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Parentmos: Do you say "No Gifts" for kid's birthday party, or are you prole?

When throwing a birthday party for your kid, do you tell par...
Salmon Liquid Oxygen
  02/12/26
it mortifies me when my kids to receive gifts from effective...
mildly autistic house-broken institution foreskin
  02/12/26
Explain. These aren't strangers. It's other kids from their ...
Salmon Liquid Oxygen
  02/12/26
lol at actually knowing all of your kids’ classmates&r...
mildly autistic house-broken institution foreskin
  02/12/26
lol @ not knowing ur kids' classmates' parents. the prestige...
orchid pervert
  02/12/26
(weird try-hard extrovert dad who me and other chill dad tha...
mildly autistic house-broken institution foreskin
  02/12/26
oh i dont talk to them. i just do a doobsian background chec...
orchid pervert
  02/12/26
oh. well that’s insanely cr.
mildly autistic house-broken institution foreskin
  02/12/26
...
orchid pervert
  02/12/26
seems gay. the point of gift giving isn't the cheap trinket,...
gunneratttt
  02/12/26
Next birthday party for my kids, I am planning on requesting...
Titillating brindle becky
  02/12/26
(renee good’s wife)
mildly autistic house-broken institution foreskin
  02/12/26
if RG's son's paternal grandparents aren't fighting tooth an...
Titillating brindle becky
  02/13/26
As people ITT have noted, of course you’d prefer not t...
spectacular violet hominid chad
  02/12/26
The difference here is putting your foot down and saying no ...
Salmon Liquid Oxygen
  02/12/26
think about how many $20 pieces of shit gifts you have to gi...
bateful mint hunting ground business firm
  02/12/26
We decline gifts just to make attending our kids’ part...
Copper comical cuckoldry keepsake machete
  02/12/26
Decline, or proactively say "No Gifts"?
Salmon Liquid Oxygen
  02/12/26
Some people say "books only", this keeps out the c...
beady-eyed community account
  02/12/26
Books only is cr. I've tried this with my wife, but she's sa...
Salmon Liquid Oxygen
  02/12/26
Some people apparently think "No gifts" is snobbis...
beady-eyed community account
  02/12/26
they’re right. not to say it’s not the cr anyway...
mildly autistic house-broken institution foreskin
  02/12/26
only proles would think it's too snobbish
pea-brained nowag location
  02/12/26
This is incredibly rude because 1. it displays entitlement t...
Adulterous razzle filthpig
  02/12/26
this seems obnoxious and off-putting, but would be good in t...
orchid pervert
  02/12/26
...
mildly autistic house-broken institution foreskin
  02/12/26
Just gift the birthday kid a VHS copy of Varsity Blues at al...
Thriller Pink Regret Quadroon
  02/12/26
Gift registry or GoFundMe is tcr
sticky rigor boltzmann
  02/12/26
Both are unbelievably prole, more prole than just letting pe...
lake bawdyhouse
  02/12/26
lmao.
mildly autistic house-broken institution foreskin
  02/12/26
if someone send me a gofundme "in lieu of gifts" i...
Translucent bossy rigpig
  02/12/26
...
beady-eyed community account
  02/12/26
...
Titillating brindle becky
  02/12/26
...
Autistic Appetizing Ceo Philosopher-king
  02/12/26
Prole
Misunderstood sepia boiling water
  02/12/26
Just take the gifts and then regift every single one to anot...
beady-eyed community account
  02/12/26
If its a bigger birthday party, i usually say something like...
mauve kitty
  02/12/26


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Date: February 12th, 2026 10:21 AM
Author: Salmon Liquid Oxygen

When throwing a birthday party for your kid, do you tell parents of other kids they should not bring a gift? You and your family can still give gifts.

I don't recall anyone doing this when I was a kid. Now, it's de rigueur in my prestigious suburb. It's also highly cr. The kids can get a few nice gifts from their parents, grandparents, aunts, and uncles. They don't need 20x of some chinese plastic Amazon junk from their classmates.

(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5834024&forum_id=2#49665415)



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Date: February 12th, 2026 10:26 AM
Author: mildly autistic house-broken institution foreskin

it mortifies me when my kids to receive gifts from effective strangers. but it’s not about the inevitable useless plastics chinese shit they get. it’s about teaching your kids to accept gifts with grace and gratitude and an opportunity for other kids to experience and learn about gifting.

(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5834024&forum_id=2#49665421)



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Date: February 12th, 2026 10:29 AM
Author: Salmon Liquid Oxygen

Explain. These aren't strangers. It's other kids from their class and around the neighborhood.

Learning about gratitude is cr, but you can learn to appreciate the family gifts and that gifts aren't that important in comparison to your friends being there for you on your special day. Birthday cards are still acceptable and encouraged--ideally homemade.

(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5834024&forum_id=2#49665430)



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Date: February 12th, 2026 10:39 AM
Author: mildly autistic house-broken institution foreskin

lol at actually knowing all of your kids’ classmates’ parents.

your points are fair and make even more sense when there’s an accepted community standard approach. i would argue that peer interactions are inherently different from intergenerational family interactions and as such offer much better training examples, but ultimately i would prefer the approach you describe so don’t have a lot invested in defending the gifting method.

(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5834024&forum_id=2#49665464)



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Date: February 12th, 2026 1:53 PM
Author: orchid pervert

lol @ not knowing ur kids' classmates' parents. the prestige of the parents is the biggest indication of the quality of your kids' school.

(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5834024&forum_id=2#49666033)



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Date: February 12th, 2026 2:37 PM
Author: mildly autistic house-broken institution foreskin

(weird try-hard extrovert dad who me and other chill dad that i barely know still manage to laugh about)

(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5834024&forum_id=2#49666143)



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Date: February 12th, 2026 2:41 PM
Author: orchid pervert

oh i dont talk to them. i just do a doobsian background check on them

(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5834024&forum_id=2#49666149)



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Date: February 12th, 2026 3:27 PM
Author: mildly autistic house-broken institution foreskin

oh. well that’s insanely cr.

(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5834024&forum_id=2#49666247)



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Date: February 12th, 2026 3:36 PM
Author: orchid pervert



(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5834024&forum_id=2#49666263)



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Date: February 12th, 2026 10:30 AM
Author: gunneratttt (gunneratttt)

seems gay. the point of gift giving isn't the cheap trinket, it's to express appreciation. the quintessential gift is flowers and no one needs them and they only last a couple weeks. banning gifts is missing the forest for the trees imo.

i think it's fine to limit gifts to a low dollar value or to stuff thats not chink slop like just cards or something. eliminating them entirely teaches kids that the purpose of a gift is the gift itself, rather than the gesture. plus kids love to give and receive crap.

(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5834024&forum_id=2#49665431)



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Date: February 12th, 2026 10:42 AM
Author: Titillating brindle becky

Next birthday party for my kids, I am planning on requesting in lieu of gifts to please contribute to the gofundme for Renee Good

(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5834024&forum_id=2#49665474)



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Date: February 12th, 2026 10:46 AM
Author: mildly autistic house-broken institution foreskin

(renee good’s wife)

(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5834024&forum_id=2#49665488)



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Date: February 13th, 2026 8:57 AM
Author: Titillating brindle becky

if RG's son's paternal grandparents aren't fighting tooth and nail to get custody of him then they've officially failed at life

(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5834024&forum_id=2#49667920)



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Date: February 12th, 2026 10:53 AM
Author: spectacular violet hominid chad

As people ITT have noted, of course you’d prefer not to have the cheap crap (this does not make you some UMC uncle moneybags, lol; no one wants this shit). The same way budding-adult boomers in the late 70s and 80s preferred not to dress up to go to some Rotary Club meeting chock full of his dad’s back-slappy-but-morally-straitlaced wwii gen friends and biz associates.

(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5834024&forum_id=2#49665524)



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Date: February 12th, 2026 12:07 PM
Author: Salmon Liquid Oxygen

The difference here is putting your foot down and saying no gifts, which I hadn't previously heard of before I had kids and which I don't think was a "thing" for kids' birthdays party back in the day.

(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5834024&forum_id=2#49665741)



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Date: February 12th, 2026 12:12 PM
Author: bateful mint hunting ground business firm

think about how many $20 pieces of shit gifts you have to give over the course of the year and how much better it would be if everyone just saved that money and each parent bought one kid a $300 present.

(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5834024&forum_id=2#49665751)



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Date: February 12th, 2026 10:55 AM
Author: Copper comical cuckoldry keepsake machete

We decline gifts just to make attending our kids’ parties easy for the other parents.

(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5834024&forum_id=2#49665540)



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Date: February 12th, 2026 12:08 PM
Author: Salmon Liquid Oxygen

Decline, or proactively say "No Gifts"?

(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5834024&forum_id=2#49665743)



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Date: February 12th, 2026 12:09 PM
Author: beady-eyed community account

Some people say "books only", this keeps out the cheap crap and also makes you look all highbrow. A family of SCHOLARS.

(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5834024&forum_id=2#49665747)



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Date: February 12th, 2026 12:27 PM
Author: Salmon Liquid Oxygen

Books only is cr. I've tried this with my wife, but she's said no gifts period, which I don't mind at all.

(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5834024&forum_id=2#49665783)



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Date: February 12th, 2026 12:33 PM
Author: beady-eyed community account

Some people apparently think "No gifts" is snobbish, like "We're too good for your prole shit!"

(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5834024&forum_id=2#49665792)



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Date: February 12th, 2026 2:01 PM
Author: mildly autistic house-broken institution foreskin

they’re right. not to say it’s not the cr anyway.

(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5834024&forum_id=2#49666056)



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Date: February 12th, 2026 3:30 PM
Author: pea-brained nowag location

only proles would think it's too snobbish

(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5834024&forum_id=2#49666253)



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Date: February 12th, 2026 1:00 PM
Author: Adulterous razzle filthpig

This is incredibly rude because 1. it displays entitlement to a gift and 2. it tells the guest what they can and can't bring. In fact it's tacky to mention gifts at all, except perhaps in the context of "no gifts please."

(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5834024&forum_id=2#49665863)



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Date: February 12th, 2026 1:55 PM
Author: orchid pervert

this seems obnoxious and off-putting, but would be good in theory

(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5834024&forum_id=2#49666038)



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Date: February 12th, 2026 2:01 PM
Author: mildly autistic house-broken institution foreskin



(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5834024&forum_id=2#49666058)



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Date: February 12th, 2026 12:12 PM
Author: Thriller Pink Regret Quadroon

Just gift the birthday kid a VHS copy of Varsity Blues at all parties your kid attends.

(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5834024&forum_id=2#49665750)



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Date: February 12th, 2026 1:51 PM
Author: sticky rigor boltzmann

Gift registry or GoFundMe is tcr

(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5834024&forum_id=2#49666026)



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Date: February 12th, 2026 1:55 PM
Author: lake bawdyhouse

Both are unbelievably prole, more prole than just letting people bring whatever presents they want.

(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5834024&forum_id=2#49666036)



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Date: February 12th, 2026 2:01 PM
Author: mildly autistic house-broken institution foreskin

lmao.

(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5834024&forum_id=2#49666060)



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Date: February 12th, 2026 2:03 PM
Author: Translucent bossy rigpig

if someone send me a gofundme "in lieu of gifts" i'd honestly fuck their dead mother

(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5834024&forum_id=2#49666063)



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Date: February 12th, 2026 2:26 PM
Author: beady-eyed community account



(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5834024&forum_id=2#49666117)



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Date: February 12th, 2026 3:34 PM
Author: Titillating brindle becky



(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5834024&forum_id=2#49666261)



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Date: February 12th, 2026 2:27 PM
Author: Autistic Appetizing Ceo Philosopher-king



(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5834024&forum_id=2#49666119)



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Date: February 12th, 2026 3:31 PM
Author: Misunderstood sepia boiling water

Prole

(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5834024&forum_id=2#49666255)



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Date: February 12th, 2026 5:30 PM
Author: beady-eyed community account

Just take the gifts and then regift every single one to another kid's birthday part.

(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5834024&forum_id=2#49666668)



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Date: February 12th, 2026 8:24 PM
Author: mauve kitty

If its a bigger birthday party, i usually say something like "Gifts not necessary - just bring your party hat"

I feel like "No gifts!" is a bit sanctimonious, but i also want to make it clear parents can just bring their kid and there's no need for it to be a fucking errand for them to pick out some toy i don't want in my house.

(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5834024&forum_id=2#49667195)