |
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Date: November 15th, 2018 10:41 AM Author: Scarlet den Flame harder (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4133718&forum_id=2#37237964) |
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Date: November 15th, 2018 2:16 PM Author: excitant antidepressant drug preventive strike JFC - get an attorney. Divorce practices don't just exist to deal with elite couples figuring out how to sort through their complex assets and finances. Given both your professions + kids there are way too many things that need to be addressed that the Legalzoom divorce packet you downloaded for $50 doesn't cover. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4133718&forum_id=2#37239318) |
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Date: November 15th, 2018 10:09 AM Author: House-broken mewling volcanic crater chapel Don’t move out. Never move out. Don’t agree to anything less than 50/50 custody. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4133718&forum_id=2#37237765) |
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Date: November 15th, 2018 10:35 AM Author: Scarlet den She'll still pwn him because her evidence will be accepted that she's the primary caregiver and she will also cop alimony since she's only working 1 day a week. He's fucked for life (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4133718&forum_id=2#37237924) |
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Date: November 15th, 2018 10:49 AM Author: provocative tan hospital Not sure if this is flame but I have a duty to post this in case it’s not as other xo bros (e.g., dirte and bloodacre) during the beginning of my divorce, which raised similar custody issues as yours.
You are making bad decisions and fucking yourself in the long run. Espcecislly with regard to custody and alimony. As things currently stand, at least in California, your wife will owe you alimony. But you seem to be willing to negotiating against your interest. You will never, ever see your child if you give up custody now. Your wife is about to make your life as hard as she possibly can until you break or her go away. Get a lawyer this afternoon |
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Date: November 15th, 2018 10:56 AM Author: umber resort ratface >You will never, ever see your child if you give up custody now.
I don't understand this. If we agree on a visitation schedule and file that as part of the settlement, why would she be able to violate that later? |
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Date: November 15th, 2018 10:58 AM Author: Scarlet den Ljl enjoy your kid telling you he doesn't feel comfortable with you and doesn't want to see you after she brainwashing him to hate you (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4133718&forum_id=2#37238043) |
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Date: November 15th, 2018 11:07 AM Author: cerebral dopamine See how effective cops enforce visitation agreements, particularly against women.
You are really clueless to the realities of custodial issues. |
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Date: November 15th, 2018 11:25 AM Author: provocative tan hospital although this is flame, how about you stop asking clueless questions on xo and consult an attorney? even if flame, does it seem like good flame to have the subject of your flame be so stupid that he can't understand why giving up custody of a child (i.e., relinquishing all parental rights) could ultimately work against him? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4133718&forum_id=2#37238198) |
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Date: November 15th, 2018 11:29 AM Author: umber resort ratface a lot of what is being said here just seems to be generic pessimism and assumptions which may not apply to different states / cases.
what you just said doesn't even make sense. visitation rights are parental rights, so no i wouldn't be giving up all parental rights, by definition. |
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Date: November 15th, 2018 12:06 PM Author: cerebral dopamine Do you think it's right that you're allowed "visitation" with your own child? The very notion of the word "visitation" should repulse you.
You should really check out the "Father's Rights" movement.
Parental alienation is real and most courts are OK with it. If you are fine with "visitation," you are not really a father.
My ex did every shady thing imaginable to try and get full custody. Luckily, I had a good attorney, that was willing to fight the system. Also, I was more than willing to accept my responsibility to raise my children. It is not easy, but I wouldn't change it for the world.
Also, I have not spoken to my ex-wife in over two years. Will never speak to her again. We communicate only via email and text. I want every communication to be documented in case of future legal issues. |
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Date: November 15th, 2018 12:19 PM Author: provocative tan hospital *maintains the right to "visit" own child*
*gives up all other rights*
*wants to ever do anything ever other than see child at (extremely limited) times agreed to with psycho ex wife (e.g., enroll the kid in a specific school, make decisions about the kid's medical care, etc.)*
*can't because gave up all parental rights other than the "right" to "visit" own child* |
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Date: November 15th, 2018 11:28 AM Author: Elite Whorehouse This is flame NY-based Thunder Collins (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4133718&forum_id=2#37238221) |
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Date: November 15th, 2018 12:07 PM Author: cerebral dopamine I thought it was you at first. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4133718&forum_id=2#37238474) |
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Date: November 15th, 2018 12:10 PM Author: 180 indian lodge Third option: well furnished but small pine box located approx. 6 feet underground. Included in price is a big move in party that all your friends and family will be invited to. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4133718&forum_id=2#37238501) |
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Date: November 15th, 2018 2:04 PM Author: Bipolar stock car Is your wife by chance a breast surgeon? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4133718&forum_id=2#37239257) |
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Date: November 15th, 2018 2:07 PM Author: Tripping pervert faggotry 3k with roommates jfc
take the college student girl obviously. is she sexy? that could be fun. |