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Hate my wife. Hate my life. Love my 12 week old daughter. WHAT DO I DO?
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Date: December 8th, 2019 8:46 PM Author: histrionic kitty cruise ship The word divorce is always on the tip of my tongue but I don't say it because 1) I make 5 times more than my wife 2) I love my daughter and don't want any chance that I lose her in some fucked up custody battle.
My wife isn't a bad person. But we are so wrong for each other. |
Date: December 8th, 2019 8:46 PM Author: racy anal stead What are the problems? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39234664) |
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Date: December 8th, 2019 8:49 PM Author: brindle box office double fault Cq (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39234675) |
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Date: December 8th, 2019 8:52 PM Author: histrionic kitty cruise ship She has literally everything that an average intelligence woman would want: (1) she hasn't had to clean in the 5 years I've known her (we have a maid that comes 3 time a week). She literally doesn't even know what cleaning products we use, where the fuck cleaning stuff is, etc.
(2) She almost never has to cook because she delivers food twice a day.
(3) Here are the bigger items. She doesn't attract me anymore.
(4) She nags the FUCK out of me despite #1 and #2
(5) She is passive aggressive as fuck.
(6) She does not accept the fact that I REFUSE to go to 1 year old bday parties when our own little kid is too young to GIVE 2 FUCKS about these things. |
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Date: December 8th, 2019 8:54 PM Author: Curious half-breed hall Sounds like a modern wife to be honest, VERY ORDINARY. Suck it up. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39234686) |
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Date: December 8th, 2019 8:54 PM Author: histrionic kitty cruise ship What's the point of being successful (500k+/year) if this is what I have to deal with? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39234690) |
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Date: December 8th, 2019 9:08 PM Author: racy anal stead (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39234740) |
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Date: December 8th, 2019 9:15 PM Author: drab plaza dysfunction life sucks when you're not young. you got married and had a kid, you fucked up and became an adult. unless you're billionaire rich, you're gonna have to put up with the same shit that everyone else does (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39234778) |
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Date: December 8th, 2019 9:18 PM Author: histrionic kitty cruise ship Fuck you (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39234784) |
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Date: December 8th, 2019 9:20 PM Author: Bright Hairy Legs Dingle Berry (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39234792) |
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Date: December 9th, 2019 10:02 AM Author: Milky provocative locale goal in life Love ggtp but cr (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39236295) |
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Date: December 9th, 2019 11:54 AM Author: Amethyst vibrant associate stage To a degree ggtp isn't wrong. It's the male version of "eat pray love" (assuming the male isn't 6'4" chad making .5mil) to walk away in these situations. Regardles, dudes have only themselves to blame for this happening. Women becoming slugs like this NEVER happens overnight. It's a gradual process, and you have to put your foot down earlier. Blowing up a marriage and father/mother dynamic all at once is not tcr if you've allowed her to progress incrementally. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39236846) |
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Date: December 9th, 2019 3:42 PM Author: smoky galvanic center Settle down jinx (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39238164) |
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Date: December 8th, 2019 9:36 PM Author: Yellow spot (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39234853) |
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Date: December 9th, 2019 10:46 AM Author: slate bateful library This (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39236480) |
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Date: December 9th, 2019 2:04 PM Author: Vigorous Bistre Telephone Psychic (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39237578) |
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Date: December 8th, 2019 9:33 PM Author: Aromatic pit kitty cat The point is to have money for nubile SA girls. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39234838) |
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Date: December 9th, 2019 9:53 AM Author: Garnet parlor electric furnace (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39236261) |
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Date: December 9th, 2019 12:07 PM Author: razzle stage Tank your career, then. Who cares? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39236914) |
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Date: December 9th, 2019 10:20 AM Author: topaz mind-boggling sweet tailpipe blood rage why did you marry her?
4, 5, and 6 are a function of your failure to manage the relationship successfully
if those are a problem in this relationship, they're likely to reoccur in your next relationship |
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Date: December 9th, 2019 11:11 AM Author: Silver stirring cuck you sound like a huge faggot.
you should let/make her stay home if you really make 5x what she makes. even if she just takes care of the kid and doesn't do more household shit it's still worth it. if you can afford a maid and delivery food then don't be a faggot about it and just focus on the kid.
you probably also are a bigger nag and definitely are more of a passive aggressive fuck than she ever will be. you probably expect her to worship the ground you walk on bc "hurr durr i make 5x what you make and your row iq". the reality is your a little bitch and she treats you like one.
1yo bday parties are social events for the parents you weird fag. just be happy that your wife actually has friends which in turn will make it more likely your kid ends up having friends. |
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Date: December 9th, 2019 11:14 AM Author: topaz mind-boggling sweet tailpipe blood rage pretty much (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39236626) |
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Date: December 9th, 2019 11:29 AM Author: Cracking market cr but watch ur language pls this is a public forum (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39236715) |
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Date: December 9th, 2019 11:43 AM Author: Silver stirring cuck fuck my ass (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39236787) |
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Date: December 9th, 2019 2:07 PM Author: Vigorous Bistre Telephone Psychic I was sympathizing w you till #6, you’re a shit parent if you don’t do birthday parties man, I dont care how old the kid is (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39237596) |
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Date: December 8th, 2019 8:47 PM Author: Mahogany hairraiser mental disorder things will be very stressful for 3-6 months with a newborn. don't do anything rash until things calm down (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39234667) |
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Date: December 9th, 2019 7:36 AM Author: Onyx fighting tanning salon indirect expression This is credited. Wait until the kid is 1 y/o and sleeping through the night consistently. Everyone will be more sane and things will look different. Maybe you will still want to leave. But maybe not. Don’t make any rash decisions during this brief, crazy time in your life. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39236039) |
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Date: December 8th, 2019 8:50 PM Author: Citrine Offensive Alpha You're right now at the most trying/traumatic time of any marriage with kids so your judgment about her can't be trusted. Is she a good mother? If she treats your child well maybe you will reconsider if she's right for you. Your whole existence is pretty much just for the kid at this point anyway. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39234679) |
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Date: December 8th, 2019 8:54 PM Author: histrionic kitty cruise ship Yes, she treats our child well but she is only an average intelligence person with 0 multi-tasking ability. So she maximizes all of her "talent" into raising our child, which I admit is tough...but holy fuck we have a maid coming multiple time a week, she doesn't have to cook, etc.
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Date: December 8th, 2019 8:56 PM Author: Citrine Offensive Alpha Having a baby fucks up their brain and turns it to mush. There's actual science behind this. Don't be too hard on her. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39234701) |
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Date: December 8th, 2019 8:58 PM Author: histrionic kitty cruise ship I don't think I cared much for her mediocre personality prior to the kid (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39234707) |
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Date: December 8th, 2019 9:10 PM Author: Citrine Offensive Alpha Everyone thinks that (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39234751) |
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Date: December 8th, 2019 8:51 PM Author: Maroon principal's office roast beef EVERYBODY DANCE NOW
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Date: December 8th, 2019 9:09 PM Author: racy anal stead (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39234744) |
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Date: December 8th, 2019 9:34 PM Author: Bonkers forum round eye (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39234846) |
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Date: December 8th, 2019 9:00 PM Author: Bright Hairy Legs Dingle Berry Sounds like you'll have to kill her. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39234712) |
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Date: December 8th, 2019 9:03 PM Author: electric domesticated fanboi house this is why you don't have children w women of average intelligence (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39234724) |
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Date: December 8th, 2019 9:05 PM Author: histrionic kitty cruise ship Yeah but it's too late for that. What the fuck do I do?
Try for the most amicable divorce of all time (not happening)?
I'm such a pussy. As I said above, she's not a bad person. She's just not right for me and will never make me happy. |
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Date: December 9th, 2019 11:21 AM Author: Motley circlehead incel it's not on her to make you happy. right now (and going forward too, but to a lesser extent), her focus is on the baby. and yours should be too.
what does she nag you about?
if we were to ask her what the problems are in your relationship, what would she say?
what do you imagine you will do that will make you happy post divorce? fuck young cheerful girls? |
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Date: December 8th, 2019 9:05 PM Author: dead gay point fat ankles Man the fuck up, fagg0t. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39234728) |
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Date: December 8th, 2019 9:05 PM Author: histrionic kitty cruise ship Is that you, "my dog has more potential dates than I do"'s mom? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39234731) |
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Date: December 8th, 2019 9:06 PM Author: Mauve beady-eyed business firm Sounds about right. Now man the fuck up. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39234733) |
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Date: December 8th, 2019 9:07 PM Author: histrionic kitty cruise ship WHAT DOES THIS EVEN MEAN (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39234736) |
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Date: December 8th, 2019 9:09 PM Author: dead gay point fat ankles Men don’t walk out 3 months after their children are born. Grow a fucking pair, fagg0t, and be an adult. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39234743) |
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Date: December 8th, 2019 9:19 PM Author: histrionic kitty cruise ship Did I say I'm walking out, homo nigger?
I'm asking what a solution might be, albeit longterm |
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Date: December 8th, 2019 9:20 PM Author: walnut swollen mad cow disease theater stage Settle down xiaowei (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39234790) |
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Date: December 8th, 2019 9:09 PM Author: Mauve beady-eyed business firm What was your relationship with your wife like pre-kid? As has been pointed out, immediately after kid 1 is the most trying time in most relationships. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39234746) |
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Date: December 8th, 2019 9:21 PM Author: histrionic kitty cruise ship Mediocre at best. When she in her 2nd trimester I realized I was a stupid fuck for all my decision leading up to that (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39234799) |
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Date: December 8th, 2019 9:10 PM Author: drab plaza dysfunction you have a kid, you cant choose divorce now, your responsibility is to provide her with a happy home with two parents. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39234750) |
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Date: December 8th, 2019 9:35 PM Author: Bonkers forum round eye (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39234848) |
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Date: December 8th, 2019 9:12 PM Author: Shaky trailer park dragon "3) Here are the bigger items. She doesn't attract me anymore. ... (6) She does not accept the fact that I REFUSE to go to 1 year old bday parties when our own little kid is too young to GIVE 2 FUCKS about these things."
Why the fuck did you get married? Did you think you were going to be sexually attracted to your wife for 60 years?
Go to a fucking birthday party. She wants you to do family things. What an autist you must be not to see that.
This sounds like it's a you problem, not a her problem. |
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Date: December 8th, 2019 9:20 PM Author: histrionic kitty cruise ship I went to like 4 things this weekend. I just didn't want to go to one of her most AWFUL friend's kids' 1st bday.
FUCK THAT KID |
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Date: December 8th, 2019 9:15 PM Author: Mahogany hairraiser mental disorder ok here is some real advice
1) is your kid sleeping through the night? if not, get a night nurse 2) go to couples therapy with your wife to discuss her nagging and to tell her you want her to get back in shape. hard conversation to have without a mediator 3) how much help do you have with the kid? your family, her family, nanny watching the kid? the more your wife is doing this, the more irritable she will be. get more help if you need it 4) how much leverage do you have? i.e. do you have a prenup, is she living in your house or are you renting, does she come from wealth. the more leverage you have the more you can probably get her to change her attitude
it's far too early for you to cut and run bud |
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Date: December 8th, 2019 9:27 PM Author: histrionic kitty cruise ship 1) No. But my wife is exclusively pumping (note: not exclusively BFeeding, but rather PUMPING every mother fucking meal for our kid). So that makes it "easy" for me to give our kid the a couple feeds a day despite working crazy hours.
2) we've considered this. at times, like now, i don't even want to see someone. it's unsalvageable.
3) TONS of potential help. Her mom lives nearby and has been a stay-at-home mom for her ENTIRE life despite her kids being 30+. She doesn't ask her mom for help despite her being perfectly capable.
4) no prenup but I have good financial records of when we were married. My net worth is clear at the time we were married and even if she gets half after that (she won't) I would be okay.
no, she doesn't come from wealth.
you're probably right about it being too early to cut and run but I'm already old. I'm 35. I'm sort of in my "prime" in terms of the perfect mix of wealth and looks. She feels like a chore to me right now. Every day is just about doing enough to making her happy. |
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Date: December 8th, 2019 9:32 PM Author: Mahogany hairraiser mental disorder your attitude is a little feminine bro. the woman won't create structural change on her own. women are inherently passive, they whine and complain and they want their man to do things.
so insist on therapy. insist on getting her to ask her mom to come help. insist on a night nurse. you need to tell her that her nagging is driving you up the wall and come up to a reasonable solution of actual things she wants and things you want (which sounds like more free time for yourself). if she nags you for things beyond what you come to in a compromise then that's a problem
you have leverage because your wife doesn't come from wealth and she'll be damaged goods back on the dating market.
keep in mind that women's brains change after having kids as well. so the grass isn't going to be any greener for you if you find another woman and knock that one up:
http://www.xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=4377911&mc=21&forum_id=2 |
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Date: December 8th, 2019 9:34 PM Author: Mahogany hairraiser mental disorder also think about another man raising your kid. think about the resentment your ex-wife would feel and how she would use that to poison your daughter's mind against you, whether consciously or unconsciously. think about how confusing htat would be for your kid. also, girls with divorced parents are often mentally ill & huge sluts
you want to do that to your kid? |
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Date: December 8th, 2019 9:37 PM Author: histrionic kitty cruise ship no :( (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39234858) |
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Date: December 8th, 2019 9:35 PM Author: histrionic kitty cruise ship "you have leverage because your wife doesn't come from wealth and she'll be damaged goods back on the dating market."
I never considered this and neither will she. But it just occurred to me that her parents will remind her of this fact so fucking fast. |
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Date: December 9th, 2019 11:16 AM Author: Silver stirring cuck lol at this retarded chink bullshit.
you don't need a "night nurse" to deal with a baby. No 3 month old kid sleeps through the night and it's just part of being a parent to feed them at night when they get up. likewise you don't a fucking nanny or a ton of family help with just one goddamn kid. Ask anyone with multiple kids, having just one around is like a vacation.
double lol at jew "couples therapy" over vague shit like "oooh she nags me" or "we pay for a maid, which we can afford". yea real stressful shit you're dealing with there, definitely need professional intervention. |
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Date: December 8th, 2019 9:19 PM Author: contagious famous landscape painting You can't get divorced in the first year of a baby, it's gonna be hard. Start meditating and exercising and taking time for yourself. Change your relationship with work to see it as a means to an end. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39234787) |
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Date: December 8th, 2019 9:24 PM Author: Awkward idiotic persian cumskin I don't see why any man should be attached to a little kid? The kid probably shits itself. U just afraid she'll take u to the cleaners after full custody. That's why I find it funny when even those husbands that cheat on the wife and even give her a black eye don't want to give up full custody because "love the kid" (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39234809) |
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Date: December 8th, 2019 9:25 PM Author: Mahogany hairraiser mental disorder if the marriage is only a couple years old she won't be taking him to the cleaners (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39234812) |
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Date: December 8th, 2019 9:28 PM Author: histrionic kitty cruise ship Maybe I thought the same before having a kid myself.
I love my little girl. She's more capable than your stupid nigger ass. |
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Date: December 8th, 2019 9:31 PM Author: Awkward idiotic persian cumskin U molest your little girl and think it cute when she poops? I am a strong white male and my wife takes care of the baby and sucks my cock and knows to keep her weight under control (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39234830) |
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Date: December 8th, 2019 9:33 PM Author: histrionic kitty cruise ship You literally sound like a virgin that masturbates to child porn. Get help, you sick fuck. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39234837) |
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Date: December 8th, 2019 9:34 PM Author: Awkward idiotic persian cumskin I bet ur wife gets full custody once she realizes ur a pedo (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39234843) |
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Date: December 8th, 2019 9:53 PM Author: Orchid becky national security agency "man" who has never had sex, let alone had a kid (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39234938) |
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Date: December 8th, 2019 10:06 PM Author: Awkward idiotic persian cumskin Pedo (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39234980) |
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Date: December 8th, 2019 9:31 PM Author: Bonkers forum round eye Focus on work man. Try to make even more money (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39234832) |
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Date: December 8th, 2019 9:33 PM Author: histrionic kitty cruise ship What for though, preppy?
WHAT IS THE POINT when you are unhappy like this? |
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Date: December 8th, 2019 9:35 PM Author: Mahogany hairraiser mental disorder the point is that it's no longer about yourself but about your daughter's best interests. if you wanted to be hedonistic and only focus on yourself you shouldn't have had a kid. divorce is really the very last option & you should do everything in your power to try to fix this (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39234852) |
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Date: December 8th, 2019 9:39 PM Author: histrionic kitty cruise ship Hmm ok. I feel like I have been trying. Maybe not hard enough. I'm a GREAT father and a pretty good husband. She doesn't appreciate the fact how good she has it.
Never cleaned once in her life. Barely cooks (twice a week she makes eggs). Shit, I even hook up her parents with random shit. |
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Date: December 8th, 2019 9:43 PM Author: Mahogany hairraiser mental disorder yeah her lack of gratitude for what you provide & her lack of respect for you with all this nagging does sound like a real problem. a man wants to feel respected & appreciated. hopefully therapy can help (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39234900) |
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Date: December 8th, 2019 9:47 PM Author: histrionic kitty cruise ship i feel so much of that depends on a therapist who sees shit my way.
there are good therapists who could easily paint me bad or paint her bad. or maybe both. |
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Date: December 9th, 2019 11:27 AM Author: Motley circlehead incel I think gratitude and appreciation for what you have are like no.1 things that every therapist will focus on, rather than finding and assigning fault, so if what you say is true then you have nothing to worry about.
Might not be the best time when the kid is 3 mos. old though. Her mind is 100% baby now. |
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Date: December 8th, 2019 9:34 PM Author: Indecent aquamarine private investor location Sounds to me like OP is a selfish bitch. This is why people should get married and have kids young. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39234845) |
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Date: December 8th, 2019 9:36 PM Author: histrionic kitty cruise ship Explain the connection between your 2 sentences (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39234855) |
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Date: December 8th, 2019 9:37 PM Author: Bright Hairy Legs Dingle Berry lol I was going to say the same thing but hit cancel in my head. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39234863) |
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Date: December 8th, 2019 9:37 PM Author: Yellow spot (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39234865) |
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Date: December 9th, 2019 11:25 AM Author: Odious Tattoo Address "This is why people should get married and have kids young."
Wouldn't this be even worse when everyone is younger? |
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Date: December 9th, 2019 11:28 AM Author: Motley circlehead incel I think the point is that younger people, while more selfish, are less entitled and, therefore, less likely to bitch about not being worshipped by their partner at all times. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39236711) |
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Date: December 9th, 2019 12:42 PM Author: Odious Tattoo Address "younger people, while more selfish, are less entitled"
lolwut? |
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Date: December 8th, 2019 9:36 PM Author: Awkward idiotic persian cumskin Post a pic of your wife. Maybe some of will take her (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39234854) |
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Date: December 8th, 2019 9:36 PM Author: Irate indigo step-uncle's house turdskin You settled for what you could get. Now that you are richer and better looking (normal for most men as they age), you want something different. This is shitty morality but you aren't the first or last to think this way.
First year after a kid is indeed tough. But everything you've written here leads me to believe this isn't because of the newborn. I think you just dislike her now and are not going to be happy. Cut your losses and divorce. Every year you wait, the more you'll have to give up. You'll share custody anyway. |
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Date: December 8th, 2019 9:41 PM Author: histrionic kitty cruise ship One thing I haven't considered is the reality of sharing custody. Until I find another woman, who is literally taking care of the kid on a day to day basis when I have custody? I guess a nanny, but finding a good one is tough.
You are right though. I will never be happy. And each year is a wasted year. |
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Date: December 8th, 2019 9:54 PM Author: Orchid becky national security agency most credited advice in this thread. And I hate divorce. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39234942) |
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Date: December 8th, 2019 9:40 PM Author: Fragrant public bath regret (2) She almost never has to cook because she delivers food twice a day.
Ask her to cook, fgt. Is that so hard? Just curious, why is this a problem? If you want her to cook just tell her and see what she says back.
(3) Here are the bigger items. She doesn't attract me anymore.
When did she stop attracting you and why? Did she get fat or doesn't take care of herself?
(4) She nags the FUCK out of me despite #1 and #2
Despite #1 and #2 is not the issue. WHY does she nag you? What are you doing that she ends up nagging.
(5) She is passive aggressive as fuck.
Same question as above.
(6) She does not accept the fact that I REFUSE to go to 1 year old bday parties when our own little kid is too young to GIVE 2 FUCKS about these things.
Does she expect you to go to a bunch of parties, or just to important ones?
Edit: You say she makes 1/5 what you make. So she is also working now? If she's working and taking care of an infant why would you also want her to cook? |
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Date: December 8th, 2019 9:45 PM Author: histrionic kitty cruise ship I've asked her to cook and she's sort of like "but raising little X is tough and we can afford it so why do you care?" .
she's just about as attractive as she was was the day we met. I've just gotten bored. Her body has actually bounced back really well post-baby. So I'm a total dick for feeling this way but it's just how I feel.
she nags me because she is home all fucking day and has nothing but to do but nag.
she expects me to go to ALL parties whereas I only want to go to the important ones. I'm not antisocial. I'll gladly hang out with her friends or mine. 2-3 couples is perfect. but a stupid kid's 1st bday? fuck off |
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Date: December 8th, 2019 9:55 PM Author: Fragrant public bath regret I've asked her to cook and she's sort of like "but raising little X is tough and we can afford it so why do you care?" .
I have the same question, actually. Why do you care? I cook myself and I have to cook for the entire week in one day and you have no idea all the time it takes. You should ask her to give it a shot for 2 weeks and see how you both feel. You may save a ton of money, but the time that she will be losing will be huge as well.
she's just about as attractive as she was was the day we met. I've just gotten bored. Her body has actually bounced back really well post-baby. So I'm a total dick for feeling this way but it's just how I feel.
This may have to do with the issues you're having. You can't feel attracted to someone you feel so angry at.
she nags me because she is home all fucking day and has nothing but to do but nag.
But there is no actual reason or something you're doing that triggers her?
she expects me to go to ALL parties whereas I only want to go to the important ones. I'm not antisocial. I'll gladly hang out with her friends or mine. 2-3 couples is perfect. but a stupid kid's 1st bday? fuck off
In this case I suppose I would agree with you. But consider the fact that people will attend your parties if you attend theirs, so you're setting yourself up to be pwned at your parties. That's just how it works. |
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Date: December 8th, 2019 10:03 PM Author: histrionic kitty cruise ship I care about the food thing because I like to be healthy. Literally the only thing to get from outside that is healthy is salads and sushi. Everything else is loaded up on sodium and other garbage that I don't want.
She doesn't work right now. The kid isn't a month old anymore. Can't she cook or clean once in awhile? Is that too much to ask?
She nags me because of shit like today -- I did shit with her all weekend and then today I said I wanted to hang with a friend that was in town instead of going to her friend's kid's 1st bday (not even a good friend of my wife btw). She was okay with it at first but AFTER she left for the "partY" she made sure I knew how unhappy she was.
FUCK THAT passive aggressive shit. |
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Date: December 8th, 2019 10:09 PM Author: Fragrant public bath regret Titcr about cooking to stay healthy. But from what you wrote above, it doesn't sound like this is the answer you gave her and you accepted her "we can afford it." That's a communication problem on your end.
I'd address the passive aggressive behavior, do you communicate with her at all? I know the easiest thing is to complain to others, but you will eventually have to face her and tell her what you feel, otherwise this shit will just snowball into a shittier situation. |
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Date: December 8th, 2019 10:16 PM Author: histrionic kitty cruise ship I have flat out said "we are not rich enough to order $75 worth of food per day" which is about what she is doing.
That is insanity, especially because we have a big ass project this year that is draining my funds like crazy right now. |
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Date: December 8th, 2019 10:21 PM Author: Fragrant public bath regret Dude, it's your money, why are you giving it to her to spend that much on food? Order the groceries and ask her to cook the shit you want. If she doesn't do it, then you can get MAF. You're just letting her dump your money in the trash by doing nothing about it and just complaining here. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39235057) |
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Date: December 8th, 2019 9:53 PM Author: histrionic kitty cruise ship (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39234939) |
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Date: December 8th, 2019 9:57 PM Author: salmon office I've been there. Just have a drink and try not to focus on any of this. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39234953) |
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Date: December 8th, 2019 9:59 PM Author: contagious famous landscape painting lol (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39234959) |
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Date: December 8th, 2019 10:04 PM Author: histrionic kitty cruise ship i've literally tried this exact thing and then she says shit like "alcohol is not the answer. stop avoiding me"
she also has been saying cliche shit like "Why aren't you talking" and "why are you so quiet" recently.
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Date: December 9th, 2019 10:44 AM Author: topaz mind-boggling sweet tailpipe blood rage you're at least as passive aggressive as she is
https://www.amazon.com/Crucial-Conversations-Talking-Stakes-Second/dp/1469266822
both would help you, navigating this relationship and every other relationship in life |
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Date: December 8th, 2019 10:05 PM Author: histrionic kitty cruise ship The main thing I want to get across is that she is a GOOD mom but a mediocre wife and a bad friend. She isn't funny or smart. She just bores the fuck out of me.
I'm not interested in her sexually anymore.
I just am such a pussy because she is NOT a bad person and like I said she is a good mom to our daughter. But literally everything else is lacking or absent. |
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Date: December 8th, 2019 10:08 PM Author: Bright Hairy Legs Dingle Berry What did you think life is? Serious question. Did you somehow think that by getting married you would end up better than the millions of other rubes who did the same? Why is everyone so surprised to find that life sucks? There is evidence of it everywhere at all times. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39234989) |
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Date: December 8th, 2019 10:17 PM Author: histrionic kitty cruise ship You have a good point. Without any irony, I realize now that I am a stupid fuck. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39235037) |
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Date: December 8th, 2019 10:12 PM Author: Orchid becky national security agency No, the main thing you want to get across is that you want to leave your wife and you want xo to agree with that decision. Look above-- you complain about her laziness, entitlement and looks. OK. You might be able to ride this out, but I don't think (based on very little) that is likely to happen. Divorce her. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39235009) |
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Date: December 8th, 2019 10:14 PM Author: Mahogany hairraiser mental disorder (Non-religiousmo, probably a dicorcedmo with fucked up kids who wants others to be in the same situation) (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39235016) |
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Date: December 8th, 2019 10:15 PM Author: Orchid becky national security agency Married 25 years with kids. Happy. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39235024) |
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Date: December 9th, 2019 11:17 AM Author: Cracking market (boomer) (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39236647) |
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Date: December 8th, 2019 10:19 PM Author: histrionic kitty cruise ship What makes it tough for me is that as I've said a few times she is not a BAD person. She is in fact a good person and she means well.
But she is not smart, not organized, and literally 100% of her effort/time/energy/intelligence has to go to being an above average mother.
In the past I always fuck shit up in a relationship if I want to be done with a girl. I can't break up with them because I'm a pussy fag. |
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Date: December 8th, 2019 10:23 PM Author: Orchid becky national security agency How old are you? How long have you felt this way? Really, a lot of people just give up on marriage too easily. That said, the kind of people who do that aren't the type of people to ride out trouble. I think therapy is useless. It is all determined by your personality and hers. You think you can do better, be happier. You might be right. However, the longer you are in this relationship the more you might realize that you aren't that great a catch and that you got somewhat lucky with her. |
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Date: December 8th, 2019 10:16 PM Author: Milky provocative locale goal in life Lots of people are saying this! (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39235031) |
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Date: December 8th, 2019 10:23 PM Author: unhinged mexican Man up.
Download Grindr. |
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Date: December 8th, 2019 10:29 PM Author: pale crackhouse how old are you? if under 30 just suck it up and youll grow into the relationship.
if over 30 just suck it up because your life is over anyway. |
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Date: December 9th, 2019 7:54 AM Author: Puce Diverse Nibblets Taking a weeks old baby to a party esp for other tiny kids is actually extremely stupid. Your kid hasn’t had a flu shot yet and who knows if the other parents are vaccinating. It sounds like everyone had a kid so they could keep the party bus rolling into their 50s. Sad. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39236059) |
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Date: December 9th, 2019 8:10 AM Author: Nudist Heaven Presumably she had the same looks and personality when you married her and decided to have a kid with her. Now suddenly you are surprised?
Also, you say you make 500k and she makes a fifth of that. 100k job is a real job. So if she does that plus takes care of the kid, that's quite a lot. How are you complaining about a maid and meals? I make more but I would be demanding live in help. |
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Date: December 9th, 2019 11:54 AM Author: histrionic kitty cruise ship She actually makes 140k but she is currently on unpaid maternity leave. when she returns to work she will go part time (3 days a week) and make around 70k a year (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39236849) |
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Date: December 9th, 2019 2:18 PM Author: Silver stirring cuck that makes sense. most six figure jobs have that kind of arrangement where you can just work half the time for half the pay. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39237667) |
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Date: December 9th, 2019 10:01 AM Author: shimmering bipolar pistol rigor Ditch wife and kid, if wife can't cook and clean how do you expect your wife to instill thise skills in your kid? Your daughter is 100% xo guaranteed to grow up having no skills to prepare her for the future.
Couple that with no personality and your wife will "raise" your kid. You'd be better off divorcing, taking the kid, and having the maid raise her. |
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Date: December 9th, 2019 10:06 AM Author: Milky provocative locale goal in life (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39236305) |
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Date: December 9th, 2019 10:02 AM Author: flesh exhilarant azn area Have an honest discussion with her...about seeking arrangement. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39236294) |
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Date: December 9th, 2019 10:21 AM Author: tripping temple You don’t want to bang your wife because she’s nagging you and being insufferable. Not because of anything else. This is common and happens to anyone who’s in a long term relationship when shit gets hard.
Sounds like some of the other shit is related to baby no.1 year 1. |
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Date: December 9th, 2019 10:45 AM Author: slate bateful library Just stick it out for 18 years haha. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39236476) |
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Date: December 9th, 2019 10:46 AM Author: narrow-minded idea he suggested corner man the fuck up (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39236478) |
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Date: December 9th, 2019 10:46 AM Author: Cracking market you sound like an entitled pussy who thinks his "$500K" makes him some hot shit
also all parties involved sound asian, this is just a comment. |
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Date: December 9th, 2019 11:01 AM Author: Yellow spot White or Asian. But, yeah. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39236555) |
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Date: December 9th, 2019 11:05 AM Author: drab plaza dysfunction (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39236577) |
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Date: December 9th, 2019 11:23 AM Author: Milky provocative locale goal in life It’s hilarious that he’s getting scraps from Massa’s Table and think that makes him an oligarch or something (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39236678) |
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Date: December 9th, 2019 3:34 PM Author: Deep Razzmatazz Doctorate Lodge (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39238120) |
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Date: December 9th, 2019 11:24 AM Author: Odious Tattoo Address (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39236681) |
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Date: December 9th, 2019 2:01 PM Author: Garnet parlor electric furnace (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39237560) |
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Date: December 9th, 2019 11:27 AM Author: umber nubile sanctuary lettuce Just do hire a maid and divorce your wife bc she doesn’t clean. Thread checks out (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39236702) |
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Date: December 9th, 2019 11:29 AM Author: Silver stirring cuck also have your wife keep her $100K job when you make $500K. makes complete sense. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39236713) |
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Date: December 9th, 2019 11:33 AM Author: umber nubile sanctuary lettuce Yeah so she can full time worship him. Sounds like an amazing deal (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39236730) |
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Date: December 9th, 2019 11:39 AM Author: Motley circlehead incel And so that he can call her passive-aggressive when she asks him what's wrong and why he doesn't talk. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39236759) |
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Date: December 9th, 2019 11:40 AM Author: Cracking market his mistake was letting her know how much he makes. She should think they are just getting by but things are close and it's important for her to chip in. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39236772) |
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Date: December 9th, 2019 11:44 AM Author: Yellow spot You want him to marry an idiot. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39236790) |
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Date: December 9th, 2019 11:47 AM Author: Cracking market I want her to feel like she has something valuable to contribute. Everything in this thread says that he is *constantly* reminding her that she doesn't. He makes $500K - he can pay someone else to clean, someone else to cook, someone else to take care of the kid. Oh and her salary isn't really necessary either. No wonder she nags. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39236809) |
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Date: December 9th, 2019 12:39 PM Author: Odious Tattoo Address So in your world she should do nothing and he should feel obligated to keep bringing in $500k? Wtf? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39237112) |
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Date: December 9th, 2019 2:13 PM Author: Vigorous Bistre Telephone Psychic Raising a kid =/= do nothing, you Russian cretin (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39237627) |
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Date: December 9th, 2019 2:40 PM Author: Odious Tattoo Address Yes, yes it is. She is mostly going to be watching TV. The entitlement of thinking women deserve to do nothing except play with their kids is even worse than what the OP is exhibiting. At least earning $500k/year is a rare accomplishment. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39237788) |
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Date: December 9th, 2019 5:57 PM Author: Motley circlehead incel jfc I look forward to the day you and Mandy have a kid, and you start evangelizing on the difficulty of raising one. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39238706) |
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Date: December 9th, 2019 5:58 PM Author: Odious Tattoo Address Oh I'm sure we'll both complain massively. But that's neither here nor there. Neither of us is quitting and we're getting an au pair to deal with the little shit(s).
That said I overwhelmingly WFH so I guess this will be more my problem that my wife's. |
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Date: December 9th, 2019 12:14 PM Author: Motley circlehead incel But for the daughter's age and location and no-cooking, this could easily be Lonely Hunter's husband, no? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39236959) |
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Date: December 9th, 2019 12:39 PM Author: Odious Tattoo Address I don't think he makes that much. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39237116) |
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Date: December 9th, 2019 1:51 PM Author: Garnet parlor electric furnace Sick lonely hunter neg female pumos/ettes be so catty (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39237511) |
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Date: December 9th, 2019 5:58 PM Author: Motley circlehead incel not a neg, the dude itt is as much of a dick as hers (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39238711) |
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Date: December 9th, 2019 6:00 PM Author: Garnet parlor electric furnace Yes I know but the alternate world where you’re implying that lonely hunter no longer brings anything to the table and hence her husband no longer has any interest is a funnier world. So hence my jest. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39238720) |
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Date: December 9th, 2019 6:01 PM Author: Odious Tattoo Address I mean, her husband doesn't make as much but then again, neither does she. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39238725) |
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Date: December 9th, 2019 12:40 PM Author: Fantasy-prone parlour youve only known her for 12 weeks. bail (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39237122) |
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Date: December 9th, 2019 6:47 PM Author: Milky provocative locale goal in life (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39238915) |
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Date: December 9th, 2019 12:49 PM Author: Vengeful queen of the night university you sounds like you have a great life. just go to the strip club (or mistress or whatever) now and then to get it our of your system, and then return to your kids. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39237164) |
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Date: December 9th, 2019 12:53 PM Author: Nofapping Big-titted Scourge Upon The Earth Honestly, sounds like a good life and a good wife. Address the personality issues with open and honest communication and/or couples counseling.
You will lose your attraction to any woman at one point or another. Luckily, there are thousands of women out there that will discreetly address these issues for you. |
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Date: December 9th, 2019 12:55 PM Author: Heady brilliant digit ratio cuckold marijuana man. kid bday parties are more fun when you're a lil bit blazed
this is a tough period. just use weed to relieve the stress, try to be as nice and understanding to your bitch wife as possible, masturbate regularly to release that tension, make sure you get some exercise, and just focus on that beautiful baby girl. |
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Date: December 9th, 2019 2:07 PM Author: Plum know-it-all depressive Lol you think you’re some hot shit but complain about paying for a maid and food delivery and kids bday parties? Shut up you little bitch. no wonder your wife nags you. You made your bed, now grow the fuck up and lie in it. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39237598) |
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Date: December 9th, 2019 2:25 PM Author: Garnet parlor electric furnace (markes 700k) (thinks maids and delivery are credited uses of some of that money) (clips subway coupons) (is clearly better than u) (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39237709) |
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Date: December 9th, 2019 2:55 PM Author: Nudist Heaven (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39237885) |
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Date: December 9th, 2019 3:07 PM Author: electric domesticated fanboi house 180
nutella stomping on op's balls |
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Date: December 9th, 2019 3:11 PM Author: twinkling ceo garrison lmao op, read this post and then read it a dozen more times after that bc this verbal SPH is going to be the tone of every day of your life if you leave this coddled but overwhelmed woman for the household-running field marshal dominatrix that you seem to think you want |
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Date: December 9th, 2019 3:50 PM Author: Garnet parlor electric furnace (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39238205) |
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Date: December 9th, 2019 4:12 PM Author: slate bateful library (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39238316) |
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Date: December 9th, 2019 6:42 PM Author: Nofapping Big-titted Scourge Upon The Earth (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39238894) |
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Date: December 9th, 2019 6:44 PM Author: Painfully Honest Casino FATALITY (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39238905) |
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Date: December 9th, 2019 2:11 PM Author: pale crackhouse honestly, based on what ive experienced with other couples who have kids, I think your problem is just spending too much time together. you need to just come out and say "the babymoon phase is over" ill go do something productive like go to the supermarket and cook dinner while you watch the kid or ill watch the kid and you go fucking shopping and make dinner but im not gonna sit here fawning with you over the baby for the next 18 years." familiarity breeds contempt and these newborn couples just seem to sit there passive aggressively nagging each other on handling the baby. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39237617) |
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Date: December 9th, 2019 3:32 PM Author: Odious Tattoo Address You know what you need? A cybertruck. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39238104) |
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Date: December 9th, 2019 3:40 PM Author: Deep Razzmatazz Doctorate Lodge Was kinda neutral on this at the start but reading everything turned me against OP. Your wife still looks good after a baby and is being a good mom and you're COMPLAINING? And she has a decent paying job? This is a 90th percentile outcome. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39238153) |
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Date: December 9th, 2019 3:47 PM Author: Odious Tattoo Address Also she seems to care that he is unhappy. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39238192) |
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Date: December 9th, 2019 6:07 PM Author: Impertinent Massive Resort you have one life to live, and it will pass quickly. what do you think you're going to regret more, living like you are now for the rest for your life, or getting divorced and finding your own way while dealing with the complications with divorce? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39238747) |
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Date: December 9th, 2019 7:23 PM Author: razzle stage When was the last time you took her on a surprise nice vacation? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4397537&forum_id=2#39239143) |