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We focus on how much single 30+ women suck but the men are just as bad
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Date: January 28th, 2022 3:02 PM Author: Stimulating dopamine My single 37 year-old female friend let me look through her bumble account at the guys in our area (not just her matches, all guys). It's a freak show out there for women. One of the guys was wearing nail polish in one of his pics, no lie.
There are basically no normal guys out there over 35 who are never been married, have no kids, are educated and have good jobs and can form complete sentences. Tons of ghetto black and Hispanic guys and ethnic dudes who are plumbers and shit like that. I haven't even touched upon the guys who message her and what they say to her yet.
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Date: January 28th, 2022 3:23 PM Author: startled meetinghouse black woman That’s true (I was married). (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43863327) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 9:19 PM Author: insanely creepy parlor Wait - what? Are you divorced? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43865445) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 3:45 PM Author: Sienna menage i'm one of those rare guys, except i'm a recovering alkie. i've deleted all my swipe apps though. they're poison. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43863458) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 3:52 PM Author: blathering aquamarine state voyeur Are you hoping to meet someone or have you given up on that?
I’m focusing on health and money right now. Might make more of an effort with dating if I have success with the first two, but it might just be too late for me. |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 3:54 PM Author: Umber geriatric antidepressant drug Income and net worth?
I'm late 20s with a good job and plenty of money but can't find any decent girl. :( |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 3:55 PM Author: blathering aquamarine state voyeur $225k income, $750k NW, late thirties (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43863539) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 3:57 PM Author: Umber geriatric antidepressant drug You will find a good woman. I believe it.
We can maek it brother. |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 4:02 PM Author: blathering aquamarine state voyeur TY (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43863588) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 4:03 PM Author: Sienna menage you're way ahead of me, brother. my lack of $$ is my biggest impediment. i probably have a negative net worth, and my income is in the 90s. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43863600) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 4:38 PM Author: blathering aquamarine state voyeur Good luck. I’m rooting for you. Maybe buy some SAMO and we can both hit the jackpot. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43863859) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 7:57 PM Author: Sienna menage (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43864939) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 5:23 PM Author: drab talented rigpig locale LOL your net worth and income doesn't matter at all. HFS are you this clueless? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43864177) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 7:50 PM Author: Sienna menage Money doesn’t matter “at all”? I wouldn’t go that far. Women typically want men who earn more than they do, & If nothing else it helps with confidence. Granted, if you’re chadly enough it doesn’t matter. But I’m probably a solid 7, not above. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43864910) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 4:02 PM Author: Rose exciting den chad race/height/weight/standing overhead press? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43863591) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 4:04 PM Author: Umber geriatric antidepressant drug white, 5'8", 150lbs, can't do overhead press rn because of a shoulder injury, but my max bench is 230lbs
215k income, 1.3 million nw |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 7:56 PM Author: Sinister Ebony Orchestra Pit Bodyfat percentage? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43864936) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 7:57 PM Author: Umber geriatric antidepressant drug No idea, I'm not ripped but I'm not skinny fat. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43864938) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 8:13 PM Author: Sinister Ebony Orchestra Pit Your best bet is a Chinese villager girl (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43865029) |
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Date: January 29th, 2022 12:08 AM Author: Rose exciting den chad Just keep grinding bro. Height seems like the main handicap so try for an azn or latina spinner. And bulk to 175. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43866520) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 4:00 PM Author: Sienna menage haven't given up, but also not striving for a relationship.
i've improved my health and fitness a lot over the last year, and that continues to be my priority. i look pretty good for my age. i've had a few married strangers strike up conversations with me recently and ask if i was single, in an effort to match me with their single friends. but i'm not interested in matchmaking efforts.
don't give up though, man. it's not too late. i do believe that if you work on yourself the rest will follow.
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Date: January 28th, 2022 4:03 PM Author: blathering aquamarine state voyeur TY (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43863594) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 7:11 PM Author: know-it-all doctorate im in the same boat. im a normal dude but a recovering alcoholic myself as well.
have you ever tried dating someone you've met in AA? ive heard mixed results. i think best case scenario is to find someone that drinks infrequently |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 7:41 PM Author: Sienna menage Haven’t tried it, but I’d consider it. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43864851) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 9:50 PM Author: Maniacal Boiling Water I date a recovering alcoholic. As someone who drinks infrequently (though I do go hard on occasion), the lack of pressure to drink all the time is refreshing. Just make sure you’re not a delusional dry drunk before entering the dating world and you’ll be just fine. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43865614) |
Date: January 28th, 2022 3:03 PM Author: Excitant khaki water buffalo kitchen highest quality men are paying 19 year olds for sex (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43863203) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 3:45 PM Author: Territorial Big-titted Center Tank (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43863461) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 3:03 PM Author: Vermilion Hyperventilating Tanning Salon Wow let’s unpack that sweaty (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43863205) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 3:04 PM Author: Concupiscible Toilet Seat (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43863207) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 3:07 PM Author: Stimulating dopamine It's not about her standards. I'm a guy and objectively these guys suck. The most normal ones have been married and have kids but she doesn't want to go there. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43863224) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 3:13 PM Author: Excitant khaki water buffalo kitchen what does she look like (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43863256) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 3:16 PM Author: Stimulating dopamine Fat, big tits, pretty face. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43863281) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 3:18 PM Author: Rose exciting den chad I wonder why a fat 37 year old would have trouble on apps given that her SMV is about 1.5/10 as you describe her. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43863290) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 3:19 PM Author: Excitant khaki water buffalo kitchen cr, the good news is she can just lose weight rather than change the way the dating works (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43863301) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 3:22 PM Author: Stimulating dopamine I'm talking about all the guys in the area, not just the guys who message her. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43863317) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 3:44 PM Author: Territorial Big-titted Center Tank its so hard out there for an obese old woman to find a tall rich man. no fair! (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43863454) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 3:45 PM Author: Stimulating dopamine What made you think she is holding out for a tall rich man? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43863459) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 3:45 PM Author: Territorial Big-titted Center Tank she's a single 37 yo woman (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43863464) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 3:46 PM Author: Stimulating dopamine Because she is fat not because of outrageous standards. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43863472) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 3:47 PM Author: Territorial Big-titted Center Tank fat women get married everyday (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43863474) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 3:47 PM Author: Stimulating dopamine They weren't fat when they met their finances. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43863478) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 3:49 PM Author: Territorial Big-titted Center Tank this is even dumber than what you wrote before the edit. amazing (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43863490) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 3:51 PM Author: Stimulating dopamine A lot of girls get fat during relationships. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43863505) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 3:52 PM Author: Territorial Big-titted Center Tank thats a completely irrelevant point to what im saying. you are clearly a woman. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43863511) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 3:53 PM Author: Stimulating dopamine She is trying to meet a new guy. This is something very different than a guy marrying a fat woman he already loves. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43863523) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 3:55 PM Author: Territorial Big-titted Center Tank you realize most of the country is obese, right? like wtf (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43863541) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 3:19 PM Author: Excitant khaki water buffalo kitchen why does she deserve a handsome successful man (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43863293) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 3:14 PM Author: Rose exciting den chad Sounds like she needs to lower her standards and "go there." (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43863267) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 3:09 PM Author: Vermilion Hyperventilating Tanning Salon Why is she 37 on a swipe app (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43863235) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 3:12 PM Author: Stimulating dopamine Because she sucks too. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43863249) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 3:13 PM Author: diverse seedy church building macaca Swipe apps are not good, and due to her age/looks she’s not seeing the profiles of men older than her that are desirable because they are all looking for and can access younger and better looking women. Unfortunate reality. She should try a different app like Hinge but it would be better if she converted to Christianity and started going to church. She could meet someone there. |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 3:16 PM Author: Rose exciting den chad Any desirable 45 y/o men are targeting 25-32. At 37 the best she can hope for is 55-60 for a "desirable" guy, or she might be able to get a 45 y/o Melvin. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43863279) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 3:24 PM Author: startled meetinghouse black woman 21-30 but yes. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43863333) |
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Date: January 30th, 2022 5:36 PM Author: useless wagecucks 21 and up Lol. 25?? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43875864) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 3:17 PM Author: Stimulating dopamine Bumble doesn't work that way. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43863285) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 3:23 PM Author: Rose exciting den chad These men will NEVER see even a top 1% 37 yo because she is above their hard age range cutoffs. It isn't even the algorithms, she's getting filtered by user-set minimum requirements. Devastating. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43863328) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 3:25 PM Author: Vermilion Hyperventilating Tanning Salon And she’s a fat pig lol (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43863336) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 3:39 PM Author: Stimulating dopamine Why don't you guys understand what I'm saying? I'm not talking about men who message her I'm talking about ALL the men SHE sees based on the ages she selected (that's the only thing you can filter on Bumble, not height, race, income, education, religion, body type/size, hair/eye color, job or anything else other sites allow you to). (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43863419) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 3:54 PM Author: diverse seedy church building macaca I don’t think you’re getting it. She won’t see profiles for guys when she is outside their age range, which is most desirable guys. Then you also have the fact that her low elo score will also not show her the best guys even if they were not invisible due to the age range cut off. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43863531) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 3:55 PM Author: deranged rigor partner (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43863535) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 3:55 PM Author: Stimulating dopamine Is that really how Bumble works? I have never used it before. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43863536) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 4:04 PM Author: Rose exciting den chad SHE WILL NOT SEE THE GUYS WHO HAVE FILTERED HER OUT BASED ON AGE (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43863608) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 6:51 PM Author: Tantric private investor yes, that's how it works.
i want kids. there is no way i'm going to get involved with a 37 year old. i have my age cut off at 30. every other man i know (high income and smv coworkers) do the exact same thing. none of them are going to get involved with someone their own age.
i feel sorry for your friend, but this is how it's been from time immemorial. man often date 5+ years younger. they almost never done significantly older. especially someone that's now in the "geriatric pregnancy" range. why would i waste my time on someone like that when i match with tons of attractive women a decade younger than me that are almost certainly fertile?
her mom and the culture should have informed her about this. we used to. it japan they call women over 25 "christmas cakes", because no one wants a christmas cake after the 25th. lots of cultures have similiar idioms. you can bump taht up to about 30 now because of gc clown world. but 35 is a pretty hard cut off. 37 is over the hill. there is absolutely no high quality men that would be willing to date her if they're looking for something serious. that's a cold hard fact. |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 6:54 PM Author: Excitant khaki water buffalo kitchen honestly she would find somebody if she lost weight
this isn't about men dating younger, this is about her being obese |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 6:57 PM Author: magical son of senegal goal in life I actually don't mind if a woman is 37. If you want kids but don't want marriage you are much better off going for a woman that age that one in her 20s who will be far more mentally unstable. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43864690) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 7:00 PM Author: Excitant khaki water buffalo kitchen most dudes are fine with hot 37 year olds
way more girls are hot at 23 but the problem is not that she's old, it's that she is fat |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 7:00 PM Author: magical son of senegal goal in life How do we know she is fat? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43864712) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 7:03 PM Author: Excitant khaki water buffalo kitchen https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&mc=109&forum_id=2#43863281
any woman "having issues" dating online in 2022 is fat |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 7:05 PM Author: magical son of senegal goal in life 180
Do you watch Darius M.? |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 7:06 PM Author: Tantric private investor even a decent looking 37 year old is going to have trouble finding dudes. the ones that do match with them are PUAs trying to pump and dump, most of the time. there are very high quality 37 year old men looking for marriage that would consider a 37 year old woman. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43864731) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 7:09 PM Author: magical son of senegal goal in life Yeah man I say this as a guy who literally never meets women but the doom and gloom and checklist mentality of this generation is fucking nuts. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43864736) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 3:29 PM Author: Stimulating dopamine I'm not talking about the men who message her I'm talking about the general pool of men she sees. Have you ever used bumble? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43863361) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 4:23 PM Author: Clear godawful coldplay fan okay let's break this down. does bumble show her lesbian / bi women? if not, why do you think that's the case? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43863735) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 6:52 PM Author: Tantric private investor (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43864668) |
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Date: January 30th, 2022 5:24 PM Author: obsidian bipolar fat ankles corner And girls under 30 will never see the 45-year-old man profile unless they're looking for an SA type of deal. No sane, thin, educated and good-looking girl under 30 will go looking for guys 15 years older than her unless she's only looking for money and not a real relationship. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43875813) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 3:52 PM Author: diverse seedy church building macaca Yeah it does. Her low elo score shows her the undesirables (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43863513) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 3:41 PM Author: Embarrassed To The Bone Boyish Theatre "There are basically no normal guys out there over 35 who are never been married, have no kids, are educated and have good jobs and can form complete sentences."
Yeah, those guys are married with kids. Not playing the dating game in their middle age. |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 3:43 PM Author: Stimulating dopamine That's my point. We spend a lot of time talking about how much women who are single over 30 suck but the same is basically true for men over 30 too.
Most normal people find someone after 12-17 years ago dating (starting between ages 13 and 18). |
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Date: January 30th, 2022 5:33 PM Author: obsidian bipolar fat ankles corner This is actually false.
I know a ton of divorcees who are far from normal and forced their marriages to seem normal.
One of them is chick who got pregnant on purpose TWICE in order to force the dude into marriage. Worked the first time, not the second. But she did stay marriage for at least 7 years, had two kids, ended in divorce. Now she's a single mother of 3 kids from different fathers.
Chick 2: Married a total psycho at age 22. Was proud as fuck for having been the first one who married in her group of girlfriends. Ended up becoming an alcoholic to deal with her psycho husband, attempted suicide twice, was admitted to rehab, the husband took pics of her passed out and puking in order to keep the kid, horror story.
Chick 3: Both doctors. Dude is a gigantic asshole, she brought in most of the money in the family because her specialty pwns his. She stayed with him "for the sake of the children" but divorced once kids were beyond 17. She said he never helped out with kids or around the house despite the fact that she contributed more than him in income, the house is hers, and he was such a dick that he made fun of her because she didn't read any literature and made fun of her in front of the kids, at some point the kids also made fun of her. It was disgusting.
So yeah, normal people get married and only weirdos don't. All the people above mentioned appeared "very normal" in social and family events, social media, etc. Of course, this is only what they wanted everyone to believe. The reality is that there's a shitload of horrible dysfunctional people who are married and some very normal singles who don't want to get involved with people they're not compatible with just to please society. |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 3:43 PM Author: Territorial Big-titted Center Tank My single 37 year-old female friend
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Date: January 28th, 2022 5:24 PM Author: drab talented rigpig locale OP friend zoned her (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43864189) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 3:48 PM Author: federal library stock car 37 is wayyyyyy too old to be dating. if you cant hack it at that point its your own fault. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43863480) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 3:48 PM Author: Stimulating dopamine Agreed but this is true for both sexes.
37 is 20 years of dating that's crazy. |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 3:49 PM Author: Territorial Big-titted Center Tank lmao (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43863492) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 3:50 PM Author: federal library stock car i dont think men bother unless theyre "hacking it" at that point. complaining about it is a fools errand. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43863497) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 6:53 PM Author: Tantric private investor men routinely date, marry, and impregnant women in their 20s and early 30s into their 40s. women: not so much. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43864672) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 3:50 PM Author: Territorial Big-titted Center Tank i kinda think OP is the "friend" in question (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43863499) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 3:51 PM Author: Stimulating dopamine There are no women on the internet.
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Date: January 28th, 2022 3:52 PM Author: deranged rigor partner Your friend won't even be able to have kids in like a year and a half. Not sure why she thinks she's better than the plumbers you mentioned. In fact those guys are too good for her if they actually want a family. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43863510) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 3:52 PM Author: Territorial Big-titted Center Tank (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43863520) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 3:56 PM Author: Stimulating dopamine She has a really good job and expects someone on her level. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43863545) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 3:57 PM Author: Territorial Big-titted Center Tank Date: January 28th, 2022 3:46 PM Author: .';';'';':;,..,';:;',.,';:;
Because she is fat not because of outrageous standards.
(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43863472)
oh shit how tf did i guess lol |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 3:57 PM Author: deranged rigor partner It's not that your friend brings little value. It's that she brings negative value to any guy who wants a family. She's too old to have kids. She would just be an annoying mouth to feed. Why would even a lowly educated plumber want her? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43863555) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 3:58 PM Author: Territorial Big-titted Center Tank watch kevin samuel. women do not understand that their value decreases as they age (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43863560) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 3:59 PM Author: Arousing pale legal warrant digit ratio lol he is a fraud but 180
just let the generation(s) of these awful women die off and we can battle it out for the younger new wave, its how its always been |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 4:00 PM Author: Territorial Big-titted Center Tank (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43863577) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 4:18 PM Author: Territorial Big-titted Center Tank i had this exact conversation with a pathologist friend yesterday actually. people are waking up (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43863696) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 3:59 PM Author: Stimulating dopamine I am not arguing that my friend is attractive to men. She isn't.
My point ia only that the single guys her age are just as bad. |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 3:59 PM Author: Vermilion Hyperventilating Tanning Salon Yeah a never-satisfied gluttonous hole attached to a my masters shrew who guzzles gallons of mimosas lmao Juan is really missing out (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43863571) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 4:00 PM Author: Arousing pale legal warrant digit ratio (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43863579) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 4:01 PM Author: Stimulating dopamine She's a lawyer. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43863584) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 4:03 PM Author: Vermilion Hyperventilating Tanning Salon Lmao even worse why doesn’t she try physical activity for once (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43863592) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 4:07 PM Author: curious painfully honest halford dingle berry then she should probably date a woman, because that is not a priority for most men. her giant fat body is something they care about, so she's only going to get matched with very desperate men. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43863628) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 5:52 PM Author: coral flickering national security agency site (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43864368) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 3:57 PM Author: Arousing pale legal warrant digit ratio (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43863551) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 4:01 PM Author: Stimulating dopamine I think I am being misunderstood. The poibt of this thread isn't to argue that my friend is attractive. She isn't she's fat and gross.
I was just shocked at how TTT her male counterpoint are as well. |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 4:03 PM Author: deranged rigor partner She doesn't have counterparts though. She's aged out of counterparts because she can't have kids anymore or won't be able to by the time she goes through the dating game and gets married.
The plumber that you think is her counterpart isn't. He can still have kids and a family. She can't. |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 4:07 PM Author: Stimulating dopamine Whatever you want to call them, they suck. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43863624) |
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Date: January 30th, 2022 5:37 PM Author: obsidian bipolar fat ankles corner Janet Jackson had a kid at 49, and many women have kids past 40. You're wrong, she's still able to have kids. And the risk of having kids with problems is equal for both parents ages, not just women. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43875871) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 5:25 PM Author: bisexual half-breed volcanic crater As many others have pointed out, quality mid-30s men are out there, she's just not seeing them because they've filtered her out on the apps. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43864191) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 5:27 PM Author: drab talented rigpig locale they are dating girls in their 20s (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43864208) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 5:30 PM Author: bisexual half-breed volcanic crater Cr. And teens, brother (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43864234) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 5:28 PM Author: Stimulating dopamine I have never used the app so I have no idea how it selects who views who. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43864210) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 5:30 PM Author: bisexual half-breed volcanic crater It's been explained ITT like 5 times you're just being dense (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43864233) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 5:32 PM Author: Stimulating dopamine Can someone show me a link proving this is so? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43864245) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 4:03 PM Author: Concupiscible Toilet Seat (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43863596) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 4:06 PM Author: Stimulating dopamine Hizzla does not have a pretty face. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43863621) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 4:13 PM Author: Hateful cracking alpha "There are basically no normal guys out there over 35 who are never been married, have no kids, are educated and have good jobs and can form complete sentences."
I'm one of those guys. I broke up with my marriage-track GF of 4.5 years in 2018, banged another 10 girls or so off apps, then found an Eastern European girl in 2020 that I plan to marry.
None of the women were older than 28 (although my EE future wife is now about to turn 30). I'll give you one hint as to what your friend's problem is. |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 4:17 PM Author: Stimulating dopamine I am referring to the pool of guys in general that she can see not just guys who match with her.
Someone said that she won't see guys who don't include her in their age range but I'm not sure whether this is true. |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 5:19 PM Author: Hateful cracking alpha she also will only see the guys around her level of SMV thanks to the app's Elo algorithm. It's too bad this wakeup call didn't come a decade ago for her. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43864150) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 5:21 PM Author: Stimulating dopamine Do you have a link explaining how this works? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43864163) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 4:17 PM Author: Territorial Big-titted Center Tank this is what my friends are doing but even younger and asian girls (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43863691) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 5:26 PM Author: magical son of senegal goal in life How did you find this Eastern European girl. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43864199) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 5:46 PM Author: bisexual half-breed volcanic crater (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43864326) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 4:21 PM Author: Clear godawful coldplay fan no they're not. your 37yo friend just only sees the profiles that don't have an age filter set. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43863723) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 4:33 PM Author: bisexual half-breed volcanic crater Tell her to move to MFH. There are tons of women just like her here. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43863805) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 5:26 PM Author: magical son of senegal goal in life The idea that married women are not mentally ill is one of the most curious notions on here. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43864205) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 6:58 PM Author: Tantric private investor this is one of the dumbest threads i've ever seen. op gets told the same thing over and over again and doesn't seem to get it.
she's a decent looking 37 year old lawyer and wants to date someone "at her level"? guess what: decent looking 37 year old male lawyers are about to easily date chicks in their 20s that are hotter, happier, and fertile. similarly situated dudes are far beyond her level and she has absolutely NO hope of obtaining them. she had the chance from 25-30 and blew it.
if she wants kids of her own she should get a sperm donor asap. if she doesn't than she should be upping her age range to mid 40s. there isn't a single successful male her age that would be interested in her. |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 7:00 PM Author: magical son of senegal goal in life JFC man relax a bit. This girl is probably very mentally ill and would treat a nice guy like complete ass. But you don't have to denigrate someone over something they cannot control (age). (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43864709) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 7:04 PM Author: Tantric private investor i'm not denigrating her. i feel sad for her.
but op keeps getting told "but the men i see on her bumble are shit" and keeps getting told "that's because men 'at her level' have their age range set below 37"
you're right, no one can control age. i'd be happy to be with someone my age if i wasn't terrified of ivf and shit. but after dating a midwife for a while i learned some cold, hard realities of geriatric pregnancies. it's not something i want to go through. what's the best case scenario? meet and marry this person instantly, and start trying for kids after like a year or two? when she's 39? c'mon.
it's just the truth. and it sucks, because no one probably ever sat her down and told her that she needed to lock down a man earlier. but now it's too late and nothing can be done about it. |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 7:08 PM Author: magical son of senegal goal in life "because no one probably ever sat her down and told her that she needed to lock down a man earlier"
Thats the problem. The people who think a relationship is about "locking down" a spouse are the ones who end up miserable.
You would be surprised about how unpredictable pregnancies are. I've seen women in their 20s who have miscarriage after another while chain smoking meth heads routinely shit out perfectly healthy babies well into their mid 40s. |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 7:17 PM Author: deranged rigor partner You've got to be a 40 year old woman. This is the dumbest shit ever. The stats are horrifying for women that old trying to conceive. And that stats for women in their 20s trying to conceive are very encouraging. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43864766) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 7:23 PM Author: magical son of senegal goal in life You are a pumo. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43864782) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 7:29 PM Author: deranged rigor partner lol (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43864806) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 7:30 PM Author: magical son of senegal goal in life dumb nigger>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>being a pumo (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43864813) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 7:55 PM Author: Tantric private investor (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43864927) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 7:22 PM Author: Tantric private investor there are always outliers. i seriously dated a midwife for a while and was redpilled hard on the realities of age and pregnancy. for every 40 year old you see having an unplanned pregnancy that goes fine, there are hundreds of couples spending tens of thousands on ivf and winding up with a kid with autism. the financial and emotional toll is devastating. a lot of people are suffering with this struggle privately, which is why you should never ask a woman who is married over 35 if she's "trying to have kids". a significant amount of time they are trying very hard but unable to.
every person i know who got together with someone in the 30s did so by dating intentionally. if you're just looking to "be casual and have a good time" in your 30s, then you are not seriously looking for partnership. which is fine for some people. but if you're in your 30s and still swiping than you have to know that the clock is ticking and you don't have time to waste on maybes. i'm not saying every date should be treated like a job interview or whatever. but you're not in college anymore, and if you're serious about wanting a family than that has to always be in your mind. |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 7:25 PM Author: magical son of senegal goal in life 100% correct man. I agree with this post.
I guess all I am saying here is the green is not greener. I hope everything works out for you and that you can achieve what you seek in your personal life. |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 7:28 PM Author: Tantric private investor thanks brother.
also, i hope you don't take my poast as wishing women ill or being happy about their plight. i think most of them were misled by society and are now fucked. but reality is reality and nothing can change that. i've known quite a few women that had an "oh shit, i'm never getting married and having kids..." epiphany and it is incredibly sad. |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 7:30 PM Author: magical son of senegal goal in life I know you're a great dood and I wanted you to win MPM because I know you are a good person.
I guess it hurts me a bit hearing that about women because it reminds me of my sister all the time but the truth is out mother totally ruined her/us and it was never fair, especially seeing our retard cousins who have always been told how amazing they were from Day 1. |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 7:53 PM Author: Tantric private investor thanks man.
there was a thread almost identical to this the other day where i said pretty much the same thing, and i got accused of "simping" for women because i said it's way more sad than funny.
this affects men too, after all. high value men can attract hot fertile women, but there are plenty of middling dudes that are locked out (the people op's friend is seeing). society pushed women into focusing on career and putting off family and kids. and also that they were queens, deserved everything, and to never settle. i can't blame them too much for drinking that koolaid when everyone is telling them the same thing. especially because up until 30 any of them could have 1000 quality matches in minutes on any app. the wall happens very quickly and suddenly for them, and there is no one warning them that it's coming. |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 8:14 PM Author: magical son of senegal goal in life Not sure how it is in the US since I haven't been there in years but lots of women here go for the low hanging fruit, e.g. tradesmen sorts...similar there? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43865033) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 8:03 PM Author: mind-boggling gold area is she in a major city? i'm a 30yo woman in a big city and there are tons of high-quality 25-35yo men (that was my range on the apps when i was on them) scattered among all the losers. fit, successful, respectful, emotionally mature, never-married dudes. maybe she needs to expand her desired age range down? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43864971) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 8:07 PM Author: diverse seedy church building macaca lol what (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43864985) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 8:08 PM Author: mind-boggling gold area maybe she should have the apps show her younger guys. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43864990) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 8:14 PM Author: diverse seedy church building macaca she could do that but the odds the younger guys (esp desirable ones) would have as high as 37 in their age range is miniscule. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43865030) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 8:19 PM Author: mind-boggling gold area well, the ones who DON'T include her in their age range are irrelevant. no harm in expanding the pool a little.
and honestly it's better than miniscule. i asked a lot of guys what their age ranges were set to and the high-quality mid-30s guys all had their upper limit at least a few years older than them.
i did gravitate toward guys a lil younger but i went on a LOT of dates. the last one i went on (before i committed to the 24yo i'm seeing) was with a 35yo and we quickly decided to just be friends because i casually mentioned i tend to date slightly younger and he told me he kind of had a thing for older women LOL. |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 8:19 PM Author: diverse seedy church building macaca OK, this subthread is now about you. Please continue. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43865080) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 8:20 PM Author: mind-boggling gold area broooo my anecdotes are at LEAST as relevant as any of the other replies ITT (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43865085) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 8:23 PM Author: diverse seedy church building macaca Moar please. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43865101) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 8:24 PM Author: mind-boggling gold area wanna read some of the rejection texts i got after dates? they're REALLY embarrassing.
options: - guy who rejected me bc of my sloppy drunken kissing - guy who rejected me bc i don't go kayaking at sunrise |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 8:26 PM Author: diverse seedy church building macaca I'll take number 1 because i feel like you talked about number 2 before (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43865118) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 8:34 PM Author: mind-boggling gold area so this wasn't the immediate rejection, which was a lot more general, but here's where he went into detail... and i mean DETAIL. http://imgur.com/a/pthE9gB
i was REALLY out of practice and REALLY drunk :(((( the next day i woke up and remembered how i kissed him and was like, "oh god i hope i'm misremembering" and then my worst fears were confirmed...
dude's hitting me up all the time now though LOL |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 8:37 PM Author: diverse seedy church building macaca Wow interesting. So what were you doing kissing him? Most girls I've made it out with it's been good and in sync. I've had a few where it didn't work well. One with a girl with really thin lips. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43865189) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 8:39 PM Author: mind-boggling gold area i was REALLY aggressive, like a LOT of pressure, and like, bit his lip a few times, thinking it was sexy???????? idk dude i had not touched a man in MONTHS and he was CRAZY hot
when i looked back on it, the thing that made my heart sink was that i didn't remember perceiving or integrating feedback from him at all. i always make a conscious effort to do so, but i was... well... barely conscious apparently lmaooo |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 8:49 PM Author: Tantric private investor jfc what city are you in? i want to date you. too bad you're with that 24 year old kid. these are hilarious, thanks for sharing. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43865265) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 8:52 PM Author: mind-boggling gold area i'm in LA - also, this is the box, if ya didn't know :D (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43865291) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 8:56 PM Author: Tantric private investor shit no, i didn't know. i thought it might be because there aren't a lot of funny fempoasters that will share irl shit.
i'd definitely look you up if you weren't so far. although you might be leery of picking up dudes on xo by now. hope things work out with your 24 year old beau! |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 9:01 PM Author: mind-boggling gold area thank you so much! :D he and i have a LOT of fun together. but i'm in no rush to get into anything serious, and he's respectful of my boundaries. so it's all low-pressure. 👌 i'm very careful not to take advantage of how crazy he is about me or of how much life and relationship experience i have over him.
you're a great poaster and a voice of reason among the weirdos, though i know you've gotta be a freak too to stick around here :P |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 9:07 PM Author: Tantric private investor thank you! back in 2010 we matched on okc. i spoofed my location and was with someone, but wanted to see if i was within your "range". i am and you matched with me, and i think i jerked off to a pornstar that looked like you afterwards. quite a thrill.
irl you would think i'm a quirky, gregarious guy that would never come to xo. i just have a high tolerance for xo levels of autism and derangement because i've always been an internet dude. |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 9:12 PM Author: mind-boggling gold area LOL that's an interesting story........... did you message me or anything? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43865399) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 9:17 PM Author: Tantric private investor i sent an opener and you responded. then i deleted everything. i was in an LTR and felt guilty for even being curious, let alone an active OKC profile. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43865439) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 9:22 PM Author: drab talented rigpig locale jerking off to this subthread rn (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43865461) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 8:12 PM Author: Tantric private investor 30 is a lot further from 37 than 7 years. with a 30 year old woman you can date, get married, and likely have an uncomplicated pregnancy without the clock constantly ticking in your ear. 37: not so much. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43865017) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 8:15 PM Author: mind-boggling gold area oh yeah, not denying there's a big difference between 30 and 37. but there are definitely high-quality mid-30s guys out there (at least in big cities!!), and i know for a fact that some of them had their age ranges set all the way up to 40 and beyond. not everyone wants to have kids, either. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43865037) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 8:44 PM Author: Tantric private investor even if you take children out of the equation, most high quality dudes in the mid 30s quickly find that there are plenty of high quality 20s and early 30s women out there and change their age range, or stop swiping and responding on people their age or older.
not to say that there aren't *any*. i'm sure there's some high quality dudes 35-40 that wants someone their own age and don't want kids. but i do think they are outliers and the population is pretty small. and that op's friend is gonna have to be a stunner to pull one of those down.
so yeah, i think we're pretty much in agreement. |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 8:51 PM Author: mind-boggling gold area that all seems reasonable aside from the first part. well-adjusted men aren't so averse to late-30s women as a rule. to my understanding, they look at the pics before the age. even if they only find 1 in 20 37yo women attractive, and 1 in 4 27yo women attractive, they're not gonna rule out the 37yos categorically. like i had 25yos in my range even though a high percentage of them seemed immature, bc there was a CHANCE i'd like one.
but yeah, it all really comes down to my original point about where you live - it's a numbers game, for the reasons you mentioned and more, so if you're in the middle of nowhere as a late-30s man OR woman, you're gonna have to do some digging! |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 9:03 PM Author: Tantric private investor as a "high quality" mid 30s dude with plenty of peer friends who are on the market, i have to say i disagree. we all talk a lot about dating. the most i've heard anyone admit to is starting at their age. the consensus is starting several years younger. this has been my experience over a pretty large sample size.
i'm only saying this because i'm on xo. when i meet women irl and they ask me i say "oh, i don't know... i think 25-40?" it's a complete lie. i don't want women to think i'm a creeper trying to exclusively fuck girls much younger than me. (it's much more autistically calculated than that - i want to make sure there's enough time to fall in love and have kids organically before they're at geriatric pregnancy age).
again, there's always outliers. you mentioned upthread some dude that prefers women older than him, and he's in his mid 30s.
https://i.insider.com/54455482ecad04a7637efb7a?width=1000&format=jpeg&auto=webp
https://i.insider.com/54455482eab8ea361710fecc?width=1000&format=jpeg&auto=webp |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 9:08 PM Author: Umber geriatric antidepressant drug (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43865370) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 9:10 PM Author: mind-boggling gold area yep, there're plenty of outliers to everything. and there's a lid for every pot (or toilet bowl, as it were). xo made me way too stressed about all this shit but now that i'm 30 and live in a big city and the dating world is my oyster, i'm just... not even remotely worried.
i'd certainly be an outlier on that first graph >___> i don't foresee my idea of a ~*physically ideal male*~ going any higher than 30, lol. but like you said, there are lots of factors in choosing a mate beyond their raw sex appeal in the moment. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 9:20 PM Author: Tantric private investor you should seriously consider what you want out of life and start dating seriously if that involves marriage and kids. "the wall" is a very real thing. not to be a redpill misogynist. i have plenty of female friends in their mid 30s that have opened up about regrets about this and how they "didn't know".
i don't even know why i'm typing this, you've spent enough time on the armpits of the internet and xo to know this. i wish you the best of luck and hope you and 24 y/o boif ride off into the sunset together. |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 9:30 PM Author: mind-boggling gold area oh yeah no worries! i've thought about it a lot and decided 100% that i want to foster/adopt rather than reproduce. don't get me wrong, i'm curious about how smart and talented and attractive my bio kid would be, but i really can't justify bringing a new life into the world when there are so many kids who are already here and need homes. they didn't ask to be born, ya know? i make a lot of money and have a decent amount of patience, and i think my best contribution to the ~*next generation*~ would be giving an existing kid the love and support they need to thrive in this cruel world, rather than making a new one.
plus: - babies and toddlers are annoying to me. i don't have any maternal instinct when i see a sticky, crying baby lol - pregnancy and childbirth sound TERRIBLE and are likely to ruin my body - there's no rush (though based on the pattern of all the other women in my family, i'd be safe to start popping them out even at 40ish) and i could even do it alone if i needed to |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 9:40 PM Author: Tantric private investor another thing i have quite a lot of experience in. i do a lot of pro bono volunteering with foster kids.
before you seriously think this is the way you want to go, spend some time in the foster care system. a baby or toddler might be "annoying" to you. but often these kids are irrevocably broken by their elementary school years.
a lot of people successfully foster and adopt these children. however, they have to have hearts of gold and a shit ton of patience. a kid that winds up in the state system at that age generally has seen and gone through a lot of shit and will have the psychological scars and behavioral problems to show for it. so many of these kids wind up getting "returned" by well intentioned foster parents because they are way too much to handle. and that just compounds the problem and results in the kid "learning" that any adult that professes to care about them will inevitably dump them later.
finding some good natured oliver twist is a unicorn bordering on fantasy. once you seriously start thinking about this i highly recommend you take some time volunteering in the state system. they always need people. and if you do go that route and succeed, that's an incredibly noble and generous thing to do. but just remember - it's going to be HARD. |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 9:47 PM Author: mind-boggling gold area thanks for the advice! i know there's a high probability that they'll have serious issues, but honestly, there's also a decent chance of my bio kid turning out super mentally ill lol. there are always gonna be risks with parenting.
i'll definitely familiarize myself with the foster system before i commit. when you say volunteering in the state system, what kind of work do you mean?
this is kind of a weird comparison and isn't meant to trivialize foster kids in ANY way, but: my last relationship almost feels like a trial run for adopting a traumatized teen. if i could take care of my emotionally damaged, physically abusive, dishonest, unemployed, ungrateful ex's ass for 2.5 years and love him throughout it all, i know i have a lot of patience for giving more than i take. and that's not something i'll put up with in relationships anymore, but it's kind of what parenting is all about, right? |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 9:54 PM Author: Tantric private investor i can't give out too many deets because of doobs but the system always needs volunteer lawyers for a variety of reasons.
idk what nonlawyers do but i know i saw plenty of volunteers scuttling around whenever i was there. just a quick google resulted in this for you: https://dcfs.lacounty.gov/about/volunteer-opportunities/. your a techbro now, right? guarantee there is some "teach kids in CPS how to code!" shit going on around you.
yeah, maybe! some tolerance for broken things is definitely going to be necessary, so maybe that helped. and i've seen some truly heartwarming results, so it's not impossible. but i've also seen people go in with the best of intentions and wind up making a kid worse by making them more distrustful of well meaning adults. this is kind of the same spiel i give everyone that wants to volunteer (or foster or adopt): it's one of the most noble and generous things a person can do, but it's without a doubt going to be one of the hardest things to do and commit to. |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 10:03 PM Author: mind-boggling gold area i am a techbro, that's a great idea! thanks for the link. i'm honestly really excited about getting involved so i'll hop on volunteering sooner rather than later. :D
i definitely don't anticipate it being easy! i really think it's the right choice for me but i'll be rational and calculated about the whole thing, not just rush in blind. |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 10:11 PM Author: Tantric private investor it's one of the most fulfilling things i do. and since you're actually considering the adoption route this would be a good way to dip your toe in and know what you're getting into. so, double whammy.
yeah the spiel i gave you is something you'll probably hear a few times. these kids get let down a lot by people with good intentions. your first inclination when you start volunteering is going to want to "rescue" one. so you make some promises or wishes, but they don't get fulfilled for one reason or another, and now you just let the kid down. just something innocent like "you've never been to santa monica pier before? we could go sometime!" then bam, your irl job gets in the way, you never see this kid again, and you're just another adult that made a promise that didn't deliver.
sorry if i'm beginning to sound like a broken record. you'll get the warning a few more times by staff, i guarantee it.
but yeah - go reach out! it's one of the few things i do that makes being a rent-seeking, comma-checking wagecuck a bit more fulfilling. |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 10:34 PM Author: mind-boggling gold area that's really helpful to know!! i may never have thought of the consequences of making offhand promises like that; now i'll be careful not to do so. :) and yeah i've gotten similar spiels when mentioning adoption online but i like how you're realistic without being defeatist about it. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43865858) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 10:36 PM Author: Tantric private investor thanks. i'm trying not to be too preachy or defeatist. i lot of people find a lot of value in it and stick with it. i have. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43865870) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 9:03 PM Author: Stimulating dopamine FWIW I am a 39 year old man (married though) and I would date a hot 37 year old woman. Not a fat 37 year old though, which is my friend's problem. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43865347) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 9:08 PM Author: Tantric private investor do you want kids?
if you already have kids or don't want kids that completely changes the equation. i wouldn't mind dating someone my own age if it wasn't for wanting organic children. |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 9:11 PM Author: Stimulating dopamine Yes. If you really want to women can have kids up until about 45 so it doesn't worry me that much. It's not ideal but it's rare to find someone you are both physically attracted to and get along with so if I found that in a girl my age it would be silly to turn it down. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43865392) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 9:25 PM Author: Tantric private investor not sure if you saw what i wrote about dating a midwife for a while and getting extremely redpilled about geriatric pregnancies.
the stats and data are out there. yes, "it's possible". it's also emotionally and financially devastating in many cases, with a huge risk of birth defects, disabilities, and miscarriages. for every success story of a happy 45 year old having a healthy baby with minimal effort there are dozens of women silently struggling. this rips families apart and destroys marriages.
any sane man would not be out there looking for 37 year olds to woo and impregnate. if i found someone that age organically that i fell in love with, i wouldn't dismiss her because of her age. but it would be a huge consideration. but i'm certainly not going to find them on the apps when finding women 25-30 is like shooting fish in a barrel. |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 9:29 PM Author: Stimulating dopamine I wouldn't "look for" a 37 year old but if I came across one on an app and she was hot I would give her a chance. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43865487) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 9:42 PM Author: Tantric private investor you wouldn't "come across" them on the apps if you're a high quality guy because you'd quickly realize you can get much younger and more fertile women and set you range below 37. which is precisely why your friend is not getting any high quality matches. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43865557) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 9:32 PM Author: Clear godawful coldplay fan At age 45 the chance of getting pregnant is like 2% per cycle. And miscarriages which are already common become way more common. Starting a successful family at 45 is extremely unlikely, IVF is not a pleasant guaranteed process. And even then you're having an only child. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43865518) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 9:42 PM Author: Stimulating dopamine I guess I haven't thought about it that much. When I come across some appslut I'm not planning to have kids with her I usually just want to fuck her. If she is exceptional and I like her beyond that then I start to consider more. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43865558) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 9:47 PM Author: Tantric private investor that's what i said upthread about high quality dudes in the mid to late 30s often just wanting to pump and dump.
yeah, you might consider her "exceptional". but you will also be weighing that against your other options. and, eventually, you'll decide that you'd rather be with someone younger since you can attract them. and now you're just a fuckboi pumping and dumping 37 year old women, even though you didn't do it intentionally. |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 9:49 PM Author: Stimulating dopamine NM, misread. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43865612) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 8:22 PM Author: Sinister Ebony Orchestra Pit Settle down, doobs (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43865098) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 8:23 PM Author: mind-boggling gold area tcr (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43865102) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 10:00 PM Author: 180 trailer park lettuce So she’s fat, high IQ, and old. LJL. Her best and only best is mid 40s divorcées. She has absolutely nothing to offer a single mid 30s guy. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43865660) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 10:03 PM Author: mind-boggling gold area she has to date women? o_O (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43865680) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 11:49 PM Author: Gaped Hall kinda reminds me of the old asian shrew that charles poasted about. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43866412) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 11:51 PM Author: Twinkling soggy institution mad cow disease lulzy thread (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43866416) |
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Date: January 28th, 2022 11:54 PM Author: Ruby Hissy Fit Jew (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43866435) |
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Date: January 29th, 2022 9:27 AM Author: fragrant charcoal party of the first part abode Masterful flame. Best in years. Love how you sprinkled in xo catnip - 37 yo shrew, FAT, lolyer, entitled - without going too fast. The reveal was perfect.
Proof is in the pudding - multiple highly respected poasters poasted treatises in response. Great work |
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Date: January 29th, 2022 9:28 AM Author: mind-boggling gold area multiple poasters used this thread as a jumping point to talk about tangential dating topics, sure
but yeah ur right tbh. it WAS prob well-done flame, now that you lay it out like that... |
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Date: January 29th, 2022 9:31 AM Author: Stimulating dopamine OK I might as well admit it now - it was flame. I was born last night. Thanks for the compliment. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5018541&forum_id=2#43867494) |