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Need advice: how to fix insecurity with hot gf
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Date: November 22nd, 2025 11:53 PM Author: ............,.,.,.,.......,,.,., Full context- I was fat, acne-faced dork through high school and undergrad. Lost virginity year after college through a fluke. No relationships etc.
Around 24-25, got hooked into looksmaxxing subculture and it was a 180 life development. Learned to eat well, lift, etc. Became a physical, albeit not spiritual/social, Chad. (Which is consistent with my parents, who before becoming fat in middle aged, were considered very attractive, and people even today say they were beautiful/hot when I show them pictures with me as a kid.)
Since then dated a bit, hooked up with a few girls, etc. Recently met an actual hot girl on apps. Hot, smart, good personality, not mentally ill lib, wants family/kids, etc. Seriously see future with this girl.
But just can't get over how she's been hot her whole life. Dated in HS, lost virginity in HS, she went to top UG where she was probably one of the hottest girls on campus. I don't think she ever had a 'party' phase, but she's been in relationships most of her life since HS. I obviously haven't been, even after I glowed up.
Is it weird I can't get over this? I just know she's dated real, lifelong Chads before. Had sex orders of magnitude more times than I have. I'm a fake poseur, a beneficiary of autistic looksmaxxing instagram/reddit content. Just feel like there's no way she can truly be into me without thinking of the good times she has had.
This is the only hangup I have. Otherwise seriously want to marry her. |
Date: November 23rd, 2025 12:01 AM Author: kenneth play sounds like you realize everything is flame. and also sounds like you've made it, those are huge achievements despite having low confidence, which is honestly hard to do. bagging a top tier woman like that, nice. if she gives you anything to feel self-conscious about, or makes you feel insecure on purpose, that's one thing. but it sounds like you just need to do some positive thinking and convince yourself that you're the best thing that ever happened to this girl and she's lucky to have you. some guys can just be high confidence with nothing to back it up. many of us on the board are probably a little bit too analytical and pick ourselves apart (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5801270&forum_id=2#49453215) |
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Date: November 23rd, 2025 12:15 AM Author: ............,.,.,.,.......,,.,., i mean, idk if i am the best thing that has happened to her. she seriously is for me.
i guess what really sticks in my craw are small things. like we were out during halloween and we saw a funny couples costume, and i said it reminded me of how a cousin of mine dressed up as a deer and her bf as a hunter, and they posed for pics wit her having been 'hunted'. she told me she had done a couples costume like that in college. i have never done a couples costume with anyone. nor ever had a valentine, NYE kiss, etc. all things she's from what i can tell consistently had. |
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Date: November 23rd, 2025 12:36 PM Author: Lab Diamond Dallas Trump You won't be able to keep this up over the long term. Eventually she is going to subconsciously sense the imbalance in social skills and life experiences. All you can do is pound that pussy as much as you can, for as long as you can. The experience will have been beneficial to you.
Over time, you'll either become chad as you rack up more experiences and the deficits become more remote in time, or you'll find another fellow loser who leveled up in looks later in life.
Just remember, it's silly to put this or any bitch up on a pedestal for their looks because looks are so fleeting. Out of all the insanely hot chicks at my high school, there may only be 1 or 2 that kept it together enough that I'd still have any interest in them. Whenever I would log into dating sites that had been unused for a long time, bitches that had been at or above my league a few years ago were now below it. So don't forget that regardless of how hot this bitch is, in 5 years (10 max), you're going to be a tier above her if you continue to take care of yourself. Your value is semi-permanent whereas theirs is rapidly declining every day. |
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Date: November 23rd, 2025 12:01 AM Author: .,.,.,.;;';'.,.'.,,...,;',,,.;';...,.';,;' This has real “while you were fucking your chadly boyfriend in your bedroom, sister, I was surreptitiously listening to your moans through the wall and masturbating the whole time,” vibes to it. If that was the subtext and authorial tone you were going for, grats. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5801270&forum_id=2#49453217) |
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Date: November 23rd, 2025 9:55 AM Author: ............,.,.,.,.......,,.,., (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5801270&forum_id=2#49453539) |
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Date: November 23rd, 2025 9:56 AM Author: SPATCHCOCK YOUR BIRD (gunneratttt) just poast the reddit thread (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5801270&forum_id=2#49453541) |
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Date: November 23rd, 2025 9:56 AM Author: ............,.,.,.,.......,,.,., this is real man. genuinely need advice (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5801270&forum_id=2#49453542) |
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Date: November 23rd, 2025 10:04 AM Author: SPATCHCOCK YOUR BIRD (gunneratttt) if you don't temper this insecurity you'll wind up in a nyuugian cycle where you are constantly trying to fill the insecurity of being a loser as a young man with more sexual conquests. however, that will never erase those feelings of insecurity because you can't go back in time and make yourself a hs chad. it'll eat you alive and destroy all your future relationships.
if you're hot now and slept around a bit then you should realize it's no big feat. this is infinitely truer for women. you've already proven to yourself you can do it so there's no reason to be insecure any longer. so why should you feel insecure?
if you can't stop feeling insecure you just have to fake it til you make it. it's no different than imposter syndrome. eventually you stop feeling like an imposter because you aren't one. eventually you should stop feeling insecure because you have no reason to be. you've accomplished your goal, and being a loser in high school just makes that more impressive. |
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Date: November 23rd, 2025 11:06 AM Author: ............,.,.,.,.......,,.,., This genuinely might be the most helpful thing I have ever read on here. Ty (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5801270&forum_id=2#49453701) |
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Date: November 23rd, 2025 11:51 AM Author: SPATCHCOCK YOUR BIRD (gunneratttt) ty friend and good luck! (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5801270&forum_id=2#49453808) |
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Date: November 23rd, 2025 11:08 AM Author: my dog has shot fewer people than Dick Cheney (let us rid ourselves of the fiction that low oil prices are good) heights of everyone involved? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5801270&forum_id=2#49453705) |
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Date: November 23rd, 2025 11:15 AM Author: Nothing Ever Happens (🧐) cq nothing else matters. well maybe ages too. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5801270&forum_id=2#49453718) |
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Date: November 23rd, 2025 11:43 AM Author: ...,....,,........ (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5801270&forum_id=2#49453785) |
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Date: November 23rd, 2025 11:16 AM Author: Megathor lives! It’s me again, bros (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5801270&forum_id=2#49453725) |
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Date: November 23rd, 2025 11:17 AM Author: Monosodium Glutamate Dump her and get ugly gf (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5801270&forum_id=2#49453726) |
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Date: November 23rd, 2025 11:18 AM Author: bigfed mousejiggler ages, races, heights, net worths, anogenital distance & bowel movements per day of everyone involved? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5801270&forum_id=2#49453728) |
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Date: November 23rd, 2025 11:19 AM Author: Nazca Redlines There is nothing you can do to go back in time and "get more girls" in hs and college or whatever you have in mind. So, you should put any thought of that or that stems from that out of your mind and be happy with what you have today and can have in the future. If you have a great gf who would be a great wife and mom, don't fumble the ball on the goal line.
Your other choice is to break up with her, date around to "even up the score" (though to what end?), then try to get out of that cycle and find another good future wife and mother of your children. However, you'll never really "catch up" (see above about not going back to hs and college), so you risk getting stuck there as you rot your soul. And meanwhile, you'll have let one great gf get away to do so, and you may not find another. And, moreover, you delay having kids and will have fewer years with your future kids and grandkids. |
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Date: November 23rd, 2025 11:28 AM Author: OldHLSDude My suggestion is to think less about how hot she is and appreciate her attitude. The latter is the main thing, and so long as she is not narcissistic (zero is impossible, but not above baseline female narcissistic) her own looks are irrelevant to her. Remember Po Campo, the Mexican cook in "Lonesome Dove?" When he agreed to go on the cattle drive and was asked about taking his wife he said, "I used to have a wife. I sent her to hell myself. She made good biscuits, but her attitude was terrible."
Being appreciative of her looks is fine, but that has nothing to do with how you look. At the end of the day sane women are looking for a good companion and provider. You're lucky and must possess some high quality for her to hook up with you. Relax and enjoy.
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Date: November 23rd, 2025 12:31 PM Author: Pilgrims Did Nothing Wrong (TDNW) 180 lonesome dove reference (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5801270&forum_id=2#49453919) |
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Date: November 23rd, 2025 1:13 PM Author: ............,.,.,.,.......,,.,., she is 180 in all regards. my only point about her being hot is that she has naturally had a lot of male attention, and i have had little female attention. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5801270&forum_id=2#49453995) |
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Date: November 23rd, 2025 11:52 AM Author: Hang Kikelensky NOW The bad news she is 100% cheating on you with one or more of her exs. The good news is she’s a 7 at best anyway. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5801270&forum_id=2#49453814) |
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Date: November 23rd, 2025 12:29 PM Author: "''"'"'"'" (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5801270&forum_id=2#49453910) |
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Date: November 23rd, 2025 1:33 PM Author: Itamar Ben-Gvir not flame at all
this chick has 100000% cheated on OP at least a handful of times or she was spinning him as an attention/provisioning plate and he doesnt even realize
AND LJL @ meeting a "GF" on a fuck app, lol she doesnt even naturally like your pheromones you got put together by a satanic homosexual algorithm congrats! |