also i generally insist on paying my way in relationships, sometimes even covering the majority of the costs. for example, i fully supported a manchild for 2.5 years who it turned out was lying to me about applying to jobs because he just wanted me to take care of him.

(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5920492&forum_id=2#50244066)

According to the Federal Reserve’s 2025 Survey of Consumer Finances (reported in 2026), median U.S. retirement savings range from $0 for ages 18–24, $1,780 at 25–29, $12,780 at 40–44, $35,520 at 45–49, $40,000 at 55–59, and peak at $49,260 for ages 60–64.

i think it's the averages that are in the 6 figures (but even then, they are low af). so most people have basically nothing saved for retirement.

(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5920492&forum_id=2#50244749)

not sure what that means but almost certainly. i'm horrible at saving. right out of college i was making $72k and spending it all having a blast, and as i earned more and more, my spending just expanded to fill the space lol.

(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5920492&forum_id=2#50244644)

how much is your rent? it seems like you must be blowing through savings if youre unemployed since April

(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5920492&forum_id=2#50244648)

yeah blowing through savings especially since even though i'm mostly cooking now, i still get lazy and order food sometimes, and i always cover my bf's food too if we're together, which we usually are. ordering food for both of us can be like $60 for one meal lol. i do get $450/wk unemployment since August (should've applied at the beginning but thought i'd get a job quickly) which is 180 and on good weeks that's more than enough for all my living expenses but often other stuff comes up too.

(https://xoxohth.com/thread.php?thread_id=5920492&forum_id=2#50244664)