Date: May 8th, 2007 12:59 AM
Author: Nubile turdskin incel
Hereís a comment left on my previous post about being called at on the street:
You have a website that promotes your promiscuity, you have sold yourself, through your stories and blogs apparently shamelessly and for money to many different outlets and you have clearly benefitted from it (read: all your recent handbag splurges). So please get some perspective, you may not like what they say, but can you really blame them for saying it? You are not only in the public sphere but you put yourself out there.. on purpose.. and the image that you created was your own doing so I donít have empathy for you. Just grow up yourself and live with the consequences of your actions.
Iím using this as an example because itís coherent (note the lack of expletives) and reflects common criticisms. Letís clarify a few things:
1. I find it remarkable that people continue to say Iím promiscuous or that Iím promoting promiscuity. Save for a brief period of insanity last November, I am almost always sexually monogamous. With the exception of Kyle, Iíve been emotionally invested in every guy Iíve written about on the blog. Sure, I go on dates with different people but think about how many of them Iíve actually slept with. Unless your criteria for promiscuity is having sex, Iím really not promiscuous, especially as far as college students go.
2. Donít even start to think thereís any monetary benefit to having this website. The cost of running it is about $200 upfront for two years. Iíve barely recouped the cost. Not exactly making a killing considering the amount of time I spend writing entries. Also, ďall your recent handbag splurgesĒ refers to exactly one handbag and disregards the fact that I ó hallelujah ó have a job.
3. I donít think Iím selling myself anymore than your average memoirist. Guess what? Tons of writers write about their own lives. Itís not like I suddenly engaged in this totally illegitimate form of writing. Further, if I donít feel ashamed of the fact that my life includes sex, depression, and a dislike for Harvard, then maybe my writing is shameless.
4. Can I ďblameĒ anyone for treating me disrespectfully? Um, yes. Expecting basic courtesy from peers is like expecting guys not to hook up with you when youíre blackout drunk. Will they be tempted to scream things in your face or take advantage of the situation? Probably. Is it your fault if they do it? Do you deserve that behavior? Absolutely not. Way to eschew personal accountability.
5. Another thing: this blog and other writing endeavors? For the most part, unrelated. Donít confuse the two.
I really didnít even want to write all this but people leave ridiculous comments like the above all the time. Besides assuming things about my sex life (dead) and profit (none), they have this ďyou asked for itĒ attitude. On one hand, they ask me who the fuck I think I am ó celebrity is Paris Hilton, not Lena Chen ó but on the other, theyíre the first to tell me shut up when I actually am accosted paparazzi-style by peers.
Look, thereís not exactly a precedent on campus for becoming well-known via blogging. So when I got started, I wasnít any more naive about how things would turn out than Ö my friends. I donít think anyone could say that I would be interviewed, propositioned, and recognized as rampantly as I have been. At this point, Iíve adjusted my life accordingly. Iíll answer questions asked nicely but Iím still going to get pissed off at people who fuck with me, and rightfully so. If you approach me with a handshake, a smile, and an introduction that doesnít involve ďSo I was reading your blog ÖĒ, Iím usually okay with discussing this thing at some point in the conversation. If Iím rushing to class and you yell at me from across the street, Iím pretty much going to think youíre an asshole.
Disclaimer for those insisting on making the point: I am well aware of what comes up when my name is Googled. I donít want to be an investment banker. I did a pro/con list a long time ago and decided the blog was worth more than a job at Goldman. Donít think youíre making some brilliant observation about my corporate marketability.