Date: November 14th, 2026 10:33 AM Author: cucumbers
Mostly late 30s and early 40s. Some of my friends started balding in undergrad. Meanwhile I have a natural Norwood 0, which cowgod is understandably very jealous of.
Date: November 14th, 2026 11:16 AM Author: ferengi
yeah i've always thought it was crazy when guys try to convince themselves that they age better than women cuz all the women i know in their 30s and 40s have flawless skin and are still youthful and glowing while most of the men are shriveled and receding.
Date: November 14th, 2026 11:21 AM Author: ferengi
exactly. and personally even though i prefer a youthful look on men it's not a dealbreaker if they look older, since i care 100000x more about personality chemistry than shallow physical characteristics. but it's just a fact that from what i observe day-to-day, women in that age range are way better-preserved.
Date: November 14th, 2026 11:23 AM Author: ferengi
always apply broad-spectrum sunscreen before going outside or even before spending a lot of time close to a window during daylight!! besides that, you're probably good unless you're noticing fine lines you wanna target, in which case an OTC retinoid would be the recommended plan of action.
Date: November 14th, 2026 11:32 AM Author: cucumbers
Former coworker was a boomer living in California and spending lots of time in the sun. He told me that sunscreen isn't good enough. He has "cumulative sun damage" or whatever despite claiming to always use sunscreen. His dermatologist told him to cover up with clothes as much as possible and use sunscreen if it's too hot to fully cover up.
Date: November 14th, 2026 11:37 AM Author: ferengi
oh yeah covering with clothing too is even better but i've never heard anything about sunscreen not being enough unless it's not broad-spectrum or is a lower SPF. also you're supposed to reapply every few hours, mb he wasn't doing that? and you can't really cover your face with clothes unless you have one of those giant hats or whatever. the best brand of facial sunscreen according to my aesthetician friend is EltaMD.
also, when you wash your face do you use a cleanser or just rinse with water? should be using a cleanser to get the dirt out of the pores. nothing fancy, just whatever feels good on your skin.
Date: November 14th, 2026 11:50 AM Author: cucumbers
Part of this boomer's problem was that he was sweating a lot from exercising outside and playing beach volleyball. Pretty sure the sunscreen quickly came off with all the sweating. Said it was sometimes impossible to apply it at all during workouts on hot days.
I wash my face with Head and Shoulders Ljl. I have the same problem as this boomer ex-coworker: I sweat a lot from exercise. The "gentle" cleansers like Neutrogena and Cetaphil aren't meant for people who sweat a lot. My face skin becomes red and flakes off unless I use Head and Shoulders.
Date: November 14th, 2026 11:55 AM Author: ferengi
interesting! i've never heard of using that on the face... intuitively it doesn't seem like a bad idea to help the dead skin turn over but i bet a derm would say you should be doing something to prevent the flaking in the first place. you should DEFINITELY always wear facial sunscreen and reapply as you sweat it off; honestly i think that's the #1 most important thing for skin preservation for most people but it obviously it varies from person to person.
Date: November 14th, 2026 12:01 PM Author: cucumbers
Next spring/summer I'm planning on wearing huge bucket hats or other wide brim hats. I don't care if it looks stupid. I'd rather just wear a hat than re-apply sunscreen several times a day. I spend at least three hours outside in the daylight most days.
Date: November 14th, 2026 12:01 PM Author: ferengi
definitely get a hat. no need to wait until spring/summer!!! there's sun all year!!! (edit: unless u mean u only spend that much time outside in those seasons)
Date: November 14th, 2026 12:25 PM Author: cucumbers
A few years ago I bought my first pair of battery-powered heated gloves, which were a game changer for cold weather. Makes even the coldest days with negative temperatures so much easier to step into because my hands are so sensitive to cold.
Date: November 14th, 2026 11:39 AM Author: Rickys' Cat
In the shower, you could try a water-activated gel cleanser, then a honey-almond bodyscrub, and on your face, an exfoliating gel-scrub followed by a herb mint facial masque you should leave on for at least ten minutes. hth
Date: November 14th, 2026 11:56 AM Author: ferengi
you don't have to believe me but it's true. one of my besties is half Korean and 38 and people literally think she's in college lol. i live in L.A. so that probably helps as far as most people putting effort into their appearances
Like you probably think that Pam from the Office is gorgeous and Jim is just a schlub Loser except shes mid af and he's 6`3`` which Women see as Medium Height imho. That's just a random stupid example that you don't need to fixate on but few Women would say that a friend's guy is too Hot for them unless they are trying to Seduce the guy and Hate their friend. So the only way to show that this is not the case is for Women to say their friends are Gorgeous and their partners are Ugly Losers.
Date: November 14th, 2026 12:19 PM Author: ferengi
actually yeah lol. lots of old/fat dudes with hot youthful gfs. but that's more what i observe from afar in public spaces, not people i actually talk to, so idk how old they are. when i talk about the skin/hair/relative youthfulness of men vs. women in their 30s and 40s, i'm just including the people i actually talk to and find out their ages.