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Did this app match flake on me?
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Date: March 16th, 2023 5:43 PM She's a nurse and a doula (someone who helps women deliver babies). We matched on Hinge. A few weeks ago, on the day of our first date, she texted me and said she has to cancel because a client's baby delivery was earlier than expected. Ok fine. So we rescheduled for today. Then ,this morning, she texted me and said she was terribly sorry to cancel again because a patient of hers with whom she was close with, passed away. She's processing a lot and doesn't feel as though she can show up to the date as her best self.
Shit happens in life but the odds of both of these things happening on the days of the scheduled dates seems pretty low. Am I being too cynical? |
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Date: March 16th, 2023 5:47 PM Author: biglaw lives matter (retired) she 100% lied both times (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5307806&forum_id=2#46060968) |
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Date: March 16th, 2023 5:55 PM Author: Oh, you Travel? ( ) (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5307806&forum_id=2#46060993) |
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Date: March 16th, 2023 6:04 PM Author: cannon (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5307806&forum_id=2#46061036) |
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Date: March 17th, 2023 5:33 AM Author: Taylor Swift is not a hobby she is a lifestyle (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5307806&forum_id=2#46063216) |
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Date: March 17th, 2023 8:42 AM Author: dupa (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5307806&forum_id=2#46063377) |
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Date: March 17th, 2023 8:36 PM Author: Sexually Frustrated Asian Man CR. She met another guy and is keeping him on the back burner (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5307806&forum_id=2#46066733) |
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Date: March 17th, 2023 8:48 PM Author: permanently delayed gratification (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5307806&forum_id=2#46066774) |
Date: March 16th, 2023 5:47 PM Author: michael doodikoff Been here done that a lot
1. I'm usually of the opinion that if someone bails twice, its almost certainly a lost cause. There are exceptions, but if nothing else to go by its not looking good 2. Did she suggest any future dates on her second cancelation? |
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Date: March 16th, 2023 5:52 PM Author: hank_scorpio lol (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5307806&forum_id=2#46060977) |
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Date: March 16th, 2023 5:49 PM Author: Litigious "Tiggy" Jackson shes lying (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5307806&forum_id=2#46060973) |
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Date: March 16th, 2023 5:53 PM Author: hank_scorpio we're not talking about doodikoff here (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5307806&forum_id=2#46060978) |
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Date: March 16th, 2023 5:54 PM Author: Litigious "Tiggy" Jackson the "appeal to emotion" with the patient dying is complete bs. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5307806&forum_id=2#46060987) |
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Date: March 16th, 2023 6:02 PM She works as a nurse and doula so shit like this is not uncommon in her job. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5307806&forum_id=2#46061027) |
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Date: March 16th, 2023 6:05 PM Author: Litigious "Tiggy" Jackson right. im not saying be a dick about it. just saying shes lying. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5307806&forum_id=2#46061040) |
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Date: March 16th, 2023 6:31 PM Why do you think she's lying? Pretty elaborate and dramatic for a lie, as opposed to just canceling because she's not feeling well or because she's too busy. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5307806&forum_id=2#46061174) |
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Date: March 16th, 2023 6:32 PM Author: Litigious "Tiggy" Jackson it mightve actually happened. in fact it probably did. thats what inspired the lie. but at the end of the day she simply doesnt want to go. she prefers you fawning over her through her phone. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5307806&forum_id=2#46061183) |
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Date: March 16th, 2023 6:41 PM Author: Jose Cortez (1799 SOL away from student loan freedom (thanks gator)) (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5307806&forum_id=2#46061232) |
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Date: March 17th, 2023 5:19 AM Author: ,,,,,,.,,,..,,,,..,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5307806&forum_id=2#46063210) |
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Date: March 17th, 2023 8:32 AM Author: Oh, you Travel? ( ) (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5307806&forum_id=2#46063360) |
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Date: March 17th, 2023 5:34 PM Author: March Precedes April (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5307806&forum_id=2#46065966) |
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Date: March 17th, 2023 8:51 PM Author: permanently delayed gratification (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5307806&forum_id=2#46066783) |
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Date: March 17th, 2023 5:26 AM Author: QueenLaBEEFah Why not just respond: “Wow sorry to hear that. My deepest condolences. Happy to give you the space you need and if you eventually want to reschedule reach out. Until then, I hope you feel better soon.”
Than the ball’s in her court. You go about your life and if she’s really interested she can make a move instead of your wringing your hands about it. |
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Date: March 17th, 2023 5:30 AM Author: .,..,....,...,.,.,...;,,....,......,......,,.,.,.. this is right and he will never hear from her again |
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Date: March 17th, 2023 5:33 AM Author: ,,,,,,.,,,..,,,,..,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, If these things really did happen, makes total sense for her to cancel. Doubtful that she made it up. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5307806&forum_id=2#46063217) |
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Date: March 17th, 2023 8:35 AM Author: Oh, you Travel? ( ) Cmon man (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5307806&forum_id=2#46063367) |
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Date: March 17th, 2023 5:39 AM Author: The Soo CR SkiTrip JUGGERNAUT This is cucky as fuck you don’t put the ball in a woman’s court. You’re the man take charge. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5307806&forum_id=2#46063224) |
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Date: March 17th, 2023 8:54 AM Author: dupa she flaked twice though. if her excuse was just a ruse, then they likely just won't talk again. if it was a bona fide excuse, she'll feel apologetic and be eager to reschedule.
IMO, it'd be more cucky for OP to be like "PLEASE LET ME TAKE YOU OUT TO DINNER ASAP!" after getting flaked on twice. |
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Date: March 17th, 2023 5:34 PM Author: March Precedes April (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5307806&forum_id=2#46065967) |
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Date: March 17th, 2023 8:49 PM Author: QueenLaBEEFah As opposed to what? Following up repeatedly? LOL.
If your point is he should just ghost her I’m totally with you there. But I’m getting the vibe from OP that he’s unusually wrapped up in this and so I assume he intends to respond back with something. Of the non-ghosting options I think it’s better to make her reach out (or otherwise you move on) than continue to try to set something up like a cuck. |
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Date: March 17th, 2023 8:33 AM Author: Oh, you Travel? ( ) Way too simpy imo. He should just respond something like sorry to hear that. None of the other crap after. Then just ignore and move on (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5307806&forum_id=2#46063362) |
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Date: March 17th, 2023 8:42 AM Author: dupa cr. no need to be nasty or ignore. just send a nice message and have no expectations. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5307806&forum_id=2#46063374) |
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Date: March 17th, 2023 5:34 PM Author: March Precedes April (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5307806&forum_id=2#46065969) |
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Date: March 17th, 2023 5:38 AM Author: The Soo CR SkiTrip JUGGERNAUT The clear answer here is to at least pretend to buy her excuse, not mind then suggest other plans and jam the throttle through the stops and push hard for nudes. If she sends you naked pictures she will prob come to the new date you set and fuck you, if no pics forget her. Soo CR 👍🏻. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5307806&forum_id=2#46063223) |
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Date: March 17th, 2023 3:55 PM Author: ShareBluetp titcr (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5307806&forum_id=2#46065460) |
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Date: March 17th, 2023 8:34 AM Author: Oh, you Travel? ( ) Most women don’t like online dating and just use it for validation, they don’t actually want to meet someone that way. You should just start talking to women IRL. Try to meet someone at church or something. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5307806&forum_id=2#46063365) |
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Date: March 17th, 2023 5:01 PM Author: ,,,,,,.,,,..,,,,..,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, Dating apps are easily the most common way for couples to meet. So you're clearly wrong on that. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5307806&forum_id=2#46065782) |
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Date: March 17th, 2023 5:15 PM Author: Oh, you Travel? ( ) Source? But regardless that’s not persuasive for a number of reasons. First, this depends on geographic area. Second, I highly doubt that’s true for all couples across all generations, and even for younger generations I suspect it is questionable. And are you referring to couples who are together for a long period of time, married, etc? Third, I don’t believe the majority of current marriages meet on apps. Fourth, even if it is common, it doesn’t change the fact that women don’t really like it instinctively and would prefer to meet in person. And l you want to do what these normal NPCs do anyway. Pretty much all desirable men know that they have to date down on apps most of the time, though this depends on region. |
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Date: March 17th, 2023 8:38 AM Author: Prole Goy Mr. FixIt (gunneratttt) i dated a midwife for a year and this shit happened frequently, so i buy the excuse.
you can tell if an excuse is real by how enthusiastic they are to set up another date. if she is apologetic and suggesting new ideas, the excuse is real. if she's just like "sorry, i have to cancel." and doesn't say anything after, she is just trying to let you down easy. |
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Date: March 17th, 2023 8:43 AM Author: dupa especially the 2nd time. this bitch doesn't owe OP anything, so if she doesn't want to meet, it'd be very easy to just ghost his punk ass. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5307806&forum_id=2#46063379) |
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Date: March 17th, 2023 8:50 AM Author: scp So she either lied or made no indication that she'd like to see you. Which of these options make you interested? Op/Doodikoff, just FedEx her a croissant and save your time |
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Date: March 17th, 2023 8:54 AM Author: dupa (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5307806&forum_id=2#46063392) |
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Date: March 17th, 2023 4:02 PM Author: michael doodikoff you busted me motherfucker! (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5307806&forum_id=2#46065494) |
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Date: March 17th, 2023 5:10 PM Author: scp you need serious help (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5307806&forum_id=2#46065822) |
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Date: March 17th, 2023 4:47 PM Author: OldHLSDude If she cancels because she has to wash her hair you know it's not meant to be. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5307806&forum_id=2#46065692) |
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Date: March 17th, 2023 5:12 PM Author: Titus Nullo If she cancels and doesn’t try to reschedule immediately she found something incrementally better. That’s how it works. Apps exist solely to add jet fuel to female looks/height-based hypergamy (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5307806&forum_id=2#46065834) |
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Date: March 17th, 2023 5:13 PM Author: Mainlining the $ecret truth of the univer$e (Brought to you by Carl'$ Jr.) Lol (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5307806&forum_id=2#46065837) |
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Date: March 17th, 2023 8:32 PM Author: OldHLSDude OTOH, if you hurl on her shoes and she doesn't bolt, then you know it was meant to be. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5307806&forum_id=2#46066715) |
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Date: March 17th, 2023 8:45 PM Author: Fuck Timmy gon do? Doulas/midwifes are all crackpots, cut from the same cloth as chiros
I wouldn't have even bothered making a date in the first place |
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Date: March 17th, 2023 9:28 PM OP here. This is what she wrote in her text.
"Hey XXX, I am so sorry to do this for a second time but one of my patients with whom I'm very close is passing away. I am processing a lot and don't feel as thought I can show up as my best self for a date tonight."
My response: "Sorry to hear that! Let me know if you want to to reschedule and for what date. Thanks."
No response from her. This was sent yesterday at around noon. |
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Date: March 17th, 2023 9:32 PM Author: Chodespierre LOL
"thank" |
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Date: March 18th, 2023 7:00 PM Author: Oh, you Travel? ( ) (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5307806&forum_id=2#46069493) |
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Date: March 18th, 2023 7:14 PM Author: Prole Goy Mr. FixIt (gunneratttt) hey there! just have an patients dying tonight haha? if not we should grab that drink haha. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5307806&forum_id=2#46069530) |
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Date: March 18th, 2023 7:17 PM Author: ''"'"'""" (Texas Pete 🌶️) .....lol (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5307806&forum_id=2#46069536) |
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Date: March 19th, 2023 7:45 PM Author: michael doodikoff Yeah move on (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5307806&forum_id=2#46072973) |
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Date: March 19th, 2023 8:16 PM Author: Diamond Dallas Chad Lmao @ the general proposition of using an exclamation point as a man and even moreso in response to learning about a dying patient. Jfc, you're done here (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5307806&forum_id=2#46073030) |
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Date: March 20th, 2023 6:26 AM Author: March Precedes April Sorry to hear that! (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5307806&forum_id=2#46074282) |
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Date: March 20th, 2023 8:43 AM Author: Oh, you Travel? ( ) (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5307806&forum_id=2#46074504) |
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Date: March 19th, 2023 8:17 PM Author: dupa You should have shown more empathy. Your response would have been appropriate for a flat tire or sprained ankle. (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5307806&forum_id=2#46073033) |
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Date: March 19th, 2023 10:47 PM Author: Titus Nullo “Well I’m dying to meet up with you haha” (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5307806&forum_id=2#46073529) |
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Date: March 19th, 2023 10:49 PM Author: ....,....,,... (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5307806&forum_id=2#46073539) |
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Date: March 19th, 2023 10:55 PM Author: jalen green (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5307806&forum_id=2#46073570) |
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Date: March 20th, 2023 6:20 AM Author: scp (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5307806&forum_id=2#46074277) |
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Date: March 20th, 2023 6:26 AM Author: March Precedes April (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5307806&forum_id=2#46074280) |
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Date: March 20th, 2023 7:27 AM Author: Prole Goy Mr. FixIt (gunneratttt) (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5307806&forum_id=2#46074368) |
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Date: March 20th, 2023 9:08 AM Author: dont run pumo the nullobomber sees u (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5307806&forum_id=2#46074557) |
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Date: March 19th, 2023 10:54 PM Author: Paralegal Mohammad (I fucking hate libs) laughed so hard at the “thanks” (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5307806&forum_id=2#46073567) |
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Date: March 18th, 2023 6:57 PM Author: ,,,,,,.,,,..,,,,..,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, lol (http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=5307806&forum_id=2#46069481) |