Date: July 18th, 2023 1:46 PM Author: Purple immigrant
some quack doctor changed her abilify to something else and it isn't working, she is of course immediately acting noncompliant with everything and saying wild shit to me in particular, wtf should I do? My life might seriously be about to blow up and it's terrifying
Date: July 18th, 2023 1:59 PM Author: Purple immigrant
just starting to talk really fast and nonstop, with respect to me she seems convinced she has had a realization that I've been manipulating her for years and caused her to be numb to her newfound realizations about how things are (basically the effects of abilify)
Date: July 18th, 2023 2:35 PM Author: Purple immigrant
it's going to fucking suck and I'll probably have to trick her into inpatient care in the coming weeks, or else just call her mom, but I suspect she's started to tell her mom shit about me
when mine, the love of my life so far, started to go down this road, I was concerned for her, concerned for our relationship, and definitely concerned about having to "get back out there" and try to date again. Then covid hit not long after we broke up, several months later, and the app dating hell that I feared and that I have chronicled on xo commenced.
EDIT - and mine got her mom involved against me a lot. A couple times they tag teamed me. I didn't even think I was doing anything wrong, and in hindsight I wasn't.
got crushed by another chick that I actually liked two weeks ago (blindsided by a "you are great but we don't have the connection I'm looking for" text from her after what I thought was a perfectly enjoyable third date and lots in common), and then I had to deal with a legit crazy girl last week. Nothing popped up yet this week but its only tuesday.
never even met her. We had several long phone calls over the course of a few days. She got crazier and more possessive the more we talked.
We met on a fucking dating app, and pretty soon after she started trying to guilt me by asking if I was talking to other girls on the apps (uhhh??), telling me she was focused only on me and not using the apps anymore (uhh??), sent me pics in her bra and panties (kind of cool but she had gained a bunch of weight from her app pics lol - still had huge tits so I kept up the charade), etc.
It just got weird and I was trying to figure out the best way to just get out of the situation. I didn't text her back for one evening (like approx 10 hours gap - first time in my life I've been accused by someone of "putting them on read") and she got furious at me, so I told her I didn't think we should talk anymore. THen she had to get in a couple extra digs at me after that.
Also she was from NYC, DIDN'T DRIVE OR HAVE A CAR (in fucking Atlanta lol), and she lived a half hour outside of town. The fuck
Date: July 18th, 2023 4:31 PM Author: diverse clown weed whacker
sorry brother but this shit makes me laugh in a way almost nothing else can these days. you're like some incredulous irl steve carell innocent sheep character walking into scenarios most of us can't wrap our heads around happening to someone past their 20s. I struggle to make smalltalk about the weather these days, much less get wrapped up in some kooky aim gf interaction
Date: July 18th, 2023 2:10 PM Author: Purple immigrant
thing is I don't know what I would do without her, and we live together so it isn't that simple, she's also just about to finish up a grad program that would guarantee her a cushy job with a pretty solid income and we might collectively both get our shit together
Date: July 18th, 2023 2:27 PM Author: Purple immigrant
no, I just mean that she is on the cusp of getting a lot of new opportunities that would also allow both of us to move/change industries whatever, so this is a particularly shitty time for this to happen
I suppose if you consider supporting her while she literally 5x's her income potential manipulation then sure, but she was definitely worse off before I offered to do that
Date: July 18th, 2023 2:32 PM Author: Purple immigrant
nothing specific, she still has some money in a trust from her parents for school, but I've basically told her not to worry about the rent or whatever for the duration, although she mostly chips in anyway, although I do end up paying for most of our stuff since her TA position pays absolute shit
Date: July 18th, 2023 2:37 PM Author: Purple immigrant
she has almost a year left, this is entirely the fault of some quack doctor who said he could do dna testing to determine the best meds for her and then promptly fucking failed to do that
Date: July 18th, 2023 2:44 PM Author: fuchsia internet-worthy goal in life
I had those tests done, and they revealed the obvious, that I'm susceptible to serotonin syndrome. They also showed that I'm a hyper-responder to most psychotropics, but especially diazepam.
Chose to not get drugged up, still poasting just fine
Date: July 18th, 2023 2:15 PM Author: Purple immigrant
I know, but surely it's possible to intervene somehow early on? It seems like the mental health system just relies on waiting until shit is completely wrecked before doing anything at all
Date: July 18th, 2023 2:33 PM Author: diverse clown weed whacker
well yeah this sort of stuff is what happens when you go off incredibly powerful drugs. if you're going to seriously stay with this woman for the long haul you need to know if she's capable of living unmedicated
Date: July 18th, 2023 3:27 PM Author: diverse clown weed whacker
the likelihood of anyone like this taking their meds reliably for the rest of their lives is incredibly low, so if you don't like the organic version of her probably best to bolt
Date: July 18th, 2023 3:50 PM Author: Beady-eyed Son Of Senegal
she's laying the groundwork to cut and run. She's less than a year away from graduating and obtaining financial independence. She no longer needs and older man with his smelly pisswyrm to pay her rent.
Date: July 18th, 2023 4:32 PM Author: Soggy Sanctuary National Security Agency
my oldest sister is like this. its absolutely 120 and im sorry youre going through this man. shes had psychotic breaks before and its gotten so bad shes had to be committed at one point
i remember one year during my winter break from college she had been fired from her job and her bf had broken up with her so she was living at home. she was completely nuts. she was talking to herself constantly like a schizophrenic and would take like 7 showers a day and pace around the house at all hours. it was impossible to talk or reason with her
if you decide to stay with her just understand she'll always have to be on those meds and youll have to check to make sure shes taking them too. any kind of therapy or rehabilitation or whatever is flame. just keep em doped up
I had a live-in bi-polar manic gf for about two years. Thoughts:
-In my experience, benzos are the best way to get the person to sleep after they begin to spiral. Xanax is great but has a relatively short half-life. I found Ativan to be good if you can get your hands on it.
-The difficulty, of course, is getting them to take it. Obviously, I would never suggest you trick somebody into taking meds. I had success building trust by taking the benzos with them sometimes.
-You need to get her family involved IMMEDIATELY. If the cops get called, they can be really helpful helping the authorities understand the situation. Theyre also important if this goes the inpatient route. And of course, they are critical for the endgame here: the breakup/kick-out maneuver.
-You've gotta break up with her. You know this deep down. Its tough to break up with somebody you live with, and thats doubly true of a crazy person, but dude, come on. What's the alternative here? You live with her your whole life? Can you imagine having a family with this person? Can't take antipsychotics during pregnancy. And how do you think the sleeplessness of early parenthood would sit with somebody prone to manic episodes?
-break up logistics can be tricky if she's manic. My GF's dad ended up driving over 1000 miles to me, picking her up with most of her shit, and I think we did like a pod for the rest of it. I dreaded it, but it was surprisingly easy. I think deep down, she understood
-sex with manic women can be fantastic, and this is your last opportunity to enjoy it (cause you're about to break up). Do your thing.
Date: July 18th, 2023 10:07 PM Author: flickering gay wizard
All you need is 100% video camera coverage of your entire house. See how these allegedly mentally ill women always seem to behave well in social situations (like the time they first met you)? That's because their behavior is not "bipolar" but demonic influence. Most women are ashamed to give voice to these demons around social groups especially when they include strong men - notice how witchcraft is only ever practiced in private, and by women-only groups?
Forego the meds (pharmakeia) and install cameras with audio in every room of the house.
Date: July 20th, 2023 3:56 PM Author: Soggy Sanctuary National Security Agency
nah fuck that. most modern women are so fucked up they need to stay on their psych meds in order to be remotely tolerable to be around. otherwise youd be hearing stories of them drowning their kids in the bathtub or having airport meltdowns nightly in the news
Date: July 21st, 2023 9:46 AM Author: supple church building generalized bond
Strange that women got so much crazier right around the time that we invented psych meds. Most meds reduce the incidence of the disease they treat. Oh well, I guess the medical industry knows what’s best!