Do most divorces happen because spouses just get tired of each other?
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Date: August 15th, 2022 10:04 AM Author: Honey-headed blathering dog poop multi-billionaire
For younger people who get divorced, 100% the most common reason is infidelity.
for older people like in their 50s whose kids have left the nest, i think getting "tired" of each other is one way to put it, but it's rarely mutual. a lot of times, 1 person just kind of checks out. The other person puts up with it for a while and eventually gets the courage to file for divorce or is double humiliated and is the defendant.
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5173515&forum_id=2#45015876)
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Date: August 15th, 2022 10:37 AM Author: mustard point
Same. My wife kind of soft threatens a divorce every couple months or so when she can tell I’ve stopped caring about her drama.
Last night she said “well we can be separated, co-parent, and still even hook up.”
I started howling laughing at her after the hooking up line. I laughingly said, you think I’d ever want to touch you again if we separated? She was devastated and I just walked away and went to bed.
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Date: August 15th, 2022 10:51 AM Author: Honey-headed blathering dog poop multi-billionaire
explain!
some examples:
1) H ditches stay at home W with 3 kids and provides no financial support. She loves him and wants to stay married but files for divorce because she has no choice.
2) H and W are married for 30 years and have 4 kids. H starts cheating and tells W that he wants to stay married but have an open relationship. She's not willing to do that and just wants her old, monogamous marriage back. W files for divorce.
Rarely, if ever, do I have a woman come into the office super amped up about getting divorced.
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5173515&forum_id=2#45016065) |
Date: August 15th, 2022 10:38 AM Author: crystalline comical state legend
I've done 100s of divorces over almost two decades(!) of practice, maybe over a thousand by now, and I'm going to say that everyone is different. There are trends and times in a marriage that people get divorced, but there isn't any "one thing" that ends a marriage.
There are choke points for marriage: (1) immediately (i.e. first 6 months), (2) when the children are between ages 2-6, (3) immediately after the kids go to college, and (4) end of life. The most common time for divorce is when the kids are young, that's the hardest part of a marriage and the pressure that young kids puts on a relationship makes any existing problems in your relationship that much worse.
It is usually the women who file, but I don't lay the blame on these failed marriages solely on women. IMHO women file because the law favors them in divorce, but it does not follow that women are excited or happy to get divorced, as many have to face the daunting prosect of single-mommyhood (or single past their prime). It is extraordinarily rare that people hire attorneys and seek a divorce while the people still love each other and want to be married, the actual relationship is usually unbearable. That's the interesting thing about divorce, of all the aspects of it that are miserable and hurtful to a person, the loss of companionship of their actual spouse usually is so far down the list that it is never even mentioned.
IMHO as to why marriage can be so miserable: modern gender roles. It was clear for 2000 years how marriage was to work in the western world, and then modern sexual mores and modern roles for the relationships between the sexes sprouted up out of nowhere to replace the old system to disastrous results. If you judge a tree by the fruit it bears, modern value systems/ feminism/ weak-manism, etc. in regards to the effect on a marriage are pure poison. This matters, too, as statistics show that divorced children are far worse off than children from stable families, statistics show that divorced people are worse off by virtually every financial metric, etc. etc.
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Date: August 15th, 2022 10:41 AM Author: Vivacious personal credit line space
Interesting and 180 poast, ty. Can you go into more detail on this?
"That's the interesting thing about divorce, of all the aspects of it that are miserable and hurtful to a person, the loss of companionship of their actual spouse usually is so far down the list that it is never even mentioned."
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Date: August 15th, 2022 11:08 AM Author: Stubborn mad-dog skullcap
fascinating post.
"If you judge a tree by the fruit it bears, modern value systems/ feminism/ weak-manism, etc. in regards to the effect on a marriage are pure poison."
any insight on what the solution is? i dont think we can put pandora back in the box, so what advice are we to give to our daughters?
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5173515&forum_id=2#45016164) |
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Date: August 15th, 2022 9:49 PM Author: crystalline comical state legend
There is no "solution" to this problem on a massive scale, you can only improve your little corner of the world. Not to over simplify, but you hear religious Christians talk about the Devil as being the great deceiver, a liar. You heard talk about rejecting Satans lies. It's oversimplistic, but it's not wrong.
The modern world is a world of lies. If you listen to what TV says, or popular music, or liberals at the University, or politics, they are selling a version of the world that claims to give "liberation" or "self fulfillment" or something positive, when really it's lies that bring misery. This is especially true for women, as our world wants nothing more from women but to have them be mindless consumers of whatever is being sold.
I'm teaching my girls to be girls, to hold themselves to standard, clean their rooms & make their beds, have table manners, not be crude, not to use profanity, and I am very aware of what entertainment they consume. We go to church almost every Sunday, and we go with our friends and neighbors. We talk about love and happiness, the importance of family. I talk to them about our family, their grandparents and great grandparents, about how they should strive to make not just their parents proud but how they need to uphold the family name. I work hard and we talk about the importance of hard work. I don't cuss in front of my kids, I am never drunk in front of my kids, I talk about how much I love their mother, and how someday they'll have wonderful families themselves. I do everything with them, the only part of my life that they are excluded from is work. They maybe hear what I say to them, but they really see how I treat people and how I interact with the world, and I am very careful to always set a good example for them.
I also don't hesitate to tell them there are bad people in the world, disgusting people that will try to hurt them if they get the chance.
What else is there to do but raise them to try to be focused on family and their own dignity?
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5173515&forum_id=2#45019204)
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Date: August 15th, 2022 10:13 PM Author: Gaped temple
Some dry humor / gallows humor you might appreciate, from C.S. Lewis's A Preface to Paradise Lost, on the simple but (((obscured))) by "modernity" fact that Eve was the first "liberated" "feminist":
Because Eve - having been convinced by Satan that it's beneath her dignity as a great noble queen - refuses to bow to God or Adam's legitimate patriarchal authority...
...she instead ends up bowing to a vegetable, that is, the Tree of Forbidden Knowledge, aka "Godlike" "power"...
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5173515&forum_id=2#45019319) |
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Date: August 15th, 2022 12:29 PM Author: Vivacious personal credit line space
It's funny, my husband was raised by evangelical baptists who followed strict old school gender roles. His dad worked and his mom did everything else, including homeschool the 3 kids. He hated the dynamic in that house so much he said he'd never be an absent partner.
I was raised in a house like your fiancé and told my husband from the start (we began dating at 19) that I wasn't a replacement from his mom and expected us to treat each other as equals in the relationship.
I'd say a lot of the work distribution in our house is dependent on our dog walking schedule. We rotate who walks the dogs in the morning and evenings, so the non-dog walker makes coffee in the morning and dinner at night. If someone is cooking dinner and doesn't need help, the other will usually go do a chore or chill out / work on a personal project if nothing needs to be done.
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5173515&forum_id=2#45016640) |
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Date: August 15th, 2022 10:30 PM Author: Bossy Property
Rate my family drama.
Dad met mom when he was early 30s and she was early 20s.
They got married after a year or so and promptly had multiple babydoods. The babydoods are all successful and happy adults and my parents have been happily married ever since.
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5173515&forum_id=2#45019376) |
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Date: August 15th, 2022 12:52 PM Author: razzle-dazzle locus wagecucks
It seems to be this way to me.
My wife is currently divorcing me, and she is incredibly financially incentivized to do so.
Moreover, she filed a restraining order against me because that will yield her more money in support payments going forward.
The entire system has terrible financial incentives and when combined with a culture of feminism has resulted in the destruction of the family unit and a reliance on big government.
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5173515&forum_id=2#45016773) |
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Date: August 15th, 2022 2:21 PM Author: razzle-dazzle locus wagecucks
Nah, she was mostly loving with 5% really crazy side (physically aggressive), which kind of served to spice things up.
After having 1 kid, she became 25% crazy and then after the second kid, she became 40% crazy, which made it impossible to get along with her. I'd hide myself away in my office, but she'd bang on the window or the door endlessly until I let her in. Things became physically aggressive on numerous occasions with shouting matches where the kids could see and hear, and she ended up calling the police, serving a restraining order, and threatening divorce unless I changed the prenup (I did not).
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5173515&forum_id=2#45017311) |
Date: August 15th, 2022 1:41 PM Author: ocher coffee pot cuckold
most modern people give up on some part of their lives, and most people are capable of forming and acting on deep senses of hatred of others.
Combine these and divorce becomes and modern indulgence of sorts
I'm always amazed when people look past being with someone who develops a lot of enemies. It always comes back to bite you in the ass because your turn is inevitable.
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Date: August 15th, 2022 10:07 PM Author: crystalline comical state legend
IMHO It would seem to me that both spouses have to learn to live with the inherent conflict in a marriage. A woman wants to control her husband, but will be unhappy if they actually do. They want a strong man in charge, but at the same time they want to attempt to control that man. It's not a logical impulse, but that doesn't make it wrong. A woman who stomps their whipped man is unsatisfied, much like a woman is also unhappy if their man gives them no mind at all and takes not interest in his role as a husband.
I'm not really doing service to this, but the idea is to embrace the conflict as not something unnatural but instead a basis for understanding.
Also, marriage is not for everyone. There are men who are too weak or too uninterested in being adult men to ever be good husbands. There are women who are just too broken, angry, or true believers in female-head-of-household thinking to ever be good wives. Not everyone wins this game.
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Date: August 16th, 2022 11:11 AM Author: Stirring locale
There's no point to marriage outside of the church.
Full stop.
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Date: August 16th, 2022 2:11 PM Author: Supple ratface theater
Having kids, stressful jobs (which interfere with kid rearing) and money issues anecdotally leads to divorce in the UMC circles.
Truthfully, I find that most couples who divorce are just greedy and want it all (the kids, the money, the careers) and are unwilling to give something up. The ones who’ve done it have done it now and the next wave is coming when the kids leave the nest. I can already sense a bunch coming.
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5173515&forum_id=2#45022154) |
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