They're both rescue pets that had been neglected before I took them. I've had enough of the big fat bully, though, he's going to a no-kill adoption org next week. I gave him a year to warm up to the small one, but he's just not cut out for getting along with other pets, and still prone to pouncing somewhat violently on her whenever something in him is triggered. Prior to my bringing home the barn cat, the big cat and I had been living together with no other pets in the house for almost ten years.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4226155&forum_id=2#37969860)

The little one is much more trusting and you could say naive. She will go into his space as though she were approaching a hoped for friend, he will do something to hurt her. I have caught him sinking his Jaws into the back of her neck, she was crying. She likes to play hide and seek and other little games, and she seems to invite him. But it rather incites him for whatever reason.

She has suffered two cases of a badly scratched cornea, months apart from one another. Poor little thing got a lesion on her eye in both cases and it took over a month to fully heal, even with all kinds of amino acid supplements and fish oil and krill and creams from the vet.

I have caught the big one stabbing at her face through the pet gate on numerous occasions. She likes to push against the pet gate with her head like she's trying to get through to the other side so she can hang out with him. He is the one who is sociopathic not me. But I digress, it's when she's pushing against the gate with her forehead that he comes in and starts stabbing through the holes in the gate to poke her in the face. I have seen it multiple times and I have also seen her coming up with bad scratches on her corneas that left her squinting for over a month.

I understand one of the psychological principles behind persuasion goes to the notion of consistency. That is to say, Breaking off something which we have done for a long time gets more difficult the longer we have done it. This principle is operating on me, discouraging me from surrendering the big cat, because I have taken excellent care of the big cat for the better part of ten years which is a long time.

But my affection for the big cat is not some womanish affection, it is the manly affection of a principled master. Since he cannot be tamed and has proven he will hurt the little one if given the chance, he must either be segregated from her indefinitely, which is an inconvenience to me around my house constantly having to go through Gates, or he must be moved along.

Bad children are sent to reform school. Bad adults are sent to prison. Incurably violent people are put down. There is room enough in the ethical Spectrum for me to move this cat along without feeling too guilty. I've given him my every chance I could.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4226155&forum_id=2#37973237)