I order the same thing every time, a 'medium sized coffee with room for cream'. they just give me the house coffee. I dont like saying 'venti' as i refuse to speak other languages than American. the barista was trans MtF and not passing at all and his presence just dominated the interaction, and i guess it was in my mind when he said 'what size' and I said a 'trans coffee.' it was one of those situations where he looked embarrassed for me.