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Do people absent cheating etc really get divorced?
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Date: January 30th, 2023 1:31 AM Author: boyish internet-worthy house (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5280680&forum_id=2#45861180) |
Date: January 30th, 2023 8:47 AM Author: Grizzly pit The problem is that most people who get married really don't love each other to begin with, and in many situations don't really even like each other. Women fuck random dudes during most of their 20's nowadays and then when they get into their early 30's they just grab whoever is left, like musical chairs.
People in most marriages try to avoid spending time with their spouse, don't have any type of open communication, and have tons of spit towards their spouse. Cheating is just a symptom of that. Even having a spouse who overspends money (which is another problem that causes divorce), is caused by not knowing your spouse well enough before marrying them.
You really should be dating someone for at least 3-5 years before you even consider marrying them, btw. I didn't get married until I was with my wife 10 years. It wasn't done intentionally, we just didn't have a rush since we started dating at 18. But you can't get to really know someone until you've been through a lot of shit with them. You need to see their true character before you decide if you should spend your life with them. |
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Date: January 30th, 2023 9:12 AM Author: Outnumbered Low-t Mexican Home LJL at this flame. I proposed at 6 months and knew after 3. We were married at month 11. Sample size of 1 but still....
Love is flame. The chemical shit isnt real. Its a partnership. You have to want the same thing (i.e. children and the same general living situation) and agree to a bifurcation of responsibilities and spheres of responsibility. You have to be best friends. Thats it. |
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Date: January 31st, 2023 9:03 AM Author: rebellious soggy toaster Lol at proposing after 6 months. 90% chance of divorce my friend (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5280680&forum_id=2#45866381) |
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Date: January 30th, 2023 9:49 AM Author: Lascivious Voyeur Paragraphs 1 and 2 are TMFCR, paragraph 3 is complete flame. You don't need to be with someone ten fucking years to determine whether you should marry them. That's some GenX/millennial bullshit. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5280680&forum_id=2#45861718) |
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Date: January 30th, 2023 11:41 AM Author: hairraiser gas station gunner I met my wife and we got engaged about 16 months later. Married 10 months after that. So I had known my wife for a little over 2 years before we were living together and what not. All I can say in response to your post is that nothing that happens to you in your 20s really prepares you to the shitstorm that is your 30s. If you live with your gf/wife when you're young before kids and before the world starts turning its screws on you, that's one thing. But the hard times come later. |
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Date: January 31st, 2023 8:42 AM Author: Outnumbered Low-t Mexican Home You are supposed to be settled in your career in your 30s and have actual money. Your 20s are for poverty and struggle by 30 that’s all supposed to be over. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5280680&forum_id=2#45866343) |
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Date: January 31st, 2023 8:49 AM Author: Hairless stain school cafeteria What if by your mid-30s you realize you've wasted your life on a flame career that makes you suicidal? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5280680&forum_id=2#45866351) |
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Date: January 31st, 2023 10:40 AM Author: Flickering self-absorbed bbw Your view is totally contradicted by the overwhelming success of arranged marriages, where the couple meet maybe only a few times before marriage, and at 5, 10, 15, 20 years in, they report being very happy with one another.
It is not what 'interests' someone has, it is whether they are duty bound.
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Date: January 30th, 2023 9:06 AM Author: Flirting toilet seat Women often initiate divorce, citing other reasons, when they really just have identified a guy or guys they’d rather fuck (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5280680&forum_id=2#45861639) |
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Date: January 30th, 2023 9:07 AM Author: Vibrant Chrome Personal Credit Line Kitty (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5280680&forum_id=2#45861640) |
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Date: January 30th, 2023 9:07 AM Author: marvelous cocky site Yeah people will get divorced because they started watching the wrong YouTube channel (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5280680&forum_id=2#45861641) |
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Date: January 30th, 2023 9:10 AM Author: confused appetizing round eye thats basically like asking "do uber eats drivers accept your request to pickup pad thai fifteen miles away through traffic then change their minds and cancel to go pick up pad see ew for someone else two miles away?" in 2023 america. the answer is yes. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5280680&forum_id=2#45861645) |
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Date: January 30th, 2023 9:11 AM Author: bateful out-of-control wrinkle most divorces of people I know did not involve cheating, but a few lately have (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5280680&forum_id=2#45861647) |
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Date: January 30th, 2023 9:14 AM Author: Vibrant Chrome Personal Credit Line Kitty what did they involve then (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5280680&forum_id=2#45861652) |
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Date: January 30th, 2023 9:15 AM Author: Outnumbered Low-t Mexican Home Its always because the wife thinks she can trade up on a higher status husband. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5280680&forum_id=2#45861656) |
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Date: January 30th, 2023 9:18 AM Author: bateful out-of-control wrinkle Almost All of them involved the woman changing her mind and checking out of the marriage until it came to a head.
I think one or two the husband was an alcoholic and drove the woman away |
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Date: January 30th, 2023 9:19 AM Author: marvelous cocky site kings (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5280680&forum_id=2#45861662) |
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Date: January 31st, 2023 10:27 AM Author: Deranged shimmering parlor What form did the checking out take? Are you hearing this from the guys? Biased source? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5280680&forum_id=2#45866731) |
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Date: January 31st, 2023 10:34 AM Author: confused appetizing round eye women that previously liked you become cold and mean and scowly and lazy when they dont like you anymore. cant imagine its any different in a marriage. when your wife is just alternating b\w loafing on the sofa fiddling with her phone and making bitter faces at you its probably just time to call it a day and get divorced (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5280680&forum_id=2#45866774) |
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Date: January 30th, 2023 11:53 AM Author: diverse godawful principal's office deer antler this has been exactly my experience. woman gets drunk at a work party, flirts around, thinks "i can do better", and stops thinking about kids and husband. it isn't cheating per se, but it comes from the same emotional place. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5280680&forum_id=2#45862219) |
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Date: January 30th, 2023 9:34 AM Author: purple hospital Fewer divorces than you think are caused by infidelity.
The very wealthy were always able to get divorced because they could afford it.
For middle class folk, mostly I just see people who don't like each other anymore and aren't willing to remain in loveless marriages. In generations past these people would stick it out because the woman was totally financially dependent on the man, and the man was living by the "cheaper to keep her" mantra.
Now, a lot of times, both spouses earn similar incomes, have similar sized retirement accounts and all we are dealing with is selling a house and negotiating custody and other kid issues.
In many cases, woman is financially independent, and man is no longer fearful of an oppressive, decades long alimony obligation. |
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Date: January 30th, 2023 11:35 AM Author: boyish internet-worthy house so its kind of better? (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5280680&forum_id=2#45862136) |
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Date: January 31st, 2023 10:37 AM Author: Contagious Pontificating Kitchen dupa's explanation makes sense to me until the last line -- aren't men still rightly afraid of getting fucked by alimony, which continues to happen? you can say it's better in the sense that some truly bad/toxic/abusive marriages end. but if you believe in the benefit of the traditional institution, it seems counterproductive to make it totally frictionless to exit (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5280680&forum_id=2#45866789) |
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Date: January 30th, 2023 11:50 AM Author: hairraiser gas station gunner Divorce is also really common among older people (gray divorce). Typically in that situation, someone will just decide they want to live a different life before they die. They'll start drinking too much, look into risky investments, start listening to the wrong podcasts, and before you know it, poof! they are gone. And there's a divorce. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5280680&forum_id=2#45862191) |
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Date: January 31st, 2023 8:47 AM Author: jade adventurous stag film headpube My next door neighbor is 74 and getting divorced from his wife. Granted, this is at least his second divorce (he lived in my house in the 70s and divorced that wife). Think his wife is initiating the divorce this time (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5280680&forum_id=2#45866349) |
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Date: January 31st, 2023 10:42 AM Author: Flickering self-absorbed bbw Yea and this is sad because there is nothing for them that is better. They are sold a false story by the media just as the very young are. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5280680&forum_id=2#45866818) |
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Date: January 31st, 2023 10:43 AM Author: Vibrant Chrome Personal Credit Line Kitty (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5280680&forum_id=2#45866823) |
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Date: January 31st, 2023 10:32 AM Author: dun slap-happy black woman stage why do women in their 20's want to fuck random dudes? it sounds like a lot of work and, god knows, women don't like having sex (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5280680&forum_id=2#45866762) |
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Date: January 31st, 2023 10:46 AM Author: Racy indirect expression casino LOL at thinking women don't like to fuck (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5280680&forum_id=2#45866840) |
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Date: January 31st, 2023 10:32 AM Author: Bronze Elite Office Ladyboy Of course. There’s a decent chance you just get totally sick of the person and not even attracted to them anymore to the extent you don’t even like being around them. It can happen because one or both people have changed over the years or care about things/lifestyle that are not compatible to a good relationship with that person anymore. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5280680&forum_id=2#45866763) |
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Date: January 31st, 2023 10:47 AM Author: Racy indirect expression casino Judging by Reddit marriage threads, a lot of divorces are initiated by women frustrated with useless husbands who don't spend time with their kids, cook, clean, or manage any household tasks. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5280680&forum_id=2#45866849) |
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