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Date: November 18th, 2022 12:12 PM Author: pontificating jap
took gf out to birthday dinner at her favorite restaurant: a fusion sushi place. i smiled and ate my meal and we had a pleasant time.
this morning she asked me about it again and i said it was pretty good. she started probing this and i admitted i didn't think it was as good as some of the other restaurants we've been to. here's the result:
https://imgur.com/a/nosC9Rk
note: i did not immediately react this way, i was nice about it for the first few hours and tried to placate her.
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512143) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 12:33 PM Author: pontificating jap
i get that but i don't really know how to respond better.
like i said, i started with "it's very good!" and she recognized the whiff of criticism and prodded me until i gave her my actual opinion.
how do you "hear" somebody when they're telling you that you not liking a place hurt their feelings? especially in response to very mild criticism?
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512282) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 12:42 PM Author: Mahogany digit ratio space
I really don't know how I do it I just sometimes instinctually know how to listen really well. I just ask them a lot of questions about why they feel how they feel and give them an opportunity to organize their thoughts and feelings. I take their side even if it's irrational and let them unload. Steer towards the root cause of their frustration and try to get em to open up.
If you can get her to say, 'here's why I'm upset. "The truth is, I just really love that restaurant, and I wanted you to like it as much as I do. I wanted to show you something that I really care about and I genuinely thought you'd like it too. I was excited for that." If you can get her to open up then just say 'oh I never thought of it that way, thank you for opening up to me. You know we can go back there and I'll give it another chance' (in a week she will forget anyway and probably feel guilty about making you go back there.
These moments of catharsis are powerful in a woman's brain. I don't know this person and maybe my method is retarded but that's how I typically handle these things.
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512342) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 12:34 PM Author: Purple frisky base indirect expression
She literally said you hurt her feelings. Stop trying to use logic on her. Stop trying to win the argument. You'll always lose.
"Babe hurting ur feelings was that last thing I wanted to do. You're so wonderful for thinking of me on your birthday. Thank you for suggesting it." or some shit to this effect.
Remember, homie, happy wife, happy life. Women don't think thru life, they feel their way thru. Don't treat her like opposing counsel or some counterparty, she's supposed to be ur partner. You need to give in in these types of discussions and not hold ur ground/try to win an arguemnt
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512288) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 1:27 PM Author: bat shit crazy chapel
What the fuck this is the worst advice I have ever read
Don't indulge this shit, explain that she's an adult and you can like different things; she's not some toddler who gets her feelings hurt because you have different favorite colors.
Don't fucking take these shit tests seriously at all, and NEVER moderate your opinion to match hers. It communicates that she runs you.
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512582) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 2:00 PM Author: bat shit crazy chapel
You can accomplish that without this cucky bullshit. In his position (assuming he didn't just fucking bail immediately because this bitch sounds insufferable), the right answer is 1) "we can like different things, we're both adults," and 2) "what part of that hurts your feelings?" Resolving conflict with women often requires you to ask them questions that will force them to think through why they're acting a certain way. In time, you can train a lot of this shit out of them if they're smart. None of that requires this stupid "just agree with her when she picks ridiculous fights" cuckery. Look at the result your advice had (which you somehow found "1800!" lmfao): she ended it by placing the responsibility for this nonsensical fight on him. Guarantee you he hears about this again ("your communication issues...") when she wants to tone police him in the future, and he's set the precedent that:
- she can police his opinions
- she can pick absurd arguments with zero consequence
- she can resolve conflict how and when she wants, with no expectations of maturity placed upon her
Mine doesn't pull retarded shit like this because I married a fucking adult lmao. I don't have to withhold affection or gaslight her because we don't bicker about inane chickenshit like this, and we can reason through things together. Pick better women.
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512772) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 2:09 PM Author: Purple frisky base indirect expression
"Resolving conflict with women often requires you to ask them questions that will force them to think through why they're acting a certain way. "
LOL. Women don't think, they feel. You're very wrong about this.
Nowhere did I say that he should agree with her when she picks ridiculous fights. In this situation he fucked up and created a fight out of nowhere by having an extremely autistic and esoteric discussion regarding the precise level of like/dislike he had for her restaurant choice. All the bitch wanted was a compliment and my suggested reply included that. The 18000 was more about his literally copy/pasting xo poasts to his GF as a natural reply lol.
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512842) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 1:15 PM Author: Mauve theater volcanic crater
She is upset because she thinks you are a cheapskate and don't like the place because it costs too much. You think the food is good quality but the place is not a good value for the money so in some sense she is correct.
she did not want your opinion. she wanted you to find enjoyment in giving her what she likes without consideration for the cost.
If you are ok with paying the costs then proceed with giving her what she wants and accept this as the reality of the relationship. if You are poor, cheap, or think she is a golddigger then ATD.
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512543)
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Date: November 18th, 2022 12:25 PM Author: Mahogany digit ratio space
She seems really sweet and kind. All she wanted was for you to pretend you liked something she liked more than you did.
It's not easy pretending to like something you don't and I'm not very good at it. She's upset because the restaurant selection meant a lot to her because she wanted you to like what she likes as much as she does. And this is obviously a ridiculous premise. But pretty typical for a woman.
There's no easy fix for this but in that situation I would do my best to lie and then somewhere far down the line try and tip her off to not liking it.
I agree fusion sushi is not something I really go for to put it lightly. I had a prole ex who was into that and I always thought it was a somewhat horrifying genre. It's tough. One thing I learned is women take their birthdays really seriously for some reason and you kind of just have to make it all about them even if it doesn't make sense.
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512233) |
Date: November 18th, 2022 12:30 PM Author: Fishy mad cow disease multi-billionaire
wow lol you sound like a giant pussy explaining your feelings
just tell her it was awesome and move on this isn't about the food it's about the food on her birthday
next time she suggests it and it's a whatever day just suggest a different better place that you both think is better
this isn't hard faggot
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512267) |
Date: November 18th, 2022 12:34 PM Author: Diverse scarlet yarmulke
lol @ the end denying she ever asked for your thoughts and then claiming she's being the bigger person by talking to you?
"I don't feel heard when I'm trying to express my feelings about things"
*Proceeds to berate you for having an opinion that she pried out of you*
Also why is this place so "sentimental" to her? Just from taking you last night? Or did she take other dudes there before lol
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512295) |
Date: November 18th, 2022 12:35 PM Author: Copper chest-beating casino
180 content.
My GF is the opposite and it's not any better. Just learn to deal with it. Have you fucked since?
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512302)
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Date: November 18th, 2022 1:18 PM Author: trip bull headed whorehouse
I'm not just busting your balls. Idk what your relationship with addy is like, but as an unprescribed "abuser" I go weeks and months without it.
I've revisited my own addy convos, and they all exhibit the same theme you're displaying ITT.
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512554)
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Date: November 18th, 2022 2:18 PM Author: trip bull headed whorehouse
That's solid. Not advocating u quit addy, but at least be cognizant of it moving the needle on psyche to some degree.
IMO the issue ITT wasn't your disagreeable take, but the effort u made proselytizing it. Double-down succinctly or just ignore and change the topic entirely. All of that back and forth instead of:
"The food was decent lol. Its ok babe I still love you"
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512910) |
Date: November 18th, 2022 1:31 PM Author: bat shit crazy chapel
"it's fine that you like shitty food, just don't expect me to be seen in public there more than once"
More seriously, why would you ever entertain this nonsense at all?
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512602) |
Date: November 18th, 2022 1:47 PM Author: Crystalline Reading Party
It’s called a shit test, bro. You failed miserably.
Don’t fall for this trap in the future. Just ignore her for a few hours and later say you were tied up.
She’s looking for a reason to dump you, and she found it. Which is a good thing, because a woman this petty would be miserable to be around if you lived with her.
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512684) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 2:17 PM Author: pontificating jap
i think aspie hyper logical debating is more of a masculine trait. the advice you're giving could have been copy pasted from a 105iq reddit redpill thread filled with indians and gooks talking about how "aphra!" they are.
i am a very traditional person and all my relationships have very traditional masculine/feminine roles. i think my track record that i've shared with xo demonstrates i'm not some faggot beta considering i'm able to get attractive women despite being a self-described skinny fat balding middle aged lolyer.
i posted this because it was funny and fully recognize that i am coming off as a faggoty whining bitch because i snapped. that doesn't mean it is my normal.
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512904) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 3:05 PM Author: bat shit crazy chapel
You don't have to be aspie about it -- don't be (although I don't know if I can explain how not to be if this isn't already something you get).
I didn't say anything about gay posturing, or use the word "alpha" once (that's childish shit), not sure what you're on about with this. What I did tell you is that taking a woman's shit tests seriously is a terrible idea, and you should dismiss them, not accommodate them and then reward her with attention.
Traditional roles don't have much room for the nonsense in those texts, but I'm not particularly interested in trying to discern or litigate with you how well those terms characterize the full scope of your normal behavior.
All I'll say is that if your base reaction when frustrated reduces to that sniveling, you will have a hard time keeping her respect as soon as she sees that.
Best of luck with her.
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45513177) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 3:15 PM Author: pontificating jap
>What I did tell you is that taking a woman's shit tests seriously is a terrible idea, and you should dismiss them, not accommodate them and then reward her with attention.
i disagree. i think the advice about making them feel heard is more tcr.
stonewalling, withholding affection, etc. is not a good long term strategy. it works with some women. i've been with ones that it works and it's 180. it sounds like that's what you have and if so: great. but i think you're being presumptive that it works well with all women.
and if your response is "be better at choosing women", i've got bad news for you on how common that quality is. this one needs to "feel heard" or whatever, which sucks, but generally she has these birdbrain spergs infrequently and is pretty 180 the rest of the time. every relationship involves compromise and if i have to indulge in placating her irrationality every so often i'm willing to do it for this one.
>All I'll say is that if your base reaction when frustrated reduces to that sniveling, you will have a hard time keeping her respect as soon as she sees that.
we all make mistakes, brother. i poasted this because it's funny and to get some advice. i've been with her for six months and she is extremely doting and loving. i know she respects me and have seen how she talks about me to others.
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45513238) |
Date: November 18th, 2022 1:51 PM Author: zombie-like temple
You come off as an xo normie, surprised by your attempt to explain yourself to her. Pick your battles with women. This isn't one to take
She's testing you. Don't know why. Perhaps testing waters for ending the relationship. She also wants a deeper friendship on some level. Does she have a lot of fun friends? What hobbies does she enjoy?
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512707) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 2:00 PM Author: pontificating jap
responded below.
we've been together 6 months and she typically doesn't sperg out like this. just thought it was kinda funny. this is the same chick i posted about that got pissed at me re: chance of rain correlating with accumulation and i got drunk and emailed a meteorology professor to prove i was right.
this thread and that one probably give a pretty good insight into my autism.
nevertheless, despite these birdbrain moments that are a delight to share with xo, she is pretty 180 the rest of the time.
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512767) |
Date: November 18th, 2022 3:13 PM Author: bipolar stead macaca
I cannot imagine having this type of long drawn-out text discussion with a GF or wife.
EDIT: I'm not going to read the whole thing, but you lost frame IMMEDIATELY. When she said "why do you hate X," you started defending how "you don't hate it," etc., thus ceding agenda control to her.
Proper response is something like "lol simmer down" or *after three hour break* "LOL. 👍 talk soon"
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45513223) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 3:28 PM Author: pontificating jap
i did disengage. she kept nagging and i snapped.
i don't "need to be right". but when someone keeps repeating something incorrect and insisting you agree i get stumped on what to do.
as i said, for the first couple hours i did try to disengage and move on. she got my goat. you've poasted before on the common tactic of women is increasingly provocative behavior to provoke npd/aspie dudes until they get a reaction. that's pretty much what happened here.
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45513318) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 3:32 PM Author: bipolar stead macaca
See, even in this exchange here, you're nitpicking about how to characterize the underlying phenomenon and engaging in pettifoggery; do you "need to be right" or are you "stumped on what to do" when "someone keeps repeating something incorrect"? This chick has your number!
And yeah, women in general and BPD women in particular will test some behavior to get a flicker of a reaction, then escalate that behavior, like turning up the gain on a speaker or something, until they get a strong reaction. But the way to extinguish it is as I laid out above - no response, poker face, ignore it; practice it so resolutely that the behavior becomes a part of your character, and you genuinely will be Above this sort of thing.
A re-frame: you should view this chick testing you as an opportunity to test and improve your mettle. Not a shit-test, but a challenge.
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45513342) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 4:35 PM Author: pontificating jap
cr. it's a very difficult skill to learn. i'm much, much better at it on "big things." throughout my life my most intense bullshit with women have been over retarded bullshit like this. when it's a big thing and i can understand why they're upset it's easy to empathize. when it's over retarded nonsense it's difficult, to the point where i don't even know how to do it.
i need to just realize "she's upset about something and wants something from me.", and even if it's irrational birdbrain nonsense that no one should ever be upset about, i just have to accept that's the situation and work to figure out the solution.
in this case, i kept thinking "if she knows i didn't hate it then it'll get resolved." so i kept going to that. i should have recognized right away that when that didn't work i missed the mark and there was something else to identify. instead a double and tripled down on "explain more effectively you liked the restaurant" and got into the weeds about that. and it's especially frustrating to me when it's about something so trivial and continues going on for hours and hours.
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45513735) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 6:56 PM Author: bipolar stead macaca
An issue: there is no such thing as "trivial," objectively. Not as far as emotions/feelings/women are concerned. To _her_, it was a big deal, since she wanted you to have a good birthday and enjoy the restaurant or whatever. So by arguing it's no big deal, or trivializing it, you're invalidating her experience (as dumb and gay as it may be).
Relationships are largely about reaching mutual understanding re: one another's dumb hang-ups & back-scratching. You can try to find common ground by finding the deeper reason something is important to her, then grounding it in the relationship. Once that meeting of the minds is reached, she'll be in position to 'hear' you about the details of whether it's a good restaurant or not (more likely, it will fade away and not matter).
But, to do this effectively, you have to find a way to open yourself up, and what is important to you, in a way that isn't demeaning or trivializing for her.
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45514361) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 9:20 PM Author: bipolar stead macaca
I feel you.
It is hard to discourse on the topic without seeming to lapse into cheap koans and fortune cookie paradox.You want to treat her seriously, so you can show her the details she is rattling on about are trivial. A way to do this is to just interpret her as saying what's really important and, without expressly saying so, responding to that.
Or if you want to work your way in, you can pace and lead, etc. So first you'd agree and amplify, like "yea, one of the worst restaurants I've been to. I'll need to teach you about taste."
Wait for her to go crazy. Pause. Then something like, "looking forward to teaching you! You're a good student. And sweet you cared so much about my birthday."
She is now back to her original motive state, but will say it outright; then you can hit her with, "but next time I'll pick the restaurant. Lol."
— see how much more fun and interesting that is? Yet you also get your point across, and acknowledge that you can see she cares and appreciate it.
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45514993) |
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Date: November 19th, 2022 7:32 AM Author: bipolar stead macaca
The point is to take her on an emotional journey and be interesting and signal high status and value. Think of yourself as a musician who is jamming on her emotions. It's manipulative, but manipulation is inevitable in relationships with others (see the book on PCT, Controlling People) & women want a man who will connect with them and guide them on an emotional journey. They want to be manipulated expertly, in the right way; whether it's immoral depends on your words and actions, not blarney.
Setup and punchline.
Hot and cold.
Never tepid, never drip drip steady.
{Pardon the lengthy responses – I write these out in case there are young men reading who may benefit and in consequence maek babies.}
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45516130) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 3:20 PM Author: pontificating jap
yeah.
i don't even care about "winning" but when a person is wrong about something and keeps repeating it, especially w/r/t MY opinions or what i'm saying, i sometimes cannot help but try to correct the record. it's a trait i've displayed on here before and i'm trying to be better and just walking away.
tbf, for hours before this i was being aloof and just trying walk away and drop it, change the subject, etc. but she kept bringing it up apropos of nothing and i snapped.
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45513271) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 3:33 PM Author: pontificating jap
i'm really not that way. i thought i'm more known as a kindness poaster and my feuds here have been pretty short. if you notice in most subthread wastelands i'm the one that walks away. i constantly tell her "i really done care and just want to move on", but she is the one that keeps bringing it up and refuses to let it go. you see in the thread i said something like "why does stuff like this linger with you", which is referencing me dropping it several times before and her continuing to bring it up.
i think my issue is not effectively making them feel heard or recognizing the root of what's upsetting them. i don't want to continue the fight, but they won't drop it because they haven't been validated yet. and i get stuck, because i kept saying i did have a good time and did like the place, but she kept persisting.
you immediately recognized what the issue was and were able to diffuse the whole thing with a 3 sentence reply. after rereading our convo several times i could not figure out how to diffuse it. i didn't care about being right or wanting to win, i just wanted to move on. but when i see "i feel bad because you didn't list the restaurant" my first instinct is to resolve it by explaining i didn't hate the restaurant, whereas tcr seems to be letting her know i don't want her to feel bad and understand that she feels bad.
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45513352) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 3:50 PM Author: Purple frisky base indirect expression
I don't think at any point she really cared about your opinion on the actual restaurant/food. She wanted validation/affection from you:
"I was trying to show you this neat place."
"it's something I like and I thought it was cool."
"Our special dinner"
"It was just special for me to share it with you"
You calling it "decent" is basically like calling her and her opinions decent... not a good look. Women don't think or talk like men, they're not straightforward, there's usually some ulterior motive to the conversation. You focusing on the restaurant/food and getting aggressive ("I don't fucking hate it", "why would it hurt YOUR feelings", etc.) is the exact opposite of what she was looking for: a pat on the head
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45513439) |
Date: November 18th, 2022 3:33 PM Author: dun house-broken nibblets
lmao @ ur relationship
lmao @ ur life
lmao @ u
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45513348) |
Date: November 18th, 2022 3:35 PM Author: bronze faggotry athletic conference
You made a grave error ever allowing this relationship to devolve into lengthy text-based communications. Texting should be for sharing a quick photo or a link to something or confirming a date/time/location. If she wants to communicate with you about anything non-trivial she needs to speak to you.
Sorry to say this is unsalvageable now and you should probably just move to a new city and never see or speak to her ever again.
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45513364) |
Date: November 18th, 2022 3:58 PM Author: slippery location patrolman
Good Lord. So much mental illness here. It would never occur to me to be upset that my wife didn't like a restaurant and it wouldn't occur to her to demand that I liked a place either. Different people have different tastes (here, literally).
I guess if you were smooth you would have turned this into "I wasn't there for the food, I was there for the company" type thing and be chill and cool and fun (the fact that I of all people on XO have to make this point is probably appalling) but the fact that she is this "hurt" and "wounded" that you didn't like a particular sushi fusion place makes me desperately hope this is flame.
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45513498) |
Date: November 18th, 2022 4:10 PM Author: twinkling church mad-dog skullcap
holy shit, I go for a walk and look away and a megathread appears.
some good advice given here. always nice to see XO help out.
is this the shower chick?
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45513606) |
Date: November 18th, 2022 4:56 PM Author: Naked range stain
It's a bit hard to judge without the context, but you kinda seem like a dick. Men care more about truth (the more autistic they are, the more they care about it), but women care more about emotion and connection.
Complaining about the food at a place she picked on her birthday is being idiotic-why add negativity to a great night. She wants to know you had a good time on her birthday, not your autistic rating of this particular restaurant. If she really pressed for your view ("please rate it 1-10"), id consider lying or avoiding it if its like the day after her birthday -- just say the food was ok, but you were glad you got to spend her birthday with her and her tits/ass looked amazing in the dress she wore, so you weren't really paying attention.
Maybe if she asked you like 3 months later in the context of going back to this place, you'd be fine being like, nah, wasn't for me. But if it's her favorite place, just fucking go occasionally for her -- life isn't about optimizing the exact best food for the cost decision lol.
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45513846) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 9:24 PM Author: twinkling church mad-dog skullcap
"Does this dress make me look slender?"
There's only one correct answer to a question like that.
Same with "Was the sex good for you as well?"
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45515018) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 9:27 PM Author: bipolar stead macaca
"does this dress make me look fat?"
"no, but this does!" *grabs roll*
"was the sex good for you as well?"
*grunt + shrug*
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45515031) |
Date: November 18th, 2022 6:25 PM Author: carmine station gaming laptop
180 thread
120 OP
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45514243) |
Date: November 19th, 2022 12:55 AM Author: laughsome insane business firm
Find a new girl.
Every guy deals with birdbrain logic but this is some SHREW-AUTIST level shut by her.
Find a girl who is smart but doesn’t think too deeply into things. You want her preoccupied with looking hot for you, not thinking about “how to be heard” or “express her feelings”.
Like wtf. Get back out there and find a better girl.
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45515689) |
Date: November 19th, 2022 1:24 AM Author: Sadistic menage ceo
Good content creation here but holy shit why would you engage in a lengthy text debate with a woman?
You know the feeling when you get a new game or start listening to a new band and you show it to your bros and they are like “hell yeah this is great”? Feels good, right? Women feel the same way x10.
And then you know how sometimes you like a thing but your friend is like “this is gay and shitty” and you argue for a while but eventually agree that you just have differing tastes but are still bros and you still like the thing even if it is a little gay objectively? Yeah women are completely unfamiliar with this experience.
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45515743)
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Date: November 19th, 2022 5:19 PM Author: pontificating jap
https://imgur.com/a/j7U1c7a
my autism > cslg sushi
also top poasts of the week both divided on the topic of fusion sushi
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45518398) |
Date: November 19th, 2022 5:48 PM Author: Crimson knife skinny woman
Do not marry this person.
You've been warned.
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45518529) |
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Date: November 21st, 2022 10:52 AM Author: pontificating jap
what do you mean by "agree & amplify insecure bids to get you to announce you really hate it."
it didn't even "not like" the restaurant. i thought it was just ok, decent, etc. would love to go for happy hour rather than go again for a full meal. that's part of what got me so frustrated and why i was saud "i didn't say a fucking hate it!" right at the beginning.
one of my biggest triggers is when i clearly explain something such as an argument or opinion and someone intentionally and repeatedly strawmans it or misstates it. (the autist in me is the autist in you)
also: http://www.xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5239422&mc=1&forum_id=2
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45524595) |
Date: January 17th, 2023 12:23 PM Author: pontificating jap
Geroge: Let me ask you something. What do you think of this shirt?
Sharon: It's nice.
George: Jerry said he didn't like it.
Jerry: I didn't say I didn't like it. I said it was O.K...
George: No, you said you didn't like it...
Jerry: Oh, so what if I don't like it. Is that like the end of the world, or something?
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45801460) |
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