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Am I being an asshole to my mom?

In the middle of a really annoying situation and could use s...
Ruby excitant heaven chad
  06/21/21
no, you're fine. tell your mom that it's important for yo...
green hell
  06/21/21
Yea, this is exactly what I tried to explain to her and she ...
Ruby excitant heaven chad
  06/21/21
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Irradiated Roommate
  06/21/21
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jade kink-friendly church building twinkling uncleanness
  06/21/21
their stupid women fights are not your concern
soul-stirring goyim
  06/21/21
This sounds like my mom's family. Real prole stuff-- fist fi...
Nubile center candlestick maker
  06/21/21
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Motley sex offender
  06/22/21
Is there some way for you to work your having sex with one o...
Cowardly library private investor
  06/21/21
My 20 year old cousin is a total smoke show and is dating a ...
Ruby excitant heaven chad
  06/21/21
Start confiding in her about your frustration over the situa...
Cowardly library private investor
  06/21/21
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soul-stirring goyim
  06/21/21
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Ruby excitant heaven chad
  06/21/21
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jade kink-friendly church building twinkling uncleanness
  06/21/21
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Supple Hominid Orchestra Pit
  06/22/21
I think we're going to need to see some pics of the cousin i...
Bistre zombie-like stage jewess
  06/21/21
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Cowardly library private investor
  06/21/21
I saw my aunt naked when I was 13- was terrified and hid in ...
arousing immigrant
  06/21/21
describe
soul-stirring goyim
  06/21/21
Truth? Nice tits
arousing immigrant
  06/21/21
Do you intend to ever come out of the closet?
Startling community account quadroon
  06/21/21
i had no intentions of doing so!
arousing immigrant
  06/21/21
How old was she?
jade kink-friendly church building twinkling uncleanness
  06/21/21
I think your mom being upset is valid, actually. Taking the ...
chartreuse embarrassed to the bone dysfunction mad cow disease
  06/21/21
Yea, I’ve tried to explain this to my mom but she does...
Ruby excitant heaven chad
  06/21/21
IMO then you should take some steps to hit the breaks on you...
chartreuse embarrassed to the bone dysfunction mad cow disease
  06/21/21
jewish or female?
Hyperactive boyish lay filthpig
  06/22/21
probably
Dashing Low-t Kitchen
  06/21/21
you didn't even tell us what was said, that's what matters h...
Jet-lagged Mildly Autistic Becky Crackhouse
  06/21/21
It’s not really clear what was said and I doubt my mom...
Ruby excitant heaven chad
  06/21/21
>Women are crazy. Especially older ones. cr. respondin...
green hell
  06/21/21
your mom is insane/old, she needs validation for her hobby (...
Jet-lagged Mildly Autistic Becky Crackhouse
  06/21/21
...
Nofapping property
  06/21/21
ti, oc, tcr
jade kink-friendly church building twinkling uncleanness
  06/21/21
OP for God's sake fuck your cousin.
Cowardly library private investor
  06/21/21
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Gdt36UKBkMM
trip tanning salon
  06/22/21
100% not flame below. So told my aunt/uncle/cousins that ...
Ruby excitant heaven chad
  06/22/21
2nd cousin: let's go in the pool! wife: don't go fool!
tripping black stain queen of the night
  06/22/21
...
chartreuse embarrassed to the bone dysfunction mad cow disease
  06/22/21
You should just tell your mother that stuff like this is why...
disgusting wonderful ticket booth fat ankles
  06/22/21


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Date: June 21st, 2021 2:48 PM
Author: Ruby excitant heaven chad

In the middle of a really annoying situation and could use some objective views.

My mom and my aunt (moms younger sister) used to be best friends but have gotten into a series of petty fights that have gotten progressively worse over the past year. My uncle got laid off at the beginning of the pandemic and mom and my aunt got into a particularly nasty fight earlier this year and apparently nasty things were said on each side and they are no longer speaking. My mom has called my aunt, and texted her, a number of times since then but my aunt won’t respond.

I hosted a large 4th of July BBQ and invited my aunt, uncle and cousins (aunt has three kids, age 23, 20 and 16). My mom wasn’t happy about that but they came and everyone was cordial although my aunt didn’t respond to my mom’s text after that weekend to reconcile.

I live about 30 minutes from my aunt (about a 2 hour flight/10 hour drive to my parents) and they’ve invited us to a BBQ (along with my grandparents who are verrry up there in age) that Saturday. I immediately accepted (along with my wife and toddler child). Aunt told me my cousin was hone for the weekend (who wasn’t around 4th of July) and I hadn’t seen her since before the pandemic.

I told my mom that I was heading over there for the BBQ and she blew up on me. Said she couldn’t believe I’d upset her like this and going over there would validate my aunts treatment of her and that she’d consider this a serious betrayal and that she really hopes I reconsider.

Do I need to cancel? My family isn’t the largest and I’d hate to put half of it to the torch because my aunt and mom can’t get along. My aunt is crazy (so is my mom) but I can deal with her just to see my cousins and it’ll make my grandparents happy to see their great grandchild (they are too frail and won’t make the 30 minute drive to my house). I could just bring the toddler to my grandparents (which I do about once a month) but it seems so stupid to drive all the way over there and not go to the BBQ.

FWIW, Aunt/uncle are also the godparents of my child.

This was typed on mobile so will try and edit any glaring errors.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4861866&forum_id=2#42663596)



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Date: June 21st, 2021 2:51 PM
Author: green hell

no, you're fine.

tell your mom that it's important for your kid and wife to get to know the entire family and that she shouldn't be trying to create a rift in the entire family because of her petty squabble.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4861866&forum_id=2#42663616)



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Date: June 21st, 2021 2:57 PM
Author: Ruby excitant heaven chad

Yea, this is exactly what I tried to explain to her and she is losing it and sent me a barrage of texts.

Complete lunacy

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4861866&forum_id=2#42663632)



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Date: June 21st, 2021 4:15 PM
Author: Irradiated Roommate



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4861866&forum_id=2#42664011)



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Date: June 21st, 2021 6:21 PM
Author: jade kink-friendly church building twinkling uncleanness



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4861866&forum_id=2#42664718)



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Date: June 21st, 2021 2:55 PM
Author: soul-stirring goyim

their stupid women fights are not your concern

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4861866&forum_id=2#42663625)



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Date: June 21st, 2021 2:58 PM
Author: Nubile center candlestick maker

This sounds like my mom's family. Real prole stuff-- fist fight between cousins, etc. My mom's sister died without them ever truly reconciling. It is sad.

Bottom line is you are doing nothing wrong. It is your mom's beef, not yours. In fact, you could use it as an opportunity to try and work a detente between mom and aunt by gently pressuring aunt to reconnect.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4861866&forum_id=2#42663636)



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Date: June 22nd, 2021 6:57 AM
Author: Motley sex offender



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4861866&forum_id=2#42667220)



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Date: June 21st, 2021 2:58 PM
Author: Cowardly library private investor

Is there some way for you to work your having sex with one or more of your aunt's three kids into this situation?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4861866&forum_id=2#42663640)



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Date: June 21st, 2021 3:02 PM
Author: Ruby excitant heaven chad

My 20 year old cousin is a total smoke show and is dating a total chad (gorgeous guy)

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4861866&forum_id=2#42663663)



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Date: June 21st, 2021 3:08 PM
Author: Cowardly library private investor

Start confiding in her about your frustration over the situation -- you love your mom, you love your aunt, you really want this to work out between the two of them. Grab a 6 pack and talk it over by a roaring fire out back that night. Talk about how it's bringing up a lot of stuff for you and you really want to confide in her. Bring her in to your emotional stuff. Follow up in a week or so and tell her how much you appreciated your talk and ask if she'll meet you again over drinks. Have an hour or two of intimate conversation. Follow up in a week and see if she'll head somewhere with you, keep it casual but something involving physical activity and close proximity, so like a hike along the beach; subtle touches between you and her as the day progresses to escalate. Try to draw out that third encounter, see if you can pull in a late night / alcohol / walk along the pier. Make a move at the end of the night and fuck her on the beach, fuck that ripe 20 year old pussy until you cum.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4861866&forum_id=2#42663685)



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Date: June 21st, 2021 3:18 PM
Author: soul-stirring goyim



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4861866&forum_id=2#42663725)



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Date: June 21st, 2021 3:22 PM
Author: Ruby excitant heaven chad



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4861866&forum_id=2#42663748)



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Date: June 21st, 2021 6:23 PM
Author: jade kink-friendly church building twinkling uncleanness



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4861866&forum_id=2#42664728)



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Date: June 22nd, 2021 12:49 AM
Author: Supple Hominid Orchestra Pit



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4861866&forum_id=2#42666841)



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Date: June 21st, 2021 3:03 PM
Author: Bistre zombie-like stage jewess

I think we're going to need to see some pics of the cousin in order to really understand the situation.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4861866&forum_id=2#42663666)



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Date: June 21st, 2021 3:10 PM
Author: Cowardly library private investor



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4861866&forum_id=2#42663698)



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Date: June 21st, 2021 3:10 PM
Author: arousing immigrant

I saw my aunt naked when I was 13- was terrified and hid in my cousin's closet for 30 minutes.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4861866&forum_id=2#42663696)



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Date: June 21st, 2021 3:18 PM
Author: soul-stirring goyim

describe

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4861866&forum_id=2#42663726)



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Date: June 21st, 2021 4:13 PM
Author: arousing immigrant

Truth? Nice tits

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4861866&forum_id=2#42663998)



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Date: June 21st, 2021 3:28 PM
Author: Startling community account quadroon

Do you intend to ever come out of the closet?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4861866&forum_id=2#42663779)



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Date: June 21st, 2021 4:12 PM
Author: arousing immigrant

i had no intentions of doing so!

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4861866&forum_id=2#42663995)



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Date: June 21st, 2021 6:22 PM
Author: jade kink-friendly church building twinkling uncleanness

How old was she?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4861866&forum_id=2#42664721)



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Date: June 21st, 2021 3:17 PM
Author: chartreuse embarrassed to the bone dysfunction mad cow disease

I think your mom being upset is valid, actually. Taking the most tribal view of this as possible, your mom and aunt aren't on good terms and you have a greater obligation to your mother than to your aunt.

That said, seems like your aunt is being unreasonable if she can't respond to multiple attempts to reconcile. Tough spot, but can you serve as the intermediary to at least open up a dialogue between them? Seems like the best way to maintain good relations with your aunt while also making your mom feel like you're doing so on 'her behalf'.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4861866&forum_id=2#42663723)



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Date: June 21st, 2021 3:26 PM
Author: Ruby excitant heaven chad

Yea, I’ve tried to explain this to my mom but she doesn’t even want me to talk to my aunt on her behalf. She says the ball is in my aunts court now.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4861866&forum_id=2#42663759)



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Date: June 21st, 2021 3:29 PM
Author: chartreuse embarrassed to the bone dysfunction mad cow disease

IMO then you should take some steps to hit the breaks on your relationship with your aunt in a way that makes it clear to both her and your mom that it's because she won't meet your mom halfway on reconciling.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4861866&forum_id=2#42663782)



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Date: June 22nd, 2021 1:51 PM
Author: Hyperactive boyish lay filthpig

jewish or female?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4861866&forum_id=2#42668907)



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Date: June 21st, 2021 3:29 PM
Author: Dashing Low-t Kitchen

probably

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4861866&forum_id=2#42663786)



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Date: June 21st, 2021 3:32 PM
Author: Jet-lagged Mildly Autistic Becky Crackhouse

you didn't even tell us what was said, that's what matters here imo. did your mom say that your uncle sucks at job interviews and will remain unemployed for life?

anyway, by you showing up, you're undermining your mother, it's as if you're like, 'ohhh man, get a load of that lady, she's sooooooooooooooooo crazy imho, amirite folks?'

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4861866&forum_id=2#42663805)



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Date: June 21st, 2021 3:39 PM
Author: Ruby excitant heaven chad

It’s not really clear what was said and I doubt my mom would be a reliable narrator (nor would my aunt).

If my aunt (or anyone else there) badmouthed my mom at the BBQ, I’d call them on it and maybe leave. I really doubt anyone would do that.

But yea, the whole thing is really awkward and even if I’m not doing anything “wrong” I’m feeling like I can really go to this.

Women are crazy. Especially older ones.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4861866&forum_id=2#42663824)



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Date: June 21st, 2021 3:41 PM
Author: green hell

>Women are crazy. Especially older ones.

cr. responding to your mom with anything more than "lol don't bring me into your craziness and petty squabbles" is giving them too much credit. they're sisters, they'll resolve in in time.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4861866&forum_id=2#42663834)



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Date: June 21st, 2021 4:12 PM
Author: Jet-lagged Mildly Autistic Becky Crackhouse

your mom is insane/old, she needs validation for her hobby (feuding). spend 10 minutes to listen to her side of the story. if her version of the story still makes her sound insane, or if she doesn't want to tell you then just ignore her.

if you don't care then just resume not caring, go to the bbq, nbd. you asked "AITA"

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4861866&forum_id=2#42663990)



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Date: June 21st, 2021 3:39 PM
Author: Nofapping property



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4861866&forum_id=2#42663826)



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Date: June 21st, 2021 6:23 PM
Author: jade kink-friendly church building twinkling uncleanness

ti, oc, tcr

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4861866&forum_id=2#42664726)



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Date: June 21st, 2021 11:16 PM
Author: Cowardly library private investor

OP for God's sake fuck your cousin.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4861866&forum_id=2#42666514)



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Date: June 22nd, 2021 12:47 PM
Author: trip tanning salon

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Gdt36UKBkMM

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4861866&forum_id=2#42668592)



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Date: June 22nd, 2021 12:52 PM
Author: Ruby excitant heaven chad

100% not flame below.

So told my aunt/uncle/cousins that we weren’t going to be able to make it this weekend. The pressure from my mom and siblings was too much.

Got a text from my cousin this morning asking me if my development’s pool allowed guests, that she wanted to see us and my child, and whether my mom would be mad if we hung out with her.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4861866&forum_id=2#42668610)



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Date: June 22nd, 2021 12:55 PM
Author: tripping black stain queen of the night

2nd cousin: let's go in the pool! wife: don't go fool!

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4861866&forum_id=2#42668624)



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Date: June 22nd, 2021 1:45 PM
Author: chartreuse embarrassed to the bone dysfunction mad cow disease



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4861866&forum_id=2#42668887)



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Date: June 22nd, 2021 1:00 PM
Author: disgusting wonderful ticket booth fat ankles

You should just tell your mother that stuff like this is why women shouldn't be allowed to vote.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=4861866&forum_id=2#42668654)