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On hour four of text debate with GF re: she feels bad I didn't like a restaurant
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Date: November 18th, 2022 12:12 PM Author: Mint Ungodly Area took gf out to birthday dinner at her favorite restaurant: a fusion sushi place. i smiled and ate my meal and we had a pleasant time.
this morning she asked me about it again and i said it was pretty good. she started probing this and i admitted i didn't think it was as good as some of the other restaurants we've been to. here's the result:
note: i did not immediately react this way, i was nice about it for the first few hours and tried to placate her. |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 12:12 PM Author: Vigorous partner Post removed by moderator for violating The Law of The Land. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512146) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 12:13 PM Author: Vigorous partner Post removed by moderator for violating The Law of The Land. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512154) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 12:14 PM Author: Vigorous partner Post removed by moderator for violating The Law of The Land. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512160) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 12:16 PM Author: Vigorous partner Post removed by moderator for violating The Law of The Land. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512176) |
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Date: November 19th, 2022 12:59 AM Author: bull headed pontificating library ATD (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45515694) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 12:30 PM Author: Fishy Church Building Doctorate (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512268) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 12:13 PM Author: Curious love of her life corner Lmao 90% of the time I hate the I Still Unload spammer but I lol’d here (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512151) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 12:13 PM Author: lake spectacular water buffalo it really was the cr (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512153) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 12:13 PM Author: Provocative Pozpig Corn Cake (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512155) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 1:35 PM Author: Stirring heaven (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512628) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 2:58 PM Author: snowy site preventive strike (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45513129) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 6:47 PM Author: Saffron ladyboy (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45514326) |
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Date: November 19th, 2022 6:32 PM Author: Curious love of her life corner (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45518690) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 12:14 PM Author: contagious flushed kitchen women are so fucking retarded it's unreal (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512156) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 12:14 PM Author: multi-colored frozen haunted graveyard Why are you trying to rationalize w/ a woman? JFC man, get a grip. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512157) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 12:16 PM Author: Mint Ungodly Area what am i supposed to do here? as i said, i initially tried to placate her and was just like "ok babe" but she kept pushing. serious q: what should i have done? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512179) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 12:19 PM Author: wonderful voyeur Say you loved it and would love to go back and move on
Or be single and happy |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 12:21 PM Author: Mint Ungodly Area she's pretty great and this seems like normal retarded woman shit. i guess i have to train myself to treat her like a child. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512197) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 12:23 PM Author: wonderful voyeur This is literally woman 101 (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512215) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 1:27 PM Author: Stirring heaven (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512588) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 1:52 PM Author: Maniacal rehab crotch (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512723) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 3:12 PM Author: poppy thriller death wish puppy (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45513219) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 3:57 PM Author: dull place of business (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45513486) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 12:24 PM Author: Haunting old irish cottage It’s this or date/marry a dude. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512223) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 12:26 PM Author: Opaque brethren (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512241) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 12:41 PM Author: indecent drab range pocket flask lol. No shit dude. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512338) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 12:45 PM Author: bistre lodge weed whacker instincts are still rusty from being able to say whatever u wanted to vodka gf and then assume that whatever garbled slurring she managed in response was positive, u’ll remember how to ride the bike in time (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512365) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 12:56 PM Author: offensive lay hunting ground (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512437) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 1:11 PM Author: Mint Ungodly Area (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512528) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 3:57 PM Author: dull place of business (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45513491) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 12:51 PM Author: concupiscible idea he suggested This. And you have to quickly change the topic. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512416) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 12:23 PM Author: Hyperactive patrolman international law enforcement agency I have been married a [long] time. Just let it drop. She is being irrational, so you can't argue with her-- it is useless. Just say, "Sorry, I guess I was just in a mood. It was a great night." Stop trying to explain your position because she does not want to hear it. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512210) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 12:25 PM Author: Mint Ungodly Area i am really trying to internalize this and i think not doing this has been my pitfall in most previous relationships. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512232) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 12:29 PM Author: Opaque brethren I think your trying to rationalize it may have contributed to the escalation. I think she really just wanted to feel 'heard' or something and the rationalization made her more defensive. One of those arguments where it's not beneficial to be 'right'.
She just was really invested in you liking the restaurant because she thinks it's really cool and she wanted to introduce you to something that you would think was really cool. That's what she cares about more than anything else, why she's so emotional about something so small. Women want to feel like they count for something. |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 12:33 PM Author: Mint Ungodly Area i get that but i don't really know how to respond better.
like i said, i started with "it's very good!" and she recognized the whiff of criticism and prodded me until i gave her my actual opinion.
how do you "hear" somebody when they're telling you that you not liking a place hurt their feelings? especially in response to very mild criticism? |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 12:42 PM Author: Opaque brethren I really don't know how I do it I just sometimes instinctually know how to listen really well. I just ask them a lot of questions about why they feel how they feel and give them an opportunity to organize their thoughts and feelings. I take their side even if it's irrational and let them unload. Steer towards the root cause of their frustration and try to get em to open up.
If you can get her to say, 'here's why I'm upset. "The truth is, I just really love that restaurant, and I wanted you to like it as much as I do. I wanted to show you something that I really care about and I genuinely thought you'd like it too. I was excited for that." If you can get her to open up then just say 'oh I never thought of it that way, thank you for opening up to me. You know we can go back there and I'll give it another chance' (in a week she will forget anyway and probably feel guilty about making you go back there.
These moments of catharsis are powerful in a woman's brain. I don't know this person and maybe my method is retarded but that's how I typically handle these things. |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 12:44 PM Author: Mint Ungodly Area (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512360) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 6:05 PM Author: Lavender Therapy Trailer Park sometimes you just have to lie like when your little daughter proudly shows you some mangled heap she made in pottery, just lie and say “Oh honey it’s beautiful I’m so proud of you!” |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 3:57 PM Author: multi-colored frozen haunted graveyard (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45513485) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 12:30 PM Author: wonderful voyeur Women are not rational and do not respond to logic and reason. They only respond to birdbrain emotions and shiny things (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512263) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 1:38 PM Author: Stirring heaven Cr that she's being irrational. Response is what I said below and if she keeps going on, literally tell her you're done listening to this nonsense and turn off notifications for 6-24 hours. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512640) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 12:34 PM Author: multi-colored frozen haunted graveyard She literally said you hurt her feelings. Stop trying to use logic on her. Stop trying to win the argument. You'll always lose.
"Babe hurting ur feelings was that last thing I wanted to do. You're so wonderful for thinking of me on your birthday. Thank you for suggesting it." or some shit to this effect.
Remember, homie, happy wife, happy life. Women don't think thru life, they feel their way thru. Don't treat her like opposing counsel or some counterparty, she's supposed to be ur partner. You need to give in in these types of discussions and not hold ur ground/try to win an arguemnt |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 12:37 PM Author: Mint Ungodly Area tyvm. i'm saving this poast. i am literally too autistic to respond this way naturally and have to retrain my brain. i know how to treat women most of the time but this level of birdbrainism is incomprehensible to me and has been the source of most of my romantic woes. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512314) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 12:48 PM Author: Mint Ungodly Area https://imgur.com/a/9kjzdIF (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512388) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 12:50 PM Author: multi-colored frozen haunted graveyard 18000! Next time you see her tell her she's beautiful, dick her down hard and make her cum, and she'll forget about this incident. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512404) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 1:00 PM Author: Opaque brethren (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512454) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 1:00 PM Author: topaz motley ceo just trying to practice picking fights and walking away on the moral high ground 😍 (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512455) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 1:44 PM Author: Stirring heaven (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512665) |
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Date: November 19th, 2022 1:02 AM Author: bull headed pontificating library Yeah she is being a brat here and needs a spanking. Not legal advice. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45515700) |
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Date: November 19th, 2022 6:59 PM Author: bull headed pontificating library (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45518757) |
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Date: November 21st, 2022 9:57 AM Author: bull headed pontificating library Where are we on this (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45524325) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 3:13 PM Author: poppy thriller death wish puppy she’s a lot more calm and rational than my woman (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45513224) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 4:00 PM Author: Sienna bateful boistinker lol is she in HR or something? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45513519) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 4:02 PM Author: Mint Ungodly Area scientist. she's a pretty smart cookie. which makes these bouts of irrationality even more frustrating. and also because she is usually rational and doesn't sperg like this often i fall into the trap of thinking i can tackle every situation with rationality. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45513538) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 4:06 PM Author: Opaque brethren Otherwise intelligent women having bouts of irrationality? Well, I never! (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45513571) |
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Date: December 1st, 2022 6:08 PM Author: Mint Ungodly Area this was one of my most treasured xo moments (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45570778) |
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Date: May 8th, 2024 12:38 PM Author: Mint Ungodly Area that was our mutual pet name. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#47645008) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 1:27 PM Author: Stirring heaven What the fuck this is the worst advice I have ever read
Don't indulge this shit, explain that she's an adult and you can like different things; she's not some toddler who gets her feelings hurt because you have different favorite colors.
Don't fucking take these shit tests seriously at all, and NEVER moderate your opinion to match hers. It communicates that she runs you. |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 1:32 PM Author: plum vibrant hall community account (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512612) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 1:37 PM Author: multi-colored frozen haunted graveyard (Guy who just finished puberty 2 yrs ago dolling out dating and life advice like a Pez dispenser) (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512635) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 1:41 PM Author: Stirring heaven (guy who somehow, in his fucking thirties, still thinks that "happy wife, happy life" capitulative cuckery is the way to be happy and keep her respect)
My marriage is 180, btw, how's yours? |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 1:50 PM Author: multi-colored frozen haunted graveyard Acknowledging their feelings =/= capitulating. All they want to hear is that they're being heard.
I'm sure withholding affection and gaslighting ur wife will result in a very long and healthy marriage! :-) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 2:00 PM Author: Stirring heaven You can accomplish that without this cucky bullshit. In his position (assuming he didn't just fucking bail immediately because this bitch sounds insufferable), the right answer is 1) "we can like different things, we're both adults," and 2) "what part of that hurts your feelings?" Resolving conflict with women often requires you to ask them questions that will force them to think through why they're acting a certain way. In time, you can train a lot of this shit out of them if they're smart. None of that requires this stupid "just agree with her when she picks ridiculous fights" cuckery. Look at the result your advice had (which you somehow found "1800!" lmfao): she ended it by placing the responsibility for this nonsensical fight on him. Guarantee you he hears about this again ("your communication issues...") when she wants to tone police him in the future, and he's set the precedent that: - she can police his opinions - she can pick absurd arguments with zero consequence - she can resolve conflict how and when she wants, with no expectations of maturity placed upon her
Mine doesn't pull retarded shit like this because I married a fucking adult lmao. I don't have to withhold affection or gaslight her because we don't bicker about inane chickenshit like this, and we can reason through things together. Pick better women. |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 2:04 PM Author: Mint Ungodly Area i was with the same chick for 10 years and this strategy worked on her. and i was with her when i joined xo and would spout the same shit you are saying. but when we split up i realized how uncommon it is and how most women are like birdbrains and don't respond well to the strategy you're describing.
you should hold onto yours for dear life lest you have to deal with the nonsense of modern birdbrain womyn. |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 2:09 PM Author: multi-colored frozen haunted graveyard "Resolving conflict with women often requires you to ask them questions that will force them to think through why they're acting a certain way. "
LOL. Women don't think, they feel. You're very wrong about this.
Nowhere did I say that he should agree with her when she picks ridiculous fights. In this situation he fucked up and created a fight out of nowhere by having an extremely autistic and esoteric discussion regarding the precise level of like/dislike he had for her restaurant choice. All the bitch wanted was a compliment and my suggested reply included that. The 18000 was more about his literally copy/pasting xo poasts to his GF as a natural reply lol. |
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Date: December 22nd, 2022 1:41 PM Author: Mahogany native (guy who treats his woman as an adult)
lol dumbass |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 1:29 PM Author: puce bisexual business firm If you have tried everything else – and women are pretty good at this – they can’t leave it alone. They want to have the last word and you give them the last word, but they’re not happy with the last word. They want to say it again, and get into a really provocative situation (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512594) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 1:43 PM Author: Mint Ungodly Area (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512657) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 1:53 PM Author: ivory naked karate Provide citations to poasters who agree she is being unreasonable here and extrinsic evidence to support your construction of 'decent'. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512726) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 12:16 PM Author: Mint Ungodly Area yeah i probably should have just said "fuck off, slut!" to impress my autistic internet friends (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512175) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 1:50 PM Author: Stirring heaven They're roughly equivalently bad, actually (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512703) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 6:49 PM Author: Saffron ladyboy It is what it is (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45514337) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 12:14 PM Author: Well-lubricated Marvelous Hell Nibblets she is very clearly telling you that NO you cannot have opinions on things. Accept it or find someone who will accept you (hint: you won't). (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512161) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 12:15 PM Author: Mint Ungodly Area fuck (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512169) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 12:14 PM Author: Vigorous partner Post removed by moderator for violating The Law of The Land. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512163) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 12:15 PM Author: Mint Ungodly Area not a mod and i'm in full support of the nullobomber and have been vocal about that (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512170) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 12:17 PM Author: histrionic balding brunch That queer is a mod? WTF (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512182) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 12:16 PM Author: Dun pungent dilemma i know im reaching here but maybe your gf didnt want an honest yelp review for her bday dinner (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512172) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 12:16 PM Author: Provocative Pozpig Corn Cake lmao I hope OP is flame (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512174) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 12:20 PM Author: navy big casino candlestick maker (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512191) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 12:18 PM Author: Mint Ungodly Area as i said in the text, i was very complimentary during the dinner. but the next morning she asked me about it and i responded "it was very good!" then she kept probing this and i admitted i thought it was just ok.
perhaps tcr is just to be like "yeah babe it was the best ever!" |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 1:15 PM Author: Boyish Messiness She is upset because she thinks you are a cheapskate and don't like the place because it costs too much. You think the food is good quality but the place is not a good value for the money so in some sense she is correct.
she did not want your opinion. she wanted you to find enjoyment in giving her what she likes without consideration for the cost.
If you are ok with paying the costs then proceed with giving her what she wants and accept this as the reality of the relationship. if You are poor, cheap, or think she is a golddigger then ATD.
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Date: November 18th, 2022 1:22 PM Author: Mint Ungodly Area nah. i've taken her out to really nice places.
i tried to defuse the situation by telling her i'm taking her out for an excellent meal tonight (a bar with really good burgers). and that backfired because it hurt her feelings. and i (autistically) tried to explain that my criticism about this place being "decent" was in comparison to other similarly priced meals i've taken her too where i've lavished unreserved praise. |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 12:41 PM Author: Talented plaza (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512336) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 1:39 PM Author: soul-stirring honey-headed toaster locus (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512642) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 12:17 PM Author: Vigorous partner Post removed by moderator for violating The Law of The Land. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512180) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 12:20 PM Author: Cream high-end mediation marketing idea lol at spending time with this person (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512194) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 12:23 PM Author: offensive lay hunting ground gunner this is your girlfriend and i need an outlet for insecurities today (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512211) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 12:23 PM Author: Haunting old irish cottage This hurts to read. I only read your side of it and even that took a few attempts. Why do they act like this? What do they get out of the silly emotionality, the overreacting, the mountain out of a molehill, etc.? All so unnecessary. You’re being completely reasonable particularly after hours of this: “I don’t think it was the best meal ever, but it was fine and I like you and had a nice time and am glad you liked it.” (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512213) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 12:34 PM Author: Opaque brethren Women feel like if they don't take these strong stances about things their voices will not be heard. It's sort of true, if we didn't need to placate them and didn't need sex we would ignore them completely and go around doing manly pursuits and pay them no heed. It's not different than a baby crying to be fed. Women have to cry to remind us they're there. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512289) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 12:23 PM Author: Racy fiercely-loyal cuckold Women are 180 (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512214) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 12:24 PM Author: bistre lodge weed whacker (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512222) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 12:42 PM Author: Hyperactive patrolman international law enforcement agency (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512345) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 1:21 PM Author: Fishy Church Building Doctorate (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512564) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 12:23 PM Author: bistre lodge weed whacker “i don’t feel heard” holy shit mass communications have been a disaster for the human race, birdbrains spouting this nonsense everywhere and twisting themselves into knots bc some other birdbrains won social approval and cowed a cuck into submission w this phrase |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 2:57 PM Author: Stirring heaven (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45513116) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 12:23 PM Author: frisky erotic black woman wtf is ramayaki? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512219) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 12:27 PM Author: Mint Ungodly Area very badly misspelled robatayaki (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512249) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 12:31 PM Author: frisky erotic black woman TY. I think I agree with you here - what "fusion sushi" place also advertises as robatayaki? I bet it wasn't even proper robatayaki. This sounds like some prole CSLG-tier "miyazaki beef sourced from the grocery store with a side of black truffle sashimi" bullshit. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512273) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 12:35 PM Author: Mint Ungodly Area 100% it was completely inauthentic and one of those "flashy with no substance" type places. all the waiters are hipsters and kept talking about authentic their fucked cooked seabass rolls are. ordered a cocktail and the guy brought some wood over to the table to smoke the glass in front of me. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512307) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 3:13 PM Author: Vermilion hissy fit institution One of those autistic bloggers (Tyler Cowen?) had a funny list of heuristics for restaurants. Lots of hot chicks in a trendy location being a huge red flag. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45513228) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 12:25 PM Author: Opaque brethren She seems really sweet and kind. All she wanted was for you to pretend you liked something she liked more than you did.
It's not easy pretending to like something you don't and I'm not very good at it. She's upset because the restaurant selection meant a lot to her because she wanted you to like what she likes as much as she does. And this is obviously a ridiculous premise. But pretty typical for a woman.
There's no easy fix for this but in that situation I would do my best to lie and then somewhere far down the line try and tip her off to not liking it.
I agree fusion sushi is not something I really go for to put it lightly. I had a prole ex who was into that and I always thought it was a somewhat horrifying genre. It's tough. One thing I learned is women take their birthdays really seriously for some reason and you kind of just have to make it all about them even if it doesn't make sense. |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 12:25 PM Author: plum vibrant hall community account I don't know to what extent this is your fault or if this is the landscape of app dating today, but holy shit gunner, you date some absolute crazies. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512236) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 12:29 PM Author: Provocative Pozpig Corn Cake she seems pretty normal lol @ getting into (and trying to "win") some lengthy text argument about this w a woman |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 12:32 PM Author: plum vibrant hall community account Maybe I'm out of touch. Genuinely feel bad for singlemos in 2022. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512278) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 12:39 PM Author: Mint Ungodly Area she's 180 most of the time. this seems like a pretty normal birdbrain short circuit. sadly i think all the heroic gtttr types get scooped up fast. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512324) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 12:30 PM Author: Fishy Church Building Doctorate Folks, this is one of our highest EQ poasters… (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512265) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 12:40 PM Author: Mint Ungodly Area :-|
i should have been gay. i have great eq with men but get jumbled up with birdbrain short circuits. |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 1:00 PM Author: Fishy Church Building Doctorate There’s a reason why we’re ALL gay and retarded here (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512453) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 3:17 PM Author: cyan 180 factory reset button Empathy without Machiavellianism is a curse. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45513251) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 3:22 PM Author: Stirring heaven (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45513290) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 3:23 PM Author: Mint Ungodly Area i can be pretty devious and sociopathic irl (great traits for a lolyer!) but i try to drop that in personal relationships. maybe that's a bad idea. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45513297) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 3:35 PM Author: cyan 180 factory reset button Must be useful; I have no idea how to be devious or sociopathic and can be trusted in every way. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45513363) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 12:30 PM Author: Razzmatazz pervert menage wow lol you sound like a giant pussy explaining your feelings
just tell her it was awesome and move on this isn't about the food it's about the food on her birthday
next time she suggests it and it's a whatever day just suggest a different better place that you both think is better
this isn't hard faggot |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 12:33 PM Author: Dun pungent dilemma lmao cr how is this a mystery to anyone (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512284) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 12:36 PM Author: Comical boiling water lol (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512309) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 12:45 PM Author: Provocative Pozpig Corn Cake lol "actually babe that place you like isn't really that good, here's a couple of whiny paragraphs explaining why I'm right" |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 12:47 PM Author: wonderful voyeur (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512379) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 1:56 PM Author: Maniacal rehab crotch (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512748) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 12:34 PM Author: beady-eyed know-it-all piazza laser beams lol @ the end denying she ever asked for your thoughts and then claiming she's being the bigger person by talking to you?
"I don't feel heard when I'm trying to express my feelings about things" *Proceeds to berate you for having an opinion that she pried out of you*
Also why is this place so "sentimental" to her? Just from taking you last night? Or did she take other dudes there before lol |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 12:37 PM Author: garnet costumed twinkling uncleanness Chad took her there on a magical second date before pounding her out that night. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512315) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 12:46 PM Author: talking supple pit More likely some of counsel litigator took her out there, paid for the meal and her 4 glasses of Bordeaux, then she fired up tinder (while still on the date) and later that night got pounded out by Chad after explaining to the attorney that she just wants to take things slow this time. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512376) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 12:41 PM Author: Mint Ungodly Area i'm going to murder gth and marry you.
she used to work close by and go to happy hour there a lot. she really enjoys it. |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 12:49 PM Author: beady-eyed know-it-all piazza laser beams I could see having a similar conversation w GTH in my teens or very early in the relationship. It's obviously cringey and petty now lol. Could stem from a fear of not having enough in common I guess. Or maybe she's worried you won't want to go back there. I think it's important to both acknowledge what it means to her, but also that it's ok for you guys to like different things and have preferences. Does she want someone w their own opinions, or someone who just agrees w her on everything? I'm sure she doesn't hesitate to give her thoughts on stuff YOU like lol (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512399) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 12:35 PM Author: garnet costumed twinkling uncleanness 180 content.
My GF is the opposite and it's not any better. Just learn to deal with it. Have you fucked since?
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Date: November 18th, 2022 12:42 PM Author: Mint Ungodly Area no, she was wasted last night and thus hungover this morning. fucking her (like most/all women) definitely reduces these birdbrain spasms, and i should have taken that into consideration. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512347) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 1:02 PM Author: Fishy Church Building Doctorate It’s really insane how bird brains just need to be fucked into quiescence (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512459) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 1:07 PM Author: Mint Ungodly Area it's pretty 180. i need to tattoo this reminder on me like memento. "if she's grouchy she probably just needs to get dicked down" (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512507) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 1:24 PM Author: garnet costumed twinkling uncleanness don't we all (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512569) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 12:39 PM Author: indecent drab range pocket flask Why would you ever entertain something like this? She is like the Sahara right now. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512322) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 1:26 PM Author: Stirring heaven (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512579) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 12:40 PM Author: indecent drab range pocket flask “It was good food babe, let’s not make this a big deal. How’s your day going?” And then ignore everything else she says on the topic. Easy. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512335) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 12:43 PM Author: Mint Ungodly Area it's not so easy for me, brother. i'm trying to learn. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512352) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 12:49 PM Author: indecent drab range pocket flask If you ever think “man my girlfriend is just not thinking about this logically” you’re approaching this the wrong way. Just make her feel heard and be upbeat and positive and she’ll be happier and you’ll have less bullshit to deal with.
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Date: November 18th, 2022 12:42 PM Author: Razzmatazz pervert menage "Can I not have opinions on things?" he squealed as her pussy started sprouting weeds it was so dry JFC (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512348) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 12:49 PM Author: wonderful voyeur (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512400) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 12:50 PM Author: Cream high-end mediation marketing idea (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512413) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 1:02 PM Author: Fishy Church Building Doctorate (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512460) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 1:26 PM Author: Stirring heaven (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512576) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 1:26 PM Author: garnet costumed twinkling uncleanness (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512580) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 6:24 PM Author: Coiffed trump supporter theatre (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45514241) |
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Date: July 3rd, 2023 2:45 PM Author: passionate flatulent center selfie (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#46505199) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 12:49 PM Author: Unholy Crusty Fat Ankles Regret lol, I dodged this bullet after 1 date:
http://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=4444635&mc=157&forum_id=2#top |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 12:57 PM Author: Abusive Yellow Cuckoldry Were you GAKKED on addy for this convo? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512440) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 12:59 PM Author: Mint Ungodly Area no but ty for reminding me to take my afternoon dose (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512446) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 1:18 PM Author: Abusive Yellow Cuckoldry I'm not just busting your balls. Idk what your relationship with addy is like, but as an unprescribed "abuser" I go weeks and months without it.
I've revisited my own addy convos, and they all exhibit the same theme you're displaying ITT.
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Date: November 18th, 2022 1:27 PM Author: Mint Ungodly Area whether i'm off or on addy i'm pretty much like this.
i'm very conscious of not being an addy addict. i take tolerance breaks and take a max of 20mg a day, and i'm a pretty big guy. |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 2:18 PM Author: Abusive Yellow Cuckoldry That's solid. Not advocating u quit addy, but at least be cognizant of it moving the needle on psyche to some degree.
IMO the issue ITT wasn't your disagreeable take, but the effort u made proselytizing it. Double-down succinctly or just ignore and change the topic entirely. All of that back and forth instead of:
"The food was decent lol. Its ok babe I still love you" |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 1:24 PM Author: Abusive Yellow Cuckoldry You're doing the equivalent of trying to redpill your boomer parents on the JQ (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512572) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 12:58 PM Author: Citrine Apoplectic Round Eye Gas Station (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512442) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 12:59 PM Author: Mint Ungodly Area you're right. unfortunately i'm not gay but very retarded. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512451) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 1:04 PM Author: topaz motley ceo didnt pick up on how autistic you were until this thread. youre trying to win an argument with a creature who will lie cheat and steal to never lose one (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512481) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 1:40 PM Author: soul-stirring honey-headed toaster locus (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512646) |
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Date: December 7th, 2022 10:18 PM Author: Light Volcanic Crater (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45601746) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 1:03 PM Author: Shaky Potus Calmly explain to her that you have higher standards and a more refined palate, but you understand that she enjoys this mediocre, overpriced fusion sushi because she is less cultured and has prole tastes. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512466) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 1:05 PM Author: frisky erotic black woman (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512484) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 1:06 PM Author: Mint Ungodly Area (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512497) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 1:29 PM Author: Stirring heaven (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512596) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 6:09 PM Author: Lavender Therapy Trailer Park “Calmly” took this poast over the top (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45514186) |
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Date: November 19th, 2022 1:12 AM Author: bull headed pontificating library (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45515711) |
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Date: July 3rd, 2023 2:51 PM Author: passionate flatulent center selfie (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#46505217) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 1:08 PM Author: henna address people who are hurt (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512509) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 1:21 PM Author: multi-colored frozen haunted graveyard Alternatively: https://twitter.com/RNR_0/status/1593564925372387332 |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 1:24 PM Author: Mint Ungodly Area pretty sure i'm doing this unconsciously as women tend to get really hooked on me.
also she is now being very positive and upbeat and talking about how excited she is to introduce me to her friends tonight after i sent her your suggested response. |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 1:57 PM Author: multi-colored frozen haunted graveyard I've experienced the same; women fall in love w/ me very easily. I think the aloof personality/autism has that effect on them, they like you, but they're afraid you'll drop them like a hot potato, which makes them like you even more. LJL women. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512752) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 2:02 PM Author: Mint Ungodly Area cr.
i'm definitely an aloof/elite autist. and am pretty funny and gregarious. because of this i tend to really outkick to coverage in terms of looks. and they tend to get obsessive and hooked (see e.g. the vodka gf shit from last year). but eventually my autism becomes less endearing when i can't figure out how to diffuse a fight regarding me thinking a restaurant was just ok. this thread is unironically helping a lot. |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 1:34 PM Author: Stirring heaven Unironically better advice than half the shit in this thread (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512619) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 1:28 PM Author: magenta macaca Well now you know she's going to really like clsg's fusion sushi restaurant. Take her there (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512590) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 1:31 PM Author: Shaky Potus Cr. They should fly out for opening night on a private jet. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512604) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 1:34 PM Author: topaz motley ceo babe i know you like that place i was just really bummed there wasnt more truffle options (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512617) |
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Date: November 19th, 2022 1:13 AM Author: bull headed pontificating library (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45515714) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 1:31 PM Author: Stirring heaven "it's fine that you like shitty food, just don't expect me to be seen in public there more than once"
More seriously, why would you ever entertain this nonsense at all? |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 1:34 PM Author: plum vibrant hall community account The good news is that woman don't usually put their best foot forward early into the relationship. They usually start acting far more reasonable with time. Fine wine. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512622) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 1:39 PM Author: Overrated fragrant reading party (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512644) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 1:42 PM Author: Stirring heaven lmfao (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512655) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 1:39 PM Author: Big-titted fortuitous meteor dragon Both of you seem pretty insufferable here. She is being ridiculous and engaging in all sorts of emotional manipulation and acting like a child. You are handling it lile a complete fucking beta and falling right into her web. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512645) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 1:43 PM Author: Stirring heaven !!!
MFCR |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 2:54 PM Author: Nighttime up-to-no-good elastic band (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45513094) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 1:47 PM Author: Vivacious Jade Mexican Location It’s called a shit test, bro. You failed miserably.
Don’t fall for this trap in the future. Just ignore her for a few hours and later say you were tied up.
She’s looking for a reason to dump you, and she found it. Which is a good thing, because a woman this petty would be miserable to be around if you lived with her. |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 1:47 PM Author: Stirring heaven Cr, or make fun of her for the shit test. This requires a special touch though, it's a fine line between effectively teasing her for being ridiculous and coming off too harshly. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512686) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 1:54 PM Author: Mint Ungodly Area i followed piotr's advice and now she is spamming me about how horny she is and how excited she is to introduce me to her friends tonight (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512743) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 2:03 PM Author: Stirring heaven Yeah, I give my dog treats to train obedience too (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512799) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 2:06 PM Author: Vivacious Jade Mexican Location (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512811) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 2:06 PM Author: Mint Ungodly Area i guess i'll never be as alpha as you, hege, and will have to suffer through life as a soyboy betacuck doormat. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512814) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 2:09 PM Author: Stirring heaven you're trying to be cutting but after reading that text convo, that's literally how you're living lol
your life to waste, not my problem |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 2:17 PM Author: Mint Ungodly Area i think aspie hyper logical debating is more of a masculine trait. the advice you're giving could have been copy pasted from a 105iq reddit redpill thread filled with indians and gooks talking about how "aphra!" they are.
i am a very traditional person and all my relationships have very traditional masculine/feminine roles. i think my track record that i've shared with xo demonstrates i'm not some faggot beta considering i'm able to get attractive women despite being a self-described skinny fat balding middle aged lolyer.
i posted this because it was funny and fully recognize that i am coming off as a faggoty whining bitch because i snapped. that doesn't mean it is my normal. |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 3:05 PM Author: Stirring heaven You don't have to be aspie about it -- don't be (although I don't know if I can explain how not to be if this isn't already something you get).
I didn't say anything about gay posturing, or use the word "alpha" once (that's childish shit), not sure what you're on about with this. What I did tell you is that taking a woman's shit tests seriously is a terrible idea, and you should dismiss them, not accommodate them and then reward her with attention.
Traditional roles don't have much room for the nonsense in those texts, but I'm not particularly interested in trying to discern or litigate with you how well those terms characterize the full scope of your normal behavior.
All I'll say is that if your base reaction when frustrated reduces to that sniveling, you will have a hard time keeping her respect as soon as she sees that.
Best of luck with her. |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 3:15 PM Author: Mint Ungodly Area >What I did tell you is that taking a woman's shit tests seriously is a terrible idea, and you should dismiss them, not accommodate them and then reward her with attention.
i disagree. i think the advice about making them feel heard is more tcr.
stonewalling, withholding affection, etc. is not a good long term strategy. it works with some women. i've been with ones that it works and it's 180. it sounds like that's what you have and if so: great. but i think you're being presumptive that it works well with all women.
and if your response is "be better at choosing women", i've got bad news for you on how common that quality is. this one needs to "feel heard" or whatever, which sucks, but generally she has these birdbrain spergs infrequently and is pretty 180 the rest of the time. every relationship involves compromise and if i have to indulge in placating her irrationality every so often i'm willing to do it for this one.
>All I'll say is that if your base reaction when frustrated reduces to that sniveling, you will have a hard time keeping her respect as soon as she sees that.
we all make mistakes, brother. i poasted this because it's funny and to get some advice. i've been with her for six months and she is extremely doting and loving. i know she respects me and have seen how she talks about me to others. |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 3:29 PM Author: Opaque brethren 180 (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45513327) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 2:05 PM Author: Fishy Church Building Doctorate 🐦🐦🐦 (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512804) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 2:06 PM Author: Vivacious Jade Mexican Location Friend, the end of this relationship is near, and that’s a good thing for you. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512807) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 3:36 PM Author: cyan 180 factory reset button (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45513366) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 1:51 PM Author: pale personal credit line You come off as an xo normie, surprised by your attempt to explain yourself to her. Pick your battles with women. This isn't one to take
She's testing you. Don't know why. Perhaps testing waters for ending the relationship. She also wants a deeper friendship on some level. Does she have a lot of fun friends? What hobbies does she enjoy? |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 1:55 PM Author: Mint Ungodly Area i was trying to placate her for hours and not argue with her about it and finally snapped. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512745) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 1:56 PM Author: pale personal credit line Just made some edits
Fwiw you're objectively right. But you must know your audience |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 2:00 PM Author: Mint Ungodly Area responded below.
we've been together 6 months and she typically doesn't sperg out like this. just thought it was kinda funny. this is the same chick i posted about that got pissed at me re: chance of rain correlating with accumulation and i got drunk and emailed a meteorology professor to prove i was right.
this thread and that one probably give a pretty good insight into my autism.
nevertheless, despite these birdbrain moments that are a delight to share with xo, she is pretty 180 the rest of the time. |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 1:58 PM Author: Mint Ungodly Area she has a lot of fun friends.
she likes music, outdoor stuff, she's pretty handy and has been helping me with tons of home projects. |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 2:19 PM Author: pale personal credit line How do you support her in her hobbies? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512914) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 2:21 PM Author: Shaky Potus Her only hobby is fusion sushi and he totally shit on it (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512925) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 2:22 PM Author: multi-colored frozen haunted graveyard (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512933) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 3:14 PM Author: pale personal credit line (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45513229) |
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Date: November 19th, 2022 1:16 AM Author: bull headed pontificating library (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45515721) |
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Date: November 19th, 2022 5:30 PM Author: Fishy Church Building Doctorate (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45518457) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 2:12 PM Author: Avocado cruel-hearted masturbator philosopher-king (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512865) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 2:23 PM Author: Abusive Yellow Cuckoldry HIGHLY pertinent clip for next time
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=apN-em9k0mw&ab_channel=APNNEWS |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 2:23 PM Author: Citrine Apoplectic Round Eye Gas Station (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45512944) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 3:28 PM Author: plum vibrant hall community account (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45513322) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 2:57 PM Author: Charcoal idiotic meetinghouse prole kind of insane that straight people just constantly lie to their partners to preserve the peace lmao. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45513114) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 3:22 PM Author: Mint Ungodly Area if i could choose to be gay i would (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45513287) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 3:13 PM Author: cyan 180 factory reset button I cannot imagine having this type of long drawn-out text discussion with a GF or wife.
EDIT: I'm not going to read the whole thing, but you lost frame IMMEDIATELY. When she said "why do you hate X," you started defending how "you don't hate it," etc., thus ceding agenda control to her.
Proper response is something like "lol simmer down" or *after three hour break* "LOL. 👍 talk soon" |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 3:15 PM Author: multi-colored frozen haunted graveyard CR. Don't get into text spats with your SO. Too much context is missing and you'll just ruffle each other's feathers. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45513236) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 3:15 PM Author: cyan 180 factory reset button (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45513239) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 3:21 PM Author: Mint Ungodly Area cr.
however she (and most/all) women do this neat little trick where they pretend it's resolved and then constantly bring it up at of nowhere. |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 3:23 PM Author: cyan 180 factory reset button Well of course she'll do that, since she's probing you for weaknesses and has found one (inability to disengage, need to be Right about trivialities). (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45513298) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 3:24 PM Author: Stirring heaven (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45513305) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 3:28 PM Author: Mint Ungodly Area i did disengage. she kept nagging and i snapped.
i don't "need to be right". but when someone keeps repeating something incorrect and insisting you agree i get stumped on what to do.
as i said, for the first couple hours i did try to disengage and move on. she got my goat. you've poasted before on the common tactic of women is increasingly provocative behavior to provoke npd/aspie dudes until they get a reaction. that's pretty much what happened here. |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 3:32 PM Author: cyan 180 factory reset button See, even in this exchange here, you're nitpicking about how to characterize the underlying phenomenon and engaging in pettifoggery; do you "need to be right" or are you "stumped on what to do" when "someone keeps repeating something incorrect"? This chick has your number!
And yeah, women in general and BPD women in particular will test some behavior to get a flicker of a reaction, then escalate that behavior, like turning up the gain on a speaker or something, until they get a strong reaction. But the way to extinguish it is as I laid out above - no response, poker face, ignore it; practice it so resolutely that the behavior becomes a part of your character, and you genuinely will be Above this sort of thing.
A re-frame: you should view this chick testing you as an opportunity to test and improve your mettle. Not a shit-test, but a challenge. |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 3:35 PM Author: Mint Ungodly Area i do do this but every person has their limits. you are right and i'm agreeing with you, i'm just trying to explain that i am trying to do what you're saying but just failed here and need to be better about it. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45513365) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 3:38 PM Author: cyan 180 factory reset button I gotcha. Life is trying. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45513377) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 3:40 PM Author: Mint Ungodly Area i was hoping you would weigh in here since you seem to be the bort mfe on psychology (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45513391) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 3:44 PM Author: cyan 180 factory reset button She got you on tilt. If you've got a persistent problem going on tilt, you could try monitoring your physiological signs and figuring out a 20 minute+ cool down/disengagement ritual. If in person, it's fine to ask for space. Boundary setting is essential in relationships, but boundaries are created by being tested. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45513411) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 3:50 PM Author: Mint Ungodly Area cr.
I'm a very stoic and contemplative person. Try to incorporate stoic teachings into my life and behavior. One of my issues is that the longer i resist my buttons are being pressed the stronger my reaction if I finally snap. This is something I recognize about myself and am trying to correct. |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 3:54 PM Author: cyan 180 factory reset button As others noted, the game is to look not at the content of the button pressing, but to suss out the real unstated motive behind it and address that subject. Nagging unreasonably is usually a bid for some sort of attention or validation. You want to dole each out in sufficient quantities, but on a random and mysterious schedule that allows you to keep control of the dynamic.
You're not even playing the right game. |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 3:59 PM Author: Mint Ungodly Area yeah.
i just poasted below that i am good at sussing out the real unstated motive (her need to feel validated/heard). my issue is delivering the type of attention/confirmation she was looking for. i think the issue here was that i THOUGHT i did do it several times before but she kept persisting, and i didn't consider that i didn't actual accomplish it. so i blew up out of frustration because i felt like "i've already given her what she wants and been empathetic over and over, why won't she just let it go!?" |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 4:03 PM Author: cyan 180 factory reset button You're halfway there: you need to figure out the real motive, then work backwards in the world of dream and fantasy and symbolism to how she _wants_ the issue addressed, in her "love language" or whatever; responding defensively won't do, responding literally won't do, there must be a counter-thrust, a parry and riposte.
"I didn't say I hate it" vs. something like (for later stage relationship), "I'm just touched that you care! Who cares about the restaurant?" |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 4:35 PM Author: Mint Ungodly Area cr. it's a very difficult skill to learn. i'm much, much better at it on "big things." throughout my life my most intense bullshit with women have been over retarded bullshit like this. when it's a big thing and i can understand why they're upset it's easy to empathize. when it's over retarded nonsense it's difficult, to the point where i don't even know how to do it.
i need to just realize "she's upset about something and wants something from me.", and even if it's irrational birdbrain nonsense that no one should ever be upset about, i just have to accept that's the situation and work to figure out the solution.
in this case, i kept thinking "if she knows i didn't hate it then it'll get resolved." so i kept going to that. i should have recognized right away that when that didn't work i missed the mark and there was something else to identify. instead a double and tripled down on "explain more effectively you liked the restaurant" and got into the weeds about that. and it's especially frustrating to me when it's about something so trivial and continues going on for hours and hours. |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 6:56 PM Author: cyan 180 factory reset button An issue: there is no such thing as "trivial," objectively. Not as far as emotions/feelings/women are concerned. To _her_, it was a big deal, since she wanted you to have a good birthday and enjoy the restaurant or whatever. So by arguing it's no big deal, or trivializing it, you're invalidating her experience (as dumb and gay as it may be).
Relationships are largely about reaching mutual understanding re: one another's dumb hang-ups & back-scratching. You can try to find common ground by finding the deeper reason something is important to her, then grounding it in the relationship. Once that meeting of the minds is reached, she'll be in position to 'hear' you about the details of whether it's a good restaurant or not (more likely, it will fade away and not matter).
But, to do this effectively, you have to find a way to open yourself up, and what is important to you, in a way that isn't demeaning or trivializing for her. |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 8:59 PM Author: Mint Ungodly Area sure. i just mean it's trivial objectively amongst xo bros. i know to treat it seriously to her, and not to give indications that i think it's trivial. it just hard for me (and i think most guys) to treat women birdbraining out over trial issues to treat them with the seriousness they need. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45514929) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 9:20 PM Author: cyan 180 factory reset button I feel you.
It is hard to discourse on the topic without seeming to lapse into cheap koans and fortune cookie paradox.You want to treat her seriously, so you can show her the details she is rattling on about are trivial. A way to do this is to just interpret her as saying what's really important and, without expressly saying so, responding to that.
Or if you want to work your way in, you can pace and lead, etc. So first you'd agree and amplify, like "yea, one of the worst restaurants I've been to. I'll need to teach you about taste."
Wait for her to go crazy. Pause. Then something like, "looking forward to teaching you! You're a good student. And sweet you cared so much about my birthday."
She is now back to her original motive state, but will say it outright; then you can hit her with, "but next time I'll pick the restaurant. Lol."
— see how much more fun and interesting that is? Yet you also get your point across, and acknowledge that you can see she cares and appreciate it. |
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Date: November 19th, 2022 7:32 AM Author: cyan 180 factory reset button The point is to take her on an emotional journey and be interesting and signal high status and value. Think of yourself as a musician who is jamming on her emotions. It's manipulative, but manipulation is inevitable in relationships with others (see the book on PCT, Controlling People) & women want a man who will connect with them and guide them on an emotional journey. They want to be manipulated expertly, in the right way; whether it's immoral depends on your words and actions, not blarney.
Setup and punchline. Hot and cold. Never tepid, never drip drip steady.
{Pardon the lengthy responses – I write these out in case there are young men reading who may benefit and in consequence maek babies.} |
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Date: November 19th, 2022 7:37 AM Author: Mint Ungodly Area tyft
i've read and reread your responses itt several times. i'm oft accused of being overly verbose, so i appreciate your thorough and length responses. |
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Date: November 19th, 2022 7:39 AM Author: cyan 180 factory reset button Ty, cheering to hear. I don't much mark people as writing too much since I skim very fast.
Edit: 300th poast! A three-bagger, which has eluded CSLG. |
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Date: November 19th, 2022 7:45 AM Author: Mint Ungodly Area Hey Brother,
After following some of the advice in this thread my GF and I had amazing sex last night. She was making so many pleasure noises. I'm pretty amazing at sex, she tells me she cums harder and more frequently than anyone she's ever been with. We went out to a bar last night and I met her friends and casually paid for everything (you could tell they were impressed). I'm objectively an incredibly impressive person and could tell they were a bit in awe of me. It's not that hard to accomplish this. Email me if you need some advice. |
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Date: November 19th, 2022 7:47 AM Author: cyan 180 factory reset button 180, you are living the dream, I was frightened by a ghost story and have chronic imagination pain syndrome, will email you! (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45516160) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 5:42 PM Author: Vivacious Jade Mexican Location (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45514081) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 3:20 PM Author: Mint Ungodly Area yeah.
i don't even care about "winning" but when a person is wrong about something and keeps repeating it, especially w/r/t MY opinions or what i'm saying, i sometimes cannot help but try to correct the record. it's a trait i've displayed on here before and i'm trying to be better and just walking away.
tbf, for hours before this i was being aloof and just trying walk away and drop it, change the subject, etc. but she kept bringing it up apropos of nothing and i snapped. |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 3:22 PM Author: cyan 180 factory reset button Gotta win the meta-fight! Shit tests are in part a test of you being above it all. Only fight with a woman in the context of suddenly & unexpectedly destroying her, and reserve that for rare occasions — otherwise, don't condescend to get into it. If you can follow this advice, harmony will be your reward. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45513289) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 3:23 PM Author: Stirring heaven (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45513296) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 3:37 PM Author: Mint Ungodly Area (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45513373) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 3:27 PM Author: multi-colored frozen haunted graveyard You're autistic, a lawyer, and literally spend hours a day partaking in scholarly debate by poasting, feuding, etc. on XO. Trying to correct the record/get the last word in are excellent when you're working or poasting, but it sucks for dating/marriage. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45513311) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 3:33 PM Author: Mint Ungodly Area i'm really not that way. i thought i'm more known as a kindness poaster and my feuds here have been pretty short. if you notice in most subthread wastelands i'm the one that walks away. i constantly tell her "i really done care and just want to move on", but she is the one that keeps bringing it up and refuses to let it go. you see in the thread i said something like "why does stuff like this linger with you", which is referencing me dropping it several times before and her continuing to bring it up.
i think my issue is not effectively making them feel heard or recognizing the root of what's upsetting them. i don't want to continue the fight, but they won't drop it because they haven't been validated yet. and i get stuck, because i kept saying i did have a good time and did like the place, but she kept persisting.
you immediately recognized what the issue was and were able to diffuse the whole thing with a 3 sentence reply. after rereading our convo several times i could not figure out how to diffuse it. i didn't care about being right or wanting to win, i just wanted to move on. but when i see "i feel bad because you didn't list the restaurant" my first instinct is to resolve it by explaining i didn't hate the restaurant, whereas tcr seems to be letting her know i don't want her to feel bad and understand that she feels bad. |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 3:40 PM Author: Opaque brethren Titcr
You learned and grew bruv. That's what XO FRIENDS are for. |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 3:50 PM Author: multi-colored frozen haunted graveyard I don't think at any point she really cared about your opinion on the actual restaurant/food. She wanted validation/affection from you:
"I was trying to show you this neat place."
"it's something I like and I thought it was cool."
"Our special dinner"
"It was just special for me to share it with you"
You calling it "decent" is basically like calling her and her opinions decent... not a good look. Women don't think or talk like men, they're not straightforward, there's usually some ulterior motive to the conversation. You focusing on the restaurant/food and getting aggressive ("I don't fucking hate it", "why would it hurt YOUR feelings", etc.) is the exact opposite of what she was looking for: a pat on the head |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 3:53 PM Author: Opaque brethren I covered this my dude see above (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45513454) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 3:57 PM Author: multi-colored frozen haunted graveyard (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45513488) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 3:58 PM Author: Opaque brethren (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45513496) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 3:53 PM Author: Mint Ungodly Area cr.
tbf i did try to do this for hours. but my attempts were ineffective, probably because i didn't see the root of it. which is why i said "serious q: how should i do that" above. basically, i know what the solution is but sometimes have a problem identifying what the satisfactory "pat on the head" looks like. |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 3:56 PM Author: Opaque brethren (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45513471) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 3:35 PM Author: cyan 180 factory reset button cr but for a cavil:
"Trying to correct the record/get the last word in are excellent when you're working or poasting" -- I disagree; I'm happy to renounce the last word, but I strive to have the best word. |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 3:39 PM Author: multi-colored frozen haunted graveyard (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45513383) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 3:22 PM Author: Stirring heaven MFCR (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45513293) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 3:23 PM Author: Hyperactive patrolman international law enforcement agency I feel like this thread cannot be completed until Spaceporn weighs in. Can someone scare him up? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45513294) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 3:24 PM Author: Stirring heaven lol jfc (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45513303) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 3:33 PM Author: Charismatic smoky spot lmao @ ur relationship lmao @ ur life lmao @ u |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 3:35 PM Author: Mind-boggling cruise ship multi-billionaire You made a grave error ever allowing this relationship to devolve into lengthy text-based communications. Texting should be for sharing a quick photo or a link to something or confirming a date/time/location. If she wants to communicate with you about anything non-trivial she needs to speak to you.
Sorry to say this is unsalvageable now and you should probably just move to a new city and never see or speak to her ever again. |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 3:39 PM Author: Opaque brethren He should grow a beard (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45513382) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 3:41 PM Author: Mint Ungodly Area i've got a gorgeous full beard and it's probably my only redeeming physical quality (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45513398) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 3:45 PM Author: Talented plaza Why? Her new man already has one. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45513417) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 3:51 PM Author: Cordovan antidepressant drug garrison Lol at a couple of near death middle agers "dating" and texting screeds to each other. What a broken society we live in (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45513447) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 3:55 PM Author: Mint Ungodly Area cr.
are you in a relationship or are you mgtow on your property? (serious q, not implying you aren't in one, just never seen you poast about it). |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 3:56 PM Author: Cordovan antidepressant drug garrison Been married for 6 years (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45513472) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 3:56 PM Author: cyan 180 factory reset button congrats. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45513477) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 3:59 PM Author: Opaque brethren Lol ya married to Jesus (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45513505) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 4:14 PM Author: Cordovan antidepressant drug garrison (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45513634) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 3:59 PM Author: Mint Ungodly Area nice bro (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45513510) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 3:58 PM Author: Sienna bateful boistinker Good Lord. So much mental illness here. It would never occur to me to be upset that my wife didn't like a restaurant and it wouldn't occur to her to demand that I liked a place either. Different people have different tastes (here, literally).
I guess if you were smooth you would have turned this into "I wasn't there for the food, I was there for the company" type thing and be chill and cool and fun (the fact that I of all people on XO have to make this point is probably appalling) but the fact that she is this "hurt" and "wounded" that you didn't like a particular sushi fusion place makes me desperately hope this is flame. |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 4:06 PM Author: violet excitant dingle berry It "hurt her feelings" that you didn't love her favorite restaurant? Am I understanding that correctly, or did something else "hurt her feelings"? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45513572) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 4:10 PM Author: Blathering Mental Disorder Stock Car holy shit, I go for a walk and look away and a megathread appears.
some good advice given here. always nice to see XO help out.
is this the shower chick? |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 4:18 PM Author: Mint Ungodly Area yeah, so you can see why i'm willing to tolerate some irrationality ;) (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45513647) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 4:32 PM Author: Blathering Mental Disorder Stock Car 180, her motives seem genuine, just wanted you to be happy.
glad to hear things worked out in the end! |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 4:46 PM Author: stimulating faggotry parlour She is clearly not wife material, completely ludicrous thoughts from her. but that was entertaining to read, 180 for sharing. I want to be your best friend tp (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45513785) |
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Date: November 20th, 2022 5:44 PM Author: Sienna bateful boistinker (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45522050) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 4:56 PM Author: sexy deer antler jap It's a bit hard to judge without the context, but you kinda seem like a dick. Men care more about truth (the more autistic they are, the more they care about it), but women care more about emotion and connection.
Complaining about the food at a place she picked on her birthday is being idiotic-why add negativity to a great night. She wants to know you had a good time on her birthday, not your autistic rating of this particular restaurant. If she really pressed for your view ("please rate it 1-10"), id consider lying or avoiding it if its like the day after her birthday -- just say the food was ok, but you were glad you got to spend her birthday with her and her tits/ass looked amazing in the dress she wore, so you weren't really paying attention.
Maybe if she asked you like 3 months later in the context of going back to this place, you'd be fine being like, nah, wasn't for me. But if it's her favorite place, just fucking go occasionally for her -- life isn't about optimizing the exact best food for the cost decision lol. |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 5:05 PM Author: cyan 180 factory reset button Yeah -- pragmatics and relevance/materiality predominate over syntax, semantics, or logic in relationships. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45513883) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 9:24 PM Author: Blathering Mental Disorder Stock Car "Does this dress make me look slender?"
There's only one correct answer to a question like that.
Same with "Was the sex good for you as well?" |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 9:27 PM Author: cyan 180 factory reset button "does this dress make me look fat?" "no, but this does!" *grabs roll*
"was the sex good for you as well?" *grunt + shrug* |
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Date: November 19th, 2022 7:26 AM Author: Stirring heaven (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45516120) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 6:09 PM Author: Bespoke new version horrendous thread for gunnerattt, what a cucky bitchboi (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45514180) |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 6:25 PM Author: Coiffed trump supporter theatre 180 thread
120 OP |
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Date: November 18th, 2022 9:29 PM Author: Misanthropic Electric Yarmulke Chad congratulations, you’re dating a woman (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45515036) |
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Date: November 19th, 2022 12:55 AM Author: Gold Mischievous Stead Find a new girl.
Every guy deals with birdbrain logic but this is some SHREW-AUTIST level shut by her.
Find a girl who is smart but doesn’t think too deeply into things. You want her preoccupied with looking hot for you, not thinking about “how to be heard” or “express her feelings”.
Like wtf. Get back out there and find a better girl. |
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Date: November 19th, 2022 1:24 AM Author: Rough-skinned Roommate Indirect Expression Good content creation here but holy shit why would you engage in a lengthy text debate with a woman?
You know the feeling when you get a new game or start listening to a new band and you show it to your bros and they are like “hell yeah this is great”? Feels good, right? Women feel the same way x10.
And then you know how sometimes you like a thing but your friend is like “this is gay and shitty” and you argue for a while but eventually agree that you just have differing tastes but are still bros and you still like the thing even if it is a little gay objectively? Yeah women are completely unfamiliar with this experience.
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Date: November 19th, 2022 6:11 AM Author: cyan 180 factory reset button (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45516007) |
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Date: November 19th, 2022 7:01 AM Author: Mint Ungodly Area (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45516085) |
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Date: November 19th, 2022 7:32 AM Author: Stirring heaven lol
Good post |
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Date: November 19th, 2022 5:19 PM Author: Mint Ungodly Area https://imgur.com/a/j7U1c7a
my autism > cslg sushi
also top poasts of the week both divided on the topic of fusion sushi |
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Date: November 19th, 2022 5:43 PM Author: cyan 180 factory reset button Congratulations on the three bagger brother. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45518509) |
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Date: November 19th, 2022 5:48 PM Author: Mint Ungodly Area coming at you for mpm bro ur done here (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45518527) |
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Date: November 19th, 2022 7:13 PM Author: cyan 180 factory reset button Game on! (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45518782) |
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Date: November 19th, 2022 5:48 PM Author: Orange tanning salon Do not marry this person.
You've been warned. |
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Date: November 20th, 2022 4:58 PM Author: lake spectacular water buffalo but she is skinny
he needs to give himself a chance to love her |
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Date: November 20th, 2022 5:44 PM Author: Sienna bateful boistinker (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45522053) |
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Date: November 21st, 2022 9:59 AM Author: cyan 180 factory reset button I told my wife about some of this, and she said you should just be upfront you don't like the restaurant but make it clear it's all about the company. And then, one presumes, ignore the issue after / agree & amplify insecure bids to get you to announce you really hate it. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45524335) |
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Date: November 21st, 2022 10:52 AM Author: Mint Ungodly Area what do you mean by "agree & amplify insecure bids to get you to announce you really hate it."
it didn't even "not like" the restaurant. i thought it was just ok, decent, etc. would love to go for happy hour rather than go again for a full meal. that's part of what got me so frustrated and why i was saud "i didn't say a fucking hate it!" right at the beginning.
one of my biggest triggers is when i clearly explain something such as an argument or opinion and someone intentionally and repeatedly strawmans it or misstates it. (the autist in me is the autist in you)
also: http://www.xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5239422&mc=1&forum_id=2 |
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Date: November 21st, 2022 11:00 AM Author: topaz motley ceo hey! shut up already (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45524635) |
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Date: November 23rd, 2022 6:56 AM Author: cyan 180 factory reset button if she says "you really hated it right???" you respond with something like "oh yea worst ever. lol."
Re: biggest triggers -- yeah just stop doing that. |
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Date: November 22nd, 2022 10:40 PM Author: white wrinkle milk totally beats being alone and jerking off (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45533119) |
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Date: December 8th, 2022 3:07 PM Author: swollen circlehead codepig (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45604734) |
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Date: January 17th, 2023 12:23 PM Author: Mint Ungodly Area Geroge: Let me ask you something. What do you think of this shirt?
Sharon: It's nice.
George: Jerry said he didn't like it.
Jerry: I didn't say I didn't like it. I said it was O.K...
George: No, you said you didn't like it...
Jerry: Oh, so what if I don't like it. Is that like the end of the world, or something? |
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Date: February 16th, 2023 4:59 PM Author: plum vibrant hall community account (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#45943547) |
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Date: July 3rd, 2023 3:05 PM Author: Cerebral jet-lagged giraffe halford jizz inside her a bunch of times until she shits out a kid (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5237770&forum_id=2#46505269) |