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Happily Married Bros: How important to have common interests & hobbies w/ wife?

Question can apply to happily LTR dudes too
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  05/22/20
(null set)
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  05/22/20
Our kids are the common interest/hobby. That already takes u...
Anne Frank sporting a full bush
  05/22/20
I don’t think it matters at all. Personalities need to...
Fyre festival founder
  05/22/20
Doesn't matter. Folks have to be raised to be family pe...
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  05/22/20
Non-issue. I've never had any common interests with any girl...
8========D~~~
  05/22/20
Not sure how it is for most people. Wife and I are very clos...
calishitlawguru
  05/22/20
Women are there to make a babydood with and otherwise stay o...
8========D~~~
  05/22/20
Lol no.
Abe Millar (Irish Writer)
  05/22/20
(shitlib whose wife doesnt let him go out drinking with his ...
8========D~~~
  05/22/20
my thinking too. GF and I don't get excited about any of th...
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What does liking the same things have to do with deeply conn...
8========D~~~
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meeting of the minds? i don't see my male friends as much la...
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Seems trivial
gibberish
  05/22/20
No need to have shared interests to have a good intellectual...
8========D~~~
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Interesting responses ITT. Common interests means very litt...
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More important is shared values.
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gibberish
  05/22/20
Kids are the common interest if you don't have any. If you ...
Gregor
  05/22/20
Maybe 10%
gibberish
  05/22/20
LJL at "interests", let alone common ones.
Buck "The Club" Paulette
  05/22/20
I agree with others ITT who say it’s not that importan...
QueenLaBEEFah
  05/22/20
You are nigger
Arthur Edward Pepper Jr.
  05/22/20
Guy with a shitlib wife here. Not as bad as you'd think. I j...
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How long have you been married?
gibberish
  05/22/20
This is a secret. I started saying I was married on xoxo wel...
8========D~~~
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180
Arthur Edward Pepper Jr.
  05/22/20
Contrary to popular opinion, I'm 100% honest about all the g...
8========D~~~
  05/22/20
Ive added comments to your cell
gibberish
  05/22/20
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Arthur Edward Pepper Jr.
  05/22/20
My wife is generic lib but not shitlib - we know where each ...
Jim_Kelly
  05/22/20
CR. Fortunately I am very adept at maintaining lies for ...
8========D~~~
  05/22/20
It's not essential but it's really good. I dated a traine...
Jim_Kelly
  05/22/20
Not essential, but you should like doing things together.
therealerikestavillo
  05/22/20
To be clear, no need to have shared interests in order to en...
8========D~~~
  05/22/20
We have a lot of shared hobbies and values. But we don't lik...
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I don't know how important it is, because people are so diff...
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I think it's really important. But the most important thing ...
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  05/22/20
Share interests are not that important... I agree with other...
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  05/22/20
Not important at all. Marriage thrives on counterbalancing e...
and when i started to squeeze the bar brother
  05/22/20
unimportant. worldviews first, then personalities. 15+ years...
Live Free or Die.
  05/22/20
Not very. Having tv shows you both like is nice though
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Date: May 22nd, 2020 5:45 PM
Author: .........,,;,;,;,,,............,,;,;;,.;.


Question can apply to happily LTR dudes too

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4540241&forum_id=2#40258476)



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Date: May 22nd, 2020 7:15 PM
Author: .........,,;,;,;,,,............,,;,;;,.;.


(null set)

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4540241&forum_id=2#40259019)



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Date: May 22nd, 2020 7:20 PM
Author: Anne Frank sporting a full bush

Our kids are the common interest/hobby. That already takes up 90% of our available time. The other stuff we do to get away from each other.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4540241&forum_id=2#40259043)



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Date: May 22nd, 2020 7:23 PM
Author: Fyre festival founder

I don’t think it matters at all. Personalities need to mesh that’s the most important

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4540241&forum_id=2#40259049)



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Date: May 22nd, 2020 7:34 PM
Author: .,,...,,...,,...,,...,,...,,...


Doesn't matter.

Folks have to be raised to be family people. Frugality, loyalty, contentment, not quick to anger, no propensity to addiction (gambling, alcohol, drugs, video games) - these things matter.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4540241&forum_id=2#40259085)



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Date: May 22nd, 2020 7:38 PM
Author: 8========D~~~

Non-issue. I've never had any common interests with any girl i dated, including my wife. More important is that she does not hate your friends.

I don't know what kind of man has any interests in common with a normal woman.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4540241&forum_id=2#40259099)



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Date: May 22nd, 2020 7:51 PM
Author: calishitlawguru

Not sure how it is for most people. Wife and I are very close. We have very similar interests (family is #1, video games, working out, learning, traveling, and food). We really truly enjoy spending our free time together and with our kids. I don't know how a relationship can last 17 years without liking the person you are with. Physical attraction and infatuation only last a short period of time. You have to really like the person you are with to stay together a long time. Tbh though I think having matching spending habits is just as important.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4540241&forum_id=2#40259166)



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Date: May 22nd, 2020 8:36 PM
Author: 8========D~~~

Women are there to make a babydood with and otherwise stay out of your way as much as possible while being a good mother.

Male friends should be used for social companionship.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4540241&forum_id=2#40259374)



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Date: May 22nd, 2020 8:50 PM
Author: Abe Millar (Irish Writer)

Lol no.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4540241&forum_id=2#40259462)



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Date: May 22nd, 2020 8:52 PM
Author: 8========D~~~

(shitlib whose wife doesnt let him go out drinking with his bros -- and who also has no bros)

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4540241&forum_id=2#40259471)



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Date: May 22nd, 2020 8:37 PM
Author: .........,,;,;,;,,,............,,;,;;,.;.


my thinking too. GF and I don't get excited about any of the same things. i have a lot of interests and hobbies, she has next to none. she oddly likes to cook and clean though which is strange to me, and is a positive but i'm not sure if that's enough. kind of got me bummed out thinking we might never connect deeply on things we are both really into.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4540241&forum_id=2#40259380)



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Date: May 22nd, 2020 8:38 PM
Author: 8========D~~~

What does liking the same things have to do with deeply connecting? That's not how romantic (ie. breeding) relationships work.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4540241&forum_id=2#40259387)



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Date: May 22nd, 2020 8:39 PM
Author: .........,,;,;,;,,,............,,;,;;,.;.


meeting of the minds? i don't see my male friends as much lately so being unable to have engaging conversations over similar interests whether hobbies, or debates, news, etc, is noticeable. i get on chat with my male friends and we chat non-stop. with her, it's basic, mundane day to day shit.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4540241&forum_id=2#40259392)



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Date: May 22nd, 2020 8:41 PM
Author: gibberish

Seems trivial

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4540241&forum_id=2#40259409)



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Date: May 22nd, 2020 8:48 PM
Author: 8========D~~~

No need to have shared interests to have a good intellectual relationship. Wife and I have great conversations on a wide range of topics and we share 0 unique interests.

Also, common shared "interests" like food, travel, etc. don't count because basically everyone has those interests.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4540241&forum_id=2#40259445)



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Date: May 22nd, 2020 8:33 PM
Author: .........,,;,;,;,,,............,,;,;;,.;.


Interesting responses ITT. Common interests means very little to most apparently. This seems bizarre to me, though I'm not married, so wtf do i know.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4540241&forum_id=2#40259358)



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Date: May 22nd, 2020 8:36 PM
Author: 8========D~~~

More important is shared values.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4540241&forum_id=2#40259377)



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Date: May 22nd, 2020 8:39 PM
Author: gibberish



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4540241&forum_id=2#40259388)



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Date: May 22nd, 2020 8:36 PM
Author: Gregor

Kids are the common interest if you don't have any. If you are over 30 and still looking then good luck finding that person you have anything in common with.

And if you came here to post this question I'd wager you'll want to get away from the other person no matter what.

I think marriage is more about timing than anything else.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4540241&forum_id=2#40259376)



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Date: May 22nd, 2020 8:37 PM
Author: gibberish

Maybe 10%

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4540241&forum_id=2#40259384)



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Date: May 22nd, 2020 8:41 PM
Author: Buck "The Club" Paulette

LJL at "interests", let alone common ones.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4540241&forum_id=2#40259406)



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Date: May 22nd, 2020 8:42 PM
Author: QueenLaBEEFah

I agree with others ITT who say it’s not that important. By the time you’re married you already spend a ton of time together. Having interests that diverge is fine and probably welcome. This dynamic only gets worse when you have kids. By that point, aside from everyone being WFH during Covid, you spend at best an hour or two alone together and awake per day. My wife and I basically watch tv, talk and have sex during that time and none of those require we have the same interests. I will say my wife and I have the same values and political beliefs which is 180. I see people in here who talk about having lib wives and I wouldn’t be able to deal with that.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4540241&forum_id=2#40259418)



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Date: May 22nd, 2020 8:44 PM
Author: Arthur Edward Pepper Jr.

You are nigger

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4540241&forum_id=2#40259423)



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Date: May 22nd, 2020 8:49 PM
Author: 8========D~~~

Guy with a shitlib wife here. Not as bad as you'd think. I just lie about my political beliefs to her.

No flame, it's likely she would divorce me if she knew my real political beliefs.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4540241&forum_id=2#40259452)



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Date: May 22nd, 2020 8:50 PM
Author: gibberish

How long have you been married?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4540241&forum_id=2#40259460)



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Date: May 22nd, 2020 8:51 PM
Author: 8========D~~~

This is a secret. I started saying I was married on xoxo well before I was actually married so some derranged gook's quest to out me would be thwarted by an incorrect date in his spreedsheet.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4540241&forum_id=2#40259469)



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Date: May 22nd, 2020 8:52 PM
Author: Arthur Edward Pepper Jr.

180

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4540241&forum_id=2#40259472)



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Date: May 22nd, 2020 8:53 PM
Author: 8========D~~~

Contrary to popular opinion, I'm 100% honest about all the general things I say about myself on xoxo, so I have to play around with details like that to keep the derranged gooks off my tail.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4540241&forum_id=2#40259480)



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Date: May 22nd, 2020 8:57 PM
Author: gibberish

Ive added comments to your cell

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4540241&forum_id=2#40259512)



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Date: May 22nd, 2020 8:58 PM
Author: Arthur Edward Pepper Jr.



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4540241&forum_id=2#40259515)



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Date: May 22nd, 2020 8:55 PM
Author: Jim_Kelly

My wife is generic lib but not shitlib - we know where each other stands and have an unspoken agreement to not talk about it. Thankfully it's not a big part of her identity, although increasing politicization of everything means it seeps in. She bought into the media-driven "Dangerous"-Trump-will-lead-us-into-nuclear-war baloney and seeing that not happen took a lot of wind out of her sails. My Trump-HATING "Republican"/RINO dad is 1000x as obnoxious re: politics as is my wife.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4540241&forum_id=2#40259496)



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Date: May 22nd, 2020 8:58 PM
Author: 8========D~~~

CR.

Fortunately I am very adept at maintaining lies for very long periods of time.

She still has no idea i've cheated on her with ~50 women. LJL.

Also helps that i avoid discussing politics IRL at all costs.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4540241&forum_id=2#40259518)



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Date: May 22nd, 2020 8:58 PM
Author: Jim_Kelly

It's not essential but it's really good.

I dated a trained singer and had to pretend to give a shit about opera and spend time and money on all that. Most ex-gfs seemed to like female stuff like going to plays, etc. and so I had to at least sit through them.

My wife isn't into that stuff AT ALL, which is really welcome. Last night at 1 a.m. I was at my desk and heard her cracking up at Impractical Jokers in the other room. Having a date night be beers, pizza, and a Pixies concert rather than a $300 dinner that leaves me hungry followed by the SF Ballet is 180.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4540241&forum_id=2#40259521)



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Date: May 22nd, 2020 9:02 PM
Author: therealerikestavillo (Because he hated me)

Not essential, but you should like doing things together.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4540241&forum_id=2#40259543)



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Date: May 22nd, 2020 9:04 PM
Author: 8========D~~~

To be clear, no need to have shared interests in order to enjoy doing things together....as long as neither one of you is unreasonable and fussy.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4540241&forum_id=2#40259550)



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Date: May 22nd, 2020 9:08 PM
Author: ;..;.;;;.;;.;.;.;;;.;;;.;.;;;....;.


We have a lot of shared hobbies and values. But we don't like the same music and she hates exercising/does not care about sports (I do)

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4540241&forum_id=2#40259565)



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Date: May 22nd, 2020 9:08 PM
Author: .... -^^,--,~.... (🦊)

I don't know how important it is, because people are so different. I think it's important you at least respect and can enjoy some of each others' interests on some level, though, otherwise you probably have bitterness creep in.

my wife and I share some common interests and there are other things we don't share at all, but we have respect for our divergent interests and can even humor each other and enjoy the fact that the other is enjoying them.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4540241&forum_id=2#40259571)



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Date: May 22nd, 2020 9:26 PM
Author: ...........,........,,,,,,,,.,,,, (Definitely NOT a Russian ghost pepper troll )


I think it's really important. But the most important thing is that you like doing nothing at all together. Like you're in bed and you need to go to sleep but instead you stay up talking to each other because you enjoy it. That's the most important thing.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4540241&forum_id=2#40259671)



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Date: May 22nd, 2020 10:01 PM
Author: ......,,,,,,........, (The morning sun has vanquished the horrible night )

Share interests are not that important... I agree with others that shared values are key. Couldn’t imagine being married to a shitlib

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4540241&forum_id=2#40259796)



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Date: May 22nd, 2020 10:57 PM
Author: and when i started to squeeze the bar brother (http://youtu.be/sqLsqHctThU)

Not important at all. Marriage thrives on counterbalancing each other's interests and strengths. If you want someone to spend all your time and hobbies with and play video games or go hiking with every weekend just get a gay boyfriend.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4540241&forum_id=2#40260056)



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Date: May 22nd, 2020 11:05 PM
Author: Live Free or Die.

unimportant. worldviews first, then personalities. 15+ years married.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4540241&forum_id=2#40260086)



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Date: May 23rd, 2020 12:41 PM
Author: .,,,.,,.,.,:,..::,,...,:,...,:,.,..:.,:.::,.


Not very. Having tv shows you both like is nice though

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4540241&forum_id=2#40261875)