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Do you "like" yourself?

are you proud of, satisfied with who you are, who others rec...
balding peach digit ratio church building
  07/07/26
i used to but now i see myself as how pretty much everyone e...
swashbuckling immigrant trump supporter
  07/07/26
how would you describe that? were you always that way and ju...
balding peach digit ratio church building
  07/07/26
im definitely a much worse human than i was 20 years ago. st...
swashbuckling immigrant trump supporter
  07/07/26
Why Californians
Curious travel guidebook
  07/08/26
cslg and kenny mostly
swashbuckling immigrant trump supporter
  07/08/26
yeah you need at least a little bit of narcissism to stay ps...
controlling a virtual character on a computer
  07/07/26
much more now than even a couple years ago, yeah, but its re...
erotic blue stage
  07/07/26
what do you like about yourself
swashbuckling immigrant trump supporter
  07/07/26
i like that i'm willing to engage in painful and recursive s...
erotic blue stage
  07/07/26
i like you too
swashbuckling immigrant trump supporter
  07/07/26
thanks
erotic blue stage
  07/07/26
...
Mint haunting headpube site
  07/07/26
all things considered i think anyone who went through what i...
Beady-eyed library
  07/07/26
...
Mint haunting headpube site
  07/07/26
lol. in all seriousness though, i really like it here (i...
Excitant Umber Gas Station Bbw
  07/07/26
same brother, same
balding peach digit ratio church building
  07/07/26
generally, yes, I would rather be me than anyone else
Mint haunting headpube site
  07/07/26
I'm literally a walking turd
Stirring salmon jew step-uncle's house
  07/07/26
...
Glittery Genital Piercing
  07/07/26
...
Passionate geriatric yarmulke
  07/08/26
Yes. Doing good rn, worry it's downhill from here.
Maniacal Fighting Therapy Water Buffalo
  07/07/26
am I proud? not really, in terms of career there are an infi...
Glittery Genital Piercing
  07/07/26
id "like" to "kill" myself, if thats wha...
Metaphysics is Gay
  07/07/26
I don't even think this way anymore. things are what they ar...
glassy exciting fat ankles cruise ship
  07/07/26
...
controlling a virtual character on a computer
  07/07/26
...
pontificating useless brakes
  07/07/26
Can't have any wasted time interfering with productivity ove...
Fucking Fuckface
  07/07/26
not even remotely the point. if anything, this mindset is mo...
glassy exciting fat ankles cruise ship
  07/07/26
I don't like life, but I'm a pretty ok dood
Fucking Fuckface
  07/07/26
up until some grubby scammers on Autoshit dot com tried to r...
Brass fortuitous meteor field
  07/07/26
you can overcome this & will
glassy exciting fat ankles cruise ship
  07/07/26
Cr I met some italian whatever & gave her a facial 2n A...
Brass fortuitous meteor field
  07/08/26
yeah finally. hope the rest of you get there too
comical seedy institution internal respiration
  07/07/26
I'm coming to harsher terms with my failures
aphrodisiac turquoise hairy legs
  07/07/26
like myself - Sure. are you proud of, satisfied with who ...
exhilarant know-it-all church
  07/07/26
you are being aggressively judged both consciously and uncon...
balding peach digit ratio church building
  07/07/26
95% of them are fucking losers.
Multi-colored stag film jap
  07/07/26
it’s not about them in particular, it’s about wh...
balding peach digit ratio church building
  07/07/26
totally agree, but the switch only occurs when you realize o...
Multi-colored stag film jap
  07/07/26
should a fatass not feel undignified in his obesity because ...
balding peach digit ratio church building
  07/07/26
not flame, being fat is a sin. nothing in nature is fat. it'...
Multi-colored stag film jap
  07/07/26
not disagreeing with u but i think ur being too particular a...
balding peach digit ratio church building
  07/07/26
he should feel undignified for himself, for his own pride, f...
Multi-colored stag film jap
  07/08/26
Real talk: most people here are UMC lawyers with a net worth...
exhilarant know-it-all church
  07/07/26
Not really, they're thinking about their SO/work/whatever ga...
exhilarant know-it-all church
  07/07/26
what if it's just money? people only pretend as long as they...
Multi-colored stag film jap
  07/07/26
I don't think so. Plenty of young people with pretty settle...
exhilarant know-it-all church
  07/07/26
yeah that's fair, the 45 year old ohio teacher is just as se...
Multi-colored stag film jap
  07/08/26
Idk, I'm perfectly happy with what I do and my area and woul...
exhilarant know-it-all church
  07/08/26
i'm not unhappy with my career but it doesn't mean anything ...
Multi-colored stag film jap
  07/08/26
"i'd hate to lose, but it'd be a kind of relief if it a...
exhilarant know-it-all church
  07/08/26
work life balance is 180, i really can't complain about anyt...
Multi-colored stag film jap
  07/08/26
"i feel like you tech dorks would still dabble in tech ...
exhilarant know-it-all church
  07/08/26
yeah they're judging you but they don't actually care about ...
controlling a virtual character on a computer
  07/07/26
"we all carry around the default assumption that other ...
Glittery Genital Piercing
  07/08/26
halfway. i'm a kind, thoughtful, responsible guy, everyone h...
Multi-colored stag film jap
  07/07/26
coasted on raw talent tp
aphrodisiac turquoise hairy legs
  07/07/26
On balance, yeah
lex
  07/07/26
half the people itt are using the excuse of "nobody act...
balding peach digit ratio church building
  07/08/26
what are you talking about? No, they aren't Take ur meds...
Glittery Genital Piercing
  07/08/26
true HH
Brass fortuitous meteor field
  07/08/26
I like myself, but I like the version of myself I'm going to...
Microsoft Product Anomalies
  07/08/26
This is the credited attitude towards life that happy & ...
samoth
  07/08/26
I don't know how a middle-age XOer can not be "proud of...
samoth
  07/08/26
the problem for most people is that coming up with a vision,...
Glittery Genital Piercing
  07/08/26
40 years is more than enough time to achieve pride & sat...
samoth
  07/08/26
I like myself more than I suspect the vast majority of peopl...
Orange useless sweet tailpipe
  07/08/26
Just got a bad haircut and feeling pretty down on myself tbh...
razzle school
  07/08/26
I like myself more than other people do.
Deep address newt
  07/08/26
Yes.
Richard Ames
  07/08/26


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Date: July 7th, 2026 1:30 PM
Author: balding peach digit ratio church building

are you proud of, satisfied with who you are, who others recognize you to be?

(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5880455&forum_id=2#49984014)



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Date: July 7th, 2026 1:37 PM
Author: swashbuckling immigrant trump supporter

i used to but now i see myself as how pretty much everyone else sees me

(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5880455&forum_id=2#49984036)



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Date: July 7th, 2026 1:58 PM
Author: balding peach digit ratio church building

how would you describe that? were you always that way and just in denial?

(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5880455&forum_id=2#49984088)



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Date: July 7th, 2026 3:53 PM
Author: swashbuckling immigrant trump supporter

im definitely a much worse human than i was 20 years ago. stripped of all empathy for others and generally narcissistic and selfish. I also hate women and californians which i didnt really care about before.

(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5880455&forum_id=2#49984322)



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Date: July 8th, 2026 1:33 AM
Author: Curious travel guidebook

Why Californians

(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5880455&forum_id=2#49985565)



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Date: July 8th, 2026 2:06 PM
Author: swashbuckling immigrant trump supporter

cslg and kenny mostly

(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5880455&forum_id=2#49986335)



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Date: July 7th, 2026 1:39 PM
Author: controlling a virtual character on a computer

yeah you need at least a little bit of narcissism to stay psychologically healthy

(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5880455&forum_id=2#49984039)



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Date: July 7th, 2026 1:40 PM
Author: erotic blue stage

much more now than even a couple years ago, yeah, but its really painful work

(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5880455&forum_id=2#49984041)



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Date: July 7th, 2026 1:44 PM
Author: swashbuckling immigrant trump supporter

what do you like about yourself

(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5880455&forum_id=2#49984049)



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Date: July 7th, 2026 1:50 PM
Author: erotic blue stage

i like that i'm willing to engage in painful and recursive self reflection, that i'm willing to delve down into issues far deeper than most people that i know, that i handle my responsibilities fairly well, i think my takes are fairly unique as far as they go. mostly though i like that i'm accepting my path more than before, which is a narrow and very obscure one and has been very hard to accept

(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5880455&forum_id=2#49984068)



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Date: July 7th, 2026 1:51 PM
Author: swashbuckling immigrant trump supporter

i like you too

(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5880455&forum_id=2#49984070)



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Date: July 7th, 2026 1:53 PM
Author: erotic blue stage

thanks

(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5880455&forum_id=2#49984073)



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Date: July 7th, 2026 2:09 PM
Author: Mint haunting headpube site



(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5880455&forum_id=2#49984127)



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Date: July 7th, 2026 1:47 PM
Author: Beady-eyed library

all things considered i think anyone who went through what i went through and did what i did would be objectively proud

am i proud of myself? not really since i know me and i know all of my deepest secrets/mistakes/thoughts /etc

(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5880455&forum_id=2#49984060)



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Date: July 7th, 2026 2:09 PM
Author: Mint haunting headpube site



(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5880455&forum_id=2#49984129)



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Date: July 7th, 2026 2:08 PM
Author: Excitant Umber Gas Station Bbw

lol.

in all seriousness though, i really like it here (in this rich inner world)

(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5880455&forum_id=2#49984120)



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Date: July 7th, 2026 3:41 PM
Author: balding peach digit ratio church building

same brother, same

(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5880455&forum_id=2#49984303)



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Date: July 7th, 2026 2:09 PM
Author: Mint haunting headpube site

generally, yes, I would rather be me than anyone else

(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5880455&forum_id=2#49984126)



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Date: July 7th, 2026 2:11 PM
Author: Stirring salmon jew step-uncle's house

I'm literally a walking turd

(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5880455&forum_id=2#49984137)



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Date: July 7th, 2026 2:23 PM
Author: Glittery Genital Piercing



(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5880455&forum_id=2#49984171)



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Date: July 8th, 2026 1:32 AM
Author: Passionate geriatric yarmulke



(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5880455&forum_id=2#49985563)



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Date: July 7th, 2026 2:14 PM
Author: Maniacal Fighting Therapy Water Buffalo

Yes. Doing good rn, worry it's downhill from here.

(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5880455&forum_id=2#49984150)



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Date: July 7th, 2026 2:20 PM
Author: Glittery Genital Piercing

am I proud? not really, in terms of career there are an infinite number of people more skilled than I am, nor do I have kids so there's nothing for me to be innately proud of. I would consider ragnus-tier what I would actually be proud of and I neither have the IQ nor the drive to get there. I more consider myself extremely lucky and blessed than proud

That's not to say I don't enjoy it though, for as long as it lasts until I get blown away by AI. Nor is it to say I don't have an ego, because I would not change places with anyone. I like who I am and I'm right and you're wrong.

(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5880455&forum_id=2#49984166)



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Date: July 7th, 2026 3:42 PM
Author: Metaphysics is Gay

id "like" to "kill" myself, if thats what you mean

(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5880455&forum_id=2#49984307)



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Date: July 7th, 2026 3:43 PM
Author: glassy exciting fat ankles cruise ship

I don't even think this way anymore. things are what they are and you address them accordingly. anything else is just spinning your wheels

(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5880455&forum_id=2#49984311)



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Date: July 7th, 2026 3:54 PM
Author: controlling a virtual character on a computer



(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5880455&forum_id=2#49984323)



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Date: July 7th, 2026 3:54 PM
Author: pontificating useless brakes



(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5880455&forum_id=2#49984324)



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Date: July 7th, 2026 5:16 PM
Author: Fucking Fuckface

Can't have any wasted time interfering with productivity over decades of a fraud-ridden lifetime. Whatever you do, keep your nose near the grindstone and don't you dare pop your head up to look around

(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5880455&forum_id=2#49984578)



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Date: July 7th, 2026 5:19 PM
Author: glassy exciting fat ankles cruise ship

not even remotely the point. if anything, this mindset is more amenable to just letting things happen. "address the issue" might mean just saying ok. Like a serenity prayer thing.

(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5880455&forum_id=2#49984597)



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Date: July 7th, 2026 5:13 PM
Author: Fucking Fuckface

I don't like life, but I'm a pretty ok dood

(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5880455&forum_id=2#49984571)



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Date: July 7th, 2026 5:23 PM
Author: Brass fortuitous meteor field

up until some grubby scammers on Autoshit dot com tried to rob me of my personality and spirit yes

(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5880455&forum_id=2#49984610)



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Date: July 7th, 2026 5:30 PM
Author: glassy exciting fat ankles cruise ship

you can overcome this & will

(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5880455&forum_id=2#49984627)



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Date: July 8th, 2026 12:32 AM
Author: Brass fortuitous meteor field

Cr I met some italian whatever & gave her a facial 2n

Already over stop being niggers ljl

(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5880455&forum_id=2#49985519)



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Date: July 7th, 2026 10:30 PM
Author: comical seedy institution internal respiration

yeah finally. hope the rest of you get there too

(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5880455&forum_id=2#49985302)



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Date: July 7th, 2026 10:32 PM
Author: aphrodisiac turquoise hairy legs

I'm coming to harsher terms with my failures

(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5880455&forum_id=2#49985307)



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Date: July 7th, 2026 11:25 PM
Author: exhilarant know-it-all church

like myself - Sure.

are you proud of, satisfied with who you are - Sure. As a kid I would be perfectly happy with this outcome.

who others recognize you to be - This is the only one that really changed with time for me. Most people dgaf about you. They're not really impressed or deem you insufficiently prestigious or whatever. They simply go about their lives and only care about you to the extent you mean something to their lives. Therefore, worrying about this is incredibly stupid.

(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5880455&forum_id=2#49985411)



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Date: July 7th, 2026 11:29 PM
Author: balding peach digit ratio church building

you are being aggressively judged both consciously and unconsciously every single time you step out your door. every one of your coworkers, every single person you know, everyone who lays eyes on you for more than a couple of seconds has a very concrete notion of who you are. they don’t have to “give a fuck” to judge, judgment is inevitable.

(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5880455&forum_id=2#49985418)



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Date: July 7th, 2026 11:30 PM
Author: Multi-colored stag film jap

95% of them are fucking losers.

(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5880455&forum_id=2#49985420)



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Date: July 7th, 2026 11:34 PM
Author: balding peach digit ratio church building

it’s not about them in particular, it’s about whether you feel satisfied with yourself and the image of yourself in the eyes of the world.

(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5880455&forum_id=2#49985426)



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Date: July 7th, 2026 11:36 PM
Author: Multi-colored stag film jap

totally agree, but the switch only occurs when you realize other people are sps.

(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5880455&forum_id=2#49985428)



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Date: July 7th, 2026 11:49 PM
Author: balding peach digit ratio church building

should a fatass not feel undignified in his obesity because nobody else matters

(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5880455&forum_id=2#49985449)



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Date: July 7th, 2026 11:55 PM
Author: Multi-colored stag film jap

not flame, being fat is a sin. nothing in nature is fat. it's a sign of our sickness. it should be shamed into the ground, but i recognize the difficulty of staying fit in modern america. i think we celebrate it because it's so obviously repulsive but we feel helpless against it. so like we all know it's bad but we cheer it on anyway because what can we really do? look around, everyone is obese.

and we should all be fit, but it has nothing to do with other people. it's for yourself.

(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5880455&forum_id=2#49985464)



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Date: July 7th, 2026 11:58 PM
Author: balding peach digit ratio church building

not disagreeing with u but i think ur being too particular about the language here to make a separate point than the original question is gesturing towards

(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5880455&forum_id=2#49985471)



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Date: July 8th, 2026 12:00 AM
Author: Multi-colored stag film jap

he should feel undignified for himself, for his own pride, for his own inability to move and thrive in the material world. he's worn out walking from the restaurant to his car. it's pathetic.

and even if no one else existed, the fat man should feel ashamed. we struggle with fatness because historically it was a sign of prosperity, but now it's the complete opposite. it's a sign of submission, of weakness. even if no one sees him huffing and puffing across the parking lot, he knows it's ridiculous.

(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5880455&forum_id=2#49985477)



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Date: July 7th, 2026 11:47 PM
Author: exhilarant know-it-all church

Real talk: most people here are UMC lawyers with a net worth of roughly $3m. To the legit rich (those with $100m+) we're losers, your daycare teachers thinks you're absurdly rich. In general, everyone is a loser to people significantly above them and a winner to people significantly below them. People with $100m are losers to people worth $10b+. This is why caring about "yourself in the eyes of the world" is retarded. If you're really asking "did we end up in the place we would have been ok with as kids" then that's fair and my answer is yes, definitely. But I sense that this isn't really what you're asking.

(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5880455&forum_id=2#49985446)



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Date: July 7th, 2026 11:42 PM
Author: exhilarant know-it-all church

Not really, they're thinking about their SO/work/whatever game/buying a boat or computer or house or car or whatever/where they want to hang out later/their kids or other family/some show or movie they were watching/their next vacation... You are mostly invisible to them except to the extent you matter to their world in some way, and for most of these people that is in some minimal way. Sure, outliers produce judgment - the homeless guy walking towards you, for example.

When you're young you really think this way and everything matters and how important it is to be popular and well liked and all of that. That's because young people live in a very unattached world focused on establishing everything - their relationships (social, professional and romantic) and therefore this worldview makes sense. When you get older that becomes fundamentally untrue. Everything is settled and it doesn't really matter. Further, your own views on people reflect this. What do I think about whatever intern? Mostly a big shrug. They're unlikely to blow my socks off and to the extent they're very memorable it is probably a bad thing.

(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5880455&forum_id=2#49985435)



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Date: July 7th, 2026 11:46 PM
Author: Multi-colored stag film jap

what if it's just money? people only pretend as long as they need the money. at 40 a lot of us are ready to walk, so we don't care anymore.

this was like the whole hipster identity - how young can you be and still act like nothing matters? well that depends on how much money you have. popularity is just a proxy for wealth.

(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5880455&forum_id=2#49985443)



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Date: July 7th, 2026 11:54 PM
Author: exhilarant know-it-all church

I don't think so. Plenty of young people with pretty settled life paths dgaf about any of that shit. It takes longer for UMC striver types because it takes much longer for us to get settled in life.

Imagine that you go to sleep tonight and you wake up. Your life was just a dream. A super weird dream. Instead, you're starting whatever grade. New school. Your memories are coming back - you hope this one cute girl is there. Oh, and your best friend moved away so he won't be there, which sucks. Your perspective will go back into that worrying how everyone views you, who you'll be friends with, who you'll date, how the teachers will see you because that'll impact your grades, etc. None of that shit impacts us now. We're married and have kids, we have settled jobs and careers. It is a different perspective entirely. It isn't just because we have enough money - I certainly don't and if I lost my job I'd have to find a new one.

(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5880455&forum_id=2#49985461)



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Date: July 8th, 2026 12:07 AM
Author: Multi-colored stag film jap

yeah that's fair, the 45 year old ohio teacher is just as settled as the 45 year old LA lawyer.

if we had to start over again now there's really nothing there. like what would you do, take up yoga? enroll in some artsy masters? you're in your 40s. no one wants to hang out with you. there's no structure for the midlife crisis. the cute girl isn't there.

(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5880455&forum_id=2#49985485)



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Date: July 8th, 2026 12:17 AM
Author: exhilarant know-it-all church

Idk, I'm perfectly happy with what I do and my area and wouldn't want to "be an artist" or whatever. I suppose I could take up yoga but have no interest in doing so. Plenty of people our age and older take up new hobbies. And if anything getting a "cute girl" is much easier - you can get a sugarbaby (even Are Reptile managed this) or straight up escort. If you mean a high school like relationship where she comes over to your house and checks out your CD collection and you talk about your favorite class at school then no, that isn't a thing for us.

I actually don't feel any pull towards the whole midlife crisis thing. I'm happy with where I ended up, I don't feel "my youthful vitality fading" whatever that means. Yes, this stage of life is different but I don't have an issue with that. Maybe if I were more disconnected with my family or unhappy with my career.

(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5880455&forum_id=2#49985504)



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Date: July 8th, 2026 12:21 AM
Author: Multi-colored stag film jap

i'm not unhappy with my career but it doesn't mean anything to me. i'm very fortunate and grateful, and i'd hate to lose it, but it'd be a kind of relief if it all went away and i had to start over. ofc within a couple months i'd be wishing i had my sweet lawyer gig again.

it's just so meh. and i understand that's almost everyone's life, at least mine is comfortable, but i keep seeing what looks like idiots who have self actualized and it makes me disappointed with myself. like i'm not interested in this at all, and i never have been, i was just good at school and figured this was the next step. and now i'm 45 and it's over.

(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5880455&forum_id=2#49985506)



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Date: July 8th, 2026 12:27 AM
Author: exhilarant know-it-all church

"i'd hate to lose, but it'd be a kind of relief if it all went away and i had to start over"

My takeaway from this is that you don't really like your job but you like the money and the success. That's kind of rough. I'm a tech dork that does tech dork things for a living so I'm as happy as a pig in shit.

I hope you at least work in something with decent work-life balance so the "meh" isn't your entire life. When I first started biglaw my office was next to a partner who was depressed and miserable. I knew this because he would call his psychologist from the office and would sometimes forget to close the door. The stuff I heard made me keenly aware that I didn't want to end up like that guy.



(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5880455&forum_id=2#49985513)



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Date: July 8th, 2026 12:30 AM
Author: Multi-colored stag film jap

work life balance is 180, i really can't complain about anything. but here i am, griping about it because it isn't fulfilling at all. just a total waste of time, years of your life in exchange for money type of thing. and i recognize that's a good outcome for 95% of people, but i'm supposed to be talented.

i feel like you tech dorks would still dabble in tech dork shit if you had millions of dollars. i'd never talk to a lawyer again.

(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5880455&forum_id=2#49985517)



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Date: July 8th, 2026 1:40 AM
Author: exhilarant know-it-all church

"i feel like you tech dorks would still dabble in tech dork shit if you had millions of dollars"

100% accurate, and I'd be focused on the exact same shit I'm doing at work (AI, automation, security, etc.).

(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5880455&forum_id=2#49985568)



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Date: July 7th, 2026 11:43 PM
Author: controlling a virtual character on a computer

yeah they're judging you but they don't actually care about you

the above guy is 100% correct. we all carry around the default assumption that other people are thinking about us 24/7, because we are thinking about ourselves 24/7

but other people really just do not care about you beyond how you affect them personally. and so the more you can live your life among those people exclusively (those whose lives you actually affect, and who actually affect your life), and the less you can expose yourself to the meaningless masses beyond them, the better your life will be

(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5880455&forum_id=2#49985438)



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Date: July 8th, 2026 6:34 PM
Author: Glittery Genital Piercing

"we all carry around the default assumption that other people are thinking about us 24/7, because we are thinking about ourselves 24/7."

it took me a very, very long time to understand this and how fundamental it is to understanding how many people think and view themselves. i always thought from a baseline of "I have an ego and I'm mostly only thinking about myself, not other people, therefore nobody else actually gives a shit about me"; it never dawned on me until I was basically 30 that many people actually arrive at the opposite conclusion ("I am obsessed with myself therefore everyone else is as well"). it genuinely blew my mind when I realized e.g. relatives blabbering about other non-immediate relatives thinking they're all judging each other and the like was genuine and not some sort of schtick

(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5880455&forum_id=2#49986952)



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Date: July 7th, 2026 11:28 PM
Author: Multi-colored stag film jap

halfway. i'm a kind, thoughtful, responsible guy, everyone has liked me throughout my life, even my wife. i've seen and done a lot, but the more i see the more i realize how small my world was, is, and will be. i'm a nobody from nowhere. i go to these places where families have been grinding it out for 500 years and it blows my mind. my family has been here for ~120 years and we have nothing to show for it. i'm smart but lazy as shit, i've coasted on talent my whole life, and it's led me to a pretty cool place with a lot of cool experiences but nothing exceptional. but i also realize it's all flame, so why hustle for more? i never swung for the fences, so why not just run around the field and be happy with it. i'm just fending off boredom at this point. i wish there was something more meaningful, but i don't see it happening. it seems so ingrained. you see the hustlers and think they would've made it no matter what. or the rich kids who it was just laid out in front of them from day one. i never had the drive for a purposeful life. i should've been a prole.

(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5880455&forum_id=2#49985414)



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Date: July 7th, 2026 11:30 PM
Author: aphrodisiac turquoise hairy legs

coasted on raw talent tp

(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5880455&forum_id=2#49985422)



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Date: July 7th, 2026 11:30 PM
Author: lex

On balance, yeah

(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5880455&forum_id=2#49985421)



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Date: July 8th, 2026 3:26 AM
Author: balding peach digit ratio church building

half the people itt are using the excuse of "nobody actually cares about me" to excuse the fact that they are stupid ugly faggots who are blights upon the surface of the earth and an offense to mankind

(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5880455&forum_id=2#49985607)



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Date: July 8th, 2026 6:27 AM
Author: Glittery Genital Piercing

what are you talking about? No, they aren't

Take ur meds pumo man

(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5880455&forum_id=2#49985700)



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Date: July 8th, 2026 3:00 PM
Author: Brass fortuitous meteor field

true HH

(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5880455&forum_id=2#49986476)



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Date: July 8th, 2026 6:38 PM
Author: Microsoft Product Anomalies

I like myself, but I like the version of myself I'm going to make myself next week/month/year even more

(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5880455&forum_id=2#49986959)



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Date: July 8th, 2026 6:46 PM
Author: samoth

This is the credited attitude towards life that happy & successful people have.

(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5880455&forum_id=2#49986985)



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Date: July 8th, 2026 6:45 PM
Author: samoth

I don't know how a middle-age XOer can not be "proud of, satisfied with who you are, who others recognize you to be." You've had ~40 years to work on this.

Granted, I'd like to have the combined genetics of Lee Priest & Richard Feynman and a trust fund set up by great-grandpa Rothschild, but I don't think that was the intent of the hypo.

(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5880455&forum_id=2#49986981)



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Date: July 8th, 2026 7:26 PM
Author: Glittery Genital Piercing

the problem for most people is that coming up with a vision, and realizing that vision, is genuinely hard. for most of history circumstances were forced upon 99% of the population. the choice and opportunity of self actualization is not something we are used to as a species and you shouldn't belittle people who struggle with it.

(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5880455&forum_id=2#49987112)



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Date: July 8th, 2026 9:31 PM
Author: samoth

40 years is more than enough time to achieve pride & satisfaction in oneself.

I'm thinking XOers are plagued by the striver mindset where someone feels themself to be a failure because they got dinged at Harvard and ended up at Princeton, only make $250k instead of $250M, or can only bench 315 instead of 495.

If a person's unhappy due to obesity, bad financial choices, or drug addition, that's just a failure to learn or execute (over a period of 40 or so years).

Perhaps I'm biased because I can't imagine why so many people feel unhappiness, shame, or a lack of pride (excluding external circumstances forced upon them)... or why 15-20% of Americans are on anti-depressants.

(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5880455&forum_id=2#49987344)



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Date: July 8th, 2026 6:48 PM
Author: Orange useless sweet tailpipe

I like myself more than I suspect the vast majority of people I know well would like me if they knew me and all my thoughts and feelings and things I’ve done as well as I do. I sometimes worry that means I’m a psychopath, but just haven’t gotten around to committing any violent crimes yet.

Re “who others recognize me to be” I am reasonably satisfied but annoyed that I’m not more wealthy like many of my friends are despite the fact that we all have nearly identical CVs and specializations ie I have several friends who got very lucky with RSUs and I left a low seven figures worth of RSUs on the table when I decided to shift my career during Covid. But nearly all of them have worse kids and wives and live in shittier places than I lived for most of my career. I’d be extremely satisfied with how I am perceived if I can get a promotion and up my total comp about 20-30% sometime in the next 3 years or so.

(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5880455&forum_id=2#49986993)



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Date: July 8th, 2026 7:46 PM
Author: razzle school

Just got a bad haircut and feeling pretty down on myself tbh. I look like a peaky blinder

(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5880455&forum_id=2#49987143)



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Date: July 8th, 2026 7:48 PM
Author: Deep address newt

I like myself more than other people do.

(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5880455&forum_id=2#49987145)



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Date: July 8th, 2026 7:58 PM
Author: Richard Ames

Yes.

(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5880455&forum_id=2#49987165)