If you want 180 weather and outdoor shit to do, LA is it, but if you want to make friends and have lots of casual sex NYC is better

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5616523&forum_id=2#48230023)

And how much is there to do that isn't focused on drinking ?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5616523&forum_id=2#48232270)

Nyc is the only place in the US where you can live like you’re 20, well into your 30s and 40s and it’s totally normal

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5616523&forum_id=2#48232304)

LA seems like a big headache, getting around and owning a car. its taxes and demographics are worse than NYC. why not MFH?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5616523&forum_id=2#48230038)

NYC is a nice visit, but living there full-time seems fucking atrocious.

I'd choose London over NYC if you have cash. I just got back from Greece, heading on a surf trip to Morocco after Christmas. Back to US in Feb, then Berlin for work then back to London. Cannes / French Riviera in May.

Unless you're a finance bro stuck on the golden handcuffed concrete island, why choose NYC?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5616523&forum_id=2#48230107)

tons of cool shit to do by foot/metro. only city in the US. food, culture, history, easy hot women.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5616523&forum_id=2#48230122)

Instead of the town center with the Walgreens, Target, Starbies, Chipotle and Albertsons being your big Saturday out (1hr in traffic each way, plus 30 mins finding a spot not taken up by a raised pickup parking across 4 spots, all for the BIG SHOP) - you can use functional public transportation to get to the airport in less than an hour and be pounding beers at the Hofbräuhaus in München in less than 4 hrs door to door (almost), laughing with dirndl cladded bartendresses at the suckers in the US still stuck in traffic.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5616523&forum_id=2#48230171)

traveling all the time seems great, but i think for most people they need a home and a routine. they need to develop connections and foster them etc. im always hesitant about the "leave the country" advice, because almost all ex-pats usually return to their homeland

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5616523&forum_id=2#48230548)

I love a lot about the US, but living back home full time doesn't really seem healthy for most people and not for me. My quality of life is so much better outside of the US. Work/life balance etc. just can't be replicated back in the toxic cesspit.

Our closest friends here just had their first babby - wife walked over to their house this afternoon and made a big dinner for everyone. After I finished up work, I walked over with the hound and we had a wonderful dinner together. After we ate I had my goddaughter on my chest telling her all the ways i was going to spoil her over the years while her mother got a few minutes for herself. Our community here is surprisingly strong and I didnt expect it to be when we first moved. I did the dishes for them and then wife and I hightailed it to the pub for a nice pint before we walked back home together.

I fly back to see my father and fam 2-4 times a year (i try for at least 3) so I'm not totally removed from the homeland. I'm so glad when I land in the US and so fucking happy when I fly back and hear the captain say we're beginning our descent back into London.

Just because you dont live in the country full time anymore doesnt mean can't visit for weeks at a time. My father says he sees me more than he used to when we lived in the same state. And when I am there, we spend actual quality time together. It's just different.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5616523&forum_id=2#48232238)

This is cr. I moved cross country from mine and I hear the same. Have to be intentional about it, but when we do spend time together, we make it count vs. some obligatory Sunday dinner when everyone is stressed and just wants to get it over with and wife is giving you evil eye to gtfo.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5616523&forum_id=2#48233830)

NYC but only if it's a SFH in Westchester Co or bungalow in The Hamptons

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5616523&forum_id=2#48230181)

either live in the middle of nyc or live as far as possible away

"oh we have all the benefits of driving 20 min, to get on a train, to travel 30 min, to get to midtown manhattan, to hail a cab to get to the event... but we ALSO get to pay triple for suburban real estate and have jews and bankers and dorks for neighbors! Best of everything!"

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5616523&forum_id=2#48230615)

https://streeteasy.com/building/madison-green/30l?featured=1

https://streeteasy.com/building/393-west-end-avenue-new_york/2f?featured=1

https://streeteasy.com/building/nolita-place-condominiums/9d

https://streeteasy.com/building/one-wall-street/718

https://streeteasy.com/building/25-east-69-street-new_york/5b?from_map=1

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5616523&forum_id=2#48236065)

do you want a wife and kids? if so, go to the south. dallas or atlanta or something. you can be a big fish there with a few million and solid income

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5616523&forum_id=2#48231553)

hermitage is cool but that city sucks the women are overrated af, the food sucks, and its expensive now and filled with homeless

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5616523&forum_id=2#48231776)

nice cars for wife and self - 200k

private school for kids - 100k/year

Food - 1500/month/person if eating out regularly

travel - 50k/year

assuming 5% a year return on 10 million dollars - that 500k is getting used up awfully quick living in LA

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5616523&forum_id=2#48231844)

your other expenses are wild. 50k a year on travel? 2, 100k cars for you and your wife?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5616523&forum_id=2#48231918)

100k/year in LA is borderline poverty levels -- not flame

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5616523&forum_id=2#48232901)

OP said "successful" so im gonna assume he's got at least 3 million and makes way more than he spends. thats fine for a single guy who wants to keep working in a HCOL locale

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5616523&forum_id=2#48232819)

being UMC and having 2-3m net worth in your 30s is comfortable, but dont expect to feel rich in NYC/LA. those are great places to feel average or poor, even if youre not. if youre a chad and regularly have women approach you looking for secks, then maybe LA/NYC would be 180. but it's likely an incremental upgrade if youre not able to afford a top tier lifestyle there

does successful mean 10-20m net worth? thats when a place like NYC or LA would really get interesting - youd have a condo in the city, and a vacation house somewhere else. you wouldnt feel pressure to work even if you wanted to splash cash and enjoy all the city has to offer. exclusive clubs, restaurants, spontaneous trips with a new broad youre impressing.

my theory is that the middle class and UMC people in these cities are truly suckers. the poor have all sorts of programs to benefit from, and the rich live above the dirty squalor and homelessness. the MC/UMC is grinding away and living above their means to keep up appearances. i dont think you want to do that just to bang a few girls who are slightly hotter than the ones you usually go out with.

so how successful are you? if you'd feel it'd be necessary to maintain a high pressure job, its probably not worth the move. how about you move to a big southern city where you have tons of options and can be a big fish? Atlanta, Houston, Tampa, Miami? you'll probably do better there and benefit from way more personal autonomy without a rat race occupying your time. visit NYC or LA for a few weeks every year and then GTFO out of those hellholes

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5616523&forum_id=2#48254864)

i do think relocating to NYC or LA makes sense if youre pushing older 30s though. thats when it gets tough in any other cities if you want to date actively. in NYC and LA you will have way more options. unless youre hideous and need to sexpat

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5616523&forum_id=2#48261147)